Can you handle the truth?

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Can you handle the truth?

 

Yesterday I wrote about standing up for what is right, today I am coming forward asking another tough question about who you are and what you believe in…The truth.

 

Yes, people we are digging deep this week into who you really are.

There are some people that can’t handle the truth, they might ask you for your opinion yet they think that theirs is better, so then why ask?

 

I was like that, my best friend is gay and when we would go shopping I would ask his opinion, when he would say he didn’t like something I would ask “Why? What’s wrong with it? How come?”

 

He would get mad and say “Bitch, do you want my opinion or what? I don’t like it, that’s why”

 

Well, did I want his opinion? Yes, but on my terms, because I liked it, so why didn’t he?

Through out our friendship I can always count on him to be brutally honest with me even when I didn’t want to hear it and even when it hurts, at least I know where he stands and I know he is honest.

 

But there are so many people like me, who want advice yet can’t handle the truth. We sometimes can’t  even see the truth in ourselves.

I couldn’t admit I had a drinking or drug problem for years, even when I was waking up on the floor with vomit all around me, hungover yet again, I still went to work, so I was good, no problem.

 

I couldn’t admit my ex was verbally abusive, even to myself, that would mean I failed, that I picked the wrong one,  yet again. I couldn’t face the truth for years. I lied to everyone including myself just so I wouldn’t have to admit I picked wrong.

 

When everyone said Mr Con Artist was just that ….no, I said your just haters that I am so happy,  no, even though all the signs were there and my intuition was screaming, I couldn’t admit the mistake I had made.

 

We can’t handle the truth because of our ego, that would mean we didn’t pick right or do the right thing. God for bid we make a mistake and the world sees it! How could we ever redeem ourselves in people’s eyes? So we never admit to our failures and in return we never learn the lessons we are supposed to.

 

When I started writing this blog, I decided that I was going to be brutally honest about everything.

I fall down, I do stupid things, I make mistakes…. huge mistakes, yet the differece is now, I am always trying to learn the lessons from them. I am not afraid of my failures anymore or what people will think because I know I am human and these are the things that make us human, that make us stronger.

 

I can handle the truth now because I know there is a lesson in it and so I put it all out there so that others might see themselves and know it’s alright to fail, to fall down, to pick wrong. To own what you did and to not be afraid of the truth.

 

So today my friends, think about if you can really handle the truth?

 

Can you take off the rose colored glasses you see yourself through and stop worrying about what others will think or say? Look the truth in the face, stand up straight, admit your failure, own it, find the lesson, forgive yourself and let it go and move on….because yes, sometimes the truth hurts  but sometimes the truth will set you free!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

” And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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When do you stand up for what’s right?

Hump day Treadmill Treats

 

When do you stand up for what’s right?

 

The other day as I was with my cousin we were talking about standing up for what is right.

 

No matter what, no matter who comes at you, no matter how many friends you lose, you still stand up for what’s right. That is how we were brought up, this is what our moms taught us.

 

You stick together, if your family or if your friends, you stick together. You stand up for them, if they hurt, you hurt, if someone does them wrong, they might as well have done it to you because you will be there standing behind the person you love, doing the right thing.

 

Anymore, people don’t get this concept, they don’t want to rock the boat, they don’t want to be “politically incorrect” Whatever the hell that means anymore, as the littlest things sets everyone off on that rant.

 

They rather stay on their sides and be “nice” And don’t stand up for the truth.

 

I am old school, if your my friend or family, I am there for you, no matter what, I have your back, I am your friend for life, I will do anything for you. I get pissed off if someone hurts you and believe me I will let them know it in no uncertain terms.

 

I will call out a liar, a cheater, a person of no scruples, oh yes, you will not get away with it while I am that person’s friend.

 

But this last year I realized there are only a few of us left, true friends and family that will do that for me.

 

I am a open book, if I am happy I write about it, if I am sad, if I have problems, if someone breaks my heart, you better believe I am writing about it.

 

I am transparent, like it or not, it’s not about you!

It’s about helping others find their voices, showing others that even in the darkest of times, to have faith, to be open and honest and know it’s okay to fall down as long as you get back up and keep fighting.

 

So these last few years when the man I thought loved me and my best friend hurt me to the core, I thought my “friends” would stand up for me and speak out against the wrong doing that was done.

 

I obviously was wrong, but here’s the beauty about being wrong, you get to learn a lesson, a very important lesson, that not everyone does the right thing, that not everyone is your friend.

 

Hard lessons to learn but really good ones as well because it separates the true friends from the phony ones, it lets you know people’s true colors, their real agendas and who they really are.

 

Do you want a bunch of phony friends who don’t have your back or a small handful who have enough pride and gumption to say “No, that’s wrong and I will no longer be your friend after the crappie thing you’ve done to this person”

 

See its okay…I know who is who now, I know who are the gossipers, who are fair weather friends, who have no backbone and I realized I don’t want or need you in my life. So thank you for this lesson, thank you for showing me your true colors, thank you for closing the door and showing me who my real friends are.

 

So today “my friends” remember not everyone who hugs you is really for you, some of them are just looking where to place the knife. Pray you learn the lessons, the lessons are there to make you stronger and to stand up for what’s right.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

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Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

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