2015 A year of dating fiascos

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2015 A year of dating fiascos

 

This last year in dating as a single women has been a trip to say the least.

 

When I first got separated I didn’t date those two years as I needed time to find me, time to forgive him and to own my part in the dismise of my marriage except for a Stella got her groove back moment, I stayed alone.

 

Then after my divorce I met a much younger man, he was sweet, fun and just what I needed at the time but we both wanted different things so we parted ways as friends. I had a few dates and then I met Mr.Con Artist  (if you don’t know who he is read my old blogs, think the movie The other women, that was my story plus 3 other women, I am serious!)

Well he left a horrible taste in my mouth about dating and men in general, so for the following year I didn’t date at all, I threw myself into my book and my new home remodeling job.

 

After being dateless for a year and all of my projects done I thought I would try this again….yuggg maybe being single and alone was better! Here is my dating fiasco review of 2015:

 

1- Mr. I look nothing like my one picture:

As I found out walking around for 20 minutes looking for “him”

 

2- Mr. I hate everyone:

Who was half white and half black but precised to tell me how his idea of the order of races should go with black and Spanish being in the bottom of the barrel. “Oh, did you notice your half black and by the way I’m half Puerto Rican”

As he stood there watching me walk away with his mouth open.

 

3- Mr. I am Doctor so I must be important in my own mind:

That gave me 60 seconds to send him my name and number, I told him I only needed one second to tell him what a pompous ass I thought he was.

 

4- Mr. Hi here’s my junk:

After exchanging numbers he text me “Hi, how are you” “Fine how’s your day going?”

“Good” then BAM  here’s a pic of my junk! People I can’t make this up!!

 

Note: to all of you guys who send pics of your junk…your junk better be way above par because otherwise I will be showing it to all my friends and we will all be laughing at your junk for days!!

 

5- Mr. I’m so famous in my own mind:

Who wanted me to come to his house and when I asked if he thought I was crazy, he said he would come out on the patio and wave to me  because he was “so famous” He should be worried about me!

(BTW it was one newspaper article about him being the world’s youngest world traveler, great feat but doesn’t make you “famous”)

 

6- Mr. I want a relationship in one date:

He didn’t have a medium button, he talked about “our relationship” hello, I just met you! The he proceeded to chased me around the pool table and scared me right out the door.

 

7-Mr. I didn’t say 3 words:

Yes, he said he was shy, but I talk enough, I sure as hell don’t need to talk for the both of us!

 

8- Mr.Lets meet for coffee and I’ll let you watch me drink mine:

Yes, he never even offered me a cup of coffee!  And this wasn’t Stsrbucks 4.00 coffee this was Dunkin donuts 1.35 coffee.

I had just came from the gym and had my keys and my phone, no pockets, no money and I sat there watching him drink coffee he never asked if I wanted anything and then had the nerve to call to ask me out again, my answer “What so I can watch you drink coffee in front of me again…no thanks”

 

I’ve learned a lot of things this year, never date a guy with one picture, with pictures of the neck up, with no pictures aka:catfish or married. I learned that they are looking for a texting pal or pen pal.

Hello, if I wanted that there are lots of men in prison that would be happy to do that??Wtf??

 

They say they want relationships, yet talk about sex throughout their profiles or have half naked pics of themselves all over.

 

They say women are gold diggers yet post pictures of their cars, boats, homes and toys, really??

 

Men lost the art of dating, no longer do they take you out to dinner, or hell even lunch, now it’s coffee if your lucky or just the pleasure of their texts with no meet up in sight.

I miss the days of gentlemen and real dating…

 

Just so you don’t think it’s me, I did meet my first boyfriend from a dating site and have meet a few nice guys just no connection, no chemistry in person but still nice guys.

 

So yes, I believe there are still nice guys out there,

no I don’t think all men are dogs, I just seem to attract more of the dog type.

 

So today my friends, my biggest tip to this dating…. have a sense of humor, laugh, call your friends laugh about your disastrous dates. Keep trying, keep a open mind, you never know…the next one could be the one…

And in my case its not well it could be my next blog!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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2015 A year of dating fiascos

 

This last year in dating as a single women has been a trip to say the least.

 

When I first got separated I didn’t date those two years as I needed time to find me, time to forgive him and to own my part in the dismise of my marriage except for a Stella got her groove back moment, I stayed alone.

