Writing in spite of the haters

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Writing in spite of the haters

 

People ask me all the time why do I write? It’s something I have to do, its my God given gift, its like breathing to me.

 

I’ve been writing since I was a child, it comforted me when I was sad, it made me grateful when I was happy, it gave an outlet to my anger and it was always there for me.

 

I was a only child and was alone a lot, this make believe world I wrote about made me feel less lonely.

I could write about a big family, I could write about having siblings, traveling around the world, in this world I wasn’t poor, I wasn’t hurting, I could do or be anything I chose to be.

 

I write now for all of these reasons but the most important reason I write today is because I want to inspire others.

To let them know, that you can overcome anything if you believe. I write about what I am passionate about whether it be my beliefs, my family or my friends.

 

I write good or bad, like me or hate me, believe it or not, I am still writing because I write from my heart.

 

People always are worried that I am talking about them, to be honest, I get my stories in all kind of ways.

 

I meet a lot of people as I am always dealing with clients and I hear lots of stories, these are what and who I write about, their stories, good or bad, inspire me to write.

 

As do my own life experiences, I know that I have helped others with my words, I get messages and emails all the time telling me that.

I am so honored that they first, took the time to read my words and second that I may have been a small part in helping them.

 

Yes, I know, some days there are the haters, who don’t like the truth and will come after me and that’s okay, I put myself out there, the good, the bad and the ugly for the world to see and judge, so I get it.

 

People are afraid of the power of the pen, they are afraid of the seeing themselves in my truth, they could never let the world see what’s really inside of them, the hurt, the pain, the failures, so it scares them that I could put my truth out there, it hits to close to home for them.

 

They rather I shut up, put my skeletons back in the closet, never speak of this again, because of that fear.

 

I get that people will condemn me, speak ill of me or say things to make me look bad but I have chose to do this,

(Okay, God chose for me to do this )

 

I have thick skin now, especially after 24 years in a verbally abusive marriage by someone who was suppose to love you, saying hateful things to you daily.

Having a stranger say it to me now is nothing!

 

I will forever write against injustice in my family or against the world, I will continue to have the backs of the people I love and I will call out the people who come against them.

 

If I am anything, I am loyal and I will be your biggest cheerleader, I will fight your battles and be your voice when you can no longer speak for your self.

 

I will continue to be here and speak what my heart tells me to until I take my last breath, this is who I am.

 

So today my friends, I will continue to use this gift, each and every day, sorry haters, because in the end it matters little of what people here have to say, it only matters that one day I hear his voice and it says “Well done my child, well done”

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Tony Robbins documentary

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Tony Robbins documentary

 

I love Netflix, since they came on to the scene they have constantly put shows out there that are quirky, thought provoking, funny and drama filled. I like so many of you out there even decided to tell the cable companies to take a hike along with their upwards towards 200.00 a month fees!

 

So Netflix has been our source for watching TV and I am so glad that I chose them especially when I saw that they did a documentary with the great Tony Robbins that will be coming out soon.

 

Yes, if you read my blog you will know Tony Robbins is my hero, he is my inspiration, I inspire to be just like him.

 

So your thinking why because he’s rich and famous?

No, not that, that’s nice don’t get me wrong but its because he loves what he does, its his passion, his purpose, he loves to help others.

 

You can see it if you ever watch his videos, or if you see him in person, he has that passion for life and for helping others find their passion and purpose.

 

There’s no faking that, it’s either you got it or don’t. He’s had “it” for the last 30 years, he’s the top “Motivational speaker” of all times. Don’t let him hear me call him that he hates that title. He’s about changing lives, he’s about teaching you how to change your life.

 

He has a hell of a story, growing up overweight, with a father who left when he was a boy, to hitting rock bottom, no car, getting evicted from his apartment, no job, no money, out of shape and unhappy. It was then when he had hit the bottom, that he made a decision to change his life.

 

He started to run, he changed his lifestyle, he made a game plan to learn from the masters out there that came before him, he read, he took classes, he taught himself what they knew, to make them wealthy and successful.

