A blast from the past

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A blast from the past

Its amazing how life is, how all of a sudden your going along and something will totally blow you away.

This week was like that for me, all of a sudden three people from my past came out of now where and hit me up.
I am still shocked by it…
And I am still trying to wrap my brain around how 30 years go by and when you talk to them it’s like it was yesterday, you pick up right where you left off.

It’s has been a tough week for me after losing a dear friend suddenly, the same day I found this out, in my email was a letter from an old friend saying he could use a little of my postive attitude.
I was floored, I hadn’t heard from him in years, we exchanged numbers and he called me and I have to tell you, he was exactly like I remembered him, we laughed and caught up for hours.

Then two days later I get a Facebook message from one of my best friends I had growing up.
I had to read it twice as I thought I was seeing things, could this be possible? Two people who I was so close to and had lost touch with, contacting me in one week?

He was my best friend since I was 11 years old, he was my protector, my big brother. We were inseparably, you didn’t see me without him or him without me.
Even later on after we graduated I even lived with him and his fiancé in Florida for a while.

I have to tell you there’s nothing like talking to someone who knows you from when you were little. There is that bond you have, memories that you share that could never be replaced. That no one else gets it or could ever relate to you like that person.

Especially when you grow up in a small town and you all know everyone, that makes it even more special, that make the bond even tighter.

It’s amazing where life takes us, how each of us went down different paths in our journeys yet somehow reconnected like a big circle.

The following day someone  from my past Facebooked  me and asked if I remembered him… now sometimes your past needs to stay in your past for a reason.

Yes, this person was a person I will never forget but not for the same reasons as my last two friends I spoke to.

No, this was someone who made my life a living hell for months by staking me..do I remember him?…how could I ever forget and no 30 years didn’t dim that memory.

Funny thing how this life is like 8 degrees of separation. The first friend and his family came to my rescue when they found out it was him staking me…and now 30 years later they both contacted me in the same week…spooky…
definitely spooky to say the least.

Life has a way of throwing us curve balls, it will take someone out of you life and then put someone eles in it.
You never know what this crazy thing called life will do.
There is a saying… in just one day…you can get a new job, you can fall in love…your whole life can change in just one day… that has never been more true than this week for me.

So today my friends, you never know what can happen,  who you will reconnect with, who should stay in your past, who you will lose, who you will love…l tell you this all the time, life is too short enjoy every moment…live big, laugh often, love large!

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Can a person really change?

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Can a person really change?

 

My ex use to always say

“A leopard can’t change his spots” and yes, a Leopard may not be able to but we as humans can.

 

I have seen it over and over in my lifetime, these are the stories that give us hope and inspire us to go on!

 

Really? Do you want to be judged by what you’ve done thirty years ago? God I hope not as I was a mess years ago. I did drugs and alcohol, I lied, I pretended and put on a facade for the world to see.

 

Here’s the thing, have you not learned lessons?  Have you not grew and moved on?  Case in point are two good friends of mine that were crack heads, drugs booze, partying, you name it, they have done it and then they hit rock bottom bad.

 

One day they, yes, THEY decided that it was enough and so they took the steps to change.

 

Today they are both clean and sober for many years and help others who want to sober as well.

 

My one friend is an inspriation to me and many others, as not only has she been clean for years, she has the most postive attitude of any one I know!

 

She cleaned her body and she worked and changed her mind as well. Another incredible story is of the Miami heats big three (can’t remember which)

his mom was a druggie,

she sold her body, she was a lousy mom, she cheated and she lied for her drugs. Until one day she said its done and she changed her life, today she is a pastor of her own church! She helps people all over the world with her testimony.

 

Really, we can’t change? We can do anything we set out minds to!

 

You can come from a dirt poor family where no one can read and get into an Ivy league college, nothing is impossible!  You can be homeless with nothing to eat to running a million dollar company (Tyler Perry, Steve Harvey)

 

You can escape from Cuba on a raft with just the clothes on your back to owning your own company (plently of my friends have done this. I live in Miami, there are hundreds of stories like this)

 

Nothing, I mean nothing is impossible if you want it bad enough.

You can change your life, you can change what you don’t like about yourself, your attitude, your drug or alcohol use, the way you treat people anything.

 

So today my friends, remember yes, a leopard can’t change his spots but we can!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Why are you still single?

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Why are you still single?