 

Then after my divorce I met a much younger man, he was sweet, fun and just what I needed at the time but we both wanted different things so we parted ways as friends. I had a few dates and then I met Mr.Con Artist  (if you don’t know who he is read my old blogs, think the movie The other women, that was my story plus 3 other women, I am serious!)

Well he left a horrible taste in my mouth about dating and men in general, so for the following year I didn’t date at all, I threw myself into my book and my new home remodeling job.

 

After being dateless for a year and all of my projects done I thought I would try this again….yuggg maybe being single and alone was better! Here is my dating fiasco review of 2015:

 

1- Mr. I look nothing like my one picture:

As I found out walking around for 20 minutes looking for “him”

 

2- Mr. I hate everyone:

Who was half white and half black but precised to tell me how his idea of the order of races should go with black and Spanish being in the bottom of the barrel. “Oh, did you notice your half black and by the way I’m half Puerto Rican”

As he stood there watching me walk away with his mouth open.

 

3- Mr. I am Doctor so I must be important in my own mind:

That gave me 60 seconds to send him my name and number, I told him I only needed one second to tell him what a pompous ass I thought he was.

 

4- Mr. Hi here’s my junk:

After exchanging numbers he text me “Hi, how are you” “Fine how’s your day going?”

“Good” then BAM  here’s a pic of my junk! People I can’t make this up!!

 

Note: to all of you guys who send pics of your junk…your junk better be way above par because otherwise I will be showing it to all my friends and we will all be laughing at your junk for days!!

 

5- Mr. I’m so famous in my own mind:

Who wanted me to come to his house and when I asked if he thought I was crazy, he said he would come out on the patio and wave to me  because he was “so famous” He should be worried about me!

(BTW it was one newspaper article about him being the world’s youngest world traveler, great feat but doesn’t make you “famous”)

 

6- Mr. I want a relationship in one date:

He didn’t have a medium button, he talked about “our relationship” hello, I just met you! The he proceeded to chased me around the pool table and scared me right out the door.

 

7-Mr. I didn’t say 3 words:

Yes, he said he was shy, but I talk enough, I sure as hell don’t need to talk for the both of us!

 

8- Mr.Lets meet for coffee and I’ll let you watch me drink mine:

Yes, he never even offered me a cup of coffee!  And this wasn’t Stsrbucks 4.00 coffee this was Dunkin donuts 1.35 coffee.

I had just came from the gym and had my keys and my phone, no pockets, no money and I sat there watching him drink coffee he never asked if I wanted anything and then had the nerve to call to ask me out again, my answer “What so I can watch you drink coffee in front of me again…no thanks”

 

I’ve learned a lot of things this year, never date a guy with one picture, with pictures of the neck up, with no pictures aka:catfish or married. I learned that they are looking for a texting pal or pen pal.

Hello, if I wanted that there are lots of men in prison that would be happy to do that??Wtf??

 

They say they want relationships, yet talk about sex throughout their profiles or have half naked pics of themselves all over.

 

They say women are gold diggers yet post pictures of their cars, boats, homes and toys, really??

 

Men lost the art of dating, no longer do they take you out to dinner, or hell even lunch, now it’s coffee if your lucky or just the pleasure of their texts with no meet up in sight.

I miss the days of gentlemen and real dating…

 

Just so you don’t think it’s me, I did meet my first boyfriend from a dating site and have meet a few nice guys just no connection, no chemistry in person but still nice guys.

 

So yes, I believe there are still nice guys out there,

no I don’t think all men are dogs, I just seem to attract more of the dog type.

 

So today my friends, my biggest tip to this dating…. have a sense of humor, laugh, call your friends laugh about your disastrous dates. Keep trying, keep a open mind, you never know…the next one could be the one…

And in my case its not well it could be my next blog!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

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Message from my mom

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Message from my mom

 

Last week while I was making my sauce for Christmas, my daughters boyfriend was watching me and asking where I learned the recipe for the sauce from.

 

I started telling him stories of my childhood, growing up, upstate in a 100 year old farm house, how we would be making the sauce, then decorating the tree while the fireplace was on and Barbara Streisand was singing Christmas music in the background.

 

How my best friend and my cousins and I would decorate the tree as our moms would sit on the couch drinking pink squirrels (whatever that was, back in the day) telling us to move it this way or fix a branch over there.

