Lost in transition…texting today

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Lost in translation….texting today

 

In this week’s series about dating, I have to talk about texting, as it is the number one form of communication in today’s dating world.

 

Texting is this generations communication and don’t get me wrong it’s great for things like your kids telling you to bring home milk, or to tell you they got there or got home okay. It’s great to tell someone your running late or can’t talk right now but as solely a means for communication, some things get lost in translation.

 

Back in the stone ages, we had phones attached to the wall, you waited for hours for someone to call and God forbid you had to go to the bathroom and then the phone finally decides to ring.

There you are, running out with your pants around your ankles trying not to fall on your face to grab the phone before it stops ringing and then trying to act like your not out of breath so that you don’t seem desperate or like you were waiting on their call!….Oh, so many of you are laughing right now at that memory!

 

We had long conversations on the phone, we heard disappointment, sadness and happiness in someone’s voice. If you said something stupid you could correct yourself fast and explain what you really meant.God, it was so much easier back then.

 

Now with texting, you can’t tell if someone is joking, mad or aggravated and if someone doesn’t use punctuation.. oh forget it! Your lost!

 

I was having a conversation with a guy I met online recently I was in a rush, off to clients but wanted to at least answer him back and it came off like I was pissed and he said so.

I tried to explain the situation but that took another 10 minutes…yuggg!

 

And what’s with you text someone and they don’t text you back for hours or days?? This pisses me off to no extent.

 

Look fool, I know you have that phone attached to your hand 24/7. You even pee with it in your hand and yet here I am waiting for hours or days for a response? Wtf?

 

No one knows anything about real conversation anymore gone are the days you meet someone and you spend hours on the phone with them and you fell sleep with the phone in your hand…again your laughing, well you are if your in my generation!

 

No today it goes:

 

“Hi”

“Hey”

“How are you?”

………………….5 hours later

“Good you”

“Great what are doing this weekend?”

………………….. three days later

“Nothing”

“Well that’s good since the dam weekend is already past!”

Delete….

 

Uggggg…..is this just me? Or does texting make us stupider?

What the hell is going on with today’s society?

Sorry I am a writer and I can not get my point across in three words or less…impossible! This is not name that tune (Again dinosaur reference)

 

This was not invented to have full out conversations, yet we are trying to do that with it.

 

And then there is the worst of all, people breaking up with people via text. You got to be kidding? You have no balls at all, you are the scum of the earth in my book. Grow a pair, stand up and be a man, face her, it’s the least you can do as your about to hurt another human being.

 

My last relationship I had to do via the phone and it killed me.

I wanted to be face to face, but I lived 1500 miles away and it couldn’t wait a second longer.

Okay… but I sure the hell didn’t do it using a text and I was 1500 miles and couldn’t run over there to do it in person.

 

Dating in the second half of our life’s is tough. We are new to this, all of this technology, online dating, relationships via texting, flaky unconnected people…this was not like it was in the stone ages…but we must adapt and grow otherwise we will be left behind and alone.

 

So today my friends, remember this is a whole new game, texting has become a part of our everyday lives, but we must be respectful of others, we must think about how our words are coming across, we must for the love of God… use punctuation!

 

This one thing can mean a world of difference…

Let’s eat grandma

Vs

Let’s eat, grandma

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The positives and negatives of dating today

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The positives and negatives of dating today

 

In today’s series of dating I will give you my two cents on the positives and negatives…again this is my two cents you might have your own.

 

Oh boy now this is a good one…

There are many lessons I’ve learned since jumping back into the dating world 4 years ago. So many things have changed in the 24 years I was married, it was really a new world out there.

 

Gone were the days of meeting someone at a party, or through a friend, gone were the days of clubs, at least for me. Gone were a date for dinner at a nice restaurant, no all of that was gone…and I never even got the memo!

 

In its place was the Internet where you can turn from a 5’3 troll into a 6’4 God with a six pack… poof in a instant!

 

Gone was the dinner dates replace by drive by coffee dates, yes all of this changed and definitely not for the better in my opinion, so I will give you the top positive and negative things to dating today

 

Top positives of dating:

 

1. You have alot more to chose from, you can keep swipping all night and it’s never ending.

 

2. You can talk before you go out, see if he’s really for you.

 

3. You can go on a drive by coffee date and see if you really want to waste 3 hours of your time with Mr.Wrong.

 

4.You can see what you really have in common before committing to a date.

 

5. Shit…I have to come up with more? This is harder than coming up with a new blog every day!

 

Let’s more on…

The negatives:

 

1. It’s the Internet, you can be whoever you want, all you have to do is steal someone else pictures and poof your them!

 

2. You can show your best pictures, pictures from years ago, 30 pounds ago, apps that take away your wrinkles, yes… you can make yourself look better…alot better

 

3. You can all of a sudden grow a big set of balls and ask things to women you would never have the balls to say in person.

