Beyonce and Jay-Z she put it out there

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Beyonce and Jay-Z, she put it out there.

 

Everyone is talking about the Beyonce video special Lemonade and there seems to be two camps out there. One says good for you for calling him and his side ho out, the other says why do you have to call them out, it should be done privately.

 

If you read my blog you know which side I fall with,

l am the Taylor Swift of writing, sorry I feel big emotions, I am creative, I need to express my feelings, for me its writing for Taylor and Beyonce, it’s singing but one way or another its coming out.

 

My outlook on this is one my old best friend use to say “If they haven’t done anything shitty, then they have nothing to worry about” my sentiments exactly.

 

Your my husband, my boyfriend, the one who is supposed to have my heart and you, instead of coming to me and trying to work out whatever isn’t working for you in our relationship, instead you go out and cheat.

 

There is no NOT calling you out and there is definitely no NOT calling out your side ho either. She knew you were married yet she chose to break up a marriage, a family for a quick lay or to try to get into the wifes spot. Either way its sleazy and you both deserve to get called out.

 

I am so not perfect but the one thing I would never do is mess with a married man, first of all your stupid to think he’s ever going to leave his wife and family, second where is your morals, think about how you would feel if that was your husband, your children’s father? How can you think it’s okay?

 

Dont get me wrong I definitely am not just blaming the side ho, I am blaming the man as well. Your not a man, your a coward, if your not “happy” fix it or get out, don’t destroy a family for your 15 minutes of cheap pleasure, to make yourself “happy” or more manly.

 

Beyonce is a better women than me because she took him back, that would never happen with me.

 

I am a one and done chick, you cheat once were done, period, end of discussion, smack you in the head with your phone, throw you to the curb with your stuff on the lawn at 2 am with no money and no car and no coming back, kind of girl….oh wait that was a flash back of Mr.Con Artist.

 

Yes, I am a ride or die kind of girl, I stand by my man, I got your back but do that to me….nah…we’re done.

 

Maybe they can make it work, maybe she might be able to trust him again, maybe he’ll be able to keep it in his pants, one thing is for sure she got some big one’s to call him out in public, to call the side ho out and then to take him back….got to give the girl credit….big ones to do it all while the world is watching and taking sides.

 

So today my friends remember if you play, you pay, there is always consequences for your actions. Dont think that someone is not going to call you out for your wrong doing…my advice dont do anything wrong and you dont have anything to be worried about.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Its all about the chemistry

Hump day Treadmill Treats

 

Its all about the chemistry

 

It’s funny, how sometimes you look at a couple and you think how did that happen?

Beyonce and Jay-Z,  some people ask what the hell does she see in him? Angela Joelle and Billy Bob really? She’s the most beautiful woman on earth she could have her pick of any handsome man?

Heidi Klum and Seal? Wth?

 

I could go on and on with what we presume to be odd matches but what we don’t know is the chemistry that brought these people together.

 

Chemistry is an amazing thing, its a connecter, it makes logic get thrown out the window, it takes “types” and makes them a thing of the past. It will knock you for a loop and change your outlook on things you thought were your priorities.

 

But what we don’t get to see is how does that person treat the other person, is he always there for them? Does he let her be herself without judgment? Is he kind and romantic? Does he have a big heart and puts her first?

Chemistry can go along way to overcome alot of our pre conceived notions of what we are searching for.

If we let it, if we are not caught up with the “perfect person” Whatever that means…

 

I have lots of girlfriends that when we sit around looking at dating profiles they will go…nope, not, definitely not, nah, not happening and I always ask why.

Too tall, not tall enough, not good looking enough, too much of a pretty boy, too heavy, too skinny, doesnt make enough, not big enough job title, too young, too old, never been married, been married too many times….hundreds of reasons because they dont meet the certain criteria they have built up in their minds.

 

I remember when I first got divorced I didn’t care what a man did, how much he made or how tall he was (Ok, as long as I could wear heels and he was taller, than me, which you’d almost have to be a small person not to be taller than me! This was a huge issue with my ex husband, me wearing heels)

 

My list included must be caring, sweet, have a good heart. As long as you weren’t a liar, cheater, narcissistic, control freak we were good.