 

These were wonderful childhood memories and it made me start thinking about my mom and how I missed her especially now that I am doing all of this by myself, I so wanted her to see I did it…even though she didn’t think I could do all of this on my own.

 

A while later as I was trying to wrap all the Christmas gifts, I had a bunch of Christmas cards to write, as I grabbed one something fell out of it. I bent down and picked it up, as I looked at it, it was if it almost burnt my hand and I dropped it on the counter.

 

I stared at it, it was one of my my mom’s real estate business cards from when she lived in New York and owned her office there. Where did that come from? Do you know how many years it’s been since I seen one of those cards?

 

I looked at the Christmas card it came from it said “Thinking of you today and always, wishing you the best Christmas ever”

 

Well, I went into the ugly cry, I knew at that moment that was a sign from my mom, that was her telling me she was there, that she was thinking of me as much as I was thinking of her.

 

Signs like that give me peace, they let me know the people I love and miss are still with me, still watching out for me, guarding my steps. It let’s me know there is a life after this one and a beautiful one that allows you to come back and touch your loved ones you left behind when they need it most.

 

The first mother’s day after she died a butterfly came into my screened patio and landed on my coffee cup.

 

The day of her funeral the same type of butterfly circled around all of us and landed on her headstone.

 

Whenever life is really hard and I feel lost and alone, I walk outside and there will be that butterfly letting me know it will be alright just as she would have done if she was still here.

 

So today my friends, slow down to see the signs, know that even if your loved one isn’t here anymore they are always with you.

And live life big, enjoy every day, stop to smell the roses, live in the moment, laugh often, be grateful, you are not promised tomorrow.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

Tap into something greater

 

Your worried about everything, you cant sleep at night, your hair is falling out, you constantly think you might be having a heart attack. Did I just described you? I know because this was me a few years back, I lost weight, I was stressed all the time, worried about all kinds of things I had no control of.

 

So how did I get from there to where I am at now?

A place of peace and joy, where I have no worries? You got to get to a place where struggles don’t matter….where God is the only thing that matters, that is how I got here, I placed my faith in God, I pray and I let him worry. I am grateful for everything I have and he gives me more.

 

Maybe the problem is that all your looking to is to have more money, it’s never enough, it will never be enough….

There will always be the the next best car, the newest designer bag, the bigger house…your forever chasing the Jones….

 

See your greatest needs are not just money…. there are things you can’t buy….you can’t buy happiness, you cant buy peace in your heart, you cant buy joy, you cant buy gratefulness, these things are priceless.

 

You can miss it all by running after money, you missed your God moments, you didn’t see the greatest gifts in your life.

 

The time you spend with your kids just doing nothing,laughing and listening. Helping a friend out in need, volunteering your time and the smile you put on a strangers face, these moments are priceless, these are the things that matter the most. Yet you’ve missed them because they don’t come with a price tag so in your mind are not worthy of your time.

 

When you tap into God he will give you all that you ever need… am I telling you all your problems will forever go away?

Please get real…no, I’m not, it doesn’t work that way…Hell, I think since I became a Christian more things have came against me but I got this, I no longer stress, I know God got this, my job is to believe, to pray through the storm and to give thanks when it seems like there is nothing to give thanks for. I know there is, it could have been another way…. there before the grace of God goes I…

 

So today my friends, remember what your chasing after, is it really going to make you happy? Is it causing you stress? What is it, that you seek? Is worth your peace and joy?

 

You might just be missing your God moment and not even know it…Make sure your ready, tap into something greater.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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My new book The blessing in Disguise

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My new book…The Blessing in Disguise..

 

 

Growing up an only child, Deja had wonderful parents and an idyllic childhood. Shortly after meeting her first love, Deja’s world crumbles around her. Devastating life changing news, compounded with the depths of drug and alcohol addiction, leads her into a verbally abusive marriage that spans 25 years. Deja finds herself dreaming of that first love.

 

 

The story follows Deja’s transformation from rock bottom to an incredible journey of one’s true self. Along the way she finds herself questioning everything in her life including her faith and self worth, still she is stuck. Fear rules her life . When she learns to let go and starts to lead a spirit filled life, she starts to believe nothing is impossible. She can and will overcome all of life’s obstacles and realizes that this was all just the “Blessing in Disguise ”

 

 

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How time flies part 1

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How time flies part 1…

 

I can not believe that a year ago today I closed on my new home, it seems like yesterday.

