When its time to move on

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When it’s time to move on…

 

There are sometimes in life that you have to move on…

 

That job that is suffocating you, that friend who is always negative, that family member that always has their hand out, that relationship that isn’t what you want, no matter what it is sometimes it is just better for you to walk away.

 

Yes, it hurts, yes it will be different, yes, you might even be lonely for a while but this is your life, the only one you get and you need to make it the best life.

 

I think about how many years I’ve wasted in my toxic marriage, years I’ve could have been in this space…of peace and joy and I wish I had the courage to leave years before I did but you can’t live on what if, should haves or could haves.

 

I have now, I have the knowledge, I have the power now…to walk away from whatever doesn’t serve me.

 

Hello!! It’s your life if it doesn’t serve you, if it makes you feel bad, if it’s not working for you, you need to walk away and it’s guess what, it’s okay be selfish….

again…people, this is your life.

 

I refuse to call it in, to be unhappy, to not listen to that feeling in my gut telling me there is something wrong but yet again, I poo poo it away.

 

No, I don’t know how much time I have here, but however much it is, I know I will be real. I will own my stuff, I will put it out there for the world to see and hopefully for you all to learn from my mistakes or triumphs.

 

I will never lie about my feelings, I will never hold on to something or someone past the expiration date, I will never not listen to the voice of God again.

 

You may blame me, you may not own your stuff, you may flip it on me and that’s okay…

 

I know my intuitions, I know that voice that is saying somethings not right, somethings off… and when things get cloudy for me, it is then that I pray and I hear God’s voice telling me what I cannot hear clear in my own head.

 

Again for me, I know I am hard headed, so I need multiple signs before I do what I have already known from the beginning. I am working on this…I am human…and sometimes it’s hard for me as well.

 

Look, I am not perfect, I have issues, I have been hurt, I have been a liar and I stayed unhappy to try to make someone else happy, to not hurt them, to do the right thing.

 

But those days are over!

I chose me, I chose my happiness, I chose my life, on my terms.. like it or not, it’s mine, you do you and I will keep doing me.

 

Here’s the thing about making as many mistakes as I’ve have…you learn lots of lessons.

 

You learn to trust your gut, you learn to listen past the “rose and flowered” words, you learn to hear what a person isn’t telling you, you learn to see why they do and say what they do.

 

Yes, your mistakes can teach you so much, like what you are willing to put up with and what is definitely off the table.

 

It teaches you strength to go on, it teaches you that there is always something better behind every closed door, it teaches you that you are okay with you, without a toxic family member, without negative people, even without a man…

You are good…

You are good enough…

You are living your best life on your terms….

 

So today my friends remember, life is short cut through all the bullshit, listen to your intuitions, stop trying to make everyone else happy at your expense, it’s okay to walk away…It’s okay to move on to your life.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Its all for his glory

Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

It’s all for his glory

 

You should never be intimated, you should never think that your situation is too big or too deep to come to pass.

 

Your God has all power your need, your journey is already programed in his GPS. God had already done this for you, you are not lost, he knows where your going and your not by yourself, believe me, your not running out of time.

 

God got everything in control

Your thinking it’s too late your too old, it’s pasted you by…

 

Feels like your running out of time, running out of gas, you have a long way to go but will you get to your destination

God has you? Your questioning everything … Yes, there may be stops along the way, but you need to endure….in life your journey is long…

 

The stop is for your good, you want to go ahead, speed up to get to where you think you need to be but sometimes you need to slow down, sometimes you need to stop, regroup and then go on again.

 

There are times God is saying to you to get that person out, to change your course, because he knows what is ahead for you…

 

Even if you can’t see it, even if it hurts, even when you dont want to, you need to listen, you need just to believe it and follow God’s direction, follow his voice.

 

Enjoy your journey, enjoy the set backs, it’s an adventure your in now, to delvop a testimony, so you can tell others what you went through and how you came out better.