 

Then he put his spin on it because he wanted to help others and so at 19 he was an informmerical king.

He went on to start his own companies, then to travel and speak all over the world. Hell, He owns a island in Fiji!

 

He started a foundation to feed the hungry in this country. He has become the guru to the stars, presidents, top athletes and so many famous people who had had public meltdowns. He gets a million dollars for a one day private session with him.

Yes, he has come along way from the bottom.

 

He has this way to ask you the hard questions about yourself, he gets you to dig deep and then tell a complete stranger. He gets you to look at your life in a different way, he doesn’t pull punches or speak sweetly, no that’s not him, he’s in your face, he loud, he’s large and in charge, he curses, he real and he’s passionate about what he does and it shows.

 

Yes, I have seen him 4 times in person, I read his books, bought his videos, he is who I want to be like,

I want to inspire others,

I am here day after day telling you its your choice, you can do anything you chose to do, I am like him, as I don’t pull punches or sugar coat anything. And I will continue to watch and learn from him because to become better you have to never stop learning.

 

Has it been hard? Will be hard? Yes, but nothing worth anything is easy! It will suck at times, you will want to give up, you will be asking, “When will I ever get there? Maybe this dream is too big, maybe this is crazy”

 

It’s okay, I’ve been there, I still go there every once in a while but I hold on to my faith, to my dreams and I believe with all of my heart and soul that one day I will be there, on a stage like him, I will be inspiring thousands, hundred of thousands of people.

 

I hope my words will touch someone, will give them hope, when they look at my life, when they see what I have overcame, that they will say “If she did it, I can do it”

To hold on for one more day, to help change their lives even if fear has gripped their lives for so long.

I want people who’ve been hurt to know they can forgive and let go, I want single moms, women in abused marriages or relationships to know life is so incredible on your terms. It’s your choice! You get to chose!

 

I want to inspire, I want to be that person and I want to do it with the style, class and compassion that Tony Robbins has.

So today my friends I invite you to watch this documentary coming out in July on Netflix about my hero, my soon to be one day mentor, Tony Robbins, let his story inspire your life.

Remember nothing is impossible if you believe!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Commitment to your faith journey


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Commitment to your faith journey

 

We all have our own walk with faith, we all have our own paths we have to go down, we all learn at different levels, at different times.

( I am slow and hard headed, hey it is what it is)

 

But we are all trying to get what we need out of our faith, we are all trying to be better, do better, have a peace and joy in our lives from a higher being.

It doesn’t matter if its Jesus, Buddha, Islam, Judaism, its from a higher power that we can’t see but we trust. 

 

To be faithful we have to remember who was there for us, to be grateful for what he has brought us through…

We have to remember when the enemy was after you, who protected you? Who brought you through those times? Who did you call out to when you were hurt? When you were lost and broken? 

 

You were batteling so many issues inside yourself, you were a mess but God got you through.

 

I know that the olny reason I am still standing is because of the grace of God, no other reason.

My blessings are gifts from God, because of his grace and mercy, even though I’ve screwed up, even when I forsaken him, even when I didn’t deserve another chance, he gave me one.

 

God will reward you if you are faithful, if you believe and when you are committed. One of my favorite bible verses is:

 

“I have fought a good fight,

I have finished the race and I remained faithful…”

 

I want to know that I did well, I want to stand in front of him and hear him say “Well done, my child, well done”

This is why I do what I do, this is why I am committed.

 

Are you fully committed? Because its says “May your hearts be fully committed”

Not half way, not sometimes, no, fully committed.

 

“Commit to the lord everything you do and he will establish your plans”

 

“You must love God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind with all your strength, that is the commitment” 

 

Yes, its hard to do that, life gets into the way, kids, spouses, jobs, bills. Sometimes you fall off course, too tired to go to church, rather be at the beach, cant help another out, I got my own problems, how can I believe when all these bad things are happening to me.

 

I get that, but what’s important to you? To know he has your back, no matter what? To know that it will be okay and your not going to stress? That you have peace in your life? That he has bigger plans than you could ever dream for yourself.

