Being complete with myself

” TGIF Treadmill Treats

 

Being complete with myself

 

Everyone loves that line from the Tom Cruise movie “You complete me”

 

Yes, its all romantic to think that you found someone and they

completed you but the reality is you need to be complete before you find someone because really no one can complete you.

 

Look I am the most romantic peson you can meet, I believe in happily ever afters and all that comes along with it but I have been on this earth for quite a long time and I am  realistic. I know you need to unpack and go through your issues, you need to own your stuff before you carry that suitcase with you on to the next relationship.

 

That’s the problem with so many people, they are going from one relationship to the next without a break, without owning their issues and then they wonder why the next relationship isn’t working? Hello! Maybe it’s you?

 

I am complete, I love myself, I took 2 years without dating to figure out what was my issues and to forgive him of his. I have been enjoying my singleness, I have many friends, I am part of the singles ministry in church,

I go out to dinner, to shows,

I go on vacations and I go to concerts.

 

I hang with my girls with my undivided attention,

I am good with my own company and I truly love my life just as it is, I don’t need someone to complete me, I am complete.

 

Now saying all of that, it would be nice to find someone to spend quality time with, someone to laugh with, to hold hands with, to know that someone has your back and loves you for you.

 

Even with all the hurt and pain I have suffered in my lifetime (read my book to find out all the juicy details)

I still will open my heart up to someone else, when he shows up. Yes, I would even get remarried even after my horrible marriage because living without love is not living at all but if God chooses that that is not for me, I will still be okay because I am okay with myself.

 

It’s like saying when I lose the weight I will go to the gym, when I get the promotion I will finally arrive, when I find a man my life will really start…Hello! Your missing out on your life waiting for things that may or may not happen and for what reason?

 

Because you think you need these things to make you better, to make you complete and whole. These things will never fill the void, the hole you have in your heart, only you can fill that hole but there’s a catch… of course there is your saying.

 

The catch is you have to be brutally honest with yourself, you have to look deep within and own your faults, you have to be willing to admit your failures and work on changing the things that aren’t working.

 

Look I owned I was a liar, that I had an emotional affair and checked out of my marriage 5 years before the end, I owned I gave up my power to this man,

I owned that I didn’t love or even liked myself back then, I owned my negative thoughts about hating my life, yes this was all me and I took ownership of it all.

 

So I worked on changing these things, I read, I went to consulting, I took classes, I forgave (ohh…big one) and I stopped looking outside and looked inside until I was good with me and I was complete.

 

So today my friends remember no one can complete you, you need to step up, you need to own your shortcomings, you need to do the work and you need to love yourself just the way you are now only then will you be ready to open your heart to find someone who is also completed and share your lives together.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on my website:

 

Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

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Finding your courage yet again

Thursday Treadmill Treats

 

Finding your courage yet again.

 

There has been many changes in my life in the last three years, it seems to be incredible that so many changes could happen to a person who use to be so afraid of change.

 

Yes, I was afraid, I hated change, I stcood in a loveless, misrable marriage for way too many years because I was afraid. Fear kept me stuck, fear ruled my life and made me unhappy.

 

Yet here I am stronger because of all of that,

yes, all of the pain, all of the fear gave me strength, gave me a testimony that I have today and I am so grateful that my life has been so shooked up because it made me realize that I can do anything.

 

Yes, I am thankful for all the pain, for all the knock downs, for all the times I laid on the floor and cried out for help, yes, for all of that, I am grateful for.

 

Some of you may have read my book and are thinking look how many horrible things happen to this women over and over again and she got through it, even when she didn’t think she could get through, yet again she did.

 

Here’s the thing yes, I was a strong women at one point. Yes, I survived a rape, an abortion, an attempt suicide, drug and alcohol addiction, many deaths and losses and friends turning their backs on me.Then to give away all of my strength and power to one person and lose myself.

 

So yes, you can start out on the bottom and sometimes you have to build yourself and your life over again and again, that doesn’t mean your life is over.

 

I lost my voice, I lost my courage, I believed all he said, that I was weak, that I couldn’t do it without him, that I never be able to do it. I was afraid, I didn’t think I could do it, I had heard his words for so many years I believed them, I became them. I was stuck, like many of you reading this.

