What kind of friend are you?

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What type of friend are you?

 

If you know me or you read my blog you know how important friendship means to me, as an only child, friends were the family I picked for myself.

 

I am a true friend to the end.

I will have your back through thick and thin and will do anything for you, stand up for you and even take my shirt off my back for you.

There is nothing I won’t do for my friends.

 

But if you hurt me we are done, if you are dishonest and if you are not there for me with the best intentions, then I have no use for you in my life. I am sorry if that might sound brutally cold but at this stage of the game in my life I don’t care.

 

I have no time for childish games, I know what I bring to the table and I know I am worthy of the same type of friends, that I am.

 

I’ve realized the last few years that some of my “so called” friends were not that at all. See they were my friend one minute than flip flop and say nasty things to me the next, acting like I owe you something, then to then turn around and smile in my face and expect me to to be okay with that, not happening!

 

You talk about me behind my back, not even knowing or caring to hear my side of things…remember there is always two side of things…

You post snide comments trying to get a reaction from me…

You want a reaction….well here it is, I am calling you out!

 

I even had one “friend” blatantly flirt with the man I had been involved with at my own birthday party no less…

Some “friend” she was…NOT!

 

I will put up with you at common functions and not be rude to you because of the fact that I enjoy the others company, but trust me that is for their behalf not yours.

 

But the friendship from me is gone, I will not be treated like some 2nd grade friend, you only being there when it benefits you, when you want to know the gossip, to get you something or to try to make yourself look better while putting someone else down doing so.

 

If you take joy out of calling someone out, acting like the world revolves around you or to make snide remarks to get pleasure out of seeing someone else hurt, we are done.

 

I’ve been there, done that and will no longer try to please someone else who clearly has their own issues and agendas.

 

It is not my job anymore to try to make someone happy, who will never be happy with themselves.

I have other friends who love me and know the type of friend I am and have my back always… not just when it benefits them.

 

So today my “friends” remember life is too short… there are some people who are meant to be in your life for a season, not forever, the ride is not for everyone and sometimes when your train is heading up the mountain it is better to know now, who is pushing with you and who is pulling on the brakes trying to hold you back.

 

The path is hard enough without carrying dead weight…let it go…cut it loose… there is an incredible view at the top that is only there for those who had your back while getting there.

 

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“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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What going home means to me

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What going home means to me

 

I was lucky enough to go home this past week, my girlfriend was having her 50th birthday and I wanted to be there to help her celebrate turning 50 and fabulous.

 

We have known each other since we were 6 years old. our mothers were friends and we hung out during all their visits to each other.

 

If you know me, you know I have alot of friends since childhood that I am still friends with and not just Facebook friends.

On Thursday when I got there I hung out with friends I’ve known since I was 8, my parents were friends with her parents. I helped them move too many times to count, was there for their wedding, the birth of their child and every major event and holiday in our lives.

 

I stayed there and then I stayed with one of my best friends I’ve known since we were 12. We went through drug addiction, marriages, divorces, dating and still we are here as friends. He has a great heart and is one of the funniest men I know, I love him for who he is in his soul.

 

On Monday I got to have breakfast with another dear friend, she was my best friend back in the day when we were 11 or 12. We lived across the street from each other, we were both dirt poor, we lost our fathers close to the same time, we were tough girls who people called bitches later on because we had to do, what we had to do to survive. We drifted apart for many years but God brought us back together quite a few years ago. To realize that we had lived parallel lives while we were apart, we both married verbally abusive men, stayed in marriages for the sake of our kids and found our voices after years of heartache.We have been close ever since.

 

Yes, I am blessed with long time friends, friends who I can’t imagine my life without. Friends that know all about me and still love me for me.

 

I am and always have been a friend till the end, a ride or die friend, a be there till the end friend, that is just who I am.

And even when you do me wrong I am that friend who will forgive you, because I know who you are in your soul.

 

So today my friends, count your friends then count your blessings…they say if you can count your true friends on one hand your lucky…then I am doubly lucky as I have many dear and long time friends.

 

So thank you to all my wonderful hometown friends…there is nothing like having memories with someone that lasts a lifetime.

I am blessed that you all are still in my life, remembering old times and making new memories…I love you all…thanks for yet again another, hell of a weekend!

 

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Dont rain on my parade

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Don’t rain on my parade

 

As I sit here once again at another airport waiting to go home for a friend’s birthday party, I am yet again grateful.

 

In the last 4 years since my divorce I have learned to live my life large. I have travel almost every other month it seems. I have got to make memories with friends and family that will last me a life time. I have gotten to do things I’ve never dreamed possible and have an inner peace I thought I’d never find.

