That’s what friends are for…

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That’s what friends are for

 

I am always writing about  friends on here and how my friendships are so important to me as I was an only child and my friends are the family I chose for myself.

 

There is an old saying, “you get what you give”… and I guess it must be true because this last year my friends have given so much to me.

They were there to support me through my divorce, they showed up on moving day, my wonderful friend Thomas from church got together a bunch of men from church to help. My dear friend Steven lent me his truck and trailer as he was out of town, all of my soul sisters showed up to help.

 

When I bought this house again my soul sisters showed up and helped pack and move. My friend Kelly enlisted her husband to help me do so many things, without me paying him and I cried. Adrian from church came to help with shower and sink installs. Dave from my old job came 3 times to help with the wood floors as I didn’t know how to do cuts with the tools. My hometown friend Ebin came to my rescue with molding.

I can’t remember how many times I called my friends Lisa and Steve to recommend me this guy or that one to hire.

My neighbors G and Frank did so much after just meeting me, I was overwhelmed by their kindness and so glad God chose this block for me.

 

My dear friend Ellis who I’ve known since I was 12, took off a week of work and flew in to help me built a fence, do a 250 Sq ft  paver patio, put up a vented fan and kitchen lights and then wouldn’t take anything for all his help.

 

Three weeks ago when I thought I was all done in my home and while laying in my bed, I felt rain drops, are you kidding me?? This couldn’t be happening, really?

When I spoke to another dear old friend he said he would fly in and fix it for me…really? Yes, really! He is flying in tonight for the weekend to fix it.

 

I am speachless ….. how can I repay all of these wonderful people…words can never express my gratitude for all of their kindness.

 

I say all the time I am blessed with so many dear friends it’s incredible but this goes above and beyond friendships, these people are my family, the ones I chose and that I am blessed for them choosing me.

 

So today my friends, remember how dear your friends are, tell them, show them, let them know how rich your life is because of them. It doesn’t matter that they are not blood, they are family and that’s what friends are for…

Now everyone sing. …”That’s what friends are for….”

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Sometimes life is overwhelming

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Sometimes life is overwhelming

Even though we live in a world full of technology today and so many things are so much easier than it was years ago, it has also made things harder in some ways.

 

Women have to be supermoms, superwifes, super work force women, we have to have it all, big important jobs, perfect lives, kids in every sport and activities imaginable, we have to keep up with the Jones and we have to look like barbie at all times while doing it all.

 

I know how hard it is being a single mom of two girls, I own my own home and all the repairs and matience that goes along with it. I work 3 jobs,

( I do professional organizing, I do hair at night and I do personal assistant work) when ever possible I do focus groups to make extra money.

I also do this blog on 4 different sites, 5 days a week. I do a weekly you tube video which I have to make, edit and put out, I am at the gym 5 mornings a week at 5:30 am, I go to church 2 days a week and volunteer whenever needed. On top of all that I just finished gutting and remoldeling my home plus writing my book which took a year of my life, now came the hard part, building a new website for it, setting up Facebook pages, intergram, twitter and now self publishing and all the joys that come along with it.

 

Dam I am tired just writing all of this! Yes, there are some days I have no idea how I do it all as I know you out there feel this as well.

We beat ourselves when we don’t get it all done, if our houses aren’t spotless, if we snap at little things because we are at wits end most of the time.

So today my friends, let go… I’ve  learned to let it go, okay the house wasn’t clean, I had a list as long as my arm of errands but I chose to go spend time with people I love this weekend, life is too short, the world is not going to end if our list is not done, no…enjoy the moment, live in it, live big, live well. Laugh often, be present, enjoy and feel grateful for every second you have…it is not a guarantee that you will get another.

 

So take off your super person cape, throw it out the window, turn up the music, sing at the top of your lungs and smile big…believe me the dishes are not having as much fun as you are!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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The one thing about blogging. ..

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The one thing about blogging….

 

I write this blog every day, I put my whole life out there, personal things, my deepest feelings, even embarrassing things, like when I screw up and fall on my face, (yup, there is alot of that going on!) there is nothing off limits here.