“Eyes have not seen, ears have not heard all that he has for you”

 

There are times that I think of God and what he has done for me and it makes me cry, every morning I wake up with my mouth full of gratefulness, every evening as I lay down before I go to sleep I have a mouth full of gratefulness.

 

Through out the day, when I see the sky, the beach, when I come home to my house, when I think about how unhappy I use to be, I am grateful and I know I am fully committed to this, to him, to trying no matter how many times I may fall short, I will keep trying to please him, keep telling him of my gratitude, keep praising his name.

 

I am fully committed to him, because I know how it was before, I’ve been at the bottom, I know what it is like to cry yourself to sleep night after night, to hate your life and yourself. I know hopelessness, sadness and emptiness and I never want to go back so I will stay committed.

 

So today my friends remember it’s up to you, you can chose to be committed or you can chose to do this on your own, its up to you but if your going to do something no matter what it is, be committed, do it with your whole heart, be full present in whatever it may be,

 it’s then you get the biggest reward, its then you know what its like to see the difference change can make…make a change.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

  

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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I’m ashamed that Christians did this

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I am ashamed that Christians did this…

 

Last week after the shootings in Orlando,

I wrote a week long series of love, kindness and tolerance.

Hoping to try to make sense out of these senseless hate killings.

 

I thought I was done but I can not sit by and not comment on what happened a few days ago at the funeral of these victims.

 

It was sickening and the cruelest thing one “human being” could possibly do to another, in their time of grief.

 

I am hurt that people who say they are “Christians” who say they love one another, could come out and hold signs that say

“This is what you get, God is your enemy” Signs that say “Die Fag…Gays should die”

 

You are not Christian, you should be ashamed to call yourself Christian, how dare you cast the first stone, are you without sin? Are you that perfect? Have you have no heart?

That at the funeral of these senseless victims, you could actually be out there “preaching” hate.

 

You are not Christian, you are no better than the murderer who did this, you wonder why people are so again Christian’s and the church, really??

 

Look at your behavior who would want to be in a church, a religion which promotes hate, hell you might as well have wore a white sheet!

 

You are no better than the KKK, you are no better than the terrorists, you are no better than the radicals out there, except you carry a bible so you think it makes you holy, beyond reach.

No it makes you a hypocrite, it makes you a hate mongol just like the rest of them.

 

I am all for freedom of religion, I tell you all the time, believe in whatever gets you through your day, but for you to promote hate, for you to have no compassion for the mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers, families and friends who lost someone, who are grieving and hurting.

 

For you to go there, make signs, spew your hatred in their faces, you should be ashamed of yourselves to even call that Christianity.

 

Where does it say in the bible, hate one another? Where does it say, you are perfect, without sin? Where does it say have no compassion for another human being?

 

Tell us please… lets get Christian here, oh Yes, I am going there….Did Jesus throw the first stone? Did he throw out his apostles for being thief’s and murders yet he knew what they were? Did Jesus preach hate?

 

No, bible thumpers, he didn’t! He preached love, kindness, compassion and tolerance, something you have clearly missed while trying to shove your bible down others throats, you missed that part or have decided to purposely leave that part out while you stand above others and give out YOUR judgment.

 

So today my friends, again I am asking you to pass this message on to everyone you know, let them know not all “Christians” feel this way, not all “Christians” are full of hate and condemnation.

 

Some of us actually believe in love, kindness, compassion and tolerance for one another, no matter what they believe in, what lifestyle they choose, what color they are, what religion they believe in, some of us just believe that love conquers all, that love will overcome hate, that love is the answer.

 

Pass the message of love around today…

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Who are you to pass judgment?

Who are you to pass judgment?

 

After this horrible week, of the Orlando shootings and my week long series of Love, peace and tolerance,

I leave you with this finally blog.

 

I hope in some small way I might have written something this week that touched your heart and maybe changed or opened your mind to the fact that we are all the same and we should accept people for who they are.

That hatred and anger gets us no where but to pain and sorrow. Let these senseless killings not be in vain.

 

If you read my blog you know that I am a Christian,  this is for me and about me.