 

I remember thinking this may never happened, how did I actually get approved at all? How did I get a home for 30,000 less then market value? A million things went through my head as I prayed that this would close.

 

I remember when my landlords told me they were selling, after they assured me when I moved in that they weren’t planning to.

I was shocked I had just been there a year and so didn’t want to pack up and look for another place again so I asked them if I could make an offer. I had just started my business and wasn’t making much, I also just started another job but had only been there a few weeks, I never thought I would be approved but I said what the hell, I’ll try.

 

I went to church that week and a new pastor was filling in and said someone here is trying to buy a new home sow a seed of 15.50 and you will get this home for 150,000. I have crazy faith so I sowed a seed of 150.00.

 

The next day I got approved, I was shocked and then I gave my landlords a offer of yup..150,000 which they promptly laughed at, okay we finally agree to 167,000

I knew it needed a new air-conditioning unit, new water heater and a new kitchen, it needed work to the outside and I hated the floors. I knew I would have to put in at least 10-15 thousand dollars so I thought it was a good deal.

 

They agreed, I got an attorney and drew up the papers, I gave them a down payment and I thought we were good to go. Not! They came back and said they wanted more money after we agreed to this price.

 

I was pissed and started looking at other places, I put in two other bids in other properties but was out bid on both. One day as I was telling this to our property manager she said she knew of one for sale and took me there. I walked in, it needed to be gutted but I saw the potential and asked how much? Yes, you got it 150,000. I wrote the offer right there and 28 days later I was closing on this house. Truly a God miracle that got me here.

 

The closing got pushed back twice and I sat there on pins and needles praying it would close as I needed to get out of leased house.  Finally they called the day before Christmas eve, it was happening. As I was signing the papers I was crying uncontrollable, this was real I was free and I was buying my first home on my own and I had never been so happy!

 

I still can’t believe it’s been a year since then, it has been an incredible year with some of my happiness times and some of my  darkest days, yet through it all I have been grateful, grateful for being so blessed, for my girls, my family, my true friends who’ve stuck by me and my church and church family, I know it could have been another way.

 

So today my friends remember life flies by in a blink of an eye…it can go from the bottom to the top in a split second and just when you get comfortable it will knock the wind out of you yet again but through it all just remember my mother’s favorite saying… “This too shall pass”

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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There are 3 realities in life

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There are 3 realities in life

 

There are three realities in life, but we tend to miss  the moment because we are so filled with fear. We are constantly filled with  anguish and worrying about things we cannot change!

 

Here are the three realities you have in your life is:

 

1-Your past, you cant change it, it was there to teach you a lesson, learn from it.

 

2-Your present, live in the moment, enjoy every second. You are not promised tomorrow, so enjoy today.

 

3-Your future, you dont know whats going to happen, why stress about it. Whatever may or may not happen, it doesn’t matter, no amount of stress, worry or crying is going to change it so why would you waste your energy on it?

 

Why not just learn to pray and let God worry! Believe that great things are coming your way, and that at this moment you are exactly where you are supposed to be, good, bad or indifferent, it is where you are right now, so enjoy it.

 

Why say poor me, only bad happens to me, this is always going to be my life.

Your speaking life into a negative situation, your putting out what you will get back, Hello, the law of attraction, people!

 

So today my friends, stop and give thanks for what you have, live in the moment, laugh often, know and believe that soon it will be your season and enjoy this moment, because you will never have it again.

 

” Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Test for a testimony

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Test for your testimony

 

I always try to look for a lesson in everything that happens in life.

I always look for the silver lining and for the reason that things happen to me.

 

I never say “Oh poor me, why is this happening? This always happens to me,  figures… I knew it wouldn’t go my way.”  No, I look at each knock down, each hard time as a teacher, I needed to learn this lesson, what was it and why?

 

My Bishop says when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy, for when you know your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.

 

I belive that, I always have had a strong faith that it will all work out okay. In the last few years that faith has grown tremendously.

 

I no longer worry when faced with a crisis or when it feels like the world is coming at me. No, I put my head down, I walk through the storm and I pray and I praise him. I know God will protect me no matter how bad it may get, I am not afraid. I know that I will get past it, get through it and I will have that rainbow on the other side.

