The journey requires preparation

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The journey requires preparation

 

Bishop Fernandez spoke of a bible verse yesterday about the 10 virgins and  how 5 were ready for the bridegroom to come but 5 weren’t ready, they didn’t have enough oil, they weren’t prepared and they had to go back to find more oil, when they came back Jesus wouldn’t open the door to them, they had missed their God moment.

 

If you don’t have enough faith in you, if your not prepared, you won’t be able to make the journey.

 

You never know if this could be the day…are you ready?

Sometimes you think it might not be there…. Why should I be ready, I have time….but you must be ready when it does come.

 

We need to be ready, we need to know when to leave the door that God has shut for us, closed.

We need to know that we can do this, we need to have faith in our purpose even when we can’t see the big picture.

 

I know God gave me this gift of writing and touching people’s hearts. I am ready, I am focus,

I have not looked back in the past, I have left the doors closed that he has closed, I can see my big dream, I envisioned it over and over, I put it out there,

I speak it as it already is…how am, little old me going to get to NY Times bestselling author?

A international blogger?

A self published book author?

 

Come on be real, so many of you say, that will never happen…it’s not to me to worry about that…it’s on me to be ready, to be prepared when the day comes and to have faith knowing that it is coming.

 

When we are heading in the right direction, we will eventually get to our goal, we will get to the finish line. See to everything there is a season and there is a time for every matter or purpose that is in your life.

 

The most unfortunately accomplishment is to know your purpose but to arrive at the pivotal point in your life late and at a unnecessary cost.

 

Especially when it is because your not prepared, not ready or don’t believe in your gifts, you will miss your God given moment.

 

Where are you putting your resources?  What are you doing instead of being prepared? Are you lazy?

Do you not have faith? Are you just looking for blessings and not wanting to put the work in? Yet you keep blaming everyone else for your lack of preparation, it’s a family curse, it’s my skin color, because I am a women, because my parents weren’t there…because, because, because…insert your sob story here…we all got one.

 

No, own your life, own your actions, it is on you if your not prepared, it’s on you if you miss your God moment.

 

So today my friends, I am here to tell you, be ready, dream big, believe in the impossible, speak it into the atmosphere as if it already is, don’t miss you God moment because God is a miracle worker, you just got to be there and be ready when he works the miracle.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Smiling through the tears

 

I been through alot in my life like most of us but the one thing that I’ve done through it all was smile.

 

No matter how bad it got and believe me it has gotten pretty bad at times, I always found a way to smile and laugh. I know no matter what, it could have been another way, it could be worst.

 

So I always chose to look on the bright side and be grateful for the things I do have, the things I am blessed with.

 

And sometimes I know that  if I didn’t laugh I would cry… so I find even the littlest thing to smile about.

 

Recently and old friend and I reconnected and I have to tell you, we laugh so much together it makes my sides hurt. Even when I am telling him stories about my life, things most people would be sobbing over, I always flip it and put a funny spin on it.

 

I laugh about my disastrous love life or lack thereof, I laugh about my children and how they sometimes make me want to pull my hair out, I laugh even when I am going through a storm, even when I feel like crawling under the covers and I want the world to go away…instead I laugh.

 

One of my favorite songs is by Kirk Franklin, Smile, it goes like this….

See I smile even though I’m hurting see I smile, I know God is working so I smile. Even if I’ve been here for a while…I smile.

 

Today’s a new day but there is no sunshine nothing but clouds and it’s dark in my heart and it feels like a cold night . Today’s a new day but tell me where are my blue skies, where is the love and the joy you promised me, tell me it’s alright.

It’s hard to look up when your down, sure would hate to see you give up now…you look so much better when you smile…just smile…

 

I use to play that song over and over it was even my ring tone..we’ve all been there and felt like that yet we can still smile, we can laugh at ourselves, it will be alright.

 

So today my friends, smile, laugh, don’t take everything so serious, don’t take things to heart and turn your heart into stone, we all get hurt, we all have rough times, the only difference is how we look at it…I chose to smile…

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Being grateful to be free

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Being grateful to be free..