 

I want to find that “monkey love” as my cousin Carol calls it, where you can’t wait to see them, to touch them, to be in their arms, that just the thought of them brings you to a frenzy.

 

I wanted to see more into a mans heart and soul, I wanted more than good looks and a fancy title, I’ve  had the money and fancy life and I was misrable.

I want substance, a real man that isn’t afriad to show his feelings, to love me for me and to step up finally.

 

So today my friends, I am here to tell you that you never know what someone has with another person, that connection, that spark, that amazing chemistry that is undeniable, that will even make you forget all about your lists because its all about the chemistry.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Are you grown or what?

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Are you grown or what?

Are you grown or what? This is my question to a lot of my friends, I really don’t get it, especially when most of us are going into the second half of our lives.

The need to please is done for me, Yes, I was an addict and I definitely suffered from this disease but I  realized when I turned 40, I was done trying to make everyone else happy at my expense.

Yet ten years later, I still know people who are struggling with this disease. They are worried about what their parents are going to think or say, really? You can’t do this or that because your parents might get mad or disapprove? Your how old? Who pays your bills?

Look, I get they are your parents but this is your life and you only get one, you have to live it your way, with your mistakes and your failures, this is how you live and grow.

You worry about what the world sees, what people will think about you…what if…what would they think?

I lived that lie for 24 years, my ex was so worried about what the world thought, we had to be “on” and perfect all the time, it was exhausting.

Yes, we all make mistakes, we all fall down, we all at one time or another look stupid or do stupid things but this is how we learn from our mistakes, we are human, its okay to fail, it makes us stronger.

People ask me all the time, how do I put my whole life out here for the world to see? I am human, I am not perfect by any means, I want everyone to see themselves in me, when I fall, when I cry, when I am not so positive, when I don’t think I have the strength to go on because we all feel these things, I just have the guts to put it out there so that people realize they are not alone and that you can get through it.

You can’t please everyone, it is not possible, God knows I tried for years. You have to be happy inside with yourself,  you have to be the best “you” can be, you have to forgive yourself, your failures and learn from your mistakes.

Your parents lived their lives, its time to live yours, those neighbors your trying to impress, you have no idea what goes on behind their doors, that put together person that comes to church every Sunday,  has so many dark secrets and demons eating them up inside.

Your trying to please people and look and be a certain way yet none of us is perfect, and its killing you to keep this up, just as it was killing me.

So today my friends remember this life you have is not a dress rehearsal, its the real thing!

Get over your disease, cure yourself, set your self free,  its showtime people.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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You never know whats going to happen

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You never know whats going to happen….

 

You never know what is going to happen in this life, when your life will change, when you meet someone who will throw you a curve ball and who will change your life forever.

 

See we meet all kinds of people, some good, some not so good but its not all the time when you meet someone that takes the time to listen to you, that does special little things for you, like making sure you have water on a long drive or slippers in your size because the floor might be cold.

 

Someone who buys you flowers just because he wants to see you smile. Someone who will go out of the way to make sure you have the right coffee creamer or the certain kind of drink you drink.

 

That opens ups the door for you, makes you breakfast, talks to you on the phone for hours or surprises you with a tee shirt announcing your business because he is so proud of you and your accomplishments.

 

Someone who puts your needs above his own, who is willing not only to step up but step out of his box to be with you.

A man that hurts because of all the pain you had in your life and wants to protect you from any other pain.

 

One that is willing to try new things, that would drive 11 hours and wait in the cold for 5 more hours just to surprise you.

 

That would be willing to open up his heart even after being hurt because he cares that much for you.

 

That sees this as a second chance after 32 years and doesn’t want it to end the same way it did so many years ago when they were young and stupid.

 

When you find a man that makes your heart beat faster, that makes you excited to see his name come up on your caller Id, that sends you songs and texts telling you how much he misses you and you want to shout it out to the world maybe just maybe this could be something more than you first imagine.

 

You have known all the bad ones, all the ones who haven’t done half of this, you’ve dreamed of a man like this yet never thought they existed. You have learned to listen to your intuition, to know when it feels wrong and when it feels right….you feel it and it feels right…so right…

 

Are you willing to step out on faith? To have no idea how this will work but know if this is it, God will work it out for you?