 

Don’t stress yourself out!!

You are blessed, you woke up, you have a home, you have food to eat, stop stressing,

life is a gift, live life to the fullest ….live your life now

Stop stressing about things you can’t change!

 

Square your shoulder, tell the devil your ready to fight, you know you have unstoppable faith!

 

Remember everything starts and ends with him…

 

“I lift my eyes to the mountains where does my help come from?”

 

You ought to live life as if you know that God is in control of everything, you can and will have a good outcome.

A good outcome is based on the level of your faith…

No matter what your going through, you are going to have a good outcome.

 

Focus on what your end will be, if your believer, you know he has you. You prayed, you believed him for an answer, he gave it to you, now listen.

 

Do it even if it hurts, even if you don’t want to, even if it hurts others, this is your walk, this is your message, listen and watch what changes.

 

Don’t worry about the things you can’t change… he will worry about that…just listen to God because it’s all for “his” glory.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Why are we afraid of fear

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Why are we afraid of fear?

 

We as humans, are afraid of so many things, some people let fear rule their life. I know that feeling, for years I stayed in a horribly abusive marriage because of fear.

 

I was afraid he would take my girls, I was afraid of what he would do or take away from me, I was afraid of what people would say, they all thought I had it made, I was afraid I couldn’t make it on my own.(big, big one!)

 

Fear kept me stuck for years, I was so afraid of change that I stood, so unhappy, dying inside more and more each day but even that wasn’t enough to make me change.

 

Yes, fear keeps us hostage in our own life, fear of being vulnerable, of showing our feelings, of telling others the truth, fear of being alone (oh big one there! ) fear of telling someone you love them, fear of opening up, fear of being hurt again. Some people let fear take over and go to the extreme, they can’t leave their homes, they can’t drive or walk outside.

 

We have names for fears that’s how many we have now a days. “Phobia” how about that?

A name for different kind of fears, we have given life to fears, a phobia of spiders, a phobia of crying, even a phobia of getting peanut butter stuck to the roof of your mouth, yes! I am not lying, I learned that in Mr Monaco’s health class in 10th grade and still remember it because of how stupid it is!

 

We are letting fear rule us into not living life and what is so bad? What do we fear the most? The unknown. .. Yes that is what we fear most, the unknown, what if it’s not as good? What if….fill in the balnks.

 

What if it’s better than you’ve ever dreamed? What if your incredibly happy? What if it was the best decision you ever made?

If I would have known how happy, how peaceful and how much joy I have found since my divorce, I would have done this year’s ago!

 

Yes, I gave up things, but all the material things I had wasn’t making me happy, so what difference did they make?

Look at the big picture here people! ! Things don’t fill your soul! A big house doesn’t make you happier, no you cry yourself to sleep on nicer sheets that’s all.

 

So today my friends, let go of fear, kick it to the curb, tell it, it will no longer control your life. The biggest lesson I learned is life is too short! Do it now!

Step out of faith and embrace change, it is a amazing feeling to be free!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Make the most of every opportunity

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Make the most of every opportunity

 

You never know what is going to happen, you never know who you will meet, who will walk into your life and change it forever.

 

I am not just talking about in love, I am talking about in life. You wrote a book and start talking to a publisher on the grocery line and bam before you know it your on the New York times bestselling list.

You have an idea for an invention and meet someone at a party and all of a sudden your on QVC. You been single for years determined to stay that way and in walks your soul mate into Starbucks.

 

You never know what is going to happen, how in one second your life can change, look at lottery winners, one minute they are struggling to put food on the table, the next they can help out everyone they know.

 

See I never think this is it, I’ve seen change, more than than I even wanted to but it was all for the best. Somehow it all worked out for my good and even when it didn’t, I still learned a lesson from it.

 

I was afraid of change, I was so stuck in my situation that I never thought I would get out. Just thinking about change scared me, bringing me right back to that safe, horrific corner I lived my life in.