 

Yesterday I woke up and was on my way to a job with a client I love and on my drive I couldn’t help but think of my life as it is now.

 

I have a beautiful home I never thought I would have, I have 2 amazing girls who I am so proud of,

I have a business I started from the ground up, that has grown and went in all kinds of different directions I never thought it would, I have a small group of family and friends that I know have my back, no matter what. I do what I love every day writing this blog and interacting with the best clients ever, how amazing is that? How amazing is my life?

 

I started to cry… because I am so grateful for everything I have in my life but for most of all because I am free… for me these last two years being divorced have been the best thing that has ever happened to me.

 

I am thankful each and every day that I am no longer there, that I can come home to a home filled with peace and love. Where there is no fighting, put downs, name calling, where I don’t have worry about walking on eggshells, making sure I am saying the correct thing so not to set him off.

 

Yes, there is not a day that I don’t open my eyes and the first thing I say is thank you God.

 

It is hard? Doing this by myself, oh hell yeah!

But it’s worth all the 14 hour days I have to put in for my freedom. I love me…and I love my life, my girls see me happy, they know I love them unconditionally and that I am always here for them. They know I will never put a man before them again, they see what strength is, what hard work is, what a undying faith looks like and hopefully they will do the same later on for their own  children.

 

Yes, I am so very grateful,

I do not take this life I have now lightly nor do I take it for granted. I know first hand how short life is, how precious it is and I don’t intend to waste another minute of it.

 

I know how truly blessed I am and thanks is always on my tongue, my testimony is always out there to inspire and encourage other people, especially women who where or are in the same situation as I was.

 

I am a standing testament that you can be living your best life, you can change, you can be happy, truly happy even without “things” and lots of money.

 

That you can have faith even through the worst storms, even when you thought you got this, even when you thought this is your season, even when the rug gets pulled out from under you, over and over again. Even when you cry out didn’t I endure enough?

 

I am here to tell you to never give up, to stand tall, to raise your arms, to laugh in the rain, to pray through the storm, to know you got this…you got this…you got this!

 

So today my friends, step out in faith, be grateful, give thanks, never take a moment for granted. Make the change, you can never imagine the life that is waiting for you…if you just believe.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on tmy website:

 

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And on Amazon.com

 

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Spending time with my girls is priceless

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Time spent with my girls is priceless

Having teenagers is a hard thing…they have their own lives, their own friends, they are trying to figure out who they are and they want to do it all on their own.

Yes, I remember being a teenager, my friends were my world, I couldn’t wait to get out of the house, to do my own thing. I get it but when your a parent you want to spend time with your kids, you want to be a part of their lives, even when they don’t want you to.

I know that I have been blessed, working for myself gave me the opportunity to be room mom in my girls class rooms, to be PTA mom, to drop off and pick up my girls every day from school.I got to be involved in every field trip, every school function.

I got to help with homework and cook dinner with them, we sat together every night as a family and ate together. They knew they were loved and wanted and that I truly wanted to spend time with them and not just because I had to.

During the divorce it got tough, we slipped apart, maybe I was focusing on keeping it together, maybe they were angry that I was breaking up their family, as dysfunctional as it was.

This time had to be the worst time in my life, I felt like I was losing my girls and my heart was breaking.

I gave them space and I prayed alot, I decided I wasn’t going to talk about their dad, I was going to let them find out who he was on their own.

I prayed alot… I was always there for them, I told them I loved them but I wouldn’t push them. Eventually they realized how happy I was after the divorce, how peaceful and calm my new home was and how I was still mom and we were still a family, just in a new and different way.

This weekend when my big one called me on Halloween night crying that one of her friends left her at 3 am. I went to pick her up and took her to get waffles at 4 am to make her feel better.

The next morning with a house full of their friends,

I made breakfast and we sat around laughing and talking about our nights, we hung around in our pj’s all day watching movies and eating.It was a great weekend we got to spend together.

I realize times like these are priceless, this is what I live for, spending time with my girls, a house full of laughter and love, there is no better feeling.

Yes, I will blow off a date, a concert, anything when my girls want to spend time with me…because I know  what’s it like to be a teenager and I know how precious these moments are.

