Your already declared a winner…

Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

Your already declared a winner…

 

There is a bible verse that says If God is for you who can be against you?

If you believe that verse than you already know you are a winner.

 

If you dont like your situation now, if your in a bad place now, don’t give up but keep remembering  that something good will come out of the bad…you just have to have faith.

 

If you want your situation  to change you need to do some things, first, speak these things that you want to see….

Envision them as if they already happened. Know it, feel it, see it, feel it, belive it is coming.

You need to have a made up mind…you will stand in your faith, no matter what… you will serve God.

No matter what is thrown at you, you know you are a child of the most high God and whatever is happening, it will be okay because he has your back.

 

Maybe your problem is you give up too easy! Some bad comes your way and here you are saying “poor me, why me, here it goes again, I give up!”

Do you not remember what he has done for you before? If he did it before, he will do it again.

 

Even in the mist of trouble don’t quit!

Even when things are coming at you, even when people betray you and they will, even your own family, friends you thought had your back, will sometimes stab you in the back when you are not looking, know it is for a reason.

 

When a door closes on you, when you can’t understand why this is happening,  it’s because God took some stuff away from you that wasn’t good for you, so that you could depend on him, so you could walk out on faith and just trust him.

 

The problem is there for a reason, to teach you a lesson, even when you get knocked down, get back up… be strong and courageous know that the lord will go with you, keep the faith…. remember faith honors God… and know that he has already declared you a winner.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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No regrets

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No regrets

 

In this week long series of life is too short blogs, I end it with this one…no regrets.

 

If you ask me if I have any regrets in my life, I will tell you no, everything I’ve done brought me to where I am today. If I did have one regret that I use to hold on to, it was that I didn’t go to a away to college, I was a mama’s girl and didn’t want to move away and I regret not having that whole college campus life experience.

 

But I let that go too, I have learned that life is to short for regrets, it’s too short for what if’s, if you make a mistake, learn your lesson, then move on and don’t look back, don’t beat yourself up over the mistake and don’t let anyone hold that mistake over your head thirty years later.

 

You hear people say all the time, I should have done that, I wish I did this different, if I could do it over I would do this…

 

Just yesterday I was talking to my soul sister and we were taking about my new book, she asked me would I change my life and all the pain I had in it, if I could?

 

I didn’t have to even think about the question, no definitely not, all that I went through, I had to, there was big lessons I needed to learn, to share with others, to be able to grow and be in this place of peace I am in now.

 

No, I know how much pain I had in my life but even still I wouldn’t change a single thing. I don’t beat myself up for the horrible choices I have made and believe me, I made many, especially when it came to men, lord help me!

 

But each mistake made me stronger, it taught me what I wouldn’t put up with the next time around, it made me know my self worth and know how I expect to be treated the next time.

 

Everytime I fell on my face, it taught me to be able to laugh at myself, to let go of my ego, to be brave enough to put it out there to teach others a lesson.

 

Everytime I said or wrote something stupid, I learned to apologize, to let go of trying to be right, to humble myself and admit what I did wrong.

 

Every pain of losing people I loved taught me, to not take a loved one for granted, it taught me to let people know how much they mean to me, each and every day they are here.

 

Every betrayal of a friend or family member, taught me to hold tight of the ones who had my back, to trust my institution, to let go of hatred and anger.

 

Yes, everything I went through every broken heart, every tear I cried at night, every time I cried out to God because I thought I could no longer go on, every one of these things taught me a lesson that shaped me into who I am today.

 

So today my friends…download this week of my blogs, print them out, post them on your refrigerator, and reread them, so before you lose someone you love, you will tell them, you hurt with them, you appreciate them, you live your life large, you love them because you have learned to live your life with no regrets.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Thank you for all you’ve done…. for all you are

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Thank you for all you’ve done…for all you are

 

This week I’ve been talking about how life is too short and how we should appreciate all of it and all the people that are in it.

 

Today I want to talk about letting the people in your life know how you feel about them, now before it’s too late.

