What about the code?

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What about the code?

We were talking about the “code” this weekend, for those of you who don’t know what that is let me explain.

The code can go both ways, the girl code or the guy code, which means if your friend likes, liked, or dated someone, they are off limits to you!
It is really a friendship thing, you will not overstep your boundaries with your friends.

I for one would never do that as I love and honor my friendships too much to ever disrespect a friend like that but believe me it has been done to me from “so called friends” and not just to me but even in front of me.

I had this “friend” that knew I had something with a guy that I had liked forever, I was in love with him and it didn’t work out the way I had wanted it to. She processed to flirt with him every time we were all together and I’m not talking about some coy flirting, I am talking about let me sit on your lap, goo goo eyes, run my fingers through his hair flirting right in front of me, one time even on my birthday! 

Even though she knew how I felt about him and still feel about him, because I would share my feelings with her and all the while she was telling me how wrong he was for me! I am sorry that is not a friend, I could never hurt someone like that.

My guy friend thinks it’s okay to be able to do that, he didn’t even know about the “code” I actually Google it for him, still he thought it was alright to date his ex’s friends. Not alright, never will be alright, not only are you breaking up a “friendship”, you are setting yourself up for disaster because in the end it will come back to bite you in the ass!

How can anyone trust you? What kind of “friend” are you? Is it all about what you want and yet you have no consideration for another’s feelings?

I always say I am a friend to the end, I will do anything for my friends and I always try to put myself in someone’s shoes. How would that feel if someone did it to me? It would hurt like hell, even if it didn’t work out, even if you’ve been broken up for years, even if you say it’s over….it still would hurt and I personally, am not into hurting another human being like that. No man or woman is worth taking down a friendship
forever.

So today my friends, think about the “code” Would you break it? How would you feel if your friend broke it? Would they still be a friend to you afterwards?
This is a question for all of us to ask ourselves, who are you as a person and how important is others feelings to you?
The answer will say a lot about the kind of person you are.

“Be the change you want to see”

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My emotions run high…

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My emotions run high

Yesterday I wrote a blog about friendship at the moment I was truly hurt. I know I let my emotions run my life, I am all in or all out,  I love big! I am a friend for life, there is nothing small about me except my statue.

So when people who are supposed to be “friends ” hurt me I take that to heart and I let my emotions overrule my brain.
When I thought better of it I decided to take down the post because I didn’t want to put that energy out there. 
I am constantly trying to be a better person and believe me it is not always easy, I definitely screw it up a lot. But I am never to big to admit my mistakes and say I am sorry.

I am not sorry about my feelings, I still feel the same way. I am sorry that I wrote about them while they were still so fresh and I was so hurt, see when you do that it comes from another place in your soul, you know the saying hurt people…hurt people, its the place that is hurt and trying to lash out to retaliate and that’s not the place I want to reside at anymore.

I want to live in a state of peace and joy and even though that is not always possible, my reactions to others are possible, as I control them (or try to for the most part)
I am Italian and Puerto Rican and I am quick to jump with my emotions from 0-70 in 1 second  but I have to learn to step back, look at the situation, pray and then decide what to do about it.

I am and probably will be hurt for a while but I realized that everything happens for a reason and so I am looking for the reason.

So today my “friends” remember life is too short… maybe the reason is that there are some people who are meant to be in your life for a season, not forever, the ride is not for everyone and sometimes when your train is heading up the mountain it is better to know now who is pushing with you and who is pulling on the brakes trying to hold you back, the path is hard enough without carrying dead weight…let it go…cut it loose… there is an incredible view at the top that is only there for those who had your back while getting there.

“Be the change you want to see”

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What type of friend are you?

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What type of friend are you?

I interrupt this Monday message for an important blog about friendship…

If you know me or you read my blog you know how important friendship means to me, as an only child, friends were the family I picked for myself. I am a true friend to the end, I will  have your back through thick and thin and will do anything for you, stand up for you, take my shirt off my back for you.
There is nothing I won’t do for my friends.