 

I do this because I am hoping that something I went through will help someone out there feel that they can do it, that they can change their lives and their circumstances. I want them to think if she did it and then she  talks about it to the world, I can definitely do it.

 

The one thing about writing this blog that I’ve learned is people will tell you their opinions weither what you want to hear it or not. Oh yes, I get it all the time and I understand that if I am putting it out there, I better be ready for opinions on my life, like it or not, I started this…so be ready!

 

Don’t get me wrong I get some incredible feed back from my readers and I appreciate it and am so grateful for them, but I am also grateful for the others, the ones that really give it to me. Why? You ask, because I am never to old, never to big, never to smart to learn something from another’s point of view, maybe I didn’t see that way, maybe my feelings got ahead of me (Not like that happens much,yea  right) maybe someone else had walked down that road and know it better than me.

 

I love that my cousin and my best friends know that they can and do call me out on things, I sometimes run into the ditch and need a good kick in the ass!

 

Even when the haters come at me, I am ready to listen to what they have to say, even in the hate, you can learn a lesson. There is always a lesson to be learned right or wrong, it’s there.

 

So today my friends, my advice to you is never think to too old to learn, never think your too smart to listen and never think you know it all, it is then you will stop growing into all your suppose to be.

 

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I bet you thought this blog was about you…

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I bet you thought this blog was about you…

 

I write this blog every day, 5 days a week, for the last 3 years. Every day I need to come up with something to say, not just that, something that will encourage someone who is reading. This is a huge task and I don’t take it lightly, I write about things that happen to me, things that happened to others, things I saw or heard, it comes from everywhere.

 

I never call anyone out..okay once with Mr.Con artist but that was just a public service announcement to warn other women about his lying ways.

As I was saying I never call anyone out, if you truly know me you might guess who I am referring to, but even then you might be wrong.

 

I am not here to call anyone out, I am here to tell my story to help someone out in the same situation, sometimes I do a great job, other times I suck, it’s okay I am trying to show you we are all human, it’s okay to screw up, to say the wrong things, to fall on your face and then get back up and try it again hopefully with the knowledge of the lessons you have learned.

 

Yet, every time I write something I get so many messages “is your blog about me today?”

I have to laugh because they are so off base but yet I must have hit a nerve in them in order for them to reach out and ask in the first place.

 

Maybe if it is or you see yourself in my blog, you might want to ask yourself some questions about what the topic it was about..I write about all kinds of things, being kind, being God like, becoming a better person, learning the hard lessons, overcoming, believing in yourself. ..yet I never get messages that say “was that blog about me?”

 

But if I write about a person who lies, someone cheating, a back stabber, or so called friends, boy oh boy… duck, because here it comes… fast and furious…”was that about me?”

 

Sometimes I put 2 people into one, two stories together, sometimes yes, it is about one person, sometimes I dream it up and yes…sometimes it is about you!

But I never lie, I always say it like it is, the good, the bad and the really ugly, whatever it is, it is not about you…it’s about how I can use what happened to me to help others get through.

 

So today my friends before you call, text or write to me, ask yourself why did I hit that nerve? Why did you see yourself in that blog? Did I say something that maybe resembles you? These are deep questions and maybe just maybe I might have started you thinking about change…and that’s what this blog is about, changing and growing, looking deep inside and becoming a better you….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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What about the code?

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What about the code?

We were talking about the “code” this weekend, for those of you who don’t know what that is let me explain.

The code can go both ways, the girl code or the guy code, which means if your friend likes, liked, or dated someone, they are off limits to you!
It is really a friendship thing, you will not overstep your boundaries with your friends.

I for one would never do that as I love and honor my friendships too much to ever disrespect a friend like that but believe me it has been done to me from “so called friends” and not just to me but even in front of me.

I had this “friend” that knew I had something with a guy that I had liked forever, I was in love with him and it didn’t work out the way I had wanted it to. She processed to flirt with him every time we were all together and I’m not talking about some coy flirting, I am talking about let me sit on your lap, goo goo eyes, run my fingers through his hair flirting right in front of me, one time even on my birthday! 

Even though she knew how I felt about him and still feel about him, because I would share my feelings with her and all the while she was telling me how wrong he was for me! I am sorry that is not a friend, I could never hurt someone like that.