 

So many questions, so little answers yet all you keep thinking of is, if you dont take a chance, will you be missing the best thing that ever happened your life?

 

So today my friends, I have no answers for you, I can only tell you to follow your heart, to live in the moment and enjoy each and every day like it was your last. To not be afraid to show love and receive love because without love life would not be worth living.

 

And to step out in faith because you never know what God has in store for you and what is going to happen.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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I’ve been good on my own…. right?


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I’ve been good on my own…right?

 

I have been single for a while, I am good on my own, I am fine with myself and the life I’ve made with my girls and my friends, family and church.

 

I got this…I didnt need a man, besides look at my previous choices, I didnt do to well there, did I? I was hurt to many times so how could I trust, why would I want to open myself up to that hurt again.

 

I’ve picked man after man who wouldn’t step up, who lied and cheated, who put me down and wanted me to be someone I was not.

 

No, I have lousy picker, I get that and because of that I have been afraid to pick, so its been easier just to stay single.

 

Yet, I speak to you all the time about happily ever afters, about stepping out, about overcoming your fears, about how love is the only thing that is worth living for.

 

Yes, sometimes its do as I say not what I do but I know that I never wanted to live my life alone, I have a big heart and lots of love to give. I loved being a wife, I  am a one man women, a do or die girl, I have your back and want the person I love to always feel special and loved. I have all of this stuck inside of me, wanting love yet afraid to open up and let someone in.

 

See sometimes your going along with your life, not expecting anything when life changes. When one day your friends and the next something shifts, when it all changes.

 

It’s not until someone comes along and throws a curve ball into your life, that you start to wonder, that your heart starts to stir again.You fight it, you argue with yourself, you refuse to see it or believe it.

 

Your can’t go there…can you?

No! Your good, your friends, you got a wrong picker remember?

 

Yet somehow these feelings are coming at you, you push them away, you scream in your head this can’t be happening!

 

Your heart is saying other things you don’t want to listen to.

You stick your fingers in your ears and yell at yourself like a 5 year old…

“Bad picker, bad picker, bad picker”

 

You go over all the hurt, you list all the pain. You give yourself all the reasons this is a bad idea and still something wont shut up in your heart.

 

But you know yourself, you bolt when someone opens up their feelings to you, this has always been your MO.

You stay and run after the ones who cant and wont step up…easier that way.

No, the ones who are there you run from….

 

All the arguing in the world wont erase the fact that this man, this friend has awakened something in you, you thought was dead.

The scariest part will have to be decided….will you choose to open up and give a friendship that could  possibly lead into a beautiful relationship a chance?

Or will you run, holding on to your heart so it wont be hurt again?

 

So many emotions, so many feelings, so many decisions….

 

So today my friends, I can only tell you to do whats in your heart, follow your gut, your intuition. And know that sometimes the curve ball life throws you can be a game changing thing, but you have to be willing to be in the game to play.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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My hometown always, Nyc

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My hometown always, Ny

 

Last week I went home and these are my blogs from there, hope you enjoy.

 

I am blessed again to be able to come back home and spend time with my friend who took me on the cruise and met me in North Carolina. There is nothing and no where like home.

 

Being home brings back so many great memories for me growing up in the best of both worlds, in the mountains of upstate and yet close enough to New York city to always get some action.

 

I was lucky enough to ride dirt bikes, shoot guns, fish and hike the mountains ending up at incredible waterfalls and lakes. The cool breeze at night, the stars, the fireflys, camp fires, keg parties and knowing everyones name…

Growing up in the country gave me an amazing adventurous childhood.

 

Growing up with a mom and dad that were true New Yorkers gave me the best of both worlds, they taught me to appreciate the ballet, Broadway shows, the fast  pace, the lights, the action, the shopping and of course the acceptance of different people, cultures and food.

 

I thought I wanted the fast pace, big lifestyle. I wanted the fancy house, the big vacations, the designer clothes, I didnt want to be a “redneck county girl”

But as I got older I realized all that wasnt better, shinier doesnt mean substance, all that glitters isn’t gold.

 

I learned to appreciate the small things, the things that didnt cost, the real value of Gods beauty. Real people, with real hearts that care about who you truly are and not what you have or the title you have behind your name.