 

I cannot tell you how many times my life has hit rock bottom. How many times I wanted to give up but yet I held on and it was after those times my life had changed for the better.

 

Sometimes you need things to be taken away from you, you need your life shaken up,  you need to have your faith tested before you can move on to bigger and better things.

 

But if you don’t learn the lessons from it, it will continue to happen to you, you will repeat the same mistakes over and over again and over again.

Learn from your mistakes, wear them like a badge of honor, don’t be ashamed of them, they are there for a reason…to teach you not to shame you.

 

Everyone makes mistakes, we are human not perfect why is that so hard for us to realize?

The real purpose is to learn, to be open to change and to trust in God and his plan for us.

 

So today my friends, remember when things are bad, when life gets hard, when you feel like you can no longer go on, hold on, pray, give thanks for the things you do have and know this is all just test for your testimony.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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How music impacts our lives part 2

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How music impacts our lives part 2

 

The other day I wrote about how listening to one song can get you through a day, but music is a incredible gift that can stir up so many emotions in us.

 

Yesterday as I was doing things around the house my phone went off, it was a ringtone I have for my high school sweetheart, Whitney Houston I will always love you.

Okay, it’s pretty sappy I know but that song exemplifies our relationship or lack thereof.

We can’t be together yet I will always love him…I want the best for him, I want to see him happy but no matter what he will always have my heart.

 

My heart started pounding, I got butterflies, it brought back a thousand memories in that second. Yes, that’s what music can do to you, it’s amazing.

 

Last week I was part of a focus group, we had to listen to 700 songs and rate them how much we liked them, if we were tired of hearing then and so on.

 

For me it was like you were dying and your life is flashing before your eyes, every song brought back a different memory.

Hearing Cats in the cradle reminded me of my dad and driving in his new Lincoln with the new car leather smell.

Weekend in New England reminded me of my first kiss with my high school sweetheart, Donna Summer’s Last Dance brought back memories of a stereo I so desperately wanted and gotten one Christmas when I was 16.

 

There was Saturday night fever and memories of me and my cousin Carol, dancing at her apartment complex Jefferson Gardens.

Madonna and the days of my favorite dance club The Down Under hanging with my friend the Dj, Phil.

 

Luther brought back the day I was married and happier times. Then songs from the late nineties that bought me back to the dark tines of my life when I was misrable and wanted to end it all.

And my all time favorite song,  I Will Survive by Gloria Ganner, how many times did we all listen to that one, after every break up, over and over until we knew we would be okay.

 

Yes, those 2 hours sitting there took me on a rooller-coaster ride of emotions and feelings like no other thing could ever do,  because music is a part of our lives, it is the backdrop of our lives and I know I could never imagine my life without it.

 

So today my friends, remember how much music can change your life, pick a theme song…perhaps Happy or Smile by Kirt Franklin, maybe Mary J. Blige, Just fine or I will survive. Play it over and over, live it, breathe it, let it become you. It can get you out of the darkness,  give you hope when you have none, give you faith when you lost yours, it can change your life if you let it…and you know what I always say about change…

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Happy birthday to my mini me

Thursday Treadmill Treats

 

Happy birthday to my mini me

 

It seems like yesterday that I found out I was pregnant,

I can remember when the doctor told me that he didn’t think I would carry this baby to full term, he was shocked I even got pregnant in the first place as my endometriosis was so bad.

 

I remember having pre labor and having to take medicine every 2 hours, all day and night, being on full bed rest, her crowing at 7 months, too many trips to the emergency room.

 

I remembered how I prayed every day to let me have this child I so wished for and God answered my prayers she came 3 weeks earlier on December 17, the exact day I had a miscarriage a year before.

 

Yes, she was truly a gift from God and she has been my gift ever since.

 

She was the best baby and the best little girl you could ask for. She always listened, never left my side, she became the best big sister and then she became my protector and defender as soon as she got old enough to see the pain I faced each and every day with her father.

 

She got more beatings than I can count, went to bed hungry on countless nights as she spoke up and against his behavior towards me. She should have been a child and I was supposed to protect her yet here she was protecting me.

God, how I wish I could erase the past and rewrite her childhood. I can never get over the guilt I carry by putting those burdens on a child…there are not enough words to say I am sorry.