I remember my mom telling me this story of her grandma who raised her, she would tell my mother “Don’t bring flowers to my grave I can’t smell them there” now say it will an thick Italian accent, picturing a little women in a black dress and bun on her head, yup that was her!

 

My mother brought her flowers every week and never brought flowers to her grave when she past. I took that lesson to heart and I too bought my mother flowers every week even when I moved to Florida I had flowers sent to her once a month.

 

I wanted her to know how much I loved her, how much I appreciated all she did for me. There was no unspoken words between us. I spend 10 days on the floor of her hospital room, making her laugh, telling her I loved her, there was no regrets for me when God took her home.

 

I continue to do that with everyone in my life, I never end a phone call without saying I love you, I send notes and cards to love ones, out of the blue, telling them I miss them and appreciate them. I tell my girls every day sometimes 3 times a day, that I love them, I constantly tell them how proud of them I am, how they can do anything they set their mind to.

 

I even told men in my life my true feelings even if I didn’t know if they felt the same way why?…because what if they did? I don’t want what if’s in my life.

 

I write this blog 5 days a week to try to let people know and realize their self worth.

When God calls me home there will not be any unspoken words left in my life…no what if’s, no I should haves, no regrets, all of the people in my life will know how much they meant.

 

So today my friends, call someone you love, tell them you love them, make amends with someone, forgive someone, ask for forgiveness, don’t let the moment go by, you never know if this will be your last chance….don’t live with regrets….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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When you hurt…I hurt

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When you hurt…I hurt

 

I tell you all the time I live big and I also love big. So when someone I love is hurting, I feel their pain and I hurt too as I know how their heart is breaking.

 

I remember years ago when my best friend at the time was dating this guy and she literally caught him cheating on her. She was beyond herself, I went to her, we talked and cried for hours, she was broken hearted and I was just as broken hearted for her.

 

I felt her pain, I knew what she was going through, I was mad, I wanted to beat his ass because he hurt her so bad. When I care about someone I am all in, I will defined you till the end, I have your back and yes, I feel your pain.

 

People tell me I should guard my heart, not love so big, don’t let people in that close but that’s not me, it’s not who I am. If I get hurt so be it, it will be a lesson learned.

 

Today my heart is aching because I know my bestie is on a plane to help her son bury his fiancee, who was killed in a car crash. Her heart is breaking and I feel her pain, as a mother, as a friend, just as another human being seeing someone else hurting, your heart goes out to them.

 

I will be praying for her and this family to get through this difficult time and I will feel their pain,even this far away.

 

So today my friends, remember life is short, live large, love big and open your heart up to help someone going through a difficult time. You never know that one day the shoe might be on the other foot….

 

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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life is too short

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Life is too short…

 

A few days ago my best friend got some terrible news, her son’s fiancee was killed in a horrible car crash. She was just 20 years old…. she was young, beautiful and had her whole life ahead of her and now tragically, she was gone.

 

What made it even harder was they were both here the week before visiting my friend, she had posted pictures of them, they were having a incredible time together and just a week later this happens….

 

I am always telling you in this blog that life is too short, to live life big because you never know what will happen. This hit home for me, as I felt the pain of my friend, I felt the pain of a mother losing her child, I felt the pain of having lost so many people in my life, gone way to soon.

 

And yet it made me realize once again, the gift of life and how precious it is. I dont take this thing called life lightly, I spent way to many years being in a drug induced fog, misrable and unhappy, not being me, trying to please others and hating my life in the process. I learned when I lost my mom, my best friend, that nothing is a given, that you can be here one day, gone the next.  That fast…it’s over….

 

I decided to change my life after that, to live my life each and every day like it is my last and not to regret a single thing!

 

So today my friends, take this tragedy and make something good out of it, call up people you haven’t spoke to, make amends, forgive and ask for forgiveness, change your life, live large, laugh often, dance in your kitchen, sing in the car with your kids,  tell the people in your life you love them, live each moment as if it was the last…. because you never know….it just may be….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Refuel and keep moving

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Refuel and keep moving

 

Have you ever been so tired you can’t eat, you can’t sleep? You are so drained you have no energy for anything? Your even to tired to sleep?