 

I learned that I missed the mountains and the slow pace of country living, I  missed people knowing my name and I  missed who I truly was all those years ago.

 

So I am back here today and I appreciate what I have and what it took to get me to this point of my life.

How I had to go through things, to grow and change. How I had to let go of pre conceived notions of what I thought  life was “supposed to look like”

To know that this is what life is, a series of ups and downs, lessons and heartbreaks and maybe…just maybe finding love in the unlikeliest places.

 

So today my friends, remember you might have a idea of what and where your suppose to go in life but if your open to change, amazing things can and will happen to you, just look at me.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Who are you looking up to ?

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Who are you looking up to?

 

I can’t understand today’s society, who we worship, who we put up on pedestals, who we call roll models because they are simply famous for being famous and nothing else.

 

Years ago role models actually did something to earn that title, today you just need a sex video and wow, your famous and a role model!

 

Are you frigging joking? Is this what today’s society is measuring a persons worth? By how big their gold chains are? By how many famous people you slept with? By being a complete moron on a reality show? We are definitely in trouble here.

 

We worry how big Kim Kardashians ass is…hell my spell check even knew how to spell her name because I sure the hell didn’t, really?

 

We are glued to the television watching which useless housewife of we don’t give a shit where, scream, curse and pull each others weaves off.

 

Kanye West (and even his dumb ass came up on my spell check too, wtf?)

Thinks and actually says he is Jesus, God, above everyone else and we still don’t say anything but keep buying his albums and making him richer and his head bigger.

People are so stupid today they even made a Fund me account to give him money…have you lost your minds?

 

When was the last time either one of them feed the homeless, build houses for hurricane victims like Brad Pitt, had a real cause that actually meant something to another human being?

 

No, they only care about themselves and their “fame”

We are here for a reason, we are here for olny a short time, so tell me what do you want your legacy to be?

 

Do you want to build schools in Africa to help girls rise above poverty like Oprah? Or have a coffee table book of selfies of your big ass?

 

Do you want to promote peace and love or make videos showing women as bitches, worthless and demeaned.

 

Do you want to feed the homeless and hungry children or walk around with your toddler in a outfit  that could feed a family of five for a month?

 

Don’t get me wrong if you work hard you deserve nice things but when your whole world becomes about getting stuff, about me, me me and you believe the world revolves around you, you are sadly mistaken.

 

I get people get caught up in that, I grew up poor, really poor, I dreamed about the big house that was actually done inside, without tools, 2x4s and nails all over. I wanted the fancy cars not the 20 year old cluckers we always had, I wanted the fancy vacations, we went on time share presentations for the food and free gifts.

I wanted nice clothes, designer bags, as I watched my mom with the same brown dress and broken pocketbook for years on end.

 

Yes, I wanted that life and I got it at a very high cost…my soul, I sold my soul to get these “things” and you know what?

I wasn’t happy, I was misrable, I cried myself to sleep every night, all of this stuff that I dreamed of for so long meant nothing.

 

It wasn’t until I started volunteering my time, until I realized it wasn’t about me, it was about being a blessing to others, that it’s about giving back and how you treat others that is the most important thing.

 

This is why we are here, having money and fame is great if your using it to help others, if your a voice to a cause, if you want to make this world a better place but if not, your missing the bigger picture and I for one feel sorry for you.

 

So today my friends remember what we are truly here for, to love one another, to be a blessing to others and to leave a legacy of goodness and kindness, to make this world a little better than it was before we arrived.

Only then should someone look up to you.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Which table are your eating from?

Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

Which table are you eating from?

 

In life its all the about the choices you make, you make, see it’s all up to you.

 

There are two tables in this life set before you, one is life and prosperity

And the other is death and destruction.

 

Will you choose what is already given to you? What God has for you? Or will you chose to sit at a table with leftovers?

 

People today have it all wrong, they think that its all about the money, the fame, the stuff they can buy and show off but the blessed life is someone living under the favor of God.

It doesn’t mean your rich, it means your rich with all you have, whatever that may be, your grateful, your stressed free, your fill of joy and peace, you are truly in God’s favor, that makes you rich.

 

Being in God’s favor doesn’t mean you will never have struggles, no you will but you will know that no matter what you go through, you will get through it because you have God’s favor.

