You look good on the inside but your empty on the inside

Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

You look good on the outside but your empty on the inside

 

Yes, you look good on the outside, your dressing really nice, you give out the impression that you got it all together and everyone is impressed by what they see but really what is on inside? Does your outside match your inside? What are you giving back? Or are you just looking good coming to get your miracle…

 

Is that all your here for? Are you coming to church just to look good and for what you can get?

 

Are you telling your testimony? Are you sharing what God has done in your life? Do you give back to your church or your community? Or are you just here to get what you can get?

 

You are supposed to go and be the light of God, to share his word, to be a blessing to others but here’s the thing,

so many “Christians” are petty,backstabbing gossip mongers, looking down on the “sinners” because they think they are now better because they are “saved”

 

See, this is why no one wants to come to the church anymore because we have become a place of hate, of judgment and of “tho” are better than you because “we” go to church, “we” dress up, so we are the true Christians.

 

Just because you sit in a garage doesn’t make you a car, anymore than because you look good and come to church makes you a Christian.

 

What makes you a Christian is the fact that you can spread God’s word, that you can love one another no matter what their faults, their beliefs or their sexual preference.

God said that he so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son, it didn’t say he loved the saved people, so he he did this.

 

No, he loved the world, the whole world, sinners, saved, everyone. So if God could loved the world, why can’t you? Where in the bible does it say… your saved now,so God is letting you judge others in place of him?

 

No, it says love one another, the greatest of these are love…he who has no sin cast the first stone…I can go on and on.. it doesn’t say now that you go to church and you look good, your now better than everyone, that only the “saved” deserves love.

 

So today my friends, remember just because you see a melon at the supermarket and it looks like it’s the perfect melon so you buy it, take it home and open it up only to realize it is rotting on the inside, it is sour and it’s bad… yes, that is how some of you are…fooling the world by looking good on the outside. Make sure your insides matches your outside.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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The effects of verbal abuse

Words can hurt you…

 

There is an old saying “sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me” that song is not true and it was obviously made up by someone who was never verbally abused. Words can cut you to the bone just as surely as if you were cut with a knife. The scars from the abuse will last a lot longer than the scars from an actual beating, they scar your heart and haunt your mind for years.

 

Even when you think you have moved on, changed your life, something will bring you right back to that moment and you will remember their words as clear as if they said them to you yesterday. You will second guess yourself, you will start believing all they have said to you and about you. Some times they will haunt you forever “You are stupid, you cant make it without me, you cant do anything right, why do you always twist my words around, its because of you I act this way, I was just kidding, cant you take a joke, your worthless”

 

These words and many others, change who you are, it doesn’t matter if your a college graduated, a high school drop out, a business person or blue collar worker, verbal abusers don’t see color, gender or education. They are bully’s and they want to have control over you and your life and will stop at nothing until they get it. They break you down little by little until you wake up one morning not knowing who you are, not liking who you are and believing all that has been said about you is true.

 

According to the CDC they released a study in 2008 that surveyed more than 70,000 Americans and the results were staggering These are the results of that survey.

23.6% of women and 11.5% of men reported at least one lifetime episode of intimate-partner violence.

In households with incomes under $15,000 per year, 35.5% of women and 20.7% of men suffered violence from an intimate partner.

43% of women and 26% of men in multiracial non-Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

39% of women and 18.6% of men in American Indian/Alaska Native households suffered partner violence.

26.8% of women and 15.5% of men in white non-Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

29.2% of women and 23.3% of men in black non-Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

20.5% of women and 15.5% of men in Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

Harvard university put out there own study on verbal abuse, they went on to say:

Scolding, swearing, yelling, blaming, insulting, threatening, ridiculing, demeaning, and criticizing can be as harmful as physical abuse, sexual abuse outside the home, or witnessing physical abuse at home.