 

The other day someone asked me this question like being single was a bad thing.

Like if your not a couple there must be something wrong with you.

 

I had to laugh, I look around at alot of my friends who are in “relationships” And thy are misrable, they cry all the time, they get treated like crap, they get no respect, they are definitely not happy but what? Their in

relationships so it’s all good?

 

Please! Give me a break, I am not desperate, I am not going to put up with all of that just to say I have a man. I don’t need a man. Would I like to have a relationship? Yes, but I don’t need one so bad that I am willing to take any one, even a crappie one.

 

No, honey I’ve been there, done that… I am okay with myself, I actually like myself and my own company I don’t need a man to “complete” me, I am already complete, thank you very much.

 

Now don’t take this as I am a man hater or a bitch. I am neither but I refuse to settle just to say I have someone, I refuse to be unhappy one day, life is way to short.

 

Do I know a relationship is hard work? You say, it’s not always  hearts and roses. Please I am a New Yorker,

I don’t wear rose colored glasses, I get that but I will not put up with a lying, cheating, disrespectful man like so many of my friends do just because I am afraid of being alone.

 

I am willing to work hard at a relationship, I am willing to give 100 %, put my heart and soul in one but that will only happen if the other person is willing to do the same. I am not going to put all of me and get just the crappie part of him just to “have a man”

 

I am only asking for what I am willing to give….loyalty, respect, honesty, caring, tenderness, a willingness to give it your all.

 

Look that’s like saying your going to your job every day, you work your ass off every day, work long hours, put your all into it and at the end of the week you get no paycheck. What? Really?  No, you’d be gone right? Oh hell, you would be gone in a heart beat.

 

Yet you do the same in a relationship year after year and you still stay, why?  Your putting in your all, getting no paycheck week after week yet your still there because a man, is better than no man mentality?

 

I refuse to buy into that and for that reason, I am single and will stay single until I meet a man that is willing to work as hard as I am at it.

 

So today my friends, remember you don’t need a man, or women for that matter. It may be nice to want one but you have all you need in inside of yourself and if you feel you don’t maybe you need to take sometime off from dating and find it, find that you can be happy by yourself, that you are complete just the way you. Maybe then you will be okay with being single.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

” And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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The passing of a friend

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The passing of a friend

 

It is with a heavy heart that I write this blog today. I have lost a dear friend this weekend and I am still in shock.

 

God called home my dear friend Joseph Gilmore aka Joey Rodriguez as we knew him back in the day.

 

He was younger than me and was healthy, he had overcome so many obstacles in the last few years, so this comes as such a shock to all of us.

 

He was rebuilding his life and was happy with the direction it was taking him to and just like that… he is gone…

 

I remember the first day I met him, he was new to our school and he was so cute, looking lost at where to sit for lunch in this new school.

 

I always had a soft spot for new kids even though I was in the same school since kindergarten.

I couldn’t imagine being the new kid and not knowing anyone, having to start over again. So I would invite all the new kids to our lunch table, I would introduced them to everyone and help them get the lay of the land.

 

My friends would laugh at me saying I was always taking in strays but I did it anyway and he was no different. He was shocked that I would be so friendly and immediately we formed a bond.

 

He was a regular at our lunch table and we became fast friends. I would watch him practice karate after school, he would walk me home and we would talk for hours. He was sweet and shy and had the biggest heart. He had a rough life and yet he was still so kind.

 

We dated for a bit and I didnt realize until he confessed recently that I had been his first kiss…but life got too bad for him at home and he left.

 

We lost touch for many years and through the years I often thought of him and what happened to him.

Facebook brought us together again when he reached out and found me. It was if all those years never existed, we called each other every week, giving each other encouragement and plenty of laughs.

 

He still had a heart of gold and proved that once again when he found out about my plight of having no air conditioning because I lent money to my best friend who I haven’t seen since.

 

Just last week I got a beautiful card with money in to help out towards my air.

When I opened it, I cried, even my closest friends had not offered anything to me, yet here was this man that I had lost touched with, reaching out with his big heart to help me.

 

That was who Joey was,

he took his mom shopping every week, he helped a friend out in need, he remember your kindness even if it was 30 years ago.

He had a big heart and a kind soul and I will so miss him.

 

I will miss his crazy songs he posted on my wall, his encouraging words, his laugh, our weekly talks and his way he looked at life even after all he had been through.

