Unless you’ve been there

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Unless you’ve been there..


Every one of us has been through things in our lives, divorce, death of a loved one, or multiple loved ones, sickness, deceit, back stabbing by so called friends or family.


Some of us have been lied to cheated on, been through drug and alcohol addiction, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, rape and for some, even more incredibly traumatic events.


But how can I relate to you if I didn’t go through it? How can I be a comfort to you and give you advise if I don’t know your pain, if I personally don’t know your struggle?


I can’t tell you I know how you feel, I can’t possibly know how you feel if I haven’t been there and that’s the fact. Yes, I can be sympathetic, I can be there and listen but I couldn’t imagine what your feeling unless I once felt that pain in my life.


As much as I would have liked to have a “perfect ” life without all my hardships and tragedies, if I did I wouldn’t be able to sit here and write this blog.


I wouldn’t be able to touch so many of you who write to me and tell me how my words helped them.


This last week three people reached out to me, one of them, I knew from high school and would have never imagined in a million years that he reads my blog. He told me reading my stories has helped him, that he is now going through a divorce but he has hope because he sees what my life use to be, what I went through and how amazing my life is now.

Every single time someone reaches out to me, I am grateful, if I can help one person than I am doing my purpose.


See, if I didn’t go through it, I would just be giving lip service to something I knew nothing about and you would be able to see right through me.


I had to go through all I did so that I could help others, so that I can say I know how you feel at this moment but I am here to tell you that it will be okay, that you will get through it, that even though it seems like you’ve hit rock bottom, even when you can’t see any light, I know how that feels as well, I’ve been there too.


I know it seems hopeless now but I survived and you can too. Just hold on and know your not alone, you are not the only one suffering or has suffered.  It will get better, it can and will be incredible, if you just hold on to the tiniest mustard seed of hope.


How would I know it will get better if it hasn’t already happened to me? How would I know how it feels to hold on, to believe and visualize a better life and then have it all come to pass, if I didn’t do it myself.


I needed to go through all of this to be able to comfort others just as you need to go through your struggles so that you may pay it forward, to help someone else out.


So today my friends, remember you needed to go through all you’ve been through for a reason, you may not be able to see it now, there may olny be blackness and storms, you may be barely able to breathe, but eventually the sun will come out again, there will be a rainbow after the storm and you will know your strength and be able to say…I’ve been there…let me help you…this is my story…this is my testimony.


“Be the change you want to see”


“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”


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