Forgiveness is first for you

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Forgiveness is first for you..

 

Recently I was speaking to a friend of mine about forgiveness and even though he is Christian, it was still a hard concept for him. He was dealing with some family problems and was hurt, he couldn’t seem to know how to go about letting go and forgiving.

 

So I decided to tell him my story and how I forgave my rapist.

The look on his face was priceless, he sat there with his mouth open and finally asked how? How could I forgive something like that? Wasn’t that an unforgivable act?

 

I sat there for a second and thought about his words, yes, it was unforgettably but not unforgivable. See I forgave this man, but it wasn’t for him, it was for me.

 

Forgiveness is first for you, the forgive is to release you from something that will eat you alive, that will distroy your joy and your ability to love fully.

 

I asked him “Do you think this man cares about the pain and torment I have gone through? If anything he feeds on it and I wanted to cut that off and in doing so release him from a burden he carries whether he knows it or not and a burden I was carrying, one that was eating me up inside”

 

When you choose to forgive another you love him as well, that what’s we were made to do love one another.

Nature finds more power in love and forgiveness than hate…

 

But here’s the thing, don’t twist this around,

forgiveness no way requires you to trust the one you forgive, no you don’t have to be friends, invite him to dinner or even speak to him again. Forgiveness is about setting you both free, letting go of the hurt, the pain, the anger and the hatred you feel.

 

He was still sitting there not really grasping it so I told him the story of the day it changed for me.

 

It was a beautiful day I was driving my new Mustang, the t tops were off, the sun shining, music blasting.

I was in a great mood,  singing to myself and smiling when all of sudden I saw him walking out of a store with someone, they were laughing and having a ball and in that one instant my whole demeanor changed, my body tensed up, I went from happiness to hatred in 1.1 second. My pressure went up, my great day went up in smoke..all I felt was anger, I wanted to jump the curb and run him over! I wanted to slap the smile off his stupid face!

 

How could he be happy? Look at what he did to me, he should be suffering like me! yuggg I screamed at him in my car…I had lost all control and it was in that moment that I realized he didn’t care, he was getting on with his life, this hatred was only effecting me,

that forgiving him was for me, I didnt want to feel this bitterness, it was eating me up, I needed to let it go for me not him.

 

It was that day I forgave him, I released all of the pain and I forgave…my whole life changed after that. Will I ever forget? No never but it no longer owns me, I am no longer the victim, I am surviver and I am free, to live, to be happy, to get on with my life.

 

Slowly the light bulb went off in him, he said “That’s amazing if you could forgive the man who raped you, then I can forgive my family for our differences, thank you..”

 

So today my friends, I am hear to tell you, it’s amazing what forgiveness will do for you, “YOU”

what it can do for you, if you only let it.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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God wants you to be wealthy

Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

God wants you to be wealthy

 

Yes, God wants you to be wealthy, all through the Bible, it tells us this, somehow we have even twisted this too. We think we must suffer to be a “good” Christian, we cannot have alot to show our true faith. But God wants us to prosper, to have, so that we can help others, be a blessing, to show others what our God can do and has done for us.

 

But it starts with us having  a dream…

The reason many people don’t go after their dreams in their life is because first of all they don’t know what they want.

They have been hurt, things didnt work out like they thought, so they think that’s it, they are not going to dream anymore.They think their dreams are impossible

 

Here’s my advice, stop living in reality, your dream has no past!

We play it safe with our dreams, if we can’t see how it is going to work out, if we can’t picture the “big picture” we give up. We let our dreams go because they seem so impossible.

 

If you can serve in your pit days you can rule in your palace days!

 

I love this quote, Joseph was sold by his brothers, he was a slave, he was imprisoned yet he still believed there was more, he held on to his dream, his faith and then he ruled…

 

He held on, he never let go even when it was darkest, even in the hardest times…and his dream came true…the impossible dream.

 

Throw your heart over the bar and your body will follow… I remember thinking I can’t do a triathlon, even a wuzzy one..but they I changed my thoughts and started saying I can do this.. and so  towards the end of the race, running with a stung ass by a huge jelly fish, a broken toe, wrapped up and a torrential downpour when my body was dying, and screaming stop… my mind keep saying you will not quit, you got this, you can do it… and I did!

 

When you don’t think you can go on, subit to another voice, God’s voice..listen to him…

Get over your past, let go of fear and stress.

Let go of your past.