I am far from a bible beating, verse thumping Christian, I am not perfect nor will I ever be.

 

I am all for everyone having their own “Faith”, their own “Higher being” Whatever gets you through your day.

 

With that  being said I  see so many “Christians” throwing their bibles and condemning others for their choices and for things they surly didn’t choose for themselves.

 

A pastor even went so far to say this week, that it was good this happened, that thats what you get when you chose this lifestyle.

 

Yes, many people think being gay is choice…really? Who would chose to be hated? Who would chose to be degraded? Who would choose to be called names, shot at, spit on, treated like 2nd class citizens with no rights?

 

Who? I sure the hell wouldn’t chose that and they don’t chose it either, its not a choice for them, its who they are, who they were when they were born.

 

No, most of us want to fit in, be accepted, be liked, we don’t want people hating us. In this life, no one would willing choose this treatment.

 

Maybe growing up in New York, the melting pot, our minds were more open to diversity. Growing up my parents had Indian friends, Jewish friends, Black friends, gay friends, Transvestite friends oh, yeah our house was a trip during the holidays.

 

That gave me an open heart to everyone that maybe others didn’t experience growing up.

 

Two of my mother’s and I, closest friends were lesbians, they helped my parents out when I moved here and couldn’t be there to care for them. They were the most caring, loving, giving couple you could ever want to meet.

Our kids grew up together, my girls even called them their aunts, I would do anything for them.

 

One day when I dropped my girls at a girlfriends house to watch them as I went to work, I came home to find them hysterically crying, when I asked what was wrong they proceed to tell me that my girlfriend told them “Our aunts are going to burn in hell because they are gay”

 

My girls were about 6 and 8 at the time and they really thought their beloved aunts were going to burn in hell and this crushed them.

 

Well, I called my friend up and told her I get she is “Christian” and she obviously has her beliefs and could teach her kids, her “Christian ways” but how dare she teach or tell my girls that!

 

The God I believe in loves everyone, EVERYONE!

I don’t tell her what to believe, don’t dare tell me or my girls what to believe.

 

See this is the way these senseless killings keep happening, because people are so closed minded, they are so scared of anyone different, they have their whollier than thou attitude to everyone who doesn’t believe what they believe.

 

I am a Christian, I believe in loving one another, in acceptance, in forgiveness, in tolerance….

 

So today my friends remember it doesn’t matter what you believe, it only matters that we remember we are all the same, we are all humans trying to be the best we can be, sometimes we get it right, sometimes we don’t, but we are still all the same…. who are you to pass judgment?

 

My love and prayers go out to the family and friends of the victims of Orlando.

May we all pray for love and tolerance for the rest of the world.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Did you really just say that?


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Did you really just say that?

 

I am continuing my week long series on peace, love and torrance for the senseless killings in Orlando.

 

I go to a predominantly  black church and I remember after the shooting of Travon Martin, one of my friends said to me.

“Are you really going to church?”

Confused I asked “Why?”

“Well aren’t you afraid?”

“Afraid of what?” I asked.

“Afraid of getting killed?”

She actually asked with a straight face

 

I stood there with my mouth open, when I finally asked “Did you just really say that? That was the dumbest thing I ever heard!”

 

She thought because I am white, that someone in my church was going to kill me because they were angry about the senseless killing of this young man, as if I shot him.

 

People don’t think, people just say things that make you shake your head in wonder. (Sometimes your wondering if they have a brain.)

 

Do they really think people will hate a whole race for something one person did?

 

Yes, there are many ignorant people who do just this. After 911 they wanted to deport anyone who was Muslim, I know lots of Muslims who believe in peace and love, that hated the fact that someone was so full of hate, calling themselves a Muslim, could do this to so many innocent  people.

 

In the second world War they arrested anyone who was Japanese, born here or not. They put them into holding camps, jails even though they had nothing to do with the bombing on Pearl Harbor, even though some of them had never set foot in Japan, it didn’t matter they were all guilty by association.

 

Hitler made everyone hate the Jewish people, why? Who knows, he was sociopath, but he got hundreds of thousands of people to kill innocent families, made them live like less then animals for years.