 

I think about so many of my friends and family that I have lost in my life and it overwhelms me. I wonder why God  would call home such wonderful people in the prime of their lives, but he has a plan…. I am just glad I got to have him in my life, even for a while.

 

Joey, I know your looking down with some of our best friends, Bobby and David Smythe and you will be keeping an eye out for me and for those you loved…Thank you for your friendship…I will miss you, my friend….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

” And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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You need to be grounded in your faith walk

Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

You need to be grounded in your faith walk.

 

If your not grounded in your faith walk, if your wavering, if you go back and forth in your belief, your not grounded.

 

Have you lost your joy? Have life’s circumstances knocked the joy out of your faith? Are you coming to church on auto pilot?

 

Don’t walk in faith by your  feelings, you may be down, there might be tough times, everything might be coming at you at once right now but you need to believe and stand strong in your faith.

 

The world will always criticize you, they will always point fingers at you. They will laugh at the fact that things happen to us…like being Christian protects us against bad times. Stand strong in your faith know you are different, that you are special, that you are a child of the most high God, hold on to that.

 

Here are 3 things to remember while walking your faith walk.

 

1. Remember your born again

 

2. Obey the word

 

3. Operate in agape love

 

The most important of these are love…there are more references to love than any other thing in the bible. Yet we cannot love unconditionally, we attach strings to our love, conditions, terms…we will love on “our” terms.

 

People will do things to you, they will hurt you, disappoint you, they will lie, cheat and steal against you but you must be grounded in your faith and be able to love them anyway.

 

Your thinking are you crazy? Do you know what they did? No…that’s not happening, love them after what they did to me? You must be crazy!

 

You want to strike back, get even, slap someone but you have to remind yourself your a child of God.

You must love one another no matter what, you must show love even to your enemies, even if it kills you…

 

See there are 2 kinds of people in this world, grass people and flower people

 

Flowers grow and then they fall off. You cannot attached it back on, they are done, once off, there is no reattaching them.

God will cut them off for a reason, leave it be…let them go, don’t try to reattach, it’s happened for a reason.

 

Grass people turn brown they are dormant but not dead…. they might not be in your life for a while, you might be astranged but they are always there, waiting to come back.

 

Here’s the thing, the seed of the word will always produce a harvest in your life…

 

You just have to remember to guard your heart from the bitterness of what people have done to you.

Guard your heart from people renting space in there, that are not going any where.

 

Not everyone is going to like you or approve of you.

Guard your heart from pride, from gossip, from bitterness.

Remember you are destined to live your lives goal. You are determined to be grounded in the word.

 

Your life is like a ship sometimes it’s calm and sometimes it’s rough.

 

But through it all stand firm and never let the issues of life shake your faith.

 

So today my friends, no matter what life throws at you, no matter how many times you are hurt, no matter what storm you may be going through now, remember to stand firm in your faith and love one another, God has the rest.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

” And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Unless you’ve been there

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Unless you’ve been there..

 

Every one of us has been through things in our lives, divorce, death of a loved one, or multiple loved ones, sickness, deceit, back stabbing by so called friends or family.

 

Some of us have been lied to chested on, been through drug and alcohol addiction, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, rape and even more incredibly traumatic events.

 

But how can I relate to you if I didn’t go through it? How can I be a comfort to you and give you advise if I don’t know your pain, if I personally didn’t know your struggle.

 

I can’t tell you I know how you feel, I can’t possibly know how you feel if I haven’t been there and that’s the fact. Yes, I can be sympathetic, I can be there and listen but I couldn’t imagine what your feeling unless I once felt that pain in my life.

 

As much as I would have liked to have a “perfect ” life without all my hardships and tragedies, if I did I wouldn’t be able to sit here and write this blog.

 

I wouldn’t be able to touch so many of you who write to me and tell me how my words helped them. I would just be giving lip service to something I knew nothing about and you would be able to see right through me.

 

I had to go through all I did so that I could help others, so that I can say I know how you feel at this moment but I am here to tell you that it will be okay, that you will get through it, that even though it seems like you’ve hit rock bottom, even when you can’t see any light, I’ve been there too.

 

I know it seems hopeless now but I survived and you can too, just hold on and know your not alone, you are not the only one suffering or has suffered.  It will get better, it can and will be incredible if you just hold on to the tiniest mustard seed of hope.