The report suggests that, when verbal abuse is constant and severe, it creates a risk of post-traumatic stress disorder, the same type of psychological collapse experienced by combat troops in Iraq. The research on which the report is based points out that children who are the target of frequent verbal mistreatment exhibit higher rates of physical aggression, delinquency, and social problems than other children.

Other researchers have associated childhood verbal abuse with a significantly higher risk of developing unstable, angry personalities, narcissistic behavior, obsessive-compulsive disorders, and paranoia. “Verbal abuse may also have more lasting consequences than other forms of abuse, because it’s often more continuous,” says Teicher. “And in combination with physical abuse and neglect, may produce the most dire outcome.

 

There are always signs, yet we chose to ignore them, here are a few

Do they…

*make derogatory comments about a group you belong to

(gender, career, religion, etc.)? This comment might end with “I mean them, not you.”

*make fun of or insult your ideas, behaviors, or beliefs?

*make negative comments about people, places or things that you love?

*say things that are almost true about you, but leave you wanting to defend yourself?

*say, “What? It was just a joke!” to dismiss a remark that offends you?

*ask you questions about something that just happened and reply to your answers, “Do you care to think about that and answer the question again?” or just sit there, staring at you, in a way that lets you know your answer wasn’t “right”?

*engage you in long conversations about things on which you disagree until you reach the point of wanting to say, “Okay. Whatever. You’re right!” Or insist that you repeat what they said and then, later, claim, “You agreed with me (then)!”

*somehow manage to physically back you into a corner or somewhere you cannot easily escape during intense conversations?

*break you down until you say your sorry about a fight you clearly are in the right about?

 

These are signs of how you feel when you are with them

Do you feel…

*nervous when approaching them with certain topics?

*insulted because of their use of foul language, or does their use of foul language change the meaning of otherwise normal requests? (Such as, “Could you f*ck*ng tell me how much f*ck*ng longer it will be before you’re ready for dinner?”)

*a need to “tell on yourself” about innocent events in case the person hears about          it later?

*misunderstood for the most part in your relationship?

 

Do you doubt…

*your sanity, intelligence, or communication skills because of difficulties relating to them?

*your memories when it comes to recalling conversations or events with the person because their take on it is so different from your own?

 

Ask yourself these questions and be brutally honest with the answers because these are the signs of verbal abuse. They poison your thoughts with confusion and doubt.

 

According to Patricia Evans the leading expert in verbal abuse, the long term effects on verbal abuse is overwhelming on both men and women and the effects on children can last a lifetime.

Victims of verbal abuse may:

*Have difficulty forming conclusions and making decisions

*Feel or accept that there is something wrong with them on a basic level (selfish, too sensitive, “crazy”, etc.)

*Analyze and relive abusive experiences to see where they made mistakes

*Doubt their ability to communicate

*Experience self-doubt, low self-confidence, and lose spontaneity and/or enthusiasm

*Believe and say things like “Everything will be better when the baby is born,” or “Everything will improve after she finds a job.”

 

The effects of verbal abuse on children ages 18 and under include substance abuse (more prevalent in males) physical aggression, delinquency, and social problems. The more verbally aggressive the parent, the more pronounced the problem.

 

A study of physical health consequences of physical and psychological abuse concludes:

Verbal abuse is strongly associated with chronic pain, migraine and frequent headaches, stammering, ulcers, spastic colon, and frequent indigestion, diarrhea, or constipation along with many stress-related heart conditions.

The psychological effects of verbal abuse include:

fear and anxiety, depression, stress and PTSD, intrusive memories, memory gap disorders, sleep or eating problems, hyper-vigilance and exaggerated startle responses, irritability, anger issues, alcohol and drug abuse, suicide, self-mutilation, and assaultive behaviors.

There are many other studies out there that will give you facts and numbers, but they can never truly know the pain you feel when you are a victim of verbal abuse. You feel you will never do anything right, that if “only” you could make them happy, you walk on eggshells not knowing what person they will be that day. You wonder how they can say they love you yet treat you this way? If they are your parent, you wonder why they don’t love you, your constantly running after their love and acceptance, you will take it into adulthood and lot of the time continue the vicious cycle. You feel unlovable, unworthy, and you question everything you do and say.