 

That is sometimes the way it is in your faith walk too, things get so hard that you can’t even pray, you lost hope, you have no strength left, you feel you can’t go on.

 

But within all of us, there is a fighter. You do have the courage to go on, its in all of us, there is a button in all of us, that if you push it, you will fight back, yes, it is in there.

 

Don’t let the challenges of life drain you, don’t let the family drama drain you, don’t let the negative people in your life suck you dry. You’ve got to learn to get up every day and say it’s going to be a good day, no one is going to suck the energy out of me, today I will be in peace.

This is your choice, you know what you have to do to change your life.

 

You hold the key to what your future will be like, no one else but you!

Your thinking this is so hard… what you thought because you turned your life over to God it was magically going to be perfect?

 

The bible never told you the journey would be easy but it did said we will overcome… we are more than conquers, we are overcomers! There will be tests before you will have a testimony.

 

What about just being grateful for all the small things,why don’t you start there, then find other things you are grateful for. Before long you will be grateful for all things in your life.

 

The load you carry each day is a sign that you can handle it, that it will not kill you, that you have the grace to deal with your situation and every problem you face…God gives you the grace and it is sufficient for you to go on. His power is perfect in your weakness… you can be kept if you know he is there for you.

 

So today my friends, the level of your problems will tell the size of your blessings… yes change your life, keep the faith, never stop believing and stop and refuel when your feeling low,you can’t drive on empty.

 

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Living in the moment

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Living in the moment

 

I have learned a lot in the last few years but the biggest lesson I have learned is to live in the moment. Life is too short… you never know when your time is up or when you will lose a loved one.

 

I lived a life I hated for so long, a life filled with fear, filled with trying to be someone I was not.

I vowed when I closed the door on that old life that I was going to live in the moment for me, I was going to “be” me and I was going to live life large!

 

Now I stop while I am in the moment to savor the feelings of joy, to really enjoy the love and to remember how truly blessed I am. It is then, when you step back with a heart of full of gratitude, that you know you are living in the moment.

 

These last few months I have had so much company and so much help from my friends and family with my new home that I have been overwhelmed with emotions. This all is so different from my old life, this takes gratitude to a whole new level, as I could never repay them back for all their kindness.

 

So I live in the moment, truly being present, enjoying the time we spend together, not looking into the future, not thinking about the what if’s, just enjoying the now.

 

So today my friends, stop analyzing things, stop worring about tomorrow and live in the now…live in the moment…live life large.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Dont try to change people

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Don’t try to change people

 

I am always on here saying don’t try to change people, to except them for who they are. I look for the good in people, I look at their hearts to see what kind of people they really are, we all have faults, we are human after all.

 

I know better than anyone what it is like to try to be someone else to please another person. You lose yourself, you give pieces of yourself away until there is none left, then you wake up one day not knowing who you are and wondering what happened.

 

I realized recently that I also wouldn’t want a person to change for me, that if that is who they are, they should continue to be who they are, I would never want someone else to go through what I went through, to feel what I felt.

 

If your with someone who wants to change, that’s wonderful but how do you know if they really want to or they are doing it for you? How do you know that later on they realize they didn’t want to do it, that they just wanted to make you happy yet now they are miserable because they are not their authentic selves?

 

So when I am out here in the dating world, I have to figure this out… can I accept this person? His flaws, his background,his little quirks? Or do they bother me too much and I have to walk away.

 

I don’t have all the answers, we each walk our own journey and must be true to ourselves. I know I have to be me, always, take me or leave me, that’s okay but I am not changing.

 

Not to say I won’t learn things along the way or see things from a different point of view and then make a decision, on my own to change. But to try to get someone to love me or like me, to be something I am not, no, that is one lesson I learned and I don’t need a repeat performance thank you! Just like letting someone change to please me…not happening either.