 

“God is able to bless you in all things…

So that in all things, at all times so that you will unbound in good works”

 

We are all going somewhere and God will place us in environments that we need to go but yet we sometimes pick the wrong table, we choose to sit at the table with the leftovers.

 

Ask yourself what do you allow people to speak into your life? Who do you hang out with? Where are they going? What life are they living?

Are you feeding your life with trash? Lies, drama, people dumping on you…

What are you letting in your life? Left overs, garbage?

 

It’s all up to you, you get to choose!

Sit at the right table!

You dont have to take left overs ot let people dump their trash on you, upgrade yourself and say I am a first class citizen.

 

Quit worry about how your going to pay your bills, quit worrying about when its going to happen, don’t worry that your dream is too big, quit stressing over things you cant change.

 

Its all up to you, you get to choose!

Sit at the right table!

 

Are you sitting in an evorment that is filled with blessings or one that has leftovers?

God never never promised you leftovers, he promised you blessings.

If you want to keep sitting at the table with leftovers going over the mess you made of your life or do you want to sit at the table with the king, filled with blessings he has for you?

Which one?

 

What is that environment  feeding you? Why are you there? Your never going to experience God if your with people who question him or are negative.

They think by the worlds ways, that more money you have, the happier you are, the more famous you are the more your “worth” is.

 

When God said I got another plan for you, I will supply your every need, he is not one to lie.

Watch God multiple and increase in your life.

Sitting at the right place, being in the right environmen and letting God work things out… “The lord is my Shepard I lack nothing….

Ye though I walk through the valley of death I  will fear no evil”

God gives you a peace that lets know you are okay, that its going to be okay as long as you believe he has your heart in his hands.

 

Even though the haters may want to keep you at the table with leftovers, God has more for you. You have to choose which table you are sitting at.

 

So today my friends, remember its all about choices in today’s life, you get to chose what you believe, you get to chose to change your life, you get to chose which table you want to sit at….choose wisely.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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My new book The blessing in Disguise

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The power of forgiveness

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The power of forgiveness

 

This week I have been writing alot about forgiveness so I figured I  might as well end the week with one more.

 

Yesterday while I was talking to my cousin on the phone, she mentioned my blog about my best friend I wrote the other day (Yeah, I knew that was coming)

She wanted to know why I was letting her off the “hook” after all the crappie things she did to me? Why would I forgive her? Now in her eyes she off the hook, she doesn’t have to take responsibility for robbing me and all the other hurt she caused me.

 

My cousin was pissed, she is one of the few people in my life I can count on to have my back, so I knew she was saying this because she was coming from this place of love and concern for me and I am grateful for her and all of her concerns.

 

I told her it wasn’t about my best friend, it was for me, but she wasn’t haven’t any of it. “No, she doesnt get a free pass and you don’t have to apologize for writing about the hurt she caused you or for the fact none of your other “so called” friends that didn’t take a stand for what was obviously right and what she did, which was obviously wrong, yet none of them had the balls to back you or were even there for you in your time of need”

Oh, she was on a roll now and rightfully so but I am over all of it and tried again to explain my stand on this.

 

I told her about the time I was driving my new Mustang, the tee tops were off (Yes, this was the 80’s) the music was blasting, it was a beautiful spring day and I was truly happy until the moment I saw the man who raped me, my whole demeanor changed I became angry, I had such hatred in my heart, my body changed too, I was tense, my hands gripped the wheel like I was strangling him, everything changed in that one second.

All I wanted to do was jump the curb and run him and his sickening smiling face over and back up and run him over again!

 

He was walking out of a store with someone, he was laughing, not a care in the world, he obviously wasn’t thinking of me or the fact that I hated him or even cared if I hated him. No, he was living his life.

 

The only person this was effecting was me, he was ruining my life over and over again because I was letting him.

At that moment I knew I had to do something this was going on for 5 years, all this anger, resentment, hatred, it was eating ME alive, not him. I had to let it go or I was never going to move on with my life.

 

That day changed my life, I sat down and wrote him a six page letter. I poured my heart out, about how could he do this, he knew me, he knew I had just lost my dad, he took away my virginity, which he knew I was saving for my high school sweetheart, I spoke about the horrible abortion I had to go through, about all the hatred I felt for all these years. I spoke of my drug and alcohol addiction that this had caused me and the fact that I couldn’t trust anymore, this one event changed my whole life and it was all his fault.

