What Valentine’s day really means

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What Valentine’s day really means…

 

Yes, we have pumped up Valentine’s day into a mass media marketing day. You must show the one you love, how much you love then on this day. You must take them out, buy them presents, flowers and cards because it is your duty, it’s Valentine’s day.

 

Here’s the thing, do you show your love to that other person for the rest of the year? Do you tell them you love them regularly? Do you do kind things for them through out the year? Or is it this one day and then that’s it?

 

My step dad didn’t believe in all of that, all the flowers and cards, but he showed he loved my mom in so many other ways. He polished her work shoes every night, he went out at 10:30 every night to clean the snow off her car and warm it for her, he had coffee waiting for her and the kitchen cleaned every morning when she came home for the night shift.

 

My mom told him she loved him every day, she made sure he had his glass of wine every night at dinner, she was right beside him on every project they did on our house, that’s love all year long that showed me what true love was.

 

Look I am as romantic as the next person, maybe more so, I am a Libra after all but believe me if I could have given back every flower or phony card to have my ex treat me good for the other 363 days a year, instead of this one day, I would have, in a heart beat.

 

Why do we need these “Days” to remind us to do something nice? Valentine’s day, Mother’s day, Father’s day? Hell we even have a national “Eat dinner with your kids” day, really you need a national day to do that?

 

That is what is wrong in today’s society, it’s a all about me world, you dont put someone’s else’s needs before you own.

Your so busy doing you, you need a day to remind you to be sweet.

 

I brought my mom flowers every week, just because I wanted her to know I loved her. Even when I moved 1500 miles away I still had them sent to her.

I gave her and my dad cards all the time just to say hey I love you, thanks for putting up with me. I give my girls cards just because…I want them to know I love them, how proud I am of them.

I am constantly calling friends and family telling them I love them and I miss them, I don’t need a day to do that, I want them to know it all year long.

 

Yes, cards and flowers are wonderful on Valentine’s day but if that is the only time you say I love you, then save your money, it means nothing on this phony day.

 

So today my friends, take my advise, tell the people that are in your life that you love them, every day not just this day, send them a card, drop flowers off on a Thursday, pick up the phone, call on the way home, let them know the other 363 days a year that they are important in your life.

 

And one last thought, for you singles out there, don’t be sad your single, enjoy your singleness, buy yourself flowers, go out with friends, believe me not all you see with your married friends is paved with gold…love yourself, love your friends, love your life…

 

You only have one life make it the best, live large, love big!

 

Happy Valentine’s day to all of my readers and to the rest of you …well you know how I feel all year long…love you to pieces!

 

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God keeps his word

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God keeps his word

 

When you know your calling and go after your calling, God will give you a stage, you won’t have to go looking for one.

 

But in order for him to do that you have to maximize your full potentbial, you have to know your purpose, you have to live in your purpose, you have to have the faith to know this is what you were born to do, born to be.

 

God called you…yet do you know your purpose?

Does your dreams seem too big, too impossible and so you give up?

 

People think that they can’t do it or if they do and the road gets rough they stop. Here’s the thing when your in the perfect will of God, when the boat starts rocking and then some storms will hit you and kept hitting you. You will think you can’t breathe, you will think your drowning, that is when you need to know God’s will, you need to know no matter what, you will hold on.

 

You won’t allow the circumstances of life alter your purpose.

You don’t let the storms stop you, even when your dreams seem impossible, even when you can’t see through the rains, it is then, you’ll understand your purpose and you will stand strong.

 

You are called to do something on the earth and he will keep his word if you know these three things:

 

1. Trust God

2. Know God’s plan for your life

3. Live expecting God promise for your life.

 

When you know your in God’s will, your grateful… you live in a state of gratefulness all the time.

 

You will give thanks in all circumstances….not for.. but in all circumstances.

 

You lost everything it’s nothing to give thanks for.

You gave someone your heart and they use and deceive you…it’s nothing to be thankful for.

You have sickness…it’s nothing to be thankful for…but through it all, you give thanks anyway because you are faithful and you know and believe God’s promise on your life.

 

Expect miracles… you need to have the power behind you to believe that it will happen, you have to have what my Bishop calls sick faith, that no matter what happens, your going to believe, no matter how dark it gets, your going to believe. No matter how impossible it seems, you know it is coming, that is sick faith. That is the faith he taught me to have…sick faith…to know it is coming…to believe it is coming even if it’s not in my time, it is coming.