Until the day you realize it is about them and not about you, this is their issue, not yours. No matter how “ good” you are, how “right” you do things, it will never be enough for them, they will find fault in the perfect. They need to put you down in order to make themselves feel better, they are lacking but they put the spot light on you, so you don’t see their faults, it has nothing to do with you.

Get out, get help, do research, talk to others who have been there, start to love yourself again. You are worthy of being treated well, until you realize this, they will continue to have power over you even 40 years from now.

Keep saying “not my monkeys… Not my circus..”

Am I always inspirational?

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Am I always inspirational?

 

The other day I wrote about how someone blasted me because they read one blog and it wasn’t inspirational. My cousin Carol, God love her, always tells it to me real and she said “Well you do say your an inspirational blogger and that clearly wasn’t inspirational”

Wow…leave it to her to always be right as usual  (Don’t get a big head cuz!)

 

But it’s true, I am human and sometimes I have bad days, and yes, sometimes I rant on here, I cry, I open my heart up and show it to you all. But I always try to end the blog with a message, I always see the glass as half full, I am always trying to look for that lesson, I believe everything has a lesson and we just have to be open enough to see it.

 

I try to be positive and uplifting but I am human I have issues, my car breaks, my girls drive me crazy, my work is slow, I got big bills, I have no love life, just like all of you and yes, I get down, I occasionally lose hope and get depressed just because I write this blog doesn’t exempt me from lives issues.

 

The reason I have so many people reading my blog is because I have been through so much and that I am human and I write about my pain, my issues, my falling on my face and time and time again how I pull myself up, put a smile on face and try again, how I hold on to that faith,no matter how small it might seem, how I believe tomorrow will be a better day, how I truly believe in my soul that God has great things for me.

 

Yes, maybe inspirational blogger is not the right title, maybe life blogger should be my new title, because yes,  most of my blogs are inspirational but let’s get real, life is not all sunshine and roses,please!

 

No, it’s about how we face our hardships, how we overcome, it’s about being a fighter and never giving up no matter how many times you get knocked down, that’s real life.

 

So today my friends, I will warn you I will not always be inspirational, I will not always say it the way you might want to hear it, I will definitely be blue, hurt and sad again but I will never sugar coat it and I will always be real with you because this my friends, is real life…

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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The 10 things you dont want in a man

 

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The 10 things you want in a man

 

This is a repeat because as I was writing my blog, 40 minutes into it, poof it disappeared and I have no energy to rewrite it…will try it again tomorrow for now enjoy an oldie….

 

Last night while speaking to “my blast from my past” we were talking about the blog I wrote on Sunday “I refuse to settle” He said instead of putting out there of what I wanted, why didn’t I put a list together of the ten things I didn’t want in a man.Ten things that would be absolute deal breakers when looking for someone.

 

He went on to say, maybe all the things I had on my want list, well maybe I was too stuck on certain things and what if I met a man that had most and not all would I disregard him because of it?

 

If I made a list of the things that were deal breakers and found a man that didn’t have any of that list, shouldn’t I take a deeper look at that man? I’ve never really thought of it from that perspective before so as I always tell you, your never to old to learn something or to see things in a different light as long as your open minded.

 

So here is my list of the ten deal breakers:

 

1-Must love my girls, make them part of his life as they are part of my life, this is a package deal.

 

2-He cant lie, period!, Not a small white lie, not I am doing this for your benefit lie, No lying period!

 

3-He cant cheat, I am committed, you better be as well, if you still had oats to sow you should have done that before we got together.

 

4-He cant be cruel or heartless, that says a lot about a person, how he treats others.

 

5- He cannot disrespect me, Ever! Ever! I had come a long way and I refuse to be disrespected. He will never curse or belittle me. I would never do that to him and expect the same in return.