 

Did we not learn from our mistakes? Yes, there are some people that have hatred for whatever reason, that are willing to kill others because they are not like them.

 

They are so full of hate and anger, they hate anyone who is different, they need no more reason than that.

They want you to believe in their sick cause, they want you to hate them as well, jump on their hateful bandwagon.

 

But not everyone is hateful, not everyone is filled with anger, not everyone believes there is all bad in a race or religion or sexual preference.

 

No, there are kind, loving, forgiving people in this world and they know that one person does not represent the whole.

We know that there are more good than evil in this world, we refuse to believe that one bad apple spoils a bunch.

 

No, I for one will not judge an entire race, an entire religion for the hatred one person displays, I will keep loving each peson for who they are in their hearts, in their souls. I will pray for these sick individuals that they and the others like them will let go of the hatred in their hearts, to see that we are all the same.

 

And I will pray for those who mouths work before their brains get a chance to shut them up so I won’t have to say anymore “Did you just really say that?”

 

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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In and out..were all the same

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In and out, we are all the same

 

This whole week I am dedicating my blog to the victims of the Orlando shootings…to talk about love, kindness and tolerance.

 

One of my favorite movies is, In and out.

It stars Kevin Klien,

Tom Selleck, Joan Cusack and Matt Dillion

 

In it, it features Kevin, who is a teacher and coach from a small town and who is about to marry Joan, when one of his former students wins a Oscar and thanks him for being gay. The whole town flipps out including Kevin, who then starts to question himself.

 

When Tom, who is a reporter, comes to town to cover the story, comes clean to Kevin, that he too is gay. This makes Kevin realize he’s living a lie and he comes out, on his wedding day, to his bride to be and the whole town.

 

This makes the whole town question him as a person, he loses his job as a teacher and coach, he loses his friends and the love of his students but he is free and is finally true to himself.

 

When Matt comes back into town, to try to help him get his job back and stands up for him to tell everyone how he helped him not only graduate but become this amazing actor.

The rest of the town starts to follow suit, realizing that he was always there for each and every one of them.

 

He was a great friend, an amazing teacher, a terrific coach, someone who is always willing to help out and lend a hand, that he has a big heart and is kind, they realize, all of this didn’t change because he changed his sexual preference, he still is the same person.

 

Yes, its a comedy but its the message and the way it is delivered, it touches your heart, we are all the same, we are all just trying to be ourselves, our unique, different, amazing selves because deep down, we are all so much alike.

 

We all want love, we all cry, we all laugh, we all feel pain and loss, we all known happiness and joy. We all want to fit in, we all want to embrace our differences.

 

We all are human no matter if you gay, straight, Trans gender, black, white, Christian, Muslim…we are all human, why can’t we get that? Why can’t we see the good in a person, see their hearts, their soul, not their color, their religion, their beliefs, their sexual preference?

 

There are good and bad in all of us, none of us are perfect, none of us have no sin, none of us can cast the first stone…

 

Why are so many people afraid of different? Why are so many people so closed minded? Why must you look at the differences and not the things that make us the same?

 

Why can’t we connect on a higher level? Why cant we just allow another person to truly be who they are?

 

I remember the day my best friend came out to me, he was scared, he told me he had to talk to me. We had known each other since we were 12, and I couldn’t imagine what it could be.

 

Then he told me he was gay, he explained that he always knew but tried to be what everyone else wanted him to be “normal” straight, a “real man” but it was killing him to live this lie and he didn’t want to do it one more day.

 

I was shocked, I had no idea, hell, he had girlfriends all his life.

“Does anyone else know”

I asked, he told me I was the last to know, “Why is that?” I asked being mad, really mad, that I was his best friend, shouldn’t I be the first to know?

 

His answer stunned me

“It was you I was most worried about, you who I cared the most of what you thought, that we would lose our friendship”

 

I told him that he was always there for me, he was my best friend through thick and thin, nothing changed except who he decides to be with and if that made him happy, if that made him who he truly was then I was happy for him, see because real friendship, real love means you want the other person to be happy at any cost.

