Why I do what I do…

Thursday Treadmill Treats


Why I do what I do. ..


Someone said to me yesterday “Why do you put your whole life out there for everyone to see? You got stood up the other day why would you tell anyone that?”


There is only one reason why I write this blog besides that it is my purpose and I have to, it is to help others, to try to inspire others, to let them know they are not alone, that even when you think it’s so bad and there no where to go because you’ve hit rock bottom, to keep the faith, to know that I too have been in that dark place, that I fall on my face time and time again yet I keep getting back up, that if I can do it, you can also do it.


Believe me there are things I don’t want to tell the world like when I was lied to and cheated on, when my daughter was getting into trouble, the pain I felt in my heart through out the years but I want someone out there who reads this to know, it happens, it’s life, we all go through these things, it’s how you deal with them that matters.


My cousin said to me “You don’t realize how many people you touch ” I only hope to be able to touch one person, if I can do this then it is worth it.

We all put on airs for others, we wear a mask and others never see all that goes on in your life, behind closed doors. No, we show only what we want the world to see, we are ashamed, we don’t want others to judge us, we hold on with all we have to pretend.


I live a truly honest life, I fall on my face,  I write about it, I laugh at myself, I get back up, it’s not like I am the only one.

I pretended for so many years, to be the perfect wife, the perfect family yet behind closed doors I cried every day, I laid in my bathtub every night drinking myself into oblivious to try to forget my pain. When I started to tell the truth, when I stopped lying and pretending, it was then I was set free.


I am free….I am happy. ..I am human. I am not ashamed, I could care less what people  say or don’t say about me, I know who’s I am…the child of the most high God, his is the only opinion I care about.


So, yes I will go on putting out there, all of it, the good, the bad, and the really ugly in order to try to inspire someone else to keep going, to never give up, to keep believing in miracles because yes, I am Tinker bell as someone asked me the other day, yes, I believe all things are possible, yes, I always see the glass half full and yes, Virginia there is a Santa Claus. ..I will  never change my child like qualities because I know first hand that anything is possible if you believe .


So today my friends, take off the masks, stop pretending, set yourself free, it is a amazing feeling. .. and I will be right here cheering you on!!





What is true love?

Wednesday  Treadmill Treats repeat… as I am boarding a plane home I give you this repeat…hope you enjoy it again


What is true love?


We’ve all hear the old saying…

Love is patient, love is kind …

But do you really have a pure heart when your in love with someone? Will you sacrifice your own happiness for theirs? Do you truly want them happy?


I recently was speaking to my high school sweethearts sister and  I said I would want her brother to be happy even if that meant it was with someone else, even at the expense of my own happiness, I would want to see him happy because he is a good man and he deserves it.


She said to me..”That is the essence of true love…that is the purest of love…the love you have for my brother is what true love should always be…unconditional, with an open heart, and always giving of yourself”


To a lot of people that is hard…have someone happy when your not? Sacrificing for another? We live in a “me” world, me first everyone else behind me…

Some people don’t even put their children first let alone their spouse or lovers. They can’t imagine putting someone’s needs above their own.


Love is giving it your all and not expecting anything in return, it’s loving someone so much, that you will literally do anything for them, their needs over yours, you think of their feelings first, you are even willing to bow out in pursuit of their happiness.


I never really thought of it that way before, I knew I will always love this man, that he would be in my life one way or another but did I have the capacity to love in the truest sense of the word…the love the word talks about and teaches you?


Yes, I do…I learned that no matter if we were together or not, I wanted him in my life, that I prayed for his happiness, that he would find love and peace in his life, with me or without me it didn’t matter, all that matter was his happiness.


I have learned to put my girls needs over mine since they were born, that is easy for a mother…but for another person without anything in return? That is much harder.


I have grown and learned so much these last 3 years and yes, I can love unconditionally, I learned to love people for who they are, in their souls, not looking at their faults because we all have them.


Yes and I have learned what true love actually means…to love someone else with a pure heart….


So today my friends, love with a pure heart, not for what someone can do for you, or what you can get out of it for yourself but just for the love itself, in its purest form..it is then you will know you have arrived in a place of joy.


“Be the change you want to see”


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