 

So today my friends, believe in God’s word, know your purpose, have faith through the storms because there will be plenty and believe nothing is impossible.

If you do this you will change your thinking from if this happens to when this happens….all you need to do is believe…

 

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How a bath can change everything

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How a bath can change everything

 

I love taking long hot bubble baths..I even have a bath ritual.

I light candles, I get a big glass of wine or Bailey’s, my music, put in the bubble bath and then Calgon take me away… (really old reference from my mom’s days, ask your grandmother she’ll know)

 

I have always loved baths from as early as I could remember, the hot water, the steam, the shutting out of the whole world. It was peaceful and calming and took away all your stresses.

 

When I was in my verbally abusive marriage it was my escape. I would run in there every night, I would cry until my soul ached. I would dream about my escape, dream about how my life would be one day…

I would drink myself into oblivians and hope he would be sleep by the time I finally emerge or I would be too drunk and stoned from sleeping pills to even care.

 

Yes, it was my place, my and mine alone to pray for change, to cry, to imagine good things coming into my life.

 

The only two things I miss from my past life is my gourmet kitchen I designed and my oversized whirlpool tub, that’s it!

 

So when this week I got to take a long hot bubble bath in a gigantic spa tub, let me tell you it was amazing.

I got in and forgot everything, I was transformed into another person. Did I think of all that use to go along with it in the past? No, I thought about how far I’ve come, how all the things I’d imagined came to pass, how when you believe so deeply and put it out there, things happen, things change.

 

I thought about what I wanted for the rest of my life, how I imagined the next half will be.

That I will be a New York Times bestselling author, how I will be an international blogger, how I will travel and speak to hundred of thousands of people, telling them never to give up on your dreams, to dream big! Just like I do, even when I hit rock bottom, I never let go of those dreams.

 

Yes, I sat there and dreamed about my log cabin on the lake in the mountains of Tennessee and my home on the water in Florida, my girls doing well…life so amazing that it surpassed even my own dreams.

 

Yes, for me a bath can take you away to magical places, it opens up your senses, it places you in such a relaxed state, it feels like your actually living it…you are there…

 

I remembered how grateful I was to be in this tub and not the tub of my past. That I am in a really great space now in my life and there is not enough praise I can give for that.

 

I know I will never be in that situation again, that I am strong enough to walk away and say enough is enough.

That I am important enough to care for me and not just everyone else.

 

So today my friends, take a tip from me, fill your bathtub with bubbles, light some candles, get a glass of wine and put that feel good music, slip in, dream big and let all your troubles melt away.

 

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A letter to my daughter

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A letter to my daughter

 

I know things are rough now….

I know that life seems hard and that it’s feels like it’s too hard to keep going.

I know that the life you dreamed of is not the life your living now…

I know that the fairy tale balloon childhood was popped for the realities of real life.

 

I wish I could make you understand that I loved you as much as your sister, that I protected and stood up more for her because she needed it, you were his favorite and you never needed protection from him until now.

 

How can I explain to you, that she stood up for me when I couldn’t speak, she was my voice when I didn’t have one, she got all the beatings, all the name calling, all the punishments because she was so much like who I use to be before I gave away my power.

 

I wish I could change it all, I wish I could go back and make everything allright…

I wish I could have kept the people you loved alive to see what I see now, a beautiful, kind, sweet young lady you’ve become.

 

I wish I could take back all the hateful words your father keeps filling your head with. I wish I make you understand these are his issues, not yours.

 

That because of of his insecurities, he lashes out at you and anyone around him. That you keep trying to be “Perfect” for him in order for him to love you, but you will never understand, you will never be “Perfect” enough in his eyes, but you are already perfect enough in mine, just being you.

 

I wish I could fill your broken heart with joy, that I can let you see through my eyes what I see when I look at you.

The amazing qualities I see when I look at you…

 

Your kindness, your amazing sense of humor, your big heart, your incredible book and street smarts, your intuitive soul, your caring and compassion for not just your friends but for the world around you.

Yes, I see all of this and more when I look at you yet because of his words, his constant put downs, you see none of it.

 

I know how this feels, because my darling, I have walked in your shoes, I know what it feels like to believe when someone tells you, that your worthless, that your stupid and a piece of shit, how you start believing that. How your heart breaks over and over because someone who is suppose to love you can say these things to you… yes I know…

 

It took me a lot of years to realize these was his issues and not mine, it took many small steps with lots of set backs to know my self worth again.

 

You need to do what is best for you, you need to believe in yourself again, to finally see what I see and believe it.