 

Your willing to put away differences, you willing to see things through their eyes, your willing to do whatever to see that person happy.

 

This was his life and his choice and this didn’t change who he was, who he had always been, if this made my very best friend happy then it made me happy.

 

We are still best friends to this day, he is an amazing man and I am truly blessed to have him in my life.

I can’t imagine what I would have missed out if I was closed minded and threw away his friendship all those years ago.

 

So today my friends remember, just because a person is gay doesn’t change who they were before, look at their heart, look at their soul, we are all the same, we all want love and someone who loves and except us for who we truly are because in and out, we are the same.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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A reason to bring us together

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A reason to bring us together

 

After this terrible tragedy that shook us this weekend, I wanted to take this week to write about love, compassion and tolerance for people who aren’t like you, for your brothers and sisters in the human race.

 

I want to try to make sense out of this senseless crime, I want to still believe that we are all good, that there are still good people in this world, that maybe just maybe we can forgot about being gay, being straight, being black, being Latino and just remember we are all human.

 

I want us to remember it was someone’s son, someone’s daughter, someone’s loved one who’s life was cut down by someone’s elses intolerance.

 

Its amazing that even though we are different, we are truly the same inside as I wrote about yesterday.

 

Maybe it took this tragedy to open our eyes, maybe such a senseless loss of lives made us realize we are more alike than different.

 

That a life is a life, not a black life, a white life, a gay life, a straight life…it is a life and no body should be able to kill someone because of their differences. We are all human beings, we all all the same underneath.

 

That is what made this country so great, that people ran, they swam, they risked their lives to come here, to give their families a better life, in a country that gave them freedom. Freedom of speech, freedom of religious prosecution, freedom to do or be anything you choose to be, if you worked hard enough.

 

The diversity of each culture, the food, the customs they brought with them, they made this country unique, we were all here for a better life, we embraced our differences.

 

Maybe I have such a open mind because I grew up in the melting pot of the world, New York where every immigrant had to come, from every country to get into the United States.

 

I grew up around Italians, Jewish, Indian, Irish, Iranians, Polish, you name it, we had the world’s melting pot and it was all good.

 

I ate all kinds of different foods, learned different cultures, I was amazed at the things they did, things we never heard of, these shared things brought us closer, our differences made us learn about them and them about us.

 

This created a bond of friendship because we took the time to learn about them, we took the time to learn who they truly were in their hearts, in their souls.

 

But somehow we lost this,  its all of a sudden “our country” and “we” don’t want outsiders in anymore.

 

Hello! We are all the “outsiders” all of us, our grandparents or great grandparents weren’t from here, they wanted to be here so bad, so they risked everything, started over with nothing just to be here. So you and your privileged self can have everything you have.

 

We no longer know about hard work, helping another human being out, about compassion, no its a all about me world now, no wonder no one is so fast to come here anymore, its not about the great speech for the Staute of Liberty

 

“Give me your tired, your poor,

Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,

The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.

Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed, to me:

I lift my lamp beside the golden door”

Emma Lazarus

 

So today my friends, we need to remember these words… we need to open our doors, our hearts, once again and remember we are one, we are humans, we live and breathe, we cry, we pain, we laugh, we feel joy and we have compassion…this is who we all are in our core…we are the same…

 

Let’s not let this tragedy be in vain….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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We are all family of the human race


Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

We all family of the human race

 

Black, white, Spanish, Indian, Catholic, Muslims, Jewish, Christian

 

Believe in God, believe in Allah, believe in nothing, Democrats or Republican, man or women, gay or straight…we are all human beings, we all belong to the same race, we are all family.

 

Even though we may be different, we might have different cultures, different customs, different languages, we are all still the same.

 

If we lose someone we love, do we not feel the pain of loss?

 

When we fall in love, do we not all feel as if our souls connected?

 

When we hold our child in our arms for the first time, do we not all feel the same immense joy?

 

When we are betrayed, does it not cut us all to the core?

 

When we laugh and enjoy our family, do we not all feel the same happiness?

 

When you cut us, do we not all bleed the same color?