 

How many of you are still replaying the words your parents spoke about you? Your family, even your spouse? How many of you feel their words shaped your life? “Well they said I was stupid, worthless so I am…

I can never make it…I will never become a doctor or lawyer they are right who I am kidding, who do I think I am?”

Their voices, their put downs influence your life, your decisions, made you who you are today.

 

But all of that, all of the voices in your head, all of your fears that you are worthless, are finished  when you decide to change your life.

 

Here are some steps for you to change your life and pull yourself up yet again

 

1- Believe in a higher power, doesn’t matter which “one” just find one that you can believe in.

 

2-Love yourself, sounds simple but it’s not when your still hearing others voices

 

3- Stop listening to the voices, even your own that says I can’t…

 

4- Believe anything is possible, doesn’t matter how big just believe.

 

5- Envision your life as you want it, dream about it, see it as if it has already happened.

 

6- Don’t let a knock down, knock you out, the fight is never over, you can come back stronger and win!

 

7-Have a positive attitude, never say never or I can’t.

 

8- Let go of some people, not everyone is rowing your boat, some people are drilling holes, dump them.

 

9- Let go of hatred and anger, forgive…not for them for you, so you can move on.

 

10- Dream big, even if you can’t imagine how it will happen, you olny need to see the big picture…you only need to be positive, to believe, to imagine, the rest will come.

 

So today my friends, change is just one thought away, one second for you to decide no matter how many knock downs I had, I am going to win, no matter how battered or bruised I may be, I am going to overcome it, because if no one eles believes in me, I will.

 

I will dream big and know that I will achieve all I put my mind to no matter how many obstacles come…

I can and will do this!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on my website:

 

Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0692437398/ref=mp_s_a_1_6_twi_pap_2?qid=1452884833&sr=8-6&keywords=the+blessing+in+Disguise

 

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Back at the gym

Hump day Treadmill Treats

 

Back at the gym

 

If you read my blog you know that I write this blog on the treadmill, hence the name treadmill treats.

I am at the gym every day 5 days a week, on the weekends I usually ride my bike or walk at the beach.

 

Exercising has been a part of my life as long as I could remember. I watched my parents do the Canadian air force exercise program together when I was growing up.

 

I was one of only two girls in my high school gym, back in the days that girls didn’t go to the gym, me and Clara Snowden were there lifting weighs with the “boys”

Thinking back I see why no one messed with us, she was about almost 6 foot tall, black and sucked her thumb even though she was in high school, I was 90 lbs, 4’9 white little girl, what a pair we were, but we were serious about working out.

 

In college I took weight lifting as a elective, I was one of the first girls to join the very first gym that opened in my neighborhood. I did all the newest tapes and classes  that came out, I wasn’t afraid to try anything.

I worked out as long as I could during my both pregnancies, I only gained 17 lbs for each of them and then right afterwards I started working out at home.

 

I remember being in the mall with my little one, she let go of my hand and ran off, as I chased her she ran up on stage and started yelling “Look mommy, Richard Simmons, Richard Simmons the man on the TV ”

He was there promoting his latest thing, but she knew him because every day I would workout to his tapes and both girls would work out with me.

 

As soon as they could go to day care in the gym I was back, I’ve worked out with a broken arm, with a broken hand and even with a broken foot. But recently I broke my ribs (Yes, I am a klutz) I have to tell you that one put me down I couldn’t lift my hands up, I couldn’t pick up weights, I couldn’t even walk on the treadmill. This sucked big time for me, take away my coffee, make me eat like a vegetarian, no offense to you vegetarians out there but I love my meat, take away my sweets but please don’t take away my gym!

 

I was misrable and mean! Yes, working out is like brushing my teeth, I have to do it every day otherwise I don’t feel right. I was tired, had no energy, I didn’t want to wake up, I slept later, I snapped at everyone, I needed my stress reliever, I needed the gym!

 

For 4 weeks I have been gone and each time I tried to come back I knew these ribs were not going to let me. Each time I was even madder that this happened to me, like my body betrayed me even if my head was willing, my body wasn’t.