 

It wasn’t until I said enough! Enough is enough and I didn’t care if I lived on the streets, I was determined that I was going to be happy.

 

Yes, the change is you, you must say… I am changing, I will see this world through eyes that maybe have been hurt, maybe wasn’t so great but I am determined to make the second half my best half.

 

Change means you take every opportunity, you step out of your box, do things you wouldn’t normally do. You say this life is too short, I will have an open mind, I will try new things, I will be open to trying.

 

That is when opportunities will present themselves, that is when that dream you dream doesn’t seem so big or impossible.

I will never give up on my dreams, until my last breath I will hold on to the possibility of anything can happen.

 

I have role models, Colonel Sanders Was 65 When He Launched Kentucky Fried Chicken

Roget Invented the Thesaurus at Age 73. Vera Wang was 40 before anyone noticed her, it’s never too late for dreams to come true.

 

So today my friends remember, it is never too late, your never too old, change is scary but it makes you grow, it gives you the ability to know you can and will overcome, it tells others watch me…I will never quit!

 

You never know there might an amazing opportunity behind the next door…don’t be afraid, open that door….step out into your incredible future…

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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We are more alike than you realize

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We are more alike than you realize

 

I am always telling you that we are more alike than you realize. That yes, we all have issues with our kids, that we all don’t have perfect marriages, we just pretend we do.That we are financially struggling, that we made bad choices in our life’s, that we aren’t always happy and positive.

 

Yes, we all have the same issues, we want to be loved, we want to be needed, to be appreciated, to hear someone say it’s going to be alright, to hear, you did a great job or your not alone.

 

We all want what is best for our families, we want to be able to travel and not worry about bills, we want to have a relationship with our maker, we all want to live a peaceful and joyous life.

 

We are the same, whether we are straight, gay, trans, black, white, Asian, Muslim, Buddhist or Christian, yes, even the Democrats and the Republicans, we all want the same things.

 

So why is it so hard to connect with others? Why do we have boundaries?

Why is it that we have an, us vs them mentality?

 

Why was it such a big deal when I became friends with Mr.Con Artist then wife? I didn’t know he was married.

She and I were in the same situation, both women that were played by a dog, why wouldn’t we be brought together by what we went through? Why couldn’t we be friends? Hey he did have good taste with women…Hello he picked us!

 

I speak to almost all of my ex’s, why not? They were good men… (Okay with the exception Mr.Con Artist & my ex husband who won’t talk to me, even though I am willing to try to be friends for our kids)

It just didn’t work out, doesn’t mean we need to be enemies, now.

 

How about your current significant’s ex’s? Can you be friends with them? Sometimes they can teach you things, some good…maybe what didn’t work for them, that may work for you and yes, sometimes even the bad, things you may have not notice or did and need confirmation of things you already had a suspicion about.

 

Maybe that person at your gym, never smiles because she went through a horrible marriage or is still going through it. Maybe that person who you thought was snobby is really just shy and doesn’t like to talk to people.

 

You never know how someone might be so like you, may feel the same things, fear the same fears, cry the same tears at night, you have no idea…

 

So today my friends remember we are more the same then we are different, let’s take the time to realize this, reach out, talk to people, you will be amazed at what they will tell you and how much you actually do have in common and that we are more alike then you realized.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Gratitude to tears

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Gratitude to tears….

 

Yesterday I wrote about the process vs the message and how we need to go through the process to get to the message.

 

I write this blog to give a message, I am always trying to give you a message I have learned and my messages on Monday’s always talks about what I learned the day before in church. I got where I am today only because of God, if you found your way through a different path, that is great.

 

I don’t tell you there is only one way or you can only get there  by my way, anyway you arrire at your peace and joy is wonderful.This is just the way I got here and so I talk about it, as I know what has worked for me.

 

I also know about having gratitude, so much gratitude that it brings me to tears.There is never a day that I don’t wake up or before I go to sleep that I don’t thank God for waking me up, for my girls, our health, my home, my business, my purpose he gave me, my friends, my family and my life every day.