 

You have no plan?….You have to learn to dream…

 

But to invest in your dream, it comes down to your attitude.

Let go of what’s in your hand to experience what’s in your heart.

 

Wealth belongs to these who are willing to learn, to change, to dream, to solve problems, that is their right to have it, it is the blessing of the Lord.

God said “It is your coventry right, It is all possible with faith in me”

 

So today my friends remember you need a dream from your heart to be a harvest in your hand

God had a plan for you..believe in the impossible.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Tips for the online dater

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Tips for the online dater

 

Since being single I have tried online dating and let me tell you it is a trip!

 

Last week someone wanted to meet me, he wanted me to come to his place (Hello, are you nuts?) And when I said no, he didn’t want to put anymore effort into it  because he was “famous” than standing on his patio and waving to me? Wtf?

 

Then when I obviously didn’t show up he had the nerve to call me an idiot. Hello? I’m the idiot?

 

I had another guy on the first email tell me how beautiful I was and oh btw my junk is 13 inches…. again Wtf?

My reply… but your brain is pea sized because obviously you can’t read, I am not looking to hook up. Really???

 

but no matter what, to find your prince, you first must kiss a lot of frogs…so to speak and believe me I have.

 

In today’s world online dating is truly a scary thing to do after not dating for 24 years.

 

But I continue to do it as I am not going to find Mr Perfect for me knocking at my door. (Well my new neighbor is cute and single…) okay generally not knocking on my door.

 

So I have some tips for all of the guys out there that are also new to this dating scene, very important tips from a women’s point of view.

 

1. Put up a picture

In my experience guys without pictures in this day and age are married period!

 

2. Put up more than one picture and a full body picture

Yes, you can look really good in one picture, the right angle, the right light but in others you look like a completely different person. Body shots, sorry everyone has a type I like in shape guys, you don’t have to be Mr. Universe but you have to be able to see your toes. I am active, I want a active guy.

 

3. I don’t need to see pictures of what you looked liked 30 years ago, yes, you were a football star in high school, your not anymore, we all looked better then, let it go.

 

4. I don’t want to see pictures of your animals, if you happen to have a great picture of yourself holding your dog, fine but ten pictures of your dog, not so much, I am not dating your dog.

 

5. I am not interested in what you have.

No need to put up pictures of your motorcycle, boat, big house or fancy car, not impressed been there done that, money definitely does not make a man. (And then you have the nerve to call us gold diggers!)

 

6. Don’t lie about what you like and don’t like.

We eventually will meet and talk and you can’t keep up lies and why would you want to? Be you..

 

7. Catfishing…what is with that? Why pretend to be someone your not, for what reason? Get a life and stop messing with others.

 

8. Don’t say you want a relationship when all through your profile your talking about clubbing and sex, be real if your just looking to hook up, say it!

 

9. Be specific in what you want, do you want kids, what’s your deal breakers,smoking ect.. skinny, chunky, tall, short, so we know what your looking for and not waste time.

 

10. Say something about yourself, likes, hobbies, what your looking for. Men with a blank profile to me are blank men, boring…I know it’s not easy talking about yourself, ask a friend to help you, while your at it ask them to take pictures of you too!

 

Maybe my men readers will give me some tips on how we women can make our profiles better. I am always open to change…

 

On a good note I did have a date last night…he looked like his pictures, he was a gentleman, he was funny and sweet and we’ll see where it will go….I will let you know…

 

So today my friends, it’s a new world out there, we must adapt to changing times and to do so we must change as well.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Even the treadmill queen gets lazy

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Yes, even the treadmill queen gets lazy

 

If you read my blog you know that I write it on the treadmill, yes while I am walking, pretty fast I might add, 5 days a week, hence the name Treadmill Treats.

 

I love the gym and have been coming since before it was popular, before women actually went to the gym, when it was truly a man’s domain.

 

I remember in high school me and Clara Snowden (she was a big black girl who sucked her thumb, yes even in high school, not that anyone ever had the guts to call her out about it! God, I miss her) We would go to the gym together in high school.

 

What a funny site me, little skinny white girl and big Clara lifting weights, with all the jocks. Even back then I had a passion for fitness.

 

So after blah, blah..years (fill in the blanks) of coming to the gym, 5 days a week, 52 weeks a year sometimes I would like to sleep late, I would like to be able not to heard that  alarm at 5 am!

Yes, some days I get lazy and don’t want to come.