 

Finally Monday I said enough is enough and I took a class and even though I am sore to the point of I can’t tie my own shoes, I am happy I have energy, I am stress free and I am home…

 

I am going to be one of those 80 year olds at the gym that you say go grandma! I will compete on old lady triathlons just like that 69 year old lady that passed me right by when I did my first triathlon, I want to grow up to be her!

 

So today my friends, it’s never to late to change your life, I tell you all the time, your never to old, start today,  do it for 30 days and it will become a habit and like me you will become addicted and will do anything to get back to it.

Just like the Nike slogan says…just do it!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on my website:

 

Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

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Being part of a writing community

Tuesday Treadmill Treats

 

Being part of a writing community

 

I’ve been writing for as long as I can remember. I started with a diary then worked my way up to a journal  (fancy word for grown up diary)

I wrote poems and short stories, English class was of course my favorite class, I wrote when I was happy, when my heart was breaking, I wrote because it was, who I am then and still am now.

 

There is a saying that if you do something you love it’s not work and this, I can and have done for hours, this is never work, this is a passion I have.

 

So when I found “blogging” I was thrilled to be part of a writing community that lets you do what you love to do and to be able to speak to people who love the same thing, I felt like I was home.

 

The first blogging site a friend of mine recommend was called Bubblews, it was just starting out and I jumped right in. We had a few hundred really incredible writers on there. We would encourage and comment on each other’s works. We were like family,  we knew each other virtually because we read about each other’s lives, we laughed together, we cried together, we encouraged one another.

 

It was like nothing I had ever experienced before, for us it wasn’t about the money which wasn’t much, it was about the community and how we felt we had such a great group of writers all together in one place, we were a family.

 

But as all good things, it started to change, all of a sudden others from around the world started to join.

At first it was good, we got to talk to and meet people from across the earth, see their lives, interact with them but then everyone started to come because they heard about the money and our once small tight community started to grow into a money making platform.

 

No one seemed to care about the work, even the powers that be, all everyone cared about was the money. People wrote stupid three sentences just to make money, people followed others not because they read their work or actually enjoyed it, no to get more likes, to get more money.

 

It no longer was this community of talented writers doing what they were passionate about, it was now about the all mighty dollar.

 

I write this blog every day on the treadmill, I work out 5 days a week, what motivates me? Writing, I wake up thinking about what am I going to write about today? I can’t sleep because I want to write an blog, I am here each and every day because I am lucky enough to have people who follow me and read my blog every day and I love to give them fresh new one blogs every day.

 

I don’t want to let them down but when it comes down to it, its about me and my love for writing. Paid or not, followers or not, I will still do this because it’s my purpose, it’s my passion.

 

Unfortunately after 3 years of writing on Bubblews, we parted ways, people were stealing my blogs and reposting them to get money, the powers that be no longer cared, I was no longer part of a community. My fellow writers jumped ship long before I did and I couldn’t blame them. I no longer wanted to write for a company that only cared about the bottom line.

I found out recently they went under and I was sad for the first community that gave me my first platform to do what I love to do.

 

I am still looking for another community like this one but can’t help but wonder, does lighting strike twice?

 

I now write on Medium, Scriggler and a brand new  blogging site called My trending News, they seem like they might be a good fit, there are some serious writers who are also passionate about what they do. So I will continue to hope to find another writing family to call home.

 

So today my friends, do what your passionate about, don’t worry about the money, have integrity about your work and know when it’s time to move on, you just never know when the next great opportunity is coming your way.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on my website:

 

Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0692437398/ref=mp_s_a_1_6_twi_pap_2?qid=1452884833&sr=8-6&keywords=the+blessing+in+Disguise

 

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To feel real gratitude

Monday morning message

 

To really feel gratitude

 

I read somewhere that said the most blessed people are the ones who are grateful for their lives.

 

It said it’s not happy people that are grateful, it’s grateful people that are happy.

 

The other day I had to rush my daughter to the hospital with an allergic reaction to lobster. While we were sitting in the emergency room getting treatment her father calls and starts screaming at her, then she hands the phone to me and he proceeds to scream at me about how much this will cost him because I brought her to the wrong hospital. He goes on and on and on and on as somethings never change and he still like to hear himself talk and obviously could care less that his daughter couldn’t breathe and was laying here for a reason.