 

I will be driving home from the gym and look at the sunrise and cry because I am lucky enough to be here to see it.

I walk into my new home and it takes my breath away as I never dreamed of owning my own home. I do my own thing, my time, I have no one to answer to, to put me down, to approve or disproved of my actions. It’s all me and the only one I try to please is my God.

 

I will be going along in my day and a client will call, when. I hang up every single time I say “Thank you, God” because I am so grateful for another client.

When people write me or see me and tell me how much they enjoy my blogs, I say a prayer of thanks for this gift he has given me.

 

There are some days that for no reason I start to cry because I remember that deep, dark place I use to reside in and I am grateful I am no longer there. I am grateful I no longer hold onto hate, fear, pain, stress or anger, that I know that this is what I had to go through to get here and it was all worth it. This was my process…and my blog is my message…

 

Yes, when you know that everything in your life, you are  grateful for, when even the littlest thing can bring you to tears because you know there could have been another way, when your even grateful through the storms, it is then you know you are in your peaceful place. That no matter what happens you will be alright, there is nothing more amazing then knowing how truly blessed you are.

 

So today my friends, remember if my way, if my God does not work for you, it’s okay. It’s a free country, find another way but just remember to be grateful, it always could have been another way …

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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The process vs the message

Treadmill Treats Monday Message

 

The process vs the message

 

Our problem is that we confuse the message of the gospel, with the process one goes through to share the gospel.

 

See you are going to go through a process, you are going to go through tough times but you need to believe that the word is true, do you believe the message?

 

If not then it will lead to 2 things:

1.It seems like you are living a unhappy faith journey

2.You will end up quitting your walk with God

 

Let me ask you this, when was the last time you praise God? Just thanked him even though you might not be where you want to be? But are you grateful for where you are now?

Are you going to be happy no matter what is going on around you?

You need to know that this too shall pass… you need to know your problem has a expiration date.

 

Many Christians, don’t share their message with others …

You don’t have the fancy car, you dont have the big house so you don’t tell your testimony. You see the drug dealers with all the money, you see others who don’t have God in their lives, get things you don’t have and you think how can others have what, you the believer don’t have? So your faith waivers.

 

But you have to believe, you know where God found you, you know what the bottom looked like, that he found you and raised you up, took care of you when you had nothing or no one.

You need to know where you came from, you need to be grateful for where you are right now and from how far you have came.

 

Sometimes even when it looks like God’s not working on your behalf, you still have to give praise, you still believe.

 

The process is a series of actions taken to achieve a  particular thing:

In the end you are going to win

 

The message is:

The good news to mainkind, it is that he has redeem us and is bringing us back to God.

Even when bad things are happening around us, we need to know God is still good!

 

Don’t ever mix up the process and the message

 

The Process: I don’t know why he will put me through these hard times…yet I will trust him.

Trust him no matter what, that your faith journey is not based on only good times.

No, it’s about God’s forgiveness and his unfailing love.

 

Be strong in the grace of God…

Not because we are perfect, not because we sinless…

if you were perfect then you wouldn’t need God.

 

The process is: You fall down.

The message is: You get back up.

 

The bible tells us “Join me in the suffering like a good soldier of Jesus Christ”

2 Timothy 2.3

 

A soldier must fight…

We are more than conquerors we are overcomers, we are fighters.

 

You must take on the challenges and fight for the cause, at the end, you will know, I am a winner. In the end you know that God will supply all of my needs.

 

Here are 2 questions you need to ask yourself:

 

1.Whom are you committed to?

2. Is your faith journey more about what you go through or is it about what you went through, that makes the message more meaningful to others?

 

Are you going to say, I’m not going to let the process get me down.

No, I am going to get the message and give it to others…

That is what the process is for, it is your testimony to others of how you made it through, how you endure even when you didn’t think you could, that it should have been another way…but God….