You need to start your life on your terms, you will soon be an “adult”  And you need to be you and find you…

 

Please know I am your biggest cheer leader, that I will always be here for you, that you are my heart and soul.

Please know I wish I could change all the hurts in your life, be a better mom, I wish I could have spoken up, I wish I would have left earlier, there are so many regrets I have but having you was never one of them…never!

 

You and your sister are the best things I have ever done in my life and I would lay down my life for you both.

 

But I cannot change anything, I can only learn lessons and try to teach you both how not do follow in my footsteps and make the same mistakes.

 

I believe you can do anything you set your mind to…if you want you will be the best cardiothoracic surgeon, or a vet or something else, you will. Whatever makes you happy, whatever fills your soul with peace and joy, that is what I want for you.

 

So today my child, know your self worth, see what I see when I look at you, know your grandmother will be watching and protecting your every step, know that she loves you just because of who you are and so do I, always and forever….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Age is just a number

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Age is just a number…

 

This morning I read that Christie Brinkley is posing in Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue at 63! Yes, you read that right, 63 and its the third time she has done the SI cover.

 

See, age is just a number recently I posted a video on my Facebook page about a women who was 94 and she did this incredible dance routine that most 40 year olds couldn’t do.

 

When I did my triathlon I was  passed… Okay, I admit, blow away by a lady that was 69. How did I know her age? We all had them written on our calfs and as she blew passed me that is all I saw…Hello I was 49 and thinking… look at me until granny blew me out of the water.

 

I have a client that is 102 and is all together, there have been older women who do marathons, who are in way better shape than even I am. There is even a Guinness record holder for the oldest women body builder at 80!

Hell, when I went sky diving at 40 there was a mother, daughter and grandmother who jumped with us, she was 78!

 

I plan is grow up to be like them, that grannie who’s on YouTube getting down at a wedding, or breaking records for my age. Yes, I am not planning to go quietly, with regrets about things I should have done and didn’t.

 

I will never say I’m too old…I feel like I’m 25, I still exercise 6 days a week, I ride a bike on the weekends at the beach, I will try anything to keep my body and my mind from getting old.

I will be doing this until I coming to a screeching halt into my grave screaming…what a amazing frigging ride!

 

You decide what you can or cannot do, your mind is the most amazing organ we have, it can do and overcome anything. Men have survived Pow camps, people have survived concentration camps, famine, unimaginable things and still had the will to live and still had the most incredible outlook on life. Look at Anne Frank, Ellie Winsel, Dr. Martin  Luther King…people that never gave up and even in the darkest times, never gave up hope.

 

So today my friends remember age is just a number you tell to yourself to set limits on yourself. Remember there is nothing you can’t do if you set your mind to it and believe.

 

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There is nothing I cannot overcome

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There is nothing I cannot overcome

 

I have overcome more than most people could even imagine and I did so still holding on to a positive attitude and a trusting and giving heart.

 

In spite of how many people hurt me, let me down or screwed me over, I still believed in the good in people.

Yes, my friends say I am like Tinker bell, living in my own fantasy land but maybe that’s not such a bad place to reside.

 

Yes, I always try to see the good, I see past things into a person’s heart and who they truly are.

 

I think there are many more good people in the world then evil, I think we can change and come together as a nation.

I still have that dream of Martin Luther King where little white children will be playing with little black children without seeing color or hatred. Where people can love each other no matter what color, what religious beliefs, what their sexual preferences are.

 

I have fell on my face so many times and then put it out there for the world to see. I have picked the wrong men and held my head in shame, time and time again. I have trusted people who screwed me, even Church people, Hello! Not everyone is holly because they go to church, remember that.

 

Yes, I could shut myself down,

I could have been a man hater after all the cheaters and liars I’ve dated but I chose to still believe there are good ones out there.

 

I could have never trusted anyone after being raped by someone I knew, because of my best friends screwing me and turning their backs on me in my time of need but I know there are guardian angels out there that will and have came, to my rescue.

 

I will continue to make mistakes, to trust, to fall on my face but what keeps me going is my faith, I believe that God will keep me, he will take care care of me. I believe these were all lessons I needed to go through on my journey before I could move on to something more incredible.

 

I believed that, when I was sick, losing hair, having heart palpitations thinking how was it going to make it, I believed  that God would show me the way. I believed when I started this business, just as I was getting divorced and thinking how I was going to pay rent higher than my old mortgage.

I believed when my head kept repeating his words, your useless, you can’t do this without me.

