Unless you’ve been there

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Unless you’ve been there..

 

Every one of us has been through things in our lives, divorce, death of a loved one, or multiple loved ones, sickness, deceit, back stabbing by so called friends or family.

 

Some of us have been lied to chested on, been through drug and alcohol addiction, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, rape and even more incredibly traumatic events.

 

But how can I relate to you if I didn’t go through it? How can I be a comfort to you and give you advise if I don’t know your pain, if I personally didn’t know your struggle.

 

I can’t tell you I know how you feel, I can’t possibly know how you feel if I haven’t been there and that’s the fact. Yes, I can be sympathetic, I can be there and listen but I couldn’t imagine what your feeling unless I once felt that pain in my life.

 

As much as I would have liked to have a “perfect ” life without all my hardships and tragedies, if I did I wouldn’t be able to sit here and write this blog.

 

I wouldn’t be able to touch so many of you who write to me and tell me how my words helped them. I would just be giving lip service to something I knew nothing about and you would be able to see right through me.

 

I had to go through all I did so that I could help others, so that I can say I know how you feel at this moment but I am here to tell you that it will be okay, that you will get through it, that even though it seems like you’ve hit rock bottom, even when you can’t see any light, I’ve been there too.

 

I know it seems hopeless now but I survived and you can too, just hold on and know your not alone, you are not the only one suffering or has suffered.  It will get better, it can and will be incredible if you just hold on to the tiniest mustard seed of hope.

 

How would I know it will get better if it hasn’t already happened to me? How would I know how it feels to hold on and believe and visually a better life and then have it all come to pass if I didn’t do it myself.

 

I needed to go through all of this to be able to comfort others just as you need to go through your struggles so that you may help someone else out.

 

So today my friends, remember you needed to go through all you’ve been through for a reason, you may not be able to see it now, there may olny be blackness and storms, you may be barely able to breathe, but eventually the sun will come out again, there will be a rainbow after the storm and you will know your strength and be able to say…I’ve been there…let me help you…this is my story…this is my testimony.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

” And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Let it go. …

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Let it go…

 

I’ve learned a lot in the last two years since my divorce. There have been plenty of lessons I have learned. Some not so hard, some incredibly hard but I feel that I needed to learn them all in order for me to grow.

 

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned is to let it go… yes, I learned I can’t hold on to old hurts, disappointments, anger or hatred. I have other things to focus on and I need to free myself of all of that negativity in order to grow.

 

It was so clear to me yesterday when I went to a ring ceremony for my little one. She got her class ring and it was a thing her school put on. It was also the first time I would see her dad and his family all together after the divorce. 

 

I have already forgiven him for all he had done to me in our marriage and I owned and forgiven myself for my part. I have moved on to this amazing life I am living and hoped he had moved on as well.

 

Another lesson I learned yesterday not everyone is at your level. He never said a word to me, this was our daughters day and he never a knowledge me…really? I went over and said hello to everyone, I asked about their lives and I was genuine in the fact that I missed them. 

 

Look you can’t be part of a family for 24 years and not miss them. This had nothing to do with them,

I get that this is their blood but I didn’t now nor before have a issue with them.

 

Even though they all spoke to me, he didn’t…all I kept thinking of was that song…

“Let it go…let it go” 

Come on this was for our daughter, cant you get over yourself and let it go?

 

Wouldn’t it been nice that we all celebrated this day together? Why is it that I couldn’t have been invited to the celebration with them? Because he is still harboring anger and resentment for me for asking for the divorce and being happy? 

 

Really? I’ve let it go and God knows he did way more hurtful stuff to me, yet I found a way to get past it. These are our children, cant you a least make a effort for them?

 

I would do anything for my girls, even things I wouldn’t want to, I would still do for them. I don’t talk bad about their father, I always make sure they are involved in his family functions, I want them to have a relationship with all of them. This was our issue not theirs, they shouldn’t be made to pick sides.

 

But I have to learn not everyone is like me, not everyone can move on…not everyone can let it go even for the sake of your kids…

 

So today my friends I wish for you is to learn to “let it go” life is too short,don’t hold grudges, don’t hold on to hatred and even if someone is acting that way to you…walk away and let it go…

 

“Be the change you want to see”

  

” And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise 

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