 

The message is, you telling others I never could have made it without him. I’m stronger, I’m wiser. I made it through the storms and the test, when I look back at all I went through…I know you were there for me and I am telling everyone this message!

 

So today my friends remember  the process is just temporarily, the message goes on and on…pass on your message.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Owning what you do

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Owning what you do

 

I am big on owning your own shit, stand up, say I did it.

I made a mistake and I am sorry.

I raise my hand, I did this and then I ask, what is the lesson I am supposed to learn from this?

 

I respect people who can own their shit, who don’t let their ego’s stand in their way, people who aren’t afraid to say they were wrong. That makes you a real man or women in my eyes and the eyes of the world.

 

People who tell me it was all their partners fault in the divorce, like they weren’t even part of it, are full of shit.

Even in my horrible marriage, with all the things he did and believe me there was alot, I owned my crap I did.

 

Yes, I lied, yes I had an emotional affair, yes, I didnt want him to hang out with my friends. Yes, I checked out 5 years before the end and called it in, not wanting to fix anything just planning my escape. Hello, this was my stuff I did and I own it.There are two people in a marriage, you both did things and if you say you didn’t, your a better liar than I was.

 

So when I watched #45 yesterday saying how this was all President Obama fault, how this one did this, and that one did that and how he knew nothing. How he ducked and weaved all the questions and then again and again and again blamed everyone but himself. But the topper for me was then he had an attitude with the press for asking him questions, he clearly didn’t want to answer.

 

No, he wanted and said as much, only the nice questions from the reporters who were willing to blow smoke up his ass, it was then I lost it. Own your shit, stand up, be a man, be the president for Christ sake!

 

What now we can’t ask questions that bother you? What now, will you will tell everyone to shut up and sit down like on your TV show because you won’t own your shit?

 

I am sorry I don’t respect anyone who thinks they are always right and then is willing to do anything to make you look wrong or look like an idiot just because you don’t agree with them. Wait isn’t that called dictatorship?

 

I am here to tell you, yes it doesn’t feel good when you screw up, when you picked the loser yet again, when you get screwed over by people who you trusted.

 

And yes, it’s really bad when you then admit it to the world like I do in my blogs but at least I am honest, I am real and I will get passed it and learn the lessons I am suppose to learn and you my readers will see that we are all not perfect and here I am willing to admit it for the world to see.

 

So today my friends, what are you hiding? What won’t you own? Why is it so hard to admit your wrong doings? Take a stand own your shit and then expect others to do the same starting with the president.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Pointing out the bad in others because there is no good in yourself


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Pointing out the bad in others, because there is no good in yourself. …

 

I read this the other day and it hit a nerve with me because me and my friend had just been talking about it.

 

When you are truly a good person, you look to see the good in others, you are happy  for others blessings, you try to lift people up not cut them down.

 

Yet there are so many people out there, that to make themselves feel better, need to point out the bad in you. Yes, we all have them in our lives.

 

I had an ex husband who put me down at every chance, he called me dumb, he said I could never make it without him, he cursed at me and called me every name in the book and then made up some for good measure just incase I wasn’t beat down enough.

 

My friends sister thinks it’s okay to bring up every past mistake she has done even though she is a completely different person now.

“It’s okay to say hateful things because we are family” Really?? Isn’t family supposed to love you dispite your faults?

 

Even my “friends” who have also been verbally abusive, have now turned into the abuser, to gain control? To feel better about themselves?  Because there is no good left inside of themselves anymore?

 

Friends, family or lovers who “joke” and put you down and then say “I was just joking, can’t you take a joke?”…..it’s not a joke, it’s their true feelings, it’s a dig, masked with a laugh.

 

Well this is a call out to all of these people, friends, family, lovers or ex’s these days are OVER! DONE!

 

I will not except this behavior anymore, I deserve respect! Just because your dead inside, just because your hiding your broken and missing soul is not my problem, get help, stop hating others for having a life your too afraid to lead!