 

At that moment I gave yet another prayer that I was so grateful to be divorced from this man, oh how very grateful I was.

 

If you read my blog you know that I always speak about how grateful I am, you know that I was blessed with my home, this was literally a gift from God. I say that because one, a preacher spoke it to me with the exact  number I was to buy the house for. Second, I never thought I could get approved and third, it went 27,000 below market value, all of this were truly gifts from God.

 

I never take his gifts in my life lightly, as I know I am blessed and I know it could have been another way and believe me it was for a long time.

 

This alone makes me so grateful because I’ve been in that dark place, I know what rock bottom feels like, I know how it feels to hate your life so much that you no longer want to go on, that you pray for the end to come, I have not forgotten the pain and hurt I use to try to drown with alcohol while crying until I had nothing left in the bathtub night after night.

 

Yes, I remember all of that and because of it, I am always grateful for where I am now. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t go to sleep and wake up thanking God for all of this, during my day as I am driving, I will see a beautiful sky and will thank him.

 

I listen to the radio and a great song will come on and it makes me happy, I will thank him, I come home and see my girls smiling and laughing together and I thank him even more, as I remember when they use to hate each other and how many days that I prayed for them to be friends.

 

I thank him for my business, my money, my friends and family, our health, for it all. I thank him for giving me his grace and mercy, I am constantly thanking him because I am so grateful of where I am now.

 

Sometimes even still, when I looked around and realized that I actually own a home, that I did this and I am so proud of myself, I stop and remember it is all because of him. Sometimes I get taken by this feeling of gratitude, so strong that I start to cry, my daughters will asked why I am crying and I tell them how grateful I feel for all of this, so much so, that it sometimes takes my breath away.

 

So today my friends, even if your in a dark place right now be grateful, keep singing his praises, keep the faith and believe it will change because when it does and it will… you will be forever grateful for where you have been, what you’ve come out off and what he has done in your life. God has bigger dreams than you can ever dream for yourself…I am living proof.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on my website:

 

Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0692437398/ref=mp_s_a_1_6_twi_pap_2?qid=1452884833&sr=8-6&keywords=the+blessing+in+Disguise

 

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Thats what friends are for


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That’s what friends are for…

 

Last year I bought a house and it needed to be completely gutted.The only things I could salvage was 2 ceiling fans and a garbage disposal, yes seriously!

 

Everything else I had to buy new, being a single mom, I had no one to help me do anything, to bounce stuff off of or to hold my hand through this process.

 

You know I don’t sugar coat anything, as I always say,  I am not Willy Wonker, so I will tell you it was scary and overwhelming to say the least.

It was the first time in 25 years that I have done something like this, all on my own.

 

There were days when problems came up that I thought maybe I took on too much, there were nights I couldn’t sleep worrying about the bills, if I was going to get out of my rental on time, would I be getting more business to pay for all of this.

 

Yes, I am human, I really try not to worry and for the most part, I don’t but this was a huge undertaking and sometimes even I, Miss Positive, slips and falls.

 

There were so many set backs, I had a plumber rip me off, very expensive lesson and then someone from my own church try to rip me off (just because someone goes to church does not make them holy, leaned that lesson too!)

 

But what I really learned was that I have some incredible people in my life. I am blessed with great friends and family, that came to my rescue.

 

I had nothing to pay them, yet they were here giving of their time and themselves to help me out and I am so grateful for all their help.

 

Someone told me that I had always been there for them, that I always give of myself to help others and this is what you get back in return. I never think of that when I do things for others, I do things out of my heart, not expecting anything in return.

 

This made me cry knowing that I had touched people’s hearts in such a way that they wanted to give back to me.

 

I am pretty handy and I can do a lot of different things around the house and did, like disconnecting and pulling out old sinks and toilets, putting together closet systems, putting up light fixtures attempting to put down laminate flooring (which came out okay, thank God for trim and Youtube) The yard clean up, my back splash and a host of many other small jobs I could tackle.

 

But I have my limits, I don’t do drywall or electrical or 45 degree cuts and for that I had to rely on my friends for help in those areas.