My guy friend thinks it’s okay to be able to do that, he didn’t even know about the “code” I actually Google it for him, still he thought it was alright to date his ex’s friends. Not alright, never will be alright, not only are you breaking up a “friendship”, you are setting yourself up for disaster because in the end it will come back to bite you in the ass!

How can anyone trust you? What kind of “friend” are you? Is it all about what you want and yet you have no consideration for another’s feelings?

I always say I am a friend to the end, I will do anything for my friends and I always try to put myself in someone’s shoes. How would that feel if someone did it to me? It would hurt like hell, even if it didn’t work out, even if you’ve been broken up for years, even if you say it’s over….it still would hurt and I personally, am not into hurting another human being like that. No man or woman is worth taking down a friendship
forever.

So today my friends, think about the “code” Would you break it? How would you feel if your friend broke it? Would they still be a friend to you afterwards?
This is a question for all of us to ask ourselves, who are you as a person and how important is others feelings to you?
The answer will say a lot about the kind of person you are.

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My emotions run high…

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My emotions run high

Yesterday I wrote a blog about friendship at the moment I was truly hurt. I know I let my emotions run my life, I am all in or all out,  I love big! I am a friend for life, there is nothing small about me except my statue.

So when people who are supposed to be “friends ” hurt me I take that to heart and I let my emotions overrule my brain.
When I thought better of it I decided to take down the post because I didn’t want to put that energy out there. 
I am constantly trying to be a better person and believe me it is not always easy, I definitely screw it up a lot. But I am never to big to admit my mistakes and say I am sorry.

I am not sorry about my feelings, I still feel the same way. I am sorry that I wrote about them while they were still so fresh and I was so hurt, see when you do that it comes from another place in your soul, you know the saying hurt people…hurt people, its the place that is hurt and trying to lash out to retaliate and that’s not the place I want to reside at anymore.

I want to live in a state of peace and joy and even though that is not always possible, my reactions to others are possible, as I control them (or try to for the most part)
I am Italian and Puerto Rican and I am quick to jump with my emotions from 0-70 in 1 second  but I have to learn to step back, look at the situation, pray and then decide what to do about it.

I am and probably will be hurt for a while but I realized that everything happens for a reason and so I am looking for the reason.

So today my “friends” remember life is too short… maybe the reason is that there are some people who are meant to be in your life for a season, not forever, the ride is not for everyone and sometimes when your train is heading up the mountain it is better to know now who is pushing with you and who is pulling on the brakes trying to hold you back, the path is hard enough without carrying dead weight…let it go…cut it loose… there is an incredible view at the top that is only there for those who had your back while getting there.

“Be the change you want to see”

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What type of friend are you?

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What type of friend are you?

I interrupt this Monday message for an important blog about friendship…

If you know me or you read my blog you know how important friendship means to me, as an only child, friends were the family I picked for myself. I am a true friend to the end, I will  have your back through thick and thin and will do anything for you, stand up for you, take my shirt off my back for you.
There is nothing I won’t do for my friends.

But if you hurt me we are done, if you are dishonest and if you are not there for me with the best intentions, then I have no use for you in my life. I am sorry if that might sound brutally cold but at this stage of the game in my life I don’t care. I have no time for childish games, I know what I bring to the table and I know I am worthy of the same type of friends, that I am.

You will not be my friend one minute than flip flop and say nasty things to me the next, acting like I owe you something, to then turn around and smile in my face and expect me to to be okay with that, not happening!

I will put up with you at common functions and not be rude because of the fact that I enjoy the others company, but trust me that is for their behalf not yours.

But the friendship from me is gone, I will not be treated like some 2nd grade friend, you only being there when it benefits you, when you want to know the gossip, to get you something or to try to make yourself look better while putting someone else down doing so.

If you take joy out of calling someone out, acting like the world revolves around you or to make snide remarks to get pleasure out of seeing someone else hurt, we are done.

I’ve been there, done that and will no longer try to please someone else who clearly has their own issues and agendas.

It is not my job anymore to try to make someone happy, who will never be happy with themselves.
I have other friends who love me and know the type of friend I am and have my back always… not just when it benefits them.