 

6-He wont put me last on his list, just like I will put him on top of mine, I should be on top of his, behind God.

 

7-He cant have his life in a mess, drama, baby mama drama, I don’t come with that and I sure as hell don’t want any.

 

8-He cant be unreliable or flaky, be a man of your word, if you say it , do it!

 

9-He can’t be a broke brother, sorry I am not asking for a rich man, but at 50 you should have your life together, no bill collectors knocking at your door, or you pawning our rings to pay your gambling debts.

 

10-He cant be controlling, manipulate, egotistical, narrasstic, or so into himself that he thinks the world revokes around him.

 

So these are my deal breakers, feel free to copy and paste them to your dating sites. There are no going back, there are no second chances (especially for me and the cheating, I threw two men into the streets in the middle of the night and never looked back.)

 

No, that is it, period! I am not looking for things I don’t have myself or things I would never do to someone, so why is it so hard to ask the same of another?

 

So today my friends as I write my list, think about what is on your list and these ten things that are non negotiable for you in your next relationship and then stick to them. There are things on our want list that we can live without but the things on this list are not any of them.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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We were all born colorblind

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We were all born colorblind

 

I was so sadden by the news of that man that came into a bible study class and killed all of thoese people last week.

I couldn’t imagine the hatred that man had in his heart that he would do something like that, for what reason? The color of their skin? So you think your life is worth more than another’s because of the color of your skin?

 

I pray for the the families left behind, shattered and broken, asking why? I pray for this man who did this, because he is sick and is filled with haterd.

 

I pray for him because we were all born colorblind, we teach hate, we teach racism. Our hearts are filled with love and compassion when we are born, we teach our children to either embrace that spirit or we teach them that we are better than another human being because of the color of their skin, their beliefs, their accents and even their social standing, this hatred is taught. He was taught this and I truly feel sorry for him because people should never be this closed minded.

 

I grew up with a mom who was raised in Harlem, we had black friends, Indian friends, Jewish friends, Muslim friends, Native American friends, our house was like the United nations and I carried on my mom’s compassionate heart, my own house is like that now.

I remember when Tryon Martin was killed, people actually asked me if I was afraid to go to my church

(My church happens to be predominantly black )

I couldn’t believe the question, why should I?

 

The people in my church have the biggest, kindest hearts of anyone I know, they took me in when I was lost, broken, hurt, when I had hit rock bottom, they showed me love, compassion and the real meaning of giving even when I nothing to give back.

 

I can’t imagine going to bible study like I do every week, a place of worship, a place of refuge and now being afraid of going because you don’t know who is going to try to kill you because they filled with hatred just because of the color of your skin, because of your beliefs.

 

But God did not give us the spirit of fear, he gave us strength, strength to believe in him.

I will not be afraid, I will keep going, I will keep telling others what saved my life and I will live my life by example, to my girls, to the world. I want to teach love and compassion, and I want them to know that love knows no color….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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What is a father?

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What is a father?

 

Any man can be a father, not every man can be a dad though.

I know what a good man is because I have been lucky enough to have not one father but two great father’s in my life.

I had my real dad who was an incredible dad and I had a step dad who was an equally incredible dad.

 

I was at church yesterday and it was a hard day because it was Father’s day and not only was I missing both my dad’s but my step dad had died on Father’s day as well.

 

We had a comedian there, (Yes, our Bishop is a trip, he definitely thinks outside the box) the comedian  said something that stuck with me, he said when kids say “you ain’t my real dad”

 

He went on to say “oh really I really live in this house, I really pay the bills here, I’m really here for you and your mom…so I am your “real dad”

your biological dad “stepped out on you and your mom”  so he should be your step dad but I am here, I am your real dad.

 

Yes, it doesn’t matter if they are your “biological” dad or not, they are the ones who were there for you, kissed your boo boos, helped you with homework, was there when you needed to talk, supported you and believed in you, that makes a dad, it’s not just about  blood.

