You cannot change what you refuse to address

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You cannot change what you refuse to address

 

In this week series of Love and compassion I am writing about change, without change nothing can happen. Unless your willing to change, your ways, your views, your perspective you will never change.

 

That is the problem with so many people today, they refuse to admit they have a problem. As if doing do will make you less than.. so they never address it and hey,  if you don’t address it, it doesn’t exist.

 

If you want to change, you cannot ask a person to take you somewhere they have never been themselves.

 

People sometimes see what they want to see, they see you changing and they become afraid. They know your not staying in this space with them for long, so instead they try to tear you down.

They tell you you cant make it, that you think your better than everyone else, they will make you question yourself and your self worth.

 

People may call you arrogant, why because you didnt ask for their permission to move on? To dream big?

Tell me why should I my shut down my confidence for your insecurity?

 

If a man is afraid of a strong women, he is not a strong man. If someone wants you to dumb yourself down, its because they are afraid of your intelligence.

They see all the places you are going to and they know that is not their paths, so they sabotage yours.

 

What I’ve learned on this faith walk is that I refuse to be a second class copy of you, there is no one like me, I am a original!

 

I tell my girls all the time, dance to the beat of your own drummer and I embodied that for so long and then I gave my power away to a man.

I let him tell me what my value was, I believed him when he said I was useless, that I wasn’t worthy.

 

It took me a long, long time to get back that worth, to know who I am!

I know my own worth again, it took a long time to own that, to be able to stand tall with that knowledge.

 

Are you with people that push people down so their light will shine brighter?

Are they are insecure?

Why be a spectator when you can be a participant?

 

So today my friends, in this time of trouble and turbulence, stand tall, be the change, don’t be afraid to lead instead of follow, if you want to change, you must first address that there is a problem…

It’s okay, change is good…and as I always say…

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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What happened to us as a country?

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What happened to us as a country?

 

In this weeks series about love and compassion my question today is what happened to us as a country?

 

We use to love and help our neighbors, I remember my parents, they were always helping out our neighbors. People would stop and take the time to talk, to lend a hand, to get to know your neighbors.

 

Now we are so busy with our own lives, with keeping up with the Jone’s that we don’t even know who the Jones are, so how the hell can we keep up with them?

 

We have become a selfish, self center world…its all about me…what do you have done for me for lately, what can you do for me world and it’s not getting better, in fact it’s getting worse. We have raised a whole generation of ungrateful, you owe it to me, I don’t have to work for anything because its coming to me, bunch of ingrats.

 

Great job and we wonder why the world has become like it is now.

Where is our love and our compassion? When I bought my first home we were the youngest couple on the street after Hurricane Wilma we went house to house with each neighbor to help the next fix.

We cut down trees, we made sure they were okay, had food and water, tarped their roofs, then we all moved onto the next neighbor until we did the whole block.

 

That was truly a show of love and compassion but do we have to wait until a tragedy to do that? No, we knew our neighbors before that, we helped each other out long before this, because that is what your supposed to do.

 

When I moved my new home as a single mom, my neighbors came by, helped me with things I couldn’t do and we’ve become fast friends since then, when I am cooking I will bring over their favorite meal, when one recently move I was the first to come and help pack and move.

My neighbor who was a stranger at first is now my guardian angel, he even came to my rescue during hurricane Matthew while I was out of the country and my girls were alone. He boarded up my home, brought everything in and made sure my girls were alright. This man who at first was a stranger is now my hero.

 

Yes, these are the things you just do because you have basic human compassion. When my new neighbor moved in I invited her to a party to meet everyone in the neighborhood and we are fast friends now, we are getting yet another single mom across the street and we already went over and told her of she needed anything we were there for her.

 

This is what you call a neighborhood, we all know each other’s names, we keep an eye on each other, we lend a helping hand, we have love and compassion for each other, this is one neighborhood why can’t we do this is every neighborhood, in every town, every city, every country?

 

Why is it them vs us? I live in a predominantly spanish area, I go to a predominantly black church, I don’t see it as us vs them I see it as a people loving each other no matter what color, what religious beliefs, what sexual preference, people who all bleed the same color…what is so hard to see here?

We all bleed the same color, we all grieve the same, we all love the same, we all want the best for our families so why can’t we all see this?

 

Why must there still be racism so many years after Dr. Martin Luther King speech?

Why are we burning our neighborhoods and our flags because we don’t like who is president? Why are we getting worse and not better after having our first black president? Why are we going backwards and not forward? It’s because we have no love or compassion that’s why.

 

So today my friends remember love and compassion can take us a long way, it can make you know your neighbor, it can open your heart to others struggles and want to help out. It can turn hate into love and we can really use some love today…be the first one, take the first step… like I always say at the end of every blog…be the change you want to see, it all starts with you.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

***Now available***

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