 

I believed when I kept asking for a home for me and my girls and even though I shouldn’t have gotten this house for 40k less than every other house in the area and when I got approved for a mortgage I had no right to, yet still I believed.

 

I believed when just getting this new home and quit my job the next day without a back up plan.

I believed when tough times came at me, when friends deserted me, when men used me, when there seemed to be little to hope for, I believed in my God and all he could do.

 

I know what he has brought me though, death, sickness, rape, drug overdose, alcohol and drug addiction, 24 years of a verbally abusive marriage, low self esteem, hatred of myself and my life, wanting to check out yet again…Oh I’ve been to the bottom, a few times and I know I survived only, by the grace of God.

 

Will the next chapter be all beautiful without heartache? Okay, I am Tinker bell but even she is realistic. No, I know it won’t be but no matter what, I will overcome, I will continue to believe and I will continue to trust and love because without that life is not worth living.

 

So today my friends remember you too can overcome, I am no different from you, I am no better or stronger. I just put my faith in God, I pray and let him worry and I believe that all the things I pray for will come to pass and I release it into the atmosphere, Pretty simple…

 

You got this, no matter what your going through, you can do it, you can do this, you too can overcome…if you just believe.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Helping someone in need

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Helping out someone in need

 

Here is the question we need to ask, would you help out a person in need? In this all about me society, people are too busy, if it’s not about them, they can’t be bothered.

 

But like I’ve been talking about for the last few months before and after the elections, is that we need to come together as a nation. We need to step up, above and beyond what we normally would do, so that we may start a pass it on mentality through out the world.

 

We need to post more stuff about people doing good, people doing random acts of kindness, people actually helping their neighbors out instead of all the negative crap we see all the time.

 

I always say be the change you want to see…I don’t just give that lip action, I actually do things to back it.

I volunteer at church, when there is a fundraiser I am there, both with my money and with my time. If I hear about a person in need, I will buy them groceries, I will call them and pick them up take them shopping, pick up medicine for them, I don’t just speak it, I live it.

 

I always write that I am a friend to the end, I am your ride or die girl, you can depend on me even if your calling at 3 am, I am there for you.

 

I am bleesed to have an amazing group of friends who would and have done the same. When I was getting divorced, my church family and friends all showed up to pack and move me, when I bought my new home, and in return I have syepped up and done the same. Friends came by to help out and my dear childhood friend even took off of work for a week to help me with all I needed done. Acts of kindness that have brought me to tears.

 

My neighbor, who right from the beginning helped me more than I could tell you, then gave me money for my air conditioning after my best friend ran off with the money I lent her.

When he was moving, I was the first one over there to help him pack, move and unpack. That is what you do, that is called being a good person.

 

I had friends and my boo, fly down to fix my roof, to do all kinds of things in my new home and I would do anything for them in return so recently when my boo fell off a roof, there wasn’t a question in my mind that I was going to book the next plane out to go and help him.

 

That is who I am, no, I am not blowing smoke up my own ass. I am telling you this because it is something we needn’t think about, it should be natural knee jerk reaction, someone in need…we are there.

 

I remember my kids asking me why I give or talk to homeless people…my response? There before the grace of God goes I and that is the truth, it could have been me, it could have been you, but God… it’s not.

 

Everyone on this earth deserves compassion and kindness, it costs nothing to be nice, so than why do so many people chose not to be? Why do you treat the homeless like they are invisible, hell forget the homeless, some people treat others not in their “Class” like they are invisible.

 

Its not just about racism in this country, its also about “Classism”

Do we not all bleed the same color? Are we not all going to rot in the same size grave one day?

Are we are not all the same despite all of our differences, it doesn’t matter if your black, white, Muslim, Buddhist, if your gay or straight or transgender, we are all the same, so why can’t we just be kinder to one

another?

 

Why can’t you take that minute out of your day to help, to say a kind word, to do something good? It is really all about you?

 

We need to realize we can change the world, we can stand together and say we had enough! We are going to only watch TV that means something, we are only going to post positive things, we are going to respond in kindness even if that person is an asshole, we are going to take the time to help our neighbors out, do something good for our neighborhood, change the world one good deed at a time.

 

If you want change be the change, it only takes one person to start it, believe that, be that one person, start today.

 

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How to win a political argument….


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It has been an amazing few weeks since the signing in of our new president Donald Trump. I have seen more friendships go up in smoke than ever before, I have seen people attacking others, people name calling, people showing the absolute worst side of one another, all in the name of politics.

