You just never know when it’s your time

Thursday Treadmill Treats

 

You just never know when it’s your time

 

Last night I went to another funeral, this one was for a brother of a dear friend of mine. He was in his late twenties, handsome, full of life, he had his whole life in front of him and just like that he was gone.

 

As I sat there I thought about how many of these I have been to in my lifetime and realized that I have been in this spot, way too many times, more than any one person should have to.

 

I have lost so many people I loved, people like Jordan who were taken away at the prime of their lives as well.

 

It taught me two things:

Life is precious and life is short.

 

You have to be present in the moment, you have to truly enjoy your life and the things you do. You have to forgive and forget, reach out to the people you love, tell them how much you love them, spend time with them, treasure the moments you spend with them.

 

We hold stupid grudges, we hold on to hate and anger, we can’t admit when we are wrong and can’t forgive when others try.

 

Does any of it matter? When that person is gone will you have guilt? Will you cry and say I should have, I could have? Would you wish for one more minute with them? If you can honestly answer yes to any of the above questions then you need to make it right now, not tomorrow now!

You might not have tomorrow….

 

I know about hatred, for years I held on to the hatred of my rapist, it consumed my life, when one day I realized it was only hurting me, he didn’t know or couldn’t care less, he was living his life, but I was killing mine, so I forgave him, for me not him.

 

I stayed in a verbally abusive marriage for 24 years afraid and hating my life, if I would have known how great these last 3 years have been I would have done it years before but I can stand here and tell you if I was called home tomorrow, I am truly glad I lived my best life, I was present in every moment,

I forgave and let go of all of the hatred and anger, I lived big and laughed often, I learned lessons and I found peace and joy that I thought was impossible.

 

So if my time was up,

I know I lived my life they way I wanted to even if it was for only 3 years, it was the best three years!

 

This is how we should all learn to live life, now, each and every day because none of us knows when it will be your time or your loved ones time.

At the end you won’t be thinking of how clean the house was, how much money you made, how many people you hated or did you wrong, no, you’ll be thinking if I only had more time with my kids, if I gave more of myself to others, if I could have made amends with loved loves, if I could have lived my life different…

 

So today my friends, remember this, time is one thing you can’t buy and you cant take back, you must use it wisely, don’t be that person wishing what if…be that person that say I lived life big!

 

RIP my dear Jordan, you brought so many smiles to so many people and you will be missed.

 

Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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When enough is enough

Hump day Treadmill Treats

 

When enough is enough?

 

There comes a time when enough is enough, this applies to all areas in your life.

 

When your relationship is enough, enough of the cheating, enough of the lying, the put downs, when that day comes when you know that you are done and you want out at all cost.

 

When is enough is enough, when your job is crushing your spirit, when you hate going every day, just pulling off the exit, gets you breaking out into a sweat, when you know that you are not fullfiling your dreams or Gods Destiny for you, you are suffocating, enough is enough, when it doesn’t matter how much money you are making, you know it is not worth it.

 

What about your partying ways? Are you drinking every day, are your sick of waking up every day feeling like you got run over by a bus, that you miss work, you lay in bed, swearing you wont do it again, yet there you are next weekend pounding them down yet again.

 

When you realize your living a lie, that your whole life you were small and petty, you were jealous of others, that you had to make others feel small in order to make yourself feel big, yet alone you feel worthless. When are these feelings enough?

 

When is it enough? When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, that is when it will be enough! When you cant possibly imagine going through one more day doing this, when you want better for yourself and your life.

 

When you start to love yourself and want to share your life with a person who cares about you, or you don’t want to end up alone and a drunk, or be that person that even you can’t stand or thirty years later with a gold watch for a job you hated.

 

I realized that when my healthy mom suddenly pasted away, how short life is truly is and I didn’t want to waste a second longer being unhappy and being sick and tired, so I made a change and now my life is incredible!

 

I stopped letting fear rule my life, I had enough and even if I didn’t know how I was going to do it, even if I didn’t know how I would survive, it didn’t matter, enough was enough. I was going to do whatever it took to be happy.

 

So today my friends, I am here to tell you that you can change your life, its up to you, when the day comes and you realize enough is enough, then all things are possible.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

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The power of the pen

 Tuesday Treadmill Treats 

 

The power of the pen

 

I write this blog every day to try to inspire others. I want others to see what I’ve and the others I write about have been through. I want them to relate and see that your never to old, it’s never to late to change, that you can do or achieve anything, if you set your mind to it. 

 

The one thing you can always count on with me is my brutal honesty, I’ve admitted I was a liar in my past and I refuse to lie anymore. I tell it like it is, the good, the bad, the really, really ugly, warts and all,

I put it out there. There is nothing I am embarrassed about, no skeletons in my closets that I am afraid to let out, they are all already out.

 

I freely admit when I screwed up, when I fall down, when I get my heart broken, when I make bad decisions. Oh yes, I tell it all, I have no shame.