 

So today my friends remember be true to you, be your authentic self, never change for someone else, change because you want to be a better person and as I always say be the change “you” want to see.

 

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Waiting on baited breath part 2

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Waiting with baited breath Part 2

 

Yesterday I wrote about giving my finished book to the man I wrote most of it about and waiting to see if he would still talk to me.

 

No, seriously I wrote about him from a place of love but it was also from a place of truth, my truth and that is really scary sometimes. We all know sometimes the truth hurts and it was definitely not my intention to hurt him.

 

But I needed to speak my truth,to be brutally honest about my while life, like it or not, here it is. Well, I heard from him yesterday and he was almost done with it. Okay that’s a good sign, at least it kept his intrest!

 

But he said it hurt him to read it, when I asked why,  he said one reason was that he didn’t realize how much pain I went through in my life and that made him sad and the other reason  was because looking back there was many things we could have both changed, but we were young and stupid and definitely hard headed.

 

Yes, life could have took us on a totally different path…but you play the cards you are dealt and you make the best of them. Hopefully you learn the lessons you are supposed to, to grow and move on.

 

He told me he was proud of me for being such a great writer and that I had enough courage to put my whole life out there for others to read and to judge. I finally let out a breath of relief… it was okay, it was better than okay, he liked it, he really liked it!

(okay that was a little like Sally Fields Oscars speech, so sue me! I am excited as she was! )

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If you read my blog you know I don’t care what anyone says about me the only opinion I worry about is God’s but I am human and we all have some people in our lives that we care what they think. I knew my kids and my friends knew my truth, but I didn’t know if my truth would hurt him and yes, I cared about his reaction.

 

So now I can move on to the next journey God has in store for me, knowing that it is okay, that I finally spoke my truth, I learned my lessons and I am free to let it all go….

 

So today my friends, I tell you again…speak your truth, set yourself free, it’s amazing the feeling you get when all of your secrets are out, when you have nothing to hide or nothing to be ashamed of! Here you are, shiny and new again, starting over with a wealth of knowledge and joy and peace in your heart… it’s amazing!

 

Trust me, finally let out your baited breath, it’s going to be okay, it’s going to me more than okay!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Waiting on baited breath part 1

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Waiting with baited breath Part 1

 

It’s been along time coming, the published version of my book. It took a year of my life, of my sweat and definitely a lot of my tears to write about my life. To expose my deepest, darkest secrets, to put out my fears, my weakness, my failures and my love on paper for the while world to see.

 

And while I am scared to see what the world has to say about it, what scared me most was what the man I wrote the book about would say.

 

And so when we reconnect this weekend and I gave him my first published, autographed copy, I  waited with baited breath for him to read it.

I waited for his reaction as most of the book has to do with him, he has been in my life for as long as I can remember and it was him who got me to remember who I was when I had lost my soul and my way.

 

What he thought about what I wrote, about our lives is dearly important to me. I wrote my truth, I was brutally honest but I know sometimes the truth hurts and hurting him is the last thing I would ever want to do.

 

Yet my story needed to be told, to help others out there in that dark place, people without hope, thinking they are alone, this is for them to let them know I’ve been there, I done it, and facing the fear and moving on is the best thing that could have ever happened to me. So no matter what, I had to fulfill God’s purpose for me,this was the testimony, I received from the test I went through.

 

All of the hurt and pain, all of the tears, every night when I cried in the bathtub, trying to drown my sorrows with alcohol and pills, crying myself to sleep, praying to a god I didn’t believe in, to take my life. All of the loss I had had, all of my loved ones that I have lost, all of this was for a reason, all of this was a lesson I had to learn to be in this place of peace and joy I am in now. I now know all of this was “The Blessing in Disguise ”

 

So today my friends, I wait with baited breath to see what one of the most important people in my life will say about my book. I only hope that him and the others I wrote about will know I wrote from a place of truth, my truth… and all of you should live your truth, each and every day because the truth will set you free!

**stay tuned to part 2 tomorrow **

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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