 

She then got to a stage of rebellion, she got wild, she was almost uncontrollable, she ran with a fast crowd, got into all kinds of messes, was probably punished most of her teenage years, yet she always had a kind heart and a giving and caring nature and she was always still there protecting me.

 

When she finally asked me to leave, that if I was staying for her and her sister, that I shouldn’t do it. She wanted me to be happy and so her words gave me the strength to leave and know we would be okay.

 

The years since we left have been the best, there have been countless laughs, late night talks, sitting around the table actually eating together. She has grown into a beautiful, kind and compassionate young women.

 

She has a determination that is unbelievable  ( wonder where she got that from?)

I remember at 10 she drew up a contract that if she feed the sugar gliders every night for 6 months, we would buy her a monkey she desperately wanted, we all signed it never in a million years thinking she would do this without us telling her, but sheer determination made her fulfill her end and yes she got her monkey! That is who she is even back then.

 

She works, at one point two jobs and goes to school, she has faced unbelievable obstacles, she has lost more friends than a young woman should know of, she overcame a starker ex boyfriend and she proved her dad and so many others that said she couldn’t do it, wrong.

 

And she still went through it all with class, finesse and a beautiful heart.

 

So today my friends, I want you to wish my beautiful daughter a happy 19th birthday!

I am so proud of who you are, I am so proud of your accomplishments, your strength, your heart…I know you have this incredible future ahead of you, I know you can and will do anything you set your mind to..I know you will be my heart and my best friend until I take my last breath…

 

You my child have always been my best gift from God and I am so very grateful for him blessing me with you!

 

I love you to the moon and back!

 

” Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on my website:

 

Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

 

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Why are you so negative?

Hump day Treadmill Treats

 

Why are you so negative

 

I remember when I was working at this job, we had a women who would come in and every time we would see her she never had a nice thing to say.

 

She was forever negative,

“Beautiful day out today huh?” We would say and her responsFe would be

“Whats so beautiful about it? There’s too much pollen in the air, my allergies are acting up, I had to turn my heat on and now there was something wrong with it! Of course, yet another thing that will cost me money. Just like my car, that mechanic cost me so much money, they are such thieves always ripping you off….”

 

And on and on and on…

at this point we had already tuned her out and were sorry we even asked the question.

Now I know your all laughing because you too know someone like this, don’t you?

 

Yes, there are so many negative people out there. They can’t seem to find one nice thing to say, I know that personally as my grandmother who lived with us was just like this, day after day I had to endure her negative attitude.

 

I use to pray “Please God don’t make me like her” and God answered my prayers, not only am I not negative like her but I probably am one of the most positive people you will meet! Thank you God!

 

I dont get what makes someone be so negative,  your alive there’s your first thing to be positive about, you woke up in a home, you slept in a bed, you had electric and hot water for your shower and your coffee, you have food and maybe even a car to get you to your job.You have a job… Wow isn’t that more than so many people around the world don’t have?

 

And yet your still not happy, you still feel like you have something to complain about. Really? How about you walked to the bathroom, you have both legs that work, you weren’t dragging an IV behind you or better yet having to use a bed pan.

 

You heard the alarm, you opened your eyes and saw the sunrise, you had vocal cords to yell at your dog. Does none of this deserve a blessing or at least some sort of praise?

 

How many people in this world that are sick and dying who would trade places with you in a heart beat? Yet your still complaining about stupid stuff!

 

I don’t have time for negative people anymore,

I have a limited time here on earth and I want to enjoy every second, I want to surround myself with people who appreciate it as much as I do. So if I avoid you, defreind you or stop taking your calls its because I have no time for your stupidity, you are so blessed and you don’t even know it and as many times as I’ve tried to tell you, you still don’t get it and I am really sorry for you.

 

You are missing out on so many wonderful things, because you are too busy complaining. I live my life being grateful and feeling blessed each and every day, I chose this, it is a choice!

See I saw first hand what being negative did to a person, how it made you angry and bitter, never happy about anything, how no one wanted to be around that and I chose not to be like that.

 

So today my friends, remember you can chose to be positive or you can chose to be negative it’s your choice, chose wisely.

 

” Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on my website:

 

Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

 

http://www.am6azon.com/gp/aw/d/0692437398/ref=mp_s_a_1_12?qid=1434452632&sr=8-12&pi=AC_SX110_SY165_QL70&keywords=the+Blessing+in+Disguise

 

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