 

I have been writing this blog for the last 4 years, I don’t write it to call people out, I never name people (except Mr.Con Artist, that was a public service announcement message) 

I will write about people and things that have happened, some friends, some strangers, some from the news or media. I mixed them all together and tell everyone’s story. If you really, really know me, you will know who I am talking about and even then I would get messages that said “Was that blog about me?” Which I knew it clearly wasn’t but I had obviously hit a nerve with certain people.

 

See people are afraid of the truth, people are afraid that their “stuff” will be put out there, they are afraid the world will see who they are really. They are afraid of what people will say…they are afraid you will find out their secrets and even though you haven’t called them out, someone will know it’s them, you are talking about. They are living in such denial that just the thought puts them running back to check that, their closet is closed up tightly.

 

They are afraid that you will find out behind all the fancy clothes is a empty, cold heart.That in that big house with the “one” He is degrading you and telling you, you are stupid. That your own family puts you down so many times, that you have no self esteem and so you are jealous and petty and you try to talk bad about everyone eles, you try to make yourself the center of attention.

 

You try to hide your drinking problem, your crappy job, your unruly children as if we all don’t have these problems, as if admitting all of this will make you less than…a women, a wife, a man, a mother, a father…

This just means you are human and that we all have faults, that we all screwed up and that we are hopefully learning life lessons.

 

But here’s the thing, you cant learn lessons if you don’t admit your mistakes.

“Perfect” people don’t make mistakes is your theory, so you will never grow, you will constantly be small and petty, you will always talk bad about others to make yourself feel big, you will always be jealous because you will never have what they have…freedom to truly be you…

 

So yes, my friends you should be afraid of the power of the pen, because if I am writing something and you see yourself in it, enough to reach out, enough to stop being my friend, enough to turn others against me then you should stop and ask yourself what are you hiding? What are you so afraid of people finding out?

 

For me it’s about living in my truth, owing my faults, putting my heart out to help others, I live in total honesty, I live to learn lessons that make me grow even at my own expense, even for the whole world to see. I’ve learned that there were some doors that needed to be closed, that not everyone is there for the whole ride, that not everyone has your back. But it’s all good, I own me, I love me and most importantly I do not live in fear anymore, can you say the same?

 

“Be the change you want to see”

  

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise 

Selling on my website:

 

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And on Amazon.com

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You are not disqualified, There is a plan for your life

Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

You are not disqualified, There is a plan for your life

 

(For those new readers out there, on the 2 new sites I just joined, I write this blog every day 5 on Monday’s, I write Monday Message.

This is my spin on the message I got from church the day before. Some of you may want to read it, some may not, I am not about pushing my religion on anyone, I do it for me and if you get something out of it as well, that’s great, if not and your good, that also great. Whatever gets you through your day is great, this is what gets me through mine and what has gotten me through the worst of times.)

 

We all at some point in our lives think what we have done in our pasts are too bad, are too hideous to be forgiven for.

We start to think we are a lost cause, that even if we change, no one, including God will forgive us.

 

There are even “Church” people out there, that are pointing fingers at you, acting like they themselves have never sinned. So why would you want to change? Why would you want to come to church?

 

We become bitter with people, we have guilt, guilt from our past, the things we have done, the things that people have done to us, we hold on to all of that.

 

Are you carrying around all this stuff you did in your past, that you can’t let go of?

 

You were a drug addict, you had a abortion, you lied, you cheated… so how can you possibly be blessed? How could anyone forgive you?

I am here to tell you, you are not disqualified, God has a plan for your life.

 

But your thinking how can he bless me after the divorce? How can he bless me when I went to prison? How can he bless me when I did so many wrong things to so many people?

 

I am here to tell you I have done some terrible things in life, I write about them all the time, I lied, I was into drugs and alcohol, I had an abortion, I had an emotional affair during my marriage, I got divorced,

I am far from the “Perfect Christian”

 

So don’t disqualify yourself from your blessings, God didn’t disqualify you, so why are you doing it?

 

Did it not say;

“He will throw it into the sea of forgiveness”

Or better yet “He who had no sin, cast the first stone”

I love that one!

 

It’s about redemption, it’s about reconciliation, it’s about returning to God with all of his grace and mercy.

 

Don’t worry about people talking about you, thoese whollier than God people, they were doing exactly what you did yet they condemn you, now that they are in church.They forget they were once standing in your place, don’t worry about the haters, the people that keep trying to hold you back, you need to forgive yourself and know God has already forgiven you. Remember God says..

 

“You don’t know the plans I have for you”

 

No matter what you have done…God still has plans for you…

 

So today my friends, remember to set yourself free.

Free yourself of your guilt! Free yourself of the pain!

No mater how many times you may have been knocked down, no matter how you’ve tried to finish the race and got tripped up, you can do this, do not disqualify yourself, do not give up…

Let finish this together, you are not disqualified, you can and will do this…there is a plan for your life and itisthisclose… don’t stop now.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

My new book The blessing in Disguise

Selling on my website:

 

Www.treadmilltreats.com

 

And on Amazon.com

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