So today my “friends” remember life is too short… there are some people who are meant to be in your life for a season, not forever, the ride is not for everyone and sometimes when your train is heading up the mountain it is better to know now who is pushing with you and who is pulling on the brakes trying to hold you back, the path is hard enough without carrying dead weight…let it go…cut it loose… there is an incredible view at the top that is only there for those who had your back while getting there.

“Be the change you want to see”

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Let me know what you want me to write about

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Let me hear what you want me to write about

I am always open to new ideas and new things so when I was on the phone with my cousin yesterday and she said she had an idea about my blog, I couldn’t wait to hear it.

She said why don’t I open it up to my readers and let them have some input on what they would like me to write about.
I thought what a great idea, why haven’t I thought of it before duh!

So I am opening up the floor to all of you, to let me know what you want me to write about,  questions that you may have for me, you all know I am an open book so ask me anything, I am not shy.
Topics that may be on your mind or maybe even comments about my previous blogs. It’s all game, whatever it may be, I will post your questions and comments and answer all of your questions.

I kind of feel like Ann Landers now…. yeah that’s an old reference, some  of you won’t even know who she is.
( I am not even going to think about how old that makes me feel!)

So my friends let me have it, be honest, be open, be creative and let’s have some fun with this…
Because like I always say life is way too short not to have fun!

I will be posting all of your comments all next week, I can’t wait to hear from you all.

I want to take this moment to thank all of you for taking the time each and every day out of your busy lives to read my blog, it truly means the world to me.

“Be the change you want to see”

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It’s just the little things

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It’s just the little things

I am grateful, I live my life every day in gratitude, there is not a day, not an hour that goes by that I do not appreciate the life that I am living right now.

Now you might think “yeah right, get real”  but I swear to you that is how I live because I know the life I use to have and I have learned to appreciate the little things in life.

Are things are so bad in your life your not grateful for anything? It’s okay, I was there too, start small, I am grateful I am alive, that’s always a good one, grateful for my children even if they are ungrateful brats, (oh please we have all said this to them one time or another )

Be grateful you have a home to sleep in and not a box, food to eat and not having to watch your children go to sleep hungry or dig through a garbage to find your next meal.

If things are okay in your life be grateful for being present in each moment, mothers day I was sitting on the couch watching my girls, their friends and my neighbors cook me dinner, the music was going,  there was laughter in the house,  we were singing and dancing…I stopped, I took it all in, I was truly present in the moment and I gave thanks for being so blessed.

Singing in the car with my little one, our favorite past time, I am present, I feel blessed to be able to be there and sing off key with her.

When I go to the gym each and every morning, I am happy and smiling, lip syncing my favorite gossip songs while running or writing this blog, grateful I got another day to do this, to praise him.

There is a study out recently that says grateful people live longer, that they have less stress and that they are among the happiest people on earth, imagine that?  Yes, that is me and some people probably want to smack me in my smiling face for always being so “up” but I know what “down” means and I never want to go there again, never!

So today my friends, stop and smell the flowers, smile at someone, enjoy the moment, be present, be grateful. ..be happy for the little things because they mean the most.

“Be the change you want to see”

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I was broken. ..

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I was broken. …

There are so many broken people out there, going along day after day trying to get by, trying to just make it through the day.
I was one of these people I had hit rock bottom, I had lost hope, I was depressed, there was so many points in my life that were devastating to me, that I didn’t want to go on…
Every day I woke up and cried, every night I cried myself to sleep, I hated my life.

There are so many of you out there that are in the same position as I was, broken, hurt and lost. Thinking you don’t want to go on, that your life is not worth living but I am here to tell you don’t give up…hold on..believe…. it will get better,
I am living proof of how incredible life could be if you don’t give up.

I never thought my life would be like this, that I could be that happy and have this much joy in my heart. Every single day I  thank God for all I have now.

All you have to do is stop letting fear rule your life, take a stand and decide you want a change, become so sick and tired of being sick and tired, it is then you will be willing to do anything to change your circumstances.

So today my friends, don’t give up…a day can change your life…today might be that day…but if you give up you will never know… Hold on to faith even if it’s as small as a mustard seed, that’s all you need…believe me…I was once broken.

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