 

How would I know it will get better if it hasn’t already happened to me? How would I know how it feels to hold on and believe and visually a better life and then have it all come to pass if I didn’t do it myself.

 

I needed to go through all of this to be able to comfort others just as you need to go through your struggles so that you may help someone else out.

 

So today my friends, remember you needed to go through all you’ve been through for a reason, you may not be able to see it now, there may olny be blackness and storms, you may be barely able to breathe, but eventually the sun will come out again, there will be a rainbow after the storm and you will know your strength and be able to say…I’ve been there…let me help you…this is my story…this is my testimony.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

” And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Let it go. …

 Hump day Treadmill Treats 

 

Let it go…

 

I’ve learned a lot in the last two years since my divorce. There have been plenty of lessons I have learned. Some not so hard, some incredibly hard but I feel that I needed to learn them all in order for me to grow.

 

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned is to let it go… yes, I learned I can’t hold on to old hurts, disappointments, anger or hatred. I have other things to focus on and I need to free myself of all of that negativity in order to grow.

 

It was so clear to me yesterday when I went to a ring ceremony for my little one. She got her class ring and it was a thing her school put on. It was also the first time I would see her dad and his family all together after the divorce. 

 

I have already forgiven him for all he had done to me in our marriage and I owned and forgiven myself for my part. I have moved on to this amazing life I am living and hoped he had moved on as well.

 

Another lesson I learned yesterday not everyone is at your level. He never said a word to me, this was our daughters day and he never a knowledge me…really? I went over and said hello to everyone, I asked about their lives and I was genuine in the fact that I missed them. 

 

Look you can’t be part of a family for 24 years and not miss them. This had nothing to do with them,

I get that this is their blood but I didn’t now nor before have a issue with them.

 

Even though they all spoke to me, he didn’t…all I kept thinking of was that song…

“Let it go…let it go” 

Come on this was for our daughter, cant you get over yourself and let it go?

 

Wouldn’t it been nice that we all celebrated this day together? Why is it that I couldn’t have been invited to the celebration with them? Because he is still harboring anger and resentment for me for asking for the divorce and being happy? 

 

Really? I’ve let it go and God knows he did way more hurtful stuff to me, yet I found a way to get past it. These are our children, cant you a least make a effort for them?

 

I would do anything for my girls, even things I wouldn’t want to, I would still do for them. I don’t talk bad about their father, I always make sure they are involved in his family functions, I want them to have a relationship with all of them. This was our issue not theirs, they shouldn’t be made to pick sides.

 

But I have to learn not everyone is like me, not everyone can move on…not everyone can let it go even for the sake of your kids…

 

So today my friends I wish for you is to learn to “let it go” life is too short,don’t hold grudges, don’t hold on to hatred and even if someone is acting that way to you…walk away and let it go…

 

“Be the change you want to see”

  

” And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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You just never know. . .

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You just never know…

 

I was listening to the radio yesterday and there was a guy on who was a international blogger and you tube star. When they asked him how he got where he was, he said one day he was a nobody with a few hundred people following him and when he woke up the next morning he had 2 million hits! Just like that!

 

People laugh at me when I say that I have this sick faith, I know that my book will be a New York Times  bestselling author, I will be an international blogger and a speaker. They have no faith in things they cant see, they cant imagine that it can change in a second, like this guy.

 

Maybe he didn’t know it would happen to him…see I put it out there, I visualize it, I see it as if it already happened.

 

Here’s the thing, you need to know where your going, you need to believe it, see it, feel it, breathe it.

 

People let go of their dreams because it takes to long, it’s not happening, they think, I am too old, it could never happen to me.

 

It’s never too late…

I read something recently that Colonial Saunders was in his 70’s when he made Kentucky fried chicken.

 

Vera Wang, Samuel Jackson, Harrison Ford were in their forties. Henry Ford, even the founder of McDonald’s was in their late fifty’s before they became famous.

 

They never stopped believing, they knew they would make it and they held on to that, they lived their life knowing one day…

It will happen to me…

 

If you don’t have a dream your just living life on auto pilot…and if you do dream, it’s these small dreams..please…

 

If your going to dream, dream big!! Why waste your dreams on tiny stuff.

Go big or go home!

 

So today my friends, remember your life can change in a instant. Your dreams, that you think are impossible can turn into your realities.