 

I will not let your cold, dead, hatred filled heart effect my life. This is your problem, your insecure with yourself and so you hide it behind putting everyone else down.

 

News flash!! you are not better than me nor are you smarter than me, yet you have to, at every chance, put me down to make yourself feel better.

 

Your still not a good person, it doesn’t make you smarter to think your always right, no a truly stupid person is one who thinks he knows it all and is not open to others opinions because they are afraid others ideas may be better than theirs. A truly stupid person can’t admit their mistakes and will never learn the valuable lessons, they need to learn.

 

You have a black soul, you are never happy to see others do well, you always think it should have been you.

You point the finger, let your evil tongue spit out hatred because there is no good inside of your heart.

 

So to make sure others don’t see the true you, the one without a heart, the one with your life falling apart, the one who is always wearing a mask, you lash out first, pointing out the bad and the mistakes of others.

 

So today my friends, this is a new year, those days are over, stand up people, today is your independence day.

 

Doesn’t matter who they are, tell them you will not be treated like that any longer. You will be treated with the respect you deserve otherwise I will call you out, then cut you out of my life! Period!

 

Feel free to copy and paste this on your wall, send to your family, spread the message….

Start today, love yourself…..

Remember those who point out the bad in you, have no good in themselves…..

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Not all is as it seems

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Not all is as it seems…

 

Yesterday was Valentine’s day and if you were on social media you probably saw all the pictures of flowers, candies and gifts that everyone posted.

 

Yes, it was wonderful that people went out and did something special for the ones that they love. But for all the single people out there, they were thinking wow, isn’t it wonderful to have someone, or maybe, it sucks to be alone on Valentine’s day because of the bombarding of social media posts about love and gifts.

 

Let me tell you, it is not all that it seems, I know this from experience. I was an expert liar and should have been an award winning actress for my performance during my marriage.

 

Yes, I was one of those who posted “Oh look how sweet my husband is…look at the flowers, look at the diamonds, look at the our perfect marriage” when in actuality we were a dysfunctional mess.

 

I cried and drank myself to sleep every night. He was the “Perfect” husband until you close the doors of our home and then he became a dictator, a cold heartless man who ruled with an iron fist and a razor tongue.

 

But to the outside would we had it all together, look at their nice house, fancy vacations, 2 beautiful children, lots of money and phony smiles for all of us.

 

See not everything is as it seems, not everyone is put together, not everyone has all the money they betray they have, not everyone is the “Great guy” the world seems to think they are.

Not everything is as it seems…it’s an illusion, made up for you, the viewer to see what they want you to see…

 

The person that seems to have it all together is really a mess inside barely keeping it afloat. The person with the Louie bags or the designer shoes and clothes that can’t answer their phone because of Bill collectors calling trying to repossess their things.

 

That married couple that you think has it all, behind closed doors he beats her senseless…see all of it is an illusion…it is what we make up because we don’t want people to see the truth, that maybe we can’t even handle the truth ourselves and so we build up what we think people want to see and then we give it to them.

 

I opened that door years ago, I let all the skeletons out for the world to see, I am real, I am honest, I am an open book for the world to see and learn from.

 

When they say “The truth will set you free” that my friends is an amazing statement and so true,. My advice to you is that quote, The truth will set you free, it will let you stop pretending, it will show you your not alone, it will take that load your carrying off your shoulders, it will literally set you free…

 

Don’t worry about what others will say, most of them aren’t honest with your or themselves anyway. Do you, be you, be honest, know it’s okay not to be perfect, stop trying to kill yourself trying.

 

So today my friends remember, we are human, we make mistakes, we are not perfect, we fall, we get back up, we learn lessons.

Remember that we learn who we really are when we fail, not losers but survivors, overcomers. Know that will be better, that this new life will be real, it will be brutally honest and know it’s okay….it’s okay that it’s not all as it seems….

 

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