 

I have seen some things on social media that are down right racist being said by “so called” friends, it is sickening.

 

I have also seen friends stand up for rights like never before, people truly afraid of what is going to become of our great nation. People making a mark in the sand and saying this is not alright.

 

Me? Well I refuse to delete friends based on their political views, I believe this is America and we have the right to free speech no matter how stupid I might think your views are or aren’t, you still have a right to post your feelings.

 

I believe in women’s rights, in a women right to have the say over her body. I believe in America being a melting pot, in what the Statue of Liberty stands for. I believe in freedom of speech.

I believe in equality for everyone. Who are you to judge and say only I get equality, based on what?

 

I believe we have the right to bear arms (But no one needs a gun that shoots 1000 rounds in 2 seconds, sorry)

I believe in the good in people no matter what their race, religion or sexual preferences are. That we can all just get along and love one another if we realize that we have so many similarities instead of differences.

 

The country is going crazy and we need now more than ever, to be tolerate of others points of view.

We also need to stand up for what is right, so if your passionate about what you believe in, take all the time and energy you have in posting on social media and put it into what you believe.

 

Protest, start a change in your neighborhood, start a pay it forward action, do something good don’t just stir the shit pot.

 

Put your frigging money where your mouth is, volunteer, give back, start a movement, don’t just give it lip action, do something. Nothing changes when nothing changes…

 

It takes just one person to make a change…Rosa Parks, Martin Luther King, and so many other brave people who stood up and said enough is enough… I refuse to put up with this and I alone will be the first to stand up and say so….be that person.

 

Look I write this blog every day, thousands of people see my views, some will love me and some will hate me, that’s life but I am free to share them, no matter how you feel, that is what is so great about this country.

 

So today my friends remember why we love this great country so much, why people are willing to die to try to come here because we have freedom of speech, we get to say what we feel and guess what we also get to not see what people say (There is a special button for that on social media, in case you didn’t know)

 

Let’s try to be tolerant of others points of view, let’s spread the word of love, compassion and tolerance instead of hate and anger.

Let’s start a world wide movement of love…wow what a concept …. remember what I always say in every blog….

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Our lasting baggage

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Our lasting baggage

 

This is the baggage we bring with us from one relationship to another. We all have baggage even if you chose not to admit it, you have it.

 

It can be fear of commitment, you involved in relationship after relationship until the other person wants to get more committed and then you run.

 

It can be fear of getting hurt again, this is a big one with many of my friends, they’ve been lied to and or cheated on so many times they rather shut down completely than trust again.

 

There is fear of being told what to do, being in another controlling relationship.

Hi, over here, I have my hand raised for this one, yes, I know this is my baggage and try as I may, it’s a hard one to unpack.

 

There is a fear of trust, you’ve been lied to and cheated on over and over, you keep picking losers and you keep bringing this fear with you.

 

Drama is a big baggage some people bring into every relationship, they are not happy unless they are fighting or there is drama going on and it’s there in every single relationship they are in.

 

Never admitting that you have a problem ohhhh…big one here!

Look back over your history, do you see patterns? Is it the same things people have said to you over and over yet your still can’t figure out what keeps going wrong in all of your relationships? The one key factor is…you!!

 

Yes, these are all baggage we carry with us and for alot of you out there, you hop into and out of relationship after relationship without ever unpacking, without looking at the issues and trying to fix them.

 

Years ago my issues was commitment, I was raped and I it carried over into getting too close to people, once a man said he loved me or wanted more I ran…fast.

 

I got past that (therapy helped tremendously) after my marriage I waited 2 years before I started dating.

 

I needed to unpack and see what was I carrying with me.

I needed to own my own issues and forgive him of his.

I couldn’t jump from the pot to the the frying pan again. I needed to learn lessons and you can’t do that while your under someone else. (Yes, I just said that!)

 

Do I have issues still? Yes, funny that I don’t have trust issues, you would think I would after Mr.Con Artist and the rest of my bad mistakes but I don’t.

I have my issues with control and being independent, that,

I got this mentality, I got going on. Like if I depend on anyone some how I will be giving up a part of myself.

 

I know it’s a issue, see the first step of any recovery is admitting you have a problem. Yeah, I learned that in recovery and therapy too and it’s true you must admit you have a problem, it is only then you can work on it and change it.

 

So I am trying, I see my issues and I am trying to change them, I refuse to bring old baggage into the future.