 

I was so blessed to have 3  incredible men in my life growing up, the third was a long time family friend we called “Big daddy”

These 3 men taught me what real men were suppose to be like, they were hard working, kind and compassionate, they always had time to teach me things, to listen, to admit their mistakes, to  show their love to me always, yes, these men we’re the most incredible role models I could have ever have and I am so grateful to have had them in my life.

 

I truly miss them and all they brought to my life… but I am also blessed to have some other incredible men in my life now, long time friedns, who will be role models to my girls and hopefully touch their lives as they have touched mine.

 

So today my friends, it doesn’t matter if you have a “real”  father around, stop and give thanks to the “real” men that are in your life, they are the ones that are stepping up, making a difference, showing everyone what a real man is, blood or not it is their day too!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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There are good men out there..

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There are good men out there

 

This week I have been writing about wanting to find someone, I don’t need a man to complete me, I am complete, I don’t need a man to make me happy, I am happy but I would like to have someone to share my life with.

 

With all of my dating horror stories, well okay they are not all bad, just most of them!

I always try to look at the bright side, at least I get good stories to write about from them. But honestly, I truly know there are good men out there.

 

I was blessed enough to have 3 wonderful men in my life growing up, my dad, my step dad and a incredible family friend named Sam, these 3 men were the best men I’ve ever met, they are what real men should be. The men today need to have taken lessons from these 3 men.

 

So it’s not like I dont know what a good man looks like. I have also picked quite a few really good men in my life, it just didn’t work out for one reason or another but they are still in my life because they are such incredible men.

 

I have some great male friends, single dads, hard working, willing to help when your in a bind, kind and caring men who I am proud to call friends.

 

But I have also picked some winners, the ones that left you shaking your head asking yourself “What was I thinking?”

 

I can not lump all men together and say all men are bad, that would be like saying all women are bitches and I know for a fact that is not true, I have the most incredible group of women friends that are kind and sweet, caring and loving, that any man would be blessed to have.

 

So no, I will not lump them all together even if sometimes it seems like they are all block heads looking for only one thing, with no manners or filters on their tongues. I do know that a good man is hard to find and one day when I am not looking I will find that good man and when I do, it will blow my mind.

 

So today my friends,  remember there are good people out there, don’t let the bads ones spoil your search and say all of them are no good. Keep a open mind, keep throwing out the bad ones and keep looking for that diamond in the rough. They are out there…you know how I know?  Because I am a good one, you are a good one…we are out there that means they are out there as well.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Dont judge me by one blog

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Don’t judge me by one blog

 

I write this blog every day, 5 days a week for the last 3 years. I write about everything, my life, the world, exercise, dating, family, love, disappointment, failures, hopes and dreams, there is not a topic I haven’t written about.

 

Yesterday I told someone that I write, they went to my website and read my blog I had wrote the day before, called “There are no princes.”

Then they proceed to tell me that I am not a inspirational writer but a man basher.

 

Well, they were right….for that day I was a man basher, being a single women in today’s world is tough and after 2 years of being lied to, being stood up, catfished and listenIng to men say horrible and vulgar things to me, I had lost it and yes I wrote about it, just like I write about everything else in my life.

 

But does one blog defined a person? Is that all your willing to look at? Did you even bother to read last week series on living life large, loving big, because you never know when you will lose a loved one. Did you read the blog on forgiveness, when I forgave my rapist? How about the one on never giving up no matter how many times you fall on your face?

 

No, you didn’t, you chose to judge me on one and only one blog and frankly that is your problem, I  imagine this is how you view people and the world.

 

I know there is more than one side to a story, I know there is more about a person then you see, I know people have flaws yet I can see, they have a huge heart. I see the big picture, the whole picture before I judge someone and even then I think there may be extenuating circumstances that might come into play, besides who am I to judge?