But if you hurt me we are done, if you are dishonest and if you are not there for me with the best intentions, then I have no use for you in my life. I am sorry if that might sound brutally cold but at this stage of the game in my life I don’t care. I have no time for childish games, I know what I bring to the table and I know I am worthy of the same type of friends, that I am.

You will not be my friend one minute than flip flop and say nasty things to me the next, acting like I owe you something, to then turn around and smile in my face and expect me to to be okay with that, not happening!

I will put up with you at common functions and not be rude because of the fact that I enjoy the others company, but trust me that is for their behalf not yours.

But the friendship from me is gone, I will not be treated like some 2nd grade friend, you only being there when it benefits you, when you want to know the gossip, to get you something or to try to make yourself look better while putting someone else down doing so.

If you take joy out of calling someone out, acting like the world revolves around you or to make snide remarks to get pleasure out of seeing someone else hurt, we are done.

I’ve been there, done that and will no longer try to please someone else who clearly has their own issues and agendas.

It is not my job anymore to try to make someone happy, who will never be happy with themselves.
I have other friends who love me and know the type of friend I am and have my back always… not just when it benefits them.

So today my “friends” remember life is too short… there are some people who are meant to be in your life for a season, not forever, the ride is not for everyone and sometimes when your train is heading up the mountain it is better to know now who is pushing with you and who is pulling on the brakes trying to hold you back, the path is hard enough without carrying dead weight…let it go…cut it loose… there is an incredible view at the top that is only there for those who had your back while getting there.

“Be the change you want to see”

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Let me know what you want me to write about

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Let me hear what you want me to write about

I am always open to new ideas and new things so when I was on the phone with my cousin yesterday and she said she had an idea about my blog, I couldn’t wait to hear it.

She said why don’t I open it up to my readers and let them have some input on what they would like me to write about.
I thought what a great idea, why haven’t I thought of it before duh!

So I am opening up the floor to all of you, to let me know what you want me to write about,  questions that you may have for me, you all know I am an open book so ask me anything, I am not shy.
Topics that may be on your mind or maybe even comments about my previous blogs. It’s all game, whatever it may be, I will post your questions and comments and answer all of your questions.

I kind of feel like Ann Landers now…. yeah that’s an old reference, some  of you won’t even know who she is.
( I am not even going to think about how old that makes me feel!)

So my friends let me have it, be honest, be open, be creative and let’s have some fun with this…
Because like I always say life is way too short not to have fun!

I will be posting all of your comments all next week, I can’t wait to hear from you all.

I want to take this moment to thank all of you for taking the time each and every day out of your busy lives to read my blog, it truly means the world to me.

“Be the change you want to see”

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It’s just the little things

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It’s just the little things

I am grateful, I live my life every day in gratitude, there is not a day, not an hour that goes by that I do not appreciate the life that I am living right now.

Now you might think “yeah right, get real”  but I swear to you that is how I live because I know the life I use to have and I have learned to appreciate the little things in life.

Are things are so bad in your life your not grateful for anything? It’s okay, I was there too, start small, I am grateful I am alive, that’s always a good one, grateful for my children even if they are ungrateful brats, (oh please we have all said this to them one time or another )

Be grateful you have a home to sleep in and not a box, food to eat and not having to watch your children go to sleep hungry or dig through a garbage to find your next meal.

If things are okay in your life be grateful for being present in each moment, mothers day I was sitting on the couch watching my girls, their friends and my neighbors cook me dinner, the music was going,  there was laughter in the house,  we were singing and dancing…I stopped, I took it all in, I was truly present in the moment and I gave thanks for being so blessed.

Singing in the car with my little one, our favorite past time, I am present, I feel blessed to be able to be there and sing off key with her.

When I go to the gym each and every morning, I am happy and smiling, lip syncing my favorite gossip songs while running or writing this blog, grateful I got another day to do this, to praise him.

There is a study out recently that says grateful people live longer, that they have less stress and that they are among the happiest people on earth, imagine that?  Yes, that is me and some people probably want to smack me in my smiling face for always being so “up” but I know what “down” means and I never want to go there again, never!

So today my friends, stop and smell the flowers, smile at someone, enjoy the moment, be present, be grateful. ..be happy for the little things because they mean the most.

“Be the change you want to see”

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