 

Yes, to all you haters out there, who by the way don’t pay any of my bills…when you ask “Do you work?” Or “Must be nice…” aka I am so hating on you right now…

 

Listen up…I refuse to have regrets, I refuse to sit around and watch others live their lives, I refuse to not live and enjoy every single second until I am called home.

 

For years I worried about others options, I put everyone’s happiness before my own, I lost myself, I hated myself and my life for 24 long misrable years, well I am done…this is my life. I might have 30 more years or 30 more days but it’s mine to do with what I want to do.

 

So when you see me traveling yet again, when you see me out on dates, when you see me with this one at this event or that one at this party, it because I chose to live my life to the fullest.

 

I chose to let the dishes pile up or the laundry sit there to go out last minute for dinner with a friend because that is what is important to me. I will cancel a date in a spilt second to spend the night with my girls, see these are the moments that make life worth living.

 

Yet so many people get caught up, in work, in chores, in the day to day in life they lose themselves, they forget what is truly important…to live!

 

So today my friends, hate if you want…but this is my life and to quote one of my favorites Barbara Streisand…

 

“Don’t tell me not to live just sit and putter…don’t tell me not to fly, I simply got to… if someone takes a spill it’s me and not you… who told you your allowed to rain on my parade…

Im gonna live and live now get what I want and get what I want want…

 

Hey look at me world…here I am…I’ll March my band out…at least I didn’t fake it…nobody is gonna rain on my parade!”

 

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Girls just wanna have fun

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Girls just wanna have fun

 

It’s been a trip out here in the dating world, the last 4 years since I’ve been divorced.

 

Dating is nothing like it use to be when I dated back some 24 years ago, I can tell you that.

All the rules have changed, it’s a whole new world now….some good, mostly not so good.

 

We now have Internet dating which is a trip to say the least, you get to talk to hundreds of men you wouldn’t have access to before…great but it’s up to you to try to figure out of they are catfish or not…not so great.

You get to see them before you go out with them…great. Most of the time they look nothing like their pictures…not so great.

 

I’ve always been in a long term relationship and even when I got divorced, it was that I was looking for. But in the last 4 years of trying that and picking once again, the losers, I’ve decided that I am just going to have fun, screw it…

 

I am going to date, I am going to meet new people, have fun, go out and dance until my feet hurt. I am going to live in the moment and not worry about a relationship but live right now and if along the way God puts someone in my life then so be it.

(Yes, I said God needs to pick…. Hello… did you miss the part where I said that I continually pick losers…that is why he needs to pick for me)

 

So from now on I am not looking for long term…I am not looking for Mr Forever, I am looking for Mr Right now.

I am looking for fun…I am looking for dinners, dancing, shows, laughs and good times… believe me I forgot how much fun it was back in the day when I was just out here having fun.

 

Look life is too short, I might not meet the man of my dreams for years, I refuse to sit around and cry about…say that all men are dogs or just give up like so many of my friends.

 

I don’t give up, its not my style. I refuse to lump all men together just because I’ve chose the shitty ones, time and time again. I have plenty of wonderful male friends, I know there are good men out there.

 

I refuse to cry about it, no not happening. I will not be on the receiving end anymore, if anything I will be dishing it out.

 

Do I think I am all that? Do I think I am so beautiful? No, I know I am not the prettiest girl in the room but I know my worth, I know what I bring to the table and it is priceless.

 

I know that my spirit, my laughter, my positive attitude attracts people to me. I know I am a ride or die bitch, I will have your back, no matter what, I will be your biggest cheerleader, you will never find a more loyal person in your life besides your mama.

 

These are a few of my many qualities I have and I will not be just giving them to someone who doesn’t deserve them anymore. I will not settle, chase or beg a man to see these things, if you don’t…it’s your loss honey.

 

So today my friends…stop worrying about meeting the “Perfect” Guy, stop bashing all men, stop crawling into a hole just because another one is a loser, know your worth, know you are a precious Jewel and you will no longer just give away, what is worth millions.

 

So just have fun with it, go with the flow, date, explore, laugh…just have fun…

Never forgot Cindy Lauper’s song…”Girls just wanna have fun”

 

(Now your singing it aren’t you? I am and dancing around the room…Oh girls just wanna have fun… Baa haaa….)

 

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Why you mad at me

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Why you mad at me?

 

I don’t get it…you date someone, you tell them you want to take it slow, you are up front and honest saying you don’t want to live together or get married but if that is all okay with you, we can date and see what happens.