 

So today my friends, don’t be so fast to judge someone else, they say first impressions are critical but they are not the end all and be all, sometimes a first impression may be bad but if your willing to look past that, give that person another chance you might have a chance to know an incredible person. Don’t lose that opportunity.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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My new book The blessing in Disguise

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Maybe there are no princes….maybe i should go for cinderella

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Maybe there are no princes…maybe I should go for cinderella

 

Yesterday I wrote about waiting for my prince but I have to tell you I am not sure sure there are any princes left.

If you are single now a days, you know what I am talking about, there are way more toads then princes out there.

 

I have been stood up, catfished, lied to ie; I am fit  (yeah, your fit… fit into xxl)

I have been played, your in, your out, your hot, your cold.

I have had my heartbroken, I have fell in love and not had loved returned.

 

I have been asked to spank a guy with a wooden spoon, asked to be tied up, had them talk about sex (even though it clearly and boldly says I am not looking to hook up in my profile)

I even got sent pictures of their junk! Really??

And this was all before I even met these guys!

 

Yuggg…. prince’s?  No more like kings…of freak please!!

 

They treat us all like pieces of ass, cherp,cherp girls like Steve Harvey calls them.

Guys getting into a car and pushes the alarm button ,cherp, cherp and then gets in, leaving us standing there waiting for them to open up the car door…wtf?

Yes, there are no princes out there if they are, their horses are lost in some dam forrest, in today’s society they no longer exist.

 

They say I am too picky…I don’t care about money…been there done that. I don’t care about status, also been there. I don’t care about what they do for a living…isn’t that the big three?

 

What I do care about is that they share my faith, that they are faithful, kind, funny, that we enjoy alot of the same things, that they are self confident, not jealous, no drama. That are in some kind of shape as I am very active and want to enjoy working out,bike riding,surfing, hiking with someone that I enjoy their company.

Is that too picky? Really?

Sorry I will be alone if that’s the case.

I refuse to settle or go back to the life I had before, unhappy but I had a man… not happening!

I love myself and I have alot of friends and peace and joy in my life…I would like a man, but I don’t need one to complete me or make me happy.

 

So today my friends, I will  still keep looking because I am a optimist and truly am a romantic but I got tell you cinderella is looking better and better at this point….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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When will my prince come…

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When will my prince come..

 

I can’t help it I am a sap…I love romance, candlelight dinners, walks on the beach holding hands. I am a sucker for romantic movies, dancing in the kitchen, flowers and mussy  cards.

Yes, I believe in Cindrella, the castle in Disney land and Prince Charming on his white horse.

 

I believe in love at first sight, soul mates and a love of a lifetime. I am a sap through and through, always have been, always will be.

 

So on Sunday me and my little one stayed in, it was a rainy day and we decide to curl up in bed and catch up on one of our favorite shows, Greys anatomy. We have been watching it since the beginning. I have rooted and cried for Derrick and Merrith, theirs was a true love story and when he was killed in the last episode, (yes, I know how far behind we were)

we went into the ugly cry, this was a love of lifetime and now he was gone. I also cried because I wonder if I was ever going to feel a love like that again.

 

I write all the time about my first love, my high school sweetheart, how he was the love of my life but that was a lifetime ago, there was no house, no real life with kids, bills, jobs, it was a fairy tale love.

 

It’s been so long since I felt that kind of love, been loved like that, when you know a man loves you and would be willing to do anything for you and you for him. When you cant wait for the day to be over so you can rush home into his arms, when all you think of, is him and what you can do to make him smile,that smile that melts your heart.

 

I want that kind of a love again and wonder if I will ever find another love like that….but I, always being the optimistic that I am, believe he is out there, searching for me as well and one day….my prince will come.

 

So today my friends, don’t give up hope, dont stop believing in happily ever afters, don’t settle for a toad because your sick of waiting for your prince, hold on to the dream…because dreams do come true…if you only believe….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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