So today my friends, remember life goes by too fast, be there for your kids, be present in their lives because before you can blink your eyes, they will be gone onto their own lives and you will have missed it….never miss a priceless opportunity to be with them.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Another date bites the dust

 

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Another date bites the dust

 

I have been single now for the last 4 years. The two years while I was separated I didn’t date, I was trying to figure out what I had to own in my failed marriage and to forgitve him for his part. I wanted to make sure I was whole to start my next adventure, whatever that may be.

 

After the divorce I dated a young guy for a while and while he was alot of fun, we were both going in different directions. I then dated Mr. Con Artist and that about soured me in dating, for a whole year afterwards.

 

Recently I started to date again, here and there but I have to tell you it’s really rough out here in the dating world. There are many “catfish” out here.

 

For those of you who don’t know what catfish is, it’s a person that steals another person’s photos and then pretends to be them, they will hit you up, start talking and texting you but of course will never meet…no shit! They will keep you on the line, feed you all kinds of things they think you want to hear, for what sick reasons, I still can’t figure that one out.

 

But after way to many of them, I have become an expert in spotting them and I no longer play games. If you hit me up we will exchange numbers, we will text a bit and then you have to call me, after a few calls we need to meet. I refuse to waste my precious time on something that may not have a spark or even be real.

 

I don’t need a pen pal and after this year, I sure as hell don’t need anymore “friends” No, if you want to do this, we will be meeting sooner than later.

Hello! Your on a dating site to meet someone, step up or step out!

 

So last week after talking and texting a guy he asks me out. Great I think, first step check, we meet and he looks like his pictures, we’re on a roll here, he opens doors and is very polite and old school….oh this might be a good one I am thinking….

We start talking, we like the same things, we have the same mind set, he has a sense of humor wow…I am thinking this is almost to good to be true…

 

Okay people when something seems too good to be true, it because it usually is!

 

And this was not any different…we start playing pool and it is then he starts chasing me around the table, he starts to talk about how he really likes me and thinks I am sexy which isn’t a bad thing but he makes it creepy.

 

He goes on talking about us being together in a relationship…dude…”We just met do you have a medium button?” I actually said.  “Can you dial it back some?”

He tells me he goes from one to a thousand… yeah…I kind of got that….

 

He all over me, talking about sex and how he likes it….I got the pool stick which I amthisclose to smacking him in the head with, between us trying to push him away.

 

He says lets bet, if i win you have to kiss me,

Oh Hell no that aint happening!

I think maybe if I whop his ass in pool, he’ll get pissey like the other guy I dated once and back the hell off.

 

So I break, I run the whole table, I miss the eight ball, he shoots misses, then I sink the eight ball…he says “Guess you didn’t want to kiss me”…you think??

 

Okay I’ve had enough, I run to the bathroom text my girls an sos message

“help a bitch out”

5 minutes later they are calling me and I run like a bat out of hell, out of there with the excuse I have to pick up my little one.

 

All the while on this date from hell as he keeps  walking away, to call someone or go to the bathroom, I am texting an old friend telling him a blow by blow of the night, so as soon as I am out of there I call him and we are laughing hysterically!

 

He says well at least you have material for your blog, well your a hundred percent right, it wasn’t a total loss…anymore I think I am dating for material…that is really sad…

 

But I will keep doing it,  why you ask? I have an open mind and a positive attitude and yes, I am Tinker bell, I believe in love and happily ever afters…

So I will keep trying.

 

So today my friends,  advise for the crazy dating world today, keep an open mind, be smart and definitely have a good sense of humor because you’ll need it!

 

Don’t take things so seriously, life is too short laugh, tell your friends, write a blog, chalk it off, move on to the next, like I always say you never know… tomorrow your whole life can change…be open to it!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on tmy website:

 

Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

 

http://www.am6azon.com/gp/aw/d/0692437398/ref=mp_s_a_1_12?qid=1434452632&sr=8-12&pi=AC_SX110_SY165_QL70&keywords=the+Blessing+in+Disguise

 

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