 

You have some nice times, you enjoy each other’s company, you laugh together, your even there for each in tough times but then your not feeling it, it’s not what you thought it would be, it’s too much like what you’ve already been through and your not going back there. So as nicely as possible you explain this isn’t working, this isn’t where you want to be anymore.

 

Look you didn’t cheat, you didn’t lie, you didn’t package it to be something it wasnt…you were straight up and yet they are still mad.

 

I get it if you meet someone and you like them, there is this chemistry. They tell you they want a relationship, that they never met anyone like you…that they want 50 years with you, they call you, text you, change plans to be with you…and then when you sleep with them…poof they are gone…no explanation, nothing,

I get being mad then.

 

They packaged it as one thing then like a switch and bait, they changed it up and left you out in the cold…

 

But if your up front if you say look I’m here and I’m not sure if I ever want to take this to the next level and then it doesn’t work, that’s on you, not on the other person.

 

I get it that you are hurt, but they never lied, they never said it was what it wasnt…

This wasn’t about telling you what you wanted to hear to get what you wanted to get…this was presented to you just as it was…you took it, fully knowing what was in that box.

 

You weren’t handed a box and then when you opened it, it was empty or with something you didn’t buy…

 

We need to realize that sometimes we can’t have what we want…that even if we feel one way, the other person may not. And that is cool, that is life, as long as we are all adults about it, it’s all good.

 

If we are upfront and say look we only want a one night stand, are you cool with it? The other person has that choice..yes, that’s cool or not for me thanks anyway and can walk away.

 

If you say I want to date and see what happens but I am not looking for marriage or living with someone, that person has a choice to say “You know I want more, so thanks but no”

 

Or if they chose the terms, they need to stick to them, they can’t go into it with the thoughts “I’ll chnage their minds eventually” And when they don’t, they get mad and blame you.

They talk shit about you, that you have issues…What telling the truth, issues? Packaging and presenting it just the way it was, issues?

 

No, you can’t blame or be mad because it doesn’t work out, if it was presented to you that way in the first place.

 

As for people who present it another way…that’s you, you do have issues, you lie to get what you want, you don’t care about others feelings…you are only for you and what you can get…that’s on you…and what comes around, goes around, believe me.

 

So today my friends remember how you package things…be mindful of others feelings, be real, be honest, be a grownup.

Say what you really want, do what you say, package it and present it as it is…

So you won’t be mad later…

 

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Our nation…pray for it

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Our nation…Pray for it

 

We are in terrible state in the world today, the world is divided. People are deleting friends over politics, people are hating others, it seems like we regressed 50 years, that we lost all we fought for.

 

But God tells us that we need to pray for everyone, yes, even people you can’t stand.

 

You need to pray for all people

You need to pray for your enemies, for your ex’s, for the people that talk behind your back….

Yes it’s hard, people have done you wrong..why would you pray for them?

 

“Pray that they get hit by a car maybe, that’s the only prayer I’m praying for them” you might be saying …let’s be real we all thought of it one time or another.

 

“Wait you want me to pray for that person who begged me for money, then sits up in church with their new outfit on and still haven’t paid me yet?”

 

Yes, God says we need to pray and it’s I know it’s hard, I’ve been there, I’m mad I don’t want to pray, I don’t even like them, I’m sure as hell ain’t praying for them or for them to get blessings.

 

But the bible says “Ask God to help them…intercede on their behalf and give thanks for them”

 

Sometimes we ask God where are you? In this time of turmoil, as our country lays in unrest, we don’t understand. We ask why have you forsaken me?

 

We are human…we cry out but they hurt us, they lied, they cheated, they did me wrong, how can I pray for them and ask God to bless them…are you kidding? Did you hear what I said they did to me?”

“How can I pray for people who are hating others, who are taking our rights away, who clearly want to divide the country?”

 

This message is for the world…we need to pray for everyone, the hate mongers, the lying people, the government even our president, even if you didn’t vote for him…we still need to pray for him.

 

This was a message for the world…no matter who we voted for…we are told in the bible that we need to pray

 

“Pray this way for kings and for all in authority so that we can live in peace”

 

Yes, we are commanded to pray for our leaders, our government, it is on us to bring peace to the world.

We need to be the light for the rest of the world, we need to set the example, to show love and forgiveness, to pray, yes even for our enemies, we need to be the change.

 

So today my friends remember, we as Christians are suppose to be Christ like, we are suppose to love, to show love, be love. To forgive, to pray, to show kindness even when none is shown to us…

 

That is what Jesus did, that is what he died for and even there he asked for forgiveness and he prayed for the ones who did this to him…even as they were killing him…he prayed for them…

This is our nation…even as they are killing it, we need to pray for it and for them.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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