Hump day Treadmill Treats
Can men and women just be friends?
Yesterday I wrote about why I am so competitive, it was because I grew up with boys, I always had guy friends.
People have a preconceived notion about men and women being friends, that it can not be, even way, way back when I was in high school (Hey no comments from the peanut gallery about how far back that was!)
People assumed I was sleeping with all of my guy friends, when that was the farthest from the truth.
I had not even kissed them not even while playing spin the bottle (Okay I know I am digging deep here, for those of you too young, Google that one too)
These guys were like my brothers, I never felt anything for them, just what you would feel towards your annoying little brother.
As I got older and people’s minds got narrower (if that is even possible) People definitely believed I had to be sleeping with them, how could it be possible to have a male friend and not have any sexual things going on? No, that can’t be.
Again I have always been more comfortable with guys, for me it was natural. I had one girlfriend throughout the years and my cousin who didn’t count cause she was like my little sister and at least 10 guy friends.
When I got married, my ex was very insecure and made me pick between him and my guy friends, being young and dumb and in love, I picked him and mourned my friendships for years, it was as if I cut out my own family.
Towards the end of the marriage I started to reconnect with these friends again and luckily for me, they forgave me.
I have been friends with some of them since I was 6 years old, my very best friend I met when I was 12 and we are still best friends till this day, we visit as often as we can and call each other a few times a week. Another one, that I’ve been friends with since we were 12, took off a week to fly down here and help me fix my new house working 6 days straight to help me out.These are true friends.
I can call on them day or night, we are always there for each other, I can count on them and there is never any drama, imagine that?
I even joke about my church husband, who’s been there for me through some of my worst times, and yes, I’ve called him at 3 am crying my eyes out. I love him dearly and that yes, all of church thinks we are a real couple (Yes, even church people can’t handle men and women being friends)
But of all the lessons I’ve learned, one of the biggest is that if you are lucky enough to have friends that truly have your back, you are blessed and no matter what anyone says, it doesn’t matter, what they believe.
So today my friends remember do what feels right to you, don’t worry about what others will say, this is your life, you get to choose how to live it and who you want to share it with.
So the answer to the question, can men and women just be friends?
They can be anything you choose it to be…just be happy with yourself and your choices.
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