 

Yes, I could be like a lot of my girlfriends who close off their hearts to love, but love is life, it is what makes life worth living and even though I know I can and probably will, have my heart broken again, I am willing to take the chance because otherwise life wouldn’t be worth living for me.

 

Look we all have our issues, you are too critical, your too unbending, you hurt people with your words, you think it’s okay to say it’s a joke and think it makes it okay. You’re  narcissistic or controlling, you fight about everything, nothing is ever good enough for you, you have a roaming eye, you lie, your never happy….

 

Oh.. I know that you see yourself in this list, dont lie.

Whatever the issue, pick yours and then work on it. We are all not perfect, we all have issues, we are human and the amazing part of being human is once we own our issues, we have the ability to change them. Imagine that? We can change…what a concept…

 

So today my friends remember don’t keep carrying your dirty issues from one relationship to another, don’t keep saying it’s them not me every time it goes wrong.

 

Don’t keep sidestepping your own issues, own them, empty out that baggage, be brutally honest and say this was mine, this was mine, this was theirs. Go through it all and then take all of your dirty laundry and clean yourself off, deal with it all before you repack that bag and go off to your next relationship, believe me it will be the best thing you’ve ever done.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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When fear rules your life

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When fear rules your life

I remember back in the day, when fear ruled my life. I was afraid of what people would say or think about me. I was afraid of gossip and so I had to live a certain way. When I got married I was afraid of going back home even though I already knew he wasn’t the man for me, fear and my ego stopped me.

Then I was afraid of him taking my girls away so I stayed in a verbally abusive marriage. I was afraid of what he thought about me, of what people would think if they knew how horrible he treated me. I was afraid of trying to make it on my own, how could I make it without him? Fear ruled my life and made me stuck in a hopeless spot.

I was afraid I wasn’t smart enough, good enough, strong enough. I was afraid of change and so I stayed in a miserable life, I couldn’t stand because I let fear ruled my life.

But here’s the thing, when your sick and tired of being sick and tired, when enough is enough, when it doesn’t matter what happens because you cannot take it for one more second, you smack fear in the face and you leap into the unknown not worrying about what will happen next.

The day I laid on the floor and prayed for help because I couldn’t do this one more day, the day I gave it over to God, the day I let go of fear, was the day my life changed forever.

Yes, there has been so many changes in the last few years, more changes than in the last 25 years and yes, sometimes it is still scary.

But I have to tell you I am living my most authentic life, I am truly happy with myself and my life now and I wouldn’t change a thing.

I no longer worry about what others think, I only worry about what God thinks. I do my very best to try to be a good person and that is enough, see no one pays my bills so I don’t care what you think.

I walked out of a marriage with no job, I started a new business from scratch, a business I knew nothing about. I rented an apartment with a rent as high as my old mortgage, with this new, just started business that I didn’t know would work or pay all these bills.

I hadn’t paid bills in years, did my taxes, I hadn’t took care of myself in 24 years, this was all new and was it scary? Hell yeah it was scary, yet I didn’t fear rule my life, I learned to get past it.

In that time I also changed jobs, I had sold my business

(I work 3 jobs, yes I am a Jamaican) I bought a new home (only God knows how I got qualified for it) and the day I closed on my new house, I quit a great paying job because I was so miserable there.

The boss was exactly like my ex, the type of person, who always puts you down and finds fault in everything you do. No, I’ve been there before and I now needed to be in an environment where I could be appreciated and be my authentic self. I had already been unhappy every day, I was not going back there and staying there because of fear.

See never again was I going to be stuck in a place of unhappiness just because it was scary. Even though there were more bills than money, even though I was remodeling a new home, even though I was starting up a new business again, add to that, I was a single mom and had a ex that stopped paying me child support, but even with all of that…I wasn’t going to let fear stop me and let me tell you, this was all, big time scary.

I wasn’t going to let fear rule my life again, I wasn’t going to be stuck. No matter what happens I was going to continue to move forward. I was going to swallow my fear and live my best life.

I have sick faith, look how many times I walked out on faith, faith that started my business, faith that all my bills would be paid, faith about getting a new home and all that was entailed in remodeling it, faith to start up a new business again, faith to buy a new home and quit your job the next day with no back up plan and you know what? God has gotten me through it all, on my own and without fear.

So today my friends, my advice to you is to take that leap of faith, do not let fear rule your life, stop listening to that voice inside your head, it wants to keep you in that spot. People want to keep you were your at, they are holding you back by putting that fear inside you. Break free and believe in yourself, it will be okay, I am living proof of what you can do when your fearless.

“Be the change you want to see”

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