 

When a mother loses a son, when a sibling loses a sibling, when a friend loses a friend, do we not all grieve the same? Do we not all cry out in pain?

 

We are all here for a limited amount of time, we’re not here to hate, to kill, to have such little tolerance for another human being.

 

We are here to learn, to help, to love each other in spite of our differences. We are here looking at someone who might look different, act different, believe different but we are looking in a mirror because under it all we are all the same.

 

We are all family of the human race and that should be enough reason for us to love each other.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Nothing changes when nothing changes

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Nothing changes when nothing changes

 

One of my best friends use to say this all the time and she is right, nothing changes when nothing changes.

 

You have to want to make a change in your life for something to happen, its not just going to happen on its own. If you read my blog you know that I’m a big believer in anybody can change, if you truly want to. You can change anything about your life, anything about who you are.

 

This must come from you, you can’t do it because someone else wants this for you or believe that someone else can do this for you. You also can’t want to do this for somebody else, to please someone else, because eventually you’re not pleasing yourself and you’ll go back to the way you were.

 

This must be about you and for you. Saying all of this there are some people who will never change because  that’s just who they are, that’s just who they choose to be.

Take my grandmother for instance, she was a mean bitter, negative woman all of her life. I can’t remember when she wasn’t like this. This is who she was, she hated men, she never had a nice word to say, she always criticize everything.

 

As a little child when I would do something wrong and she wouldn’t talk to me for days, she was horrible, I would try to talk to her, say I was sorry for something I had no idea, for what I had done.

 

Now she could have change if she wanted to,

I absolutely believe that,

yet she chose to be this person every single day.

 

I wrote about my cousin being mean spirited and petty as a child, and as an adult she is no different, could she had grown up to be a different person? Absolutely but she didn’t, as an adult she is still the same jealous, bitter and mean spirited person. I have a friend who says he wants to change, he’s sick of his girlfriend treating him like crap, sick of drinking every night, sick of who he is and how he treats others yet he is still there taking her abuse, he’s still drinking, still acting like he’s a teenager.

 

My ex boyfriend, who I love dearly, has been telling me the same story for years, he’s moving, he’s going to become rich, how he’s building this house, he has done none of these things nor made any effort to try to achieve these goals. They both “talk” a good game but never make a move to achieve their goals or dreams.

 

A great bible verse is “Faith without works is dead” Meaning if you have faith but if you do nothing about it, it’s not happening!

 

That’s like saying you want a man yet you don’t go out, your not online, your not putting any effort into finding but you have faith…. What do you think that prince charming will knock on your door, on one knee with flowers and chocolates? Get real!

 

Yes, you need to put effort, put yourself out there, go to an AA meeting, (okay but not to find a man)

Start looking for that land, start saving, decide your not going to be mean, read self help books, go to consulting, leave your verbally abusive boyfriend/girlfriend…

Insert your bullshit story here and then change it, don’t talk, do!

 

I have many friends that have changed, my one friend started a new career at 45, she went back to school, got her degree in what she always wanted to do. My other friend stopped doing drugs and partying turning her whole life around, she now eats rights, exercises and is a huge role model for others in the same situation, giving back to help.

 

I had a friend that was 350 pounds, couldn’t walk, on all kinds of pills, doctors told him he was going to die, he decided to change, he is now a coach, he looks terrific and is helping others do the same.

 

I was miserable, unhappy,

I didn’t like my self or my life, I changed my career, my attitude. I left a extremely wealthy marriage with nothing, I did a triathlon, I hated running and I couldn’t even swim!

 

Really you can’t change? Go petal that somewhere else, I am a true believer in anyone can change, you just really have to want it.

 

Will there be set backs? Will you repeat mistakes? Absolutely! Nothing is easy and I am not here to lie to you, I tell you all the time,

I am not Willy Wonker, I am not going to sugar coat it!

 

But nothing is as gratifying as when you accomplish what you set out to do. Nothing gives you that feeling of, you did it!

 

So today my friends remember you can do anything, be anything, change anything…just change today, because nothing changes when nothing changes.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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