 

I had two friends fly down from from New York to help me out, with putting up a fence and a paver patio, then my other friend came to help me with my leaky roof. Last night a friend of mine came by as my closet system fell out of the wall. (Yes, the one I put in, I am blaming it on way to much stuff and not my Handy work, that’s my story and I am sticking to it!)

 

And in a few weeks another friend will fly in to give me a whole new roof.

I don’t know what I would do without my guardian angel neighbor Frank who I  am always running to for help.

 

I know I am truly blessed to have all these incredible people in my life who time and time again have stepped up for me.

 

Today I want to thank all of my incredible friends and family that have been here for me, I could never do this without you and I am truly grateful for you all for stepping up and helping me out.

Being a single mom is tough but when you have such an amazing set of friends it makes life so much easier.

 

So today my friends, be grateful for your friends because they are the family we chose for ourselves, pick wisely and if you do you will have an amazing family like mine.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on my website:

 

Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0692437398/ref=mp_s_a_1_6_twi_pap_2?qid=1452884833&sr=8-6&keywords=the+blessing+in+Disguise

 

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Racism is alive and well in today’s world

Thursday Treadmill Treats

 

Racism alive and well in today’s world

 

Lately with all the talk about the Oscars snubs of all the incredibly talented black actors, directors and producer’s in today’s Hollywood film studio, it makes me wonder how we have come so far and yet still have racism in this country.

 

I know that there is racism still in our country, but I can’t understand it. I have never seen color, I have always just seen people’s hearts, if your a good person, if your kind, caring, to me that is what counts.

 

My mother grew up in Harlem, for Gods sake. She was lucky enough to grow up there and not be caught up with the rest of the country’s prejudices.

New York never had segregation, it was way ahead of its time, even way back then.

It was a melting pot of every race and every religion, all living together in peace.

 

I was lucky enough to be brought up in a town that also ahead of its time. Growing up there, we had families of color, we had Jewish families, we had Spanish families, mixed raced families, even gay families. Our house was always filled with all kinds of people, my parents even were friends with the local drag Queens, no for me this was all normal.

 

Now, for the late 60’s and this being such a small town, being this opened minded about these things was huge! We didn’t see color, we saw friends. It was an incredible place to grow up in and maybe because of that upbringing, I thought the rest of the world was like we were.

 

My very first best friend was black, my “Uncle” our close family friend was black, Hell, I even go to a prodimidly black church now and did so back then as well, so this has never been a issue for me.

 

Unfortunately the rest of the world still has racism  and its is in your own back yard. I remember when I met someone online, he seemed nice so after a few emails we decided to meet. He was a mixed race man, 6’5 (alittle too tall for me ) but through text messaging he seemed sweet. Surprise to me!

 

He started off by telling me his mom was Italian and his dad was black, then he went on to tell me that he would never go to my church because there where to many blacks in one place, he didn’t want to hang with ghetto people. He just didn’t say that? I told him he was sadly mistaken if he thought my church was ghetto!

 

That I have met some of the kindest, sweetest, most giving people in the world there. Well right away we are off on the wrong foot, insult my church? Oh hell no, I am so not feeling this man, but I am polite and we keep talking.

 

He tells me how his dad is a ex NBA basketball player and how he played for a professional team in another country, how rich he was, how people always stop him and recognized him (really do anyone you know watch Sweedish  basketball?) I am getting a little more put off, oh yeah, this date is going down hill fast.

 

Until he then asks me if I was married to a white man, I tell him yes, a Jewish man, now he proceeds to tell me how Jews own the world, they think that they are all that, that they are the chosen people. “let me tell you how it goes” he says  I’m thinking oh go right ahead because if you haven’t dug your grave already, this will really do it.

 

Please go on I say. “It goes whites, then Jew’s, then blacks, then Indian’s and on the bottom of the barrel is Spanish people”

 

He did not just say that??? With that, the date was over for me but before I left him standing there, I turned and said. “Oh by the way, I guess I didn’t mention I was half Puerto Rican” He stood there with his mouth open, then he said “Oh are you leaving?” I said “No, you are” and with that I walked away. Wow, good thing I didn’t dress up for this date!

 

I am still in shock, I have dated a lot of losers lately (okay, no smartass comments from the peanut gallery) But this one takes the cake! Did he really think there was more white blood in him then black, was he mad at the rest of world?