 

4. You can string someone along with texts and phone calls and then never committ to actually meeting.

 

5. You can show your junk to multiple women at once…Oh yes…Men do this all the time..

 

I will tell you this, if you send me a picture of your junk, it better be some extraordinary junk because if it’s not I will show it to all my friends and we will be laughing and talking about your stupid ass!!

 

6. How much time do I have on this treadmill? I could be going for a gym record here…. you get my point…

 

Yes, to say online dating is bad is an understatement at the least…I remember my last one saying “Aren’t you glad your not in that anymore, aren’t you glad you have me now?”

 

Okay, I would rather be back here than with a passive aggressive and controlling man yet again…this my friends is a piece of cake!

Delete…delete…delete….

 

And besides what would I write about? What would I laugh about with my friends and family on my morning rides?

 

It’s all good, I will keep kissing the frogs because I know there is my Prince out there somewhere looking for his princess…he just lost….he doesn’t want to ask for directions….but he’s coming….

 

So today my friends, don’t take it so seriously, enjoy the life you have now, enjoy your kids, your friends, yourself…

Enjoy the quite times, reflect on what you are willing to put up with and what is a deal breaker, then look at the last few relationships and think long and hard about if being with someone is worth putting up with all that crap?

You’ll be much better, I promise you…

And until Prince Charming comes laugh, laugh at the craziness, laugh at the way the world is now, laugh at yourself….life is too short…enjoy every moment because soon this too shall pass….

 

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Tips for the online dater

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Tips for the online dater

 

This week I will be doing a series about dating….

And and all of the good and bad that goes along with it! Hold on to your pants, this will be a trip!

 

Since being single I have tried online dating and let me tell you it is a trip!

 

Last week someone wanted to meet me, he wanted me to come to his place (Hello, are you nuts?) And when I said no, he didn’t want to put anymore effort into it than standing on his patio and waving to me? Because he was “famous” Wtf?

 

Then when I obviously didn’t show up he had the nerve to call me an idiot. Hello? I’m the idiot?

 

I had another guy on the first email tell me how beautiful I was and oh btw my junk is 13 inches…. again Wtf?

My reply… but your brain is pea sized because obviously you can’t read, I am not looking to hook up. Really???

 

but no matter what, to find your prince, you first must kiss a lot of frogs…so to speak and believe me I have.

 

In today’s world online dating is truly a scary thing to do after not dating for 24 years.

 

But I continue to do it as I am not going to find Mr Perfect for me knocking at my door. (Well my neighbor is cute and single…) okay generally not knocking on my door.

 

So I have some tips for all of the guys out there that are also new to this dating scene, very important tips from a women’s point of view.

 

1. Put up a picture

In my experience guys without pictures in this day and age are married period!

 

2. Put up more than one picture and a full body picture

Yes, you can look really good in one picture, the right angle, the right light but in others you look like a completely different person. Body shots, sorry everyone has a type I like in shape guys, you don’t have to be Mr. Universe but you have to be able to see your toes. I am active, I want a active guy.

 

3. I don’t need to see pictures of what you looked liked 30 years ago, yes, you were a football star in high school, your not anymore, we all looked better then, let it go.

 

4. I don’t want to see pictures of your animals, if you happen to┬áhave a great picture of yourself holding your dog, fine but ten pictures of your dog, not so much, I am not dating your dog.

 

5. I am not interested in what you have.

No need to put up pictures of your motorcycle, boat, big house or fancy car, not impressed been there done that, money definitely does not make a man. (And then you have the nerve to call us gold diggers!)

 

6. Don’t lie about what you like and don’t like.

We eventually will meet and talk and you can’t keep up lies and why would you want to? Be you..

 

7. Catfishing…what is with that? Why pretend to be someone your not, for what reason? Get a life and stop messing with others.

 

8. Don’t say you want a relationship when all through your profile your talking about clubbing and sex, be real if your just looking to hook up, say it!

 

9. Be specific in what you want, do you want kids, what’s your deal breakers, smoking ect.. skinny, chunky, tall, short, so we know what your looking for and not waste time.

 

10. Say something about yourself, likes, hobbies, what your looking for. Men with a blank profile to me are blank men, boring…I know it’s not easy talking about yourself, ask a friend to help you, while your at it ask them to take pictures of you too!

 

Maybe my men readers will give me some tips on how we women can make our profiles better. I am always open to change…

 

On a good note I did have a date last week…he looked like his pictures, he was a gentleman, he was funny and sweet and we’ll see where it will go….I will let you know…

 

So today my friends, it’s a new world out there, we must adapt to changing times and to do so we must change as well.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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