 

Yes, I let it all go and when I was done I told him I forgave he, it didn’t make what he did to me okay, that was for him to live with, this was for me because I couldn’t love again until I let go of the hate and so I forgave him and I took back my life.

 

I never sent this letter this was for me as well, to put all my feelings in writing to see them and then let them go. I burnt the letter in a fire afterwards and just the the Phoenix I was reborn. (Maybe another reason I so wanted to walk on fire years later)

 

I know me and my cousin would never see eye to eye on this subject and its okay, we all have different opinions, we all believe in different things, that’s what makes the world go around.

 

I am grateful for her and the fact that she will always tell me like it is and that she always has my back and truly loves me.

 

I am happy with my decision and I am again at peace inside of me, wether or not she feels like she got off the hook, wether or not others walked away because I spoke out or didn’t come to my defense doesn’t matter, see God sometimes closes doors that need to be closed for your own good, not everyone gets to come for the whole ride. Its not about all of them, its about me and my life, always has been, always will be.

 

So today my friends, remember this is your life don’t go around with anger and hatred in your heart, let it go. Learn the lessons you are supposed to learn, forgive and then reval in the power of forgiveness.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Thanks for all the pain

Thursday Treadmill Treats

 

Thank you for all the pain

 

Yesterday I wrote about forgiving my best friend, today I would like to give thanks to everyone else who caused me pain because they have all taught me valuable lessons I needed to learn, like it or not.

 

See I give thanks for everything in my life, I tell you every day that I live in a state of gratitude even after all I’ve been through, I still give thanks.

There are so many days that I cry because I am so grateful for all of my life.

 

I would not change one thing in my life, not one.. for everything I’ve been through taught me a lesson and made me who I am today.

 

It’s because of all of these things that I am in this state of gratitude. Its because I lost so many loved ones that I always appreciate and let my loved ones know how much I love them while they are here.

 

It’s because of my drug and alcohol addiction, when I hit rock bottom that I learned to trust God for his help to clean me up.

 

I am grateful to my rapist, for because of him I’ve learned to truly forgive a person.

 

I am grateful for the men in my life that didnt step up because when God gives me the right one I will know a good man.

 

It’s because of Mr. Con Artist that I taught my daughters a lesson of how to not put up with a lying, cheating man.

 

It’s because I was in a verbally abusive marriage for so many years that I know my worth now and I know what I won’t put up with.

 

It’s because of friends who hurt me amd let me down that I’ve learned not everyone is here for the whole ride and who my real friends are.

 

It’s because of my girls that I’ve learned that even your own kids can be cruel to you and yet you still will put down your life for them.

 

Its because of all of my failures that I’ve learned to never give up, to keep getting up no matter how many times life knocks you down.

 

I am grateful to my grandmother for being such  a mean, negative person because I learned I never wanted to be like her.

 

I am grateful for my mom and dads (yes, both, my real and stepfather) for teaching me the value of hardwork and that a girl can do anything a boy can do.

That money doesn’t buy happiness, a lesson I didn’t realize for a long time.

 

Its because of all the pain and hurt I have endured that made me into a strong, determined women.

 

It is because of God that I realized that I am blessed and that I can count on him for my every need, that I  must look for the lessons in my pain, that I must forgive and love, even my enemies no matter how hard it is.

 

That I am grateful for all the pain for I would have never known how blessed I am now, that all of these people and all of these events made me live in this sense of gratitude each and every day because I know where I’ve been and what I’ve been through.

 

I am so glad I am here, wiser, stronger, smarter…able to hopefully help others see that they will get through their tough times, that there is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, that you can change and you can do anything you set your mind to!

 

So today my friends, remember not everything that happens to you is bad,  don’t look at it as poor me, why me, don’t look at all of these things and these people that did you wrong. No, look at it as what is the lesson, look at what I do have, look how I am blessed in other areas in my life. Ask yourself how can I change?

Overcome and be better for it.

It’s all up to you either you can say look at all the pain you caused me or you can say thank you for the pain.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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