 

I don’t know what his problem was but I have no time for idiots like this. What I have never understood is that it doesn’t matter what color you are, if you cut us and we all bleed red and when we die we all go in the same ground, period!

 

Doesn’t matter what color you are, doesn’t matter how much money you have, we are all the same, why can’t people realize this?

 

No one is better than someone else, money doesn’t make you better , color doesn’t make you better, what makes you a better person is how you treat others, period!

 

Yes, I have been learning a lot of lessons this past year but the one I keep learning over and over is, what I will put up with and what is definitely not okay!  This kind of thinking is not okay, racism on any level is not okay!

 

So today my friends, I will leave you with one last thought, be the change you want to see, it starts with you. Love thy neighbor, like you love yourself. Remember we are all children of God.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on my website:

 

Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0692437398/ref=mp_s_a_1_6_twi_pap_2?qid=1452884833&sr=8-6&keywords=the+blessing+in+Disguise

 

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Promoting my friends hair care line, Nefertitis Secrets

Hump day Treadmill Treats

Promoting my friends hair care line…Nefertitis Secrets

There is nothing I love more than to uplift and to promote another women. I don’t understand the women in today’s society, they are constantly putting down and pulling other women down.

We are here to help each other, to inspire each other, to even carry each other when times gets tough, yet some women get so caught up in backstabbing, gossip and jealousy, they cannot think about helping another women out because of fear and their own insecurities.

I believe and continue to shine the light on women who are an inspiration to us all and one of these women is my friend Conchita Pleasant, the founder of Nefertitis Secret, an incredible hair care line.

She is smart, beautiful, and a hard worker. She was determined to invent a hair care product for all hair types.

 A product that is sulfate free, that strengthens ,softens and repairs the hair, that increases shine and promotes growth.

But this haircare line is just part of the story, the real story is one of determination.

She faced many challenges along her journey. She was in the mist of a divorce and then found out the most devastating news you never want to hear, the dreaded words “You have cancer”

All of this came as she was starting this haircare line. She continued to press on and hold on to her faith to get her through this time that would break some other people.

Sheer will, faith and determination got her through and with pride she launched this amazing product line.

I have to tell you I love these products, as much as Iove her spirit, first of all they smell incredible.

She mixes a blend of Moringa oils, Keratin protein, Aloe, Sage, and Rosemary extracts to give it a smell that is truly unique.

She worked with her chemist to come up with a system that addresses all kinds of problems with the hair and scalp.

This included:

Softening the hair

Repairing the hair

Hydrating

It treats eczema

Stops breakage

Increases shine

Exfoliates scalp

Revitalizes color

Strengthens hair

Promotes growth

Mends split ends

Increases volume

Soothes itchy scalp

and eliminates flaky scalp

She came up with a system which consists of: Shampoo

Conditioner

All in one leave in treatment  Moringa oil

Sounds too good to be true right? Well it is after using it for a week, I have to tell you, I loved my hair, it was all those things and more.

People actually commented about my hair looking great. I have thick, coarse and curly hair and in South Florida it gets frizzy as well but it was surprisingly excellent for my hair. I love this hair care line and I think you will too.

So today my friends, learn something from my amazing friend Conchita, never give up on your dreams, never lose hope and even when it seems like the world is caving in on you, hold tight to your faith because dreams are possible….just look at her now…happy, cancer free and this self made entrepreneur….anything is possible if you believe

To get these products call toll free 1866 436 6327

Or visit her website:

www. Nefertitisecrets.com

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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The depths of denial

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The depths of denial

 

How far are your depths of denial? Yes there are many people that are in this place and they cant seem to get out, they don’t know how to or they don’t want to, move from there.

 

They figure if they don’t talk about, if they shove it into the back of the closet, if they pile other stuff over it and then close the door it will be forgotten about, it will be gone. It’s like when we were little and we would  pull the blankets over their heads because we were afraid, we would close our eyes real tight and think it will go away. Except surprise! When we opened our eyes, there it is, still there.

 

Whatever you are trying to bury is still there, it doesn’t matter what your hiding, it’s still there. Your hooked on prescription medications, your a drunk, your child is dropping out and sleeping around, you were sexually abused as a child, you can’t stop eating at night, whatever it may be that your running from, the problem is still there.

