Friends are the family you pick for yourself

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Friends are the family you pick for yourself


This weekend I was blessed to be able to hang out all weekend with my church family. Most of you may know I am an only child and we didn’t have a big family and I didnt get to know my dad’s side of the family until I was grown, so for me my friends were my family and they still are.


Sometimes we have families who aren’t behind us, who are negative, who have hurt you to the core, more than you thought any strangers could ever do and sometimes that hurt can never be repaired.


Sometimes we are going places and instead of our family encouraging us, they want to hold us back, they don’t want you to succeed, it makes them look bad, where is theirs? They feel they are owed something just for being related to you.


Sometimes like me, our families are far away and unfortunately we can’t be in each others lives as much as we want to.

(Thank God for Facebook as I get to see and talk to them almost every day!)

But not being together is tough and so this is where your friends, the people you chose become our family.


They are the ones to encourage us, support us, be there for us, with a kind word, a shoulder to cry on and to even give us a kick in the ass when we need it.


Yes, these are the people who even though they might not be blood, they still are family.


I am lucky enough to still have childhood friends and even though these last few years some of them hurt me beyond repair, I still have the ones who will always be there for me.


And even though I was hurt, I still open my heart to new friends just as I have been hurt in my love life (or lack there of) I still have an a open heart, because without love, there is no life.


If you have no family or friends, your not living, your not opening up your heart to help others, to give of yourself because your afraid of getting hurt again.


Look I get it, it cut me to my soul, to lose not only my¬† money and my best friend as well, last year but that pain is not going to close my heart, I know I will be hurt plenty more times before I die, that’s life, that’s just the way it is.


People will lie to you, betray you, stab you in the back but the way I look at is, its their loss, I am an amazing friend, I am your ride or die girl, I got your back day or night, just pick up the phone, I am there…this is your loss not mine.


I got plenty more friends who know my worth, you were definitely not worthy, so don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out!


Sorry, again I tell you, I am not Willy Wonker I don’t sugar coat anything!


So today my friends remember chose your friends, chose who will have your back, let go of the dead weight even if they are family.

See, real family are the ones who have your back, they are the ones you get to chose.

Chose wisely…


“Be the change you want to see”


“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”


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