Nothing is impossible if you believe!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

” And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Canceling out the blessings

Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

Cancelation out the blessings

 

Recently I wrote about  joyous people always feeling grateful and I am living proof of that. If there is one thing I’ve learned in the last few years, it is that I am grateful for everything in my life.

 

When I was in the lowest place in my life I was still grateful, I learned you had to be grateful for the smallest things even if the rest of your life was falling apart. It was a lifeline to me, to try to just be grateful for something each day.

 

I started with God waking me up each and every morning, if that was all I could be grateful for, it was a start. Then I added that I was grateful for a home even if in was living with my ex at the time, I wasn’t living in my car.

 

I was grateful for my girls, even though they closed me out and my heart was breaking. I was grateful for my food, a job, for our health. Yes, basic things, things we take for granted but I was lucky enough to have at least these things when so many others couldn’t say the same.

 

Was I still at the bottom? Yes. Was I still in that dark hole? Yes. Did I have the kind of life in wanted? Oh hell no! But I was grateful it wasn’t worst and it could have been.

 

I held on to a hope that it would get better, that tiny, tiny mustard seed hope, even when it looked like it was too far of a stretch to believe in this great life I wanted, when I was living and looking at it from rock bottom.

 

But here’s the thing your are canceling out your blessings when you say I am grateful for food, but I don’t have enough.

I am grateful for the kindest of others but I am a sorry sap and it’s never going to change.

 

I am grateful for these times but I know that it’s going to worst… you are canceling out your blessings by doing that, your not really grateful, your giving lip service to God and he knows just like everyone else. Either your grateful or your not period!

 

Don’t put a “but” on the end of your gratefulness, I am grateful period. I may have been hurt by so called friends yet I am grateful for the friends I do have left.

 

I may have hit rock bottom yet I knew I had to go up and am grateful for the lessons it taught me.

 

I may have lost my way yet I am grateful for having a forgiving God filled with grace and mercy.

 

Yes, I will never cancel out my blessings because I am grateful for all things in my life. I am even grateful for all the pain because there were lessons I needed to hear and learn in that pain in order to grow and help others along the way.

 

So today my friends, don’t cancel out your blessings by being half grateful, giving thanks with one hand yet saying it’s not enough in the other.

 

Be grateful for it all…and then and only then, all of God’s blessings will rain down on you.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

” And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

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Why are you so petty?

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Why are you so petty?

 

I always assumed that when you became an adult some things you did as a child would stop.

Things like name calling, back biting, “clicks” jealousy, and being petty.

 

But I realized it’s not about age but who you are or are not as a person.

Here we are at the half way point of our lives and some people are still acting like we are high school.

 

Why must you be so petty? Is it because your life didn’t turn out the way you expected it to? Are you trying to turn back the clock to a time when you were the “popular girls aka the mean girls” ?

Or is it that you can’t be genuinely happy for others successes?

 

I remember when my girlfriend got a promotion, I was as happy as if it happen to me.

I want, especially my women friends to succeed, I will never put them down, I only lift them up with praise. I don’t do cat fights or back stabbing, never have, never will.

 

I would never say things like “Wow, you use to be so much thinner or what happened to you, you look so different” like I have heard others say.

 

I know people have stories and not everyone is like me, an open book…maybe they had medical issues…maybe there has been devastating loss in their lives and that is what happened, yet your so quick to say something that would cut like a knife, why? Does putting someone else down, lift you up?

 

Why is it that they only call is to get gossip and not to see how you are?

Why is it that when they are not the center of attention, they cut you out of ” their group”

Why is it that they still talk behind your back and are happy for your pain?

Why do they expect others to jump on their band wagon of burn them to a stake because they have it out for you?

 

I’ve come to realize that its because these people are not your friends, these people have unresolved issues that are not yours and you must remember it’s their problem not yours, keep saying not my circus, not my monkeys.

 

I’ll never forget what my friend Patti C. wrote to me when I was hurting over Mr. Con Artist, that made so much sense and it goes perfectly now, she said.

 

“At 19 years old they are the mistakes of a boy, at 50 years old they are a reflection of the content of the man….”

Or women as the case may be…

 

So today my friends,  remember yes, you could have done some things when you were growing up, but we all have the ability to change…or not..maybe this was your content all along…

 

Can you look deep inside yourself to see what your reflection is saying about the content of who you are now? Think about that….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

” And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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