 

But here’s the things that keep me motivated…

 

1. I like to eat… ok I didn’t say I am honest?…..for the most part I eat healthy but when I want that cheesecake, I am eating it!

 

2. I have heart disease on both sides of my family,  my dad died at 45 and all of his siblings died young of heart disease. I even have cousins with heart problems, I am not going out that way!

 

3. The energy it gives me is unbelievable, after a workout I feel ready to face the world, I am awake and feel incredible through out the day.

 

4. I don’t look so bad in clothes..oh come on…we all want to look good especially at 50!  Yes, I like to know I can still fit into my jeans from 25 years ago! I still have them and recently posted a picture in them! That is an accomplishment!

 

5. It clears my head and my soul, when I ride my bike and look at the ocean, when I swim and only hear my own breathing, when I am running and I have my music on, it takes me away…I am somewhere else, in touch with nature, my soul, I am in a zone..I think of nothing but being grateful I am able to do this and giving thanks.

 

6. I write this blog while here and I know I am blessed with many people who read it and they are expecting me to write it every day. Writing it while in bed defeats the whole Treadmill Treats theme.

 

Yes, there are some days I would like to throw the alarm clock when it goes off at 5 am but I can’t go back to sleep and not feel guilty, so even on lazy days I drag my ass out of bed and come.

 

So today my friends, I am here to tell you that you too can do this, if you choose to…ahh….there’s that word again, choose…you choose to be lazy or you choose to drag your lazy ass out of bed….the choice is yours.

Write down what you want to do it for, what are your reasons? And then choose to change your life!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Dont ask for it to easier, ask for the strength to deal with it.

Treadmill Treats Monday morning message

 

Don’t ask for things to be easier, ask for the strength to deal with it.

 

I know from personal experience that life can be brutal sometimes, that you can hit rock bottom and it feels like the sun will never come out.

In my darkest hours, when I was lost, alone and broken, I prayed and cried out for help. I had nothing else to hold on to, I needed help, I didn’t think I could survive one more day, I needed my situation to change. I cried out, why can’t my life be easier?

 

What I’ve realized since then is that I can’t ask for it to be easier, I need to ask for strength because there will always be something in life that I will be going through. These things are here for a reason, to teach me a lesson, as much as I don’t want to be going through it, as painful as it may be, I need this lesson and for me I am so hard headed so I need them a few times!

 

So why was I praying for it to easier? Because we all want our lives to be easier, wouldn’t that be nce? Yes, of course it would but what would that teach you? I believe everything in life teaches you a lesson.

 

So what would being easy teach you? To be soft, to not learn a lesson, to not be able to handle a life crisis…

 

Look, I am not saying I could get through all that life keeps throwing at me without God because I know I cannot. What I ask from him now is strength, his strength to know that no matter what I am going through, with him it will be okay, I will get through it and I will be able to learn my lesson and know that this too shall pass.

 

I learned I am a surviver, that even when I slip and fall, he is there for me, to believe even when I can’t see it, even in the darkest hours, I have strength, his strength to keep going.

 

So today my friends, don’t ask for life to be easy, it is in the trails and turbulence in life, that you learn how much strength you truly have, no, today ask for the strength to deal with whatever life had to throw at you.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Going home

Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

Going home…

 

I always write about being blessed with an incredible amount of family and friends and I never take that for granted.

So when I go home, it still amazes me that I am in contact with so many of them and that it feels like it was yesterday that we hung out.

 

Even though I’ve lived in Florida for the last 26 years this is and will always be home for me and these childhood friends will always hold my heart.

 

There is nothing like seeing an old childhood friend that knows you since grade school, they remember you in pig tails, with braces, before, during and after all the boyfriends, they were there for you in laugher and through the tears. They know who you truly are and still like you in spite of that.

 

There is a bond you share that is deep, you know the same people, the same places, share the same memories, it is a connection that can never be broken.

This trip I was blessed with being able to spend time with a friend that I haven’t seen in 26 years since I left home, you would think that it might be weird after all these years but I have to tell you it was nothing less than amazing!

 

He was one of my best guy friends, we hung out in his dad’s bungalow colony  (for those of you who don’t know what a bungalow colony is, it is a group of cottages on a large piece of property that included  a pool, tennis courts, a main building with food, games, movie nights, dancing,  there you go, think of dirty dancing and that is the definition of bungalow colony )

 

We partied at the down under, (our version of a night club) I went to work with him at Kutchers Hotel, to watch the shows while he did the lighting there. There were many late nights of him pushing my ass up his parents steps telling me to be quite because I was too drunk to drive home. There were too many laughs to remember with him and his family and I have truly missed him.

