Can men and women be friends?

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Can men and women be friends?


This has been a question long asked by both men and women, can the opposite sex be just friends?


When you ask this question you will get a lot of different responses. I was shocked by how many, when I was talking about it with a bunch of my friends recently.


You had the one side that said no, no way….men and women can’t do it, there is always sex that comes in the way. They said eventually you end up in bed together or its that the guy wants to sleep with you and is just your friend for that reason.


Then there was the opposite group saying yes, why not?

I am, of course in this group, as I grew up mostly having male friends and since my divorce have reconnected with many of them.


I don’t get it and maybe it’s because I am an only child and always wanted to have brothers. Or maybe it’s the fact that guy friends don’t bring drama in your life and you will definitely never have a cat fight with them.


I love my guy friends, they are truly like my brothers, sleep with them? Yuck! Would you sleep with your brother? Sexually attraction? No! I want to hook them up with my girl friends, please…


Look a lot of people are very insecure and don’t trust their partners, if that’s you, get over it!

If they are going to cheat, they are going to cheat, whether it’s with their best friend, your best friend, the waitress down the street, with their assistant, if that’s what they want to do, they will do it.


My view is you trust your man or women until they give you reason not to, period.


See my guy friends have given me a lot in my life, they have given me advice, they taught me things, helped me out of binds, even pretended to be my date to get rid of a creeper.


My world was not the same without them. While I was married to the most insecure man on this planet, I gave up all my male friends, I was even stupid enough to cut my very best friend out of my life for him and hell he was gay! Duh no threat there!


Today I have my church husband, my neighbor husband, for years I had my work husband, my gay best friend. I have the most amazing guy friends that I can call on, at all hours and they would be there for me, not because they want to sleep with me but because we are truly friends. I never take that for granted, I know I am blessed.


So today my friends, I will tell you the one thing I’ve learned, is that life is way to short, have as many friends as possible, they enrich your life, they make things fun, they will have your back, they make each day that much brighter, so don’t limit yourself!! You can never have too many friends!


“Be the change you want to see”


“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”


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