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Dating today…what a trip

Yesterday  I wrote about the do’s and don’ts of online dating and as I thought about it I realized how dating has changed since the last time I was single which was many moons ago,yeah like 25 of them.

Years ago you met someone out or your friends introduced you to someone, if you came from a small town like me you knew that person or knew of them. You could easily find out the deal and what that person was like, today living in a big city, not so much.

Now we meet people online,we don’t know anything about them except what they write about themselves and most of the time that is bull!

Besides in today’s world even the people you thought you knew sometimes turn out to be Mr.Con Artist, so you have to be very careful. I met a guy online recently and we were planning to meet, he actually thought he was coming to my house… really? ?

I told him, look I don’t know you, I would never just let a stranger come to my home. I am a New Yorker, I grew up with 5 locks on my doors, my mom saying  “don’t answer that door, see who it is”
“don’t let anyone in, don’t trust anyone” so I come from that street smart mentality about watching your back.

He actually gave me aditude about not letting him come by,he asked “don’t you trust me?”
Dude I don’t know you from adam, I met you online a minute ago and yup I don’t trust you” Hello get real!

So here are some safety tips for the newly dating from a real New Yorker.

1-I am not letting anyone where I live.

2- I will meet you in a public place and tell my friends where I will be, with who and what time.

3- I won’t be going to your house or anywhere not in public.

4. You won’t be meeting my girls unless we have been dating for months and we are getting serious and even then…I not so sure.

5. I will be doing a background check on you after 3 dates, be ready… sorry if you don’t like it, then you must have something to hid.

6. If something doesn’t feel right, go with you gut, listen and run, Forrest run!

7. If he’s rude, creepy or slimy get up and leave, you owe him nothing besides he doesn’t know where you live, who cares what he thinks.

8. Do not settle for a man, any man because you are afraid to be alone (more on that one tomorrow )

9. Don’t be afraid to speak up or speak your mind, be yourself because trying to keep up trying to be someone else is exhausting.

10. Have fun, look at it as a adventure if anything you will have something to talk about and laugh about with your bestie in the morning.

So today my friends, go out and date but be careful, stay smart and listen to your inner voice,it is never wrong.

The do’s and don’ts of online dating


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The do’s and don’ts of on line dating

Okay,since I’ve been dating, there are so many things I have seen out there that are such turn off’s, these are the things that me and my bestie laugh about every morning. This is just from a women’s perspective, you men can chime in with what we do to turn you off, as I can only speak from what I see.

1.I don’t need to see what you looked like 30 years ago, most likely you looked better than and it’s just a tease.

2. I don’t want to see your dog, cat or other animals, I am not dating them and they are most likely another tease because they are also better looking than you.

3. I don’t need to see pictures of your boat, car, house or motorcycle, I am not impressed.(please see #1 &2)

4. If you don’t say anything about yourself, I keep going, I want to be drawn in, if your funny let it show, if your romantic put it down, tell me about yourself, otherwise I think your boring and I go, next!

5. Please take close up and full body shots, look we all have our types, I like athletic guys, that’s me and for God’s sake put up more than one picture,I went on a date and walked around for 15 minutes looking for him, because he looked nothing like his one picture.

6. If you do get in touch, please don’t call me baby, honey, sweetie or sexy, you don’t even know me, it’s offensive and right there it gets you to the door, next!

7 . Don’t say things through texts or emails that you would never have the balls to say in person! Really! Nough said

8. Do you read? If you did you you would have read that I am not looking to hook up, so don’t ask, don’t send me a picture of your ass or any other body part! Yuck! What part of not looking to hook up don’t you get?

9. Don’t keep asking me to send you pictures how many do you need to see? Ask me out, see the real thing!

10.Be a gentleman, yes we still like that, open doors, pull out chairs, at least offer to buy us a cup of coffee.

11. don’t talk about what bitches your ex was, be yourself for God’s sake its a date, were not getting married, have fun.

Yes, it has been a trip but even though I haven’t found a love connection yet, I have meet some really great guys that are now my friends.

And every day I get to trade war stories with my bestie and laugh and isn’t that what life is really about? The laughter and the memories. …

So today my friends try new things but remember my tips and just go with a open mind ,without prescription judgements and a great sense of humor!