 

And here I was 26 years later at a Def Leppard concert just like we had done in the past…and it felt the same…I had such a great time with him. I got to hang out with his sister and my high school sweethearts little sister, I had my 3 best friends, one that flew in from philly, one that flew in from Georgia and my NY bestie that still lives in my hometown. Yes, this was a flash back moment at its finest!

 

I ran into so many people I grew up with, it was truly a magical night sitting under the stars in the same place the Woodstock concert took place 40 something years ago…with all of my childhood friends singing all of the songs from our youth,really just amazing!

 

So today my friends, remember your childhood friends, reconnect, relive your past if only for a moment…be present in each and every new memory you are making…because there is nothing like going home.

 

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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You never know

Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

You never know. ..

 

You never know what is going to happen in life, what the next day will bring. Things can change in a heartbeat, you can be in a bad situation now but the following day you can get a phone call with the perfect job, the perfect opportunity and your world can change.

 

You can be at the top of the world and then find out you’ve just lost a loved one and your world can crumble. Everything you know and love has changed.

You can be in a bad marriage and then find the courage to leave, to find that you can make it on your own, when you never thought you could and find a peace and joy you never knew possible.

 

You can be lonely and sad, thinking you will never find the right one and then find the love of your life right under your nose.

This is why I tell you to never give up, to hold on to that faith, even if it is as tiny as a mustard seed.

 

I tell the story of how I was going to take my own life, I had hit rock bottom and couldn’t see a way out. I had no more hope, I was lost and broken. Just as I was going to take the pills I heard my Facebook ding, it was late, who was it? And what did they want? It turn out to be my guardian angel, an old friend who I just reconnected with, that said here’s my number if you ever need to talk, day or night call me.

 

I don’t know what made me pick up that phone and call (okay, I know, devine intervention) and he literally saved my life. I hung up, got on my knees and prayed for God’s help and the following week my girlfriend invited me to her church, I heard my Bishop speak and it was if God spoke though him right to me and it changed my whole life.

 

See one day…

 

So today my friends, remember you were born in one day, you will die in one day, you can change in one day, you can fall in love in one…one day can change your life forever..

Never give up hope…have faith…know tomorrow will be a brighter day, it’s just one day away.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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I’d rather eat crumbs with bums than steak with snakes

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I’d rather eat crumbs with bums, then steak with snakes

 

I’d rather eat crumbs with bums then steak with snakes. When I read that yesterday on Facebook and I thought that is so true. When I was leaving my ex husband that is what I kept thinking and this quote was even more meaningful to me because if you didn’t know my ex bred snakes, yup I can’t make this up people.

 

Yes, for years we bred snakes, monkeys, sugar gliders, parrots, lizards, ferrets, you name it we bred it and sold them. For years when I had no voice (I had gave my power way years before to him) so my “job” was to clean all the cages and feed all these animals, at one point we had over 300 animals.

 

It was a dirty, nasty job and not one I ever inspired to, nope I’m more of a cat (a, not plural) person, a dog person, not 2,4 ,6,8 ONE dog, yet here I was free labor for this literally crappy job.

 

We made big money from this, nice house fancy car (he drove, not me) lots of 5 star vacations, lots of toys, four wheelers, boats, jet ski, motorcycles, oh yeah we had it all and yes, I liked that lifestyle until it was eating my soul alive.

 

I was selling my soul for “this fancy lifestyle” but I was dying inside, I was degraded, put down, belittled, called every name you could imagine Yes, there was a huge price tag for my luxury life.

 

Then one day, I had enough, all the money in the world wasn’t enough to keep me there, my girls were older and had a say in where they wanted to go, I was no longer petrified of his threats of taking my girls and me never seeing them again. No, God gave me strength to know that even if I had to “eat crumbs with bums” I would be happy, I would be free.

So I walked away and yes it was hard, no I didn’t get alimony, I got hardly anything but I got something no money can buy…. peace and joy in my life.

 

Every day I give thanks for my wonderful life I now have. So let me tell you how much better peanut butter tastes than lobster…. Priceless!!