 

It will continue to be there until the day when you find the courage to stand up, own your part, take responsibility for what is going on, nothing is going to change, you will continue to blame others, you will continue to live with guilt and pain, that will not go away until YOU release it.

 

Trust me nothing is as bad as you make it seem in your head! Believe me I know,

I put all of my demons, all my problems and my mistakes out there each and every day for thousands to read, could it be any worse than that?

You just have to admit it to yourself and your family not thousands of people, it’s not that bad.

 

You won’t be able to get to your next level if your carrying all your junk on your back, you can’t climb up that latter if your hands are full of crap from the past, let it go and use your hands to pull yourself up and out of the hole you tried to buried all your stuff in.

 

Trust that you will have the support of your family, your friends, your church family and even if you have no one, you always have God, who will never leave you.

 

Find a support group, they understand what you are going through, the Internet is a wonderful thing to find others, go to consulting, find a preacher, it doesn’t matter as long as you are being pro active about the rest of your life.

 

Okay, so I never sugar coat anything, I not Willy Wonka. Is it going to easy? Oh Hell no, if it was going to be easy we would have all done it years ago, it will be tough, hard and at some times excruciating but when you come out on the other side, it is so worth it. No more hiding, no more lying, cheating, covering your tracks, worried that  someone will find out, all of that will be gone, you will finally be free and what a feeling freedom is!

 

So today my friends, take that step, reach out to someone, admit you have a problem, ask for help, it doesn’t make you weak it, it will make you stronger! This is your life don’t hide from it, live it to the fullest, be your authentic self, the one God created you to be, the best you can possibly be, step out of your depths of denial.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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My new book The blessing in Disguise

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life and death are in the power of the tongue

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Life and death are in the power of the tongue

 

How many times have I talked about what you put out will come back, the secret is a great example.

The bible first started this movement with “You will reap what you sow”

 

Lousie Hayes, Dr.Wayne Dyer, Ester Hicks and many others have written many books on this subject.

Intentions, the law of attraction, the power of the tongue, there are many words used but it all means the same thing, you put out what you get back.

 

Listen to the words you use everyday, are you calling your children rebellious? Or are you calling them a great leader?

 

What are they hearing from you?

What are they believing about themselves…Are you telling them they are stupid, lazy, will never make anything of themselves or are you filling their minds with postive affirmations, like you can do anything you set your mind to, never give up, I have faith in you.. what are you depositing into them?

 

You have the power in your tongue to change your life..

 

Are you saying you can’t do that, are you saying that will never happen, I always have bad luck… well then you are speaking it into existence.

God made man in his image so that means you are a spirt man..you have the same power as God himself.

You have the power to speak things into existence.

 

I am…

What are you saying after the word I am?

I am…sick

I am…broke

I am…broken

 

Then that is what you are…you are speaking it, giving life to it…

 

Maybe you need to be to speaking

I am…the head and not the tail

I am….healed

I am….blessed

I am….whole

I am….wealthy

 

When you start walking in the spirt, that you know who you are, you know your power,

That I am…. created after God himself, that I have the power to speak things into existence, you will change your life.

 

Let me ask you this..Who are you hanging out with and what are they speaking?

Are they telling you “Man, you can never do that”

 

“Do you know where you came from?”

 

“We’re always going to be broke and uneducated, who do you think you are?”

 

You need to cut them off, you need to change your mind, change your thoughts, change your life.

 

What are you feeding yourself?

 

Unforgiviness

Pride

Jealousy

Ego

Hatred

 

Do you have all of these things in your life now, are you holding on to them, are they your crutch?

 

Starting feeding your soul

Forgiveness

Kindness

Gratefulness

Praise

 

Praise us the only thing you can do for God that he can’t do for himself because then he would be prideful, so if we are made in his image than why are we so prideful? Why can’t we forgive?

 

So today my friends, know that this is the year to take your dominion over favor and time, to change your life and what you speak.

 

The power of life and death is in your tongue….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on my website:

 

Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0692437398/ref=mp_s_a_1_6_twi_pap_2?qid=1452884833&sr=8-6&keywords=the+blessing+in+Disguise

 

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