 

So today, be real, are you selling your soul for that Gucci purse? Are you eating steaks with snakes? How much is your soul worth? Your answer should be “Sorry not for sale, excuse me I have resovations with my friends on the corner of I am I am free lane and I am at peace Blvd.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Dont rain on my parade

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Don’t rain on My Parade

 

I don’t understand people some times, how they can be so negative, so closed minded. I always see the glass half half, I always believe anything is possible.

Yet there are so many people who are ready to rain on your parade, tell you “What are you kidding? That will never happen”

They are the first to point out all the reasons why it can’t happen, why it is impossible, how many times you fell on your face before, so why would this time be any different.

 

So many of us take that negative voice and keep replaying it over and over until it becomes our theme song, we start believing it and we never even try…

 

“Why bother…even my mother, father, friend, husband insert negative person here____ said I can’t do this.” So we give up on our dreams, we stop believing in miracles.

 

Yes, I know all about this, my ex said I couldn’t make it without him, my own mom said I couldn’t make it, my friends thought I was crazy to get divorced and just start a new business with no clients. No one believed I could work 3 jobs, take care of 2 girls and write a book. They said I was nuts quitting one job a week after closing on my house, they said it was impossible to gutt and remodel a whole house in 30 days with a minimum  budget.

 

Ha! Guess what? I didn’t listen and you know what? I did all of those things! I left them all standing there with their mouths open in disbelief. Oh yeah, Try me…I stopped listening to all the nah sayers and started listening to the tiny voice inside of me that said you can do this, you got this…

 

I read books, I did research, I made vision boards, I cut out all the negative people out of my life and replaced them with positive ones, I ate, slept and dreamt about all I wanted, I worked hard, I never complained, it was already done in my mind. And it was, poof! Just like that, it was done.

 

Just like I say over and over I am going to become a New York Times bestselling author, I am going to be on Oprahs super soul Sunday, that Tyler Perry is going to produce my movie, I constantly put this out in the universe. I know these things are going to happen, just as sure as I know I am breathing.

 

Yes, it’s a big dream, how’s it going to happen? I don’t know, my God can open doors, perform miracles, I don’t worry about how I am getting there, just know I will be getting there.

 

And no one will be raining on my parade, no one will tell me that dream is too big, that can’t happen because I refuse to listen.

The track that replays in my head is… never give up, keep dreaming, anything is possible, don’t stop believing!

 

So today my friends,  remember don’t listen to the haters, don’t put your dreams on a shelf because someone says they are impossible. Start a new track in your head and start singing “Don’t rain on my parade!”

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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I deserve…

Hump day Treadmill Treats

 

I deserve…

 

I have come along way in my life, yes, hopefully you don’t get to this age without learning some valuable lessons along the way.

 

I have pulled myself out of the deepest darkest hole, I have hit rock bottom not once but twice, I hated myself and my life.

 

I felt I wasn’t worthy and I let people treat me that way, use me, take advantage of my kindness and my weaknesses.

 

But here’s the thing about hitting rock bottom there is no where to go but up, yes, it can’t get any worse so it has to get better, you hated yourself why not try to start loving yourself. You have nothing to lose…you already lost it all.

 

The biggest lesson I’ve learned is that I am worthy, that I deserve…I deserve to be happy, I deserve to have peace and joy in my life.

I deserve to have someone treat me like the Queen I am, someone who will move heaven and earth to be with me, that will be there always, that won’t come with excuses or I’m sorry’s, that will show me that yes, they think I am worthy and want to prove it to me over and over again.

 

See here’s another thing I’ve learned… I am a great women, I will love you until time stands still, I will be your biggest cheerleader, I will have your back, you never even have to look to know I am there. I will pamper you, send you cards and notes, romantic nights, cook you homemade dinners, I will boost you up, I will carry you when you can’t walk.

I will be your best friend, your lover and your soul mate.

 

Yes, I will treat you like a king but I will no longer except half of a man, half in, half out, drama, selfishness, someone taking more than they are giving, I will not put up with lying, cheating, drinking, it’s all about me men, or men who are not willing to step up.

 

See, because now I know who I am, I know who’s I am, the child of the most high God. I know I am a survivor, I know I have an incredible future.

I know I love myself now, I know I am worthy and if you can’t see that, then keep on walking because this gift is not for you, no this gift is for someone special that knows it’s  value and will be willing to do anything to get it and keep it.

 

So today my friends, know your value, know your worth. Keep searching, don’t settle for anything less because you deserve better, you deserve the best…because you are the most precious gift and only someone who is worthy of that incredible gift and can prove it, is the one who deserves it.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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