I don’t know why this still surprises me, especially in the last 2 years when so many of my “so called friends” did this to me.
Maybe it’s because I would never dream of doing this to a friend. If you know me you know I am a friend till the end. I still have friends since grade school. I am a ride or die friend, a call at 4 am friend, a I will be there no matter what friend, so to me this is hard.
But as I learned in the last 2 years not everyone is like me, no they are far, far from it.
I know these are lessons God is trying to teach me but still, every time it happens, I am shocked.
The latest of backstabbing happened last night, when my phone started blowing up from my true friends asking me if I saw a post.
They proceeded to tell me my “so called” friend posted a picture of my recently ex boyfriend and her best friend and how she wished them a wonderful time on the cruise he bought for ME on Christmas. Yes, the cruise I wrote about other day, the one I didn’t go on because my soul is not for sale.
Look…I dumped him, I refused to repeat the same mistake, with the same type of man.
So I moved on but to put that out there just to try to slap me in my face is cold, it’s a bitchy move, and all of my true friends called to say so.
But it’s all good, in the last 2 years, I lost one of my best friends because I wasn’t
“spiritual” enough for her, I lost another best friend and the money I loaned her.
My other “friend” blatantly flirted and sat on the lap of the man I was in love but was separated from, at my own birthday party!
And then she threw a bitch fit when I didnt invite her to a gathering in my home. Screaming at me in front of 20 of our friends “How dare you not to invite me to your party!”
Like she was the queen or something!
Yes, I am getting use to backstabbing “friends” And believe me I am getting quicker at kicking them to the curb.
I have learned a lot, in the last 2 years:
1st: Not everyone is entitled to the name “best friend” that is saved for friends that have been there, that have proved themselves through thick and thin.
2nd: Not everyone is like me, not everyone has integrity, not everyone is a loyal friend.
3rd: Not everyone is going to be there for the whole ride,.as much I would like that to be…it’s just not so.
Some are here for a reason, some for a season and some are here for a lesson and I have to deal with that.
It’s hard for a true friend to deal with but I am getting better at it. I have learned who is helping me row and who is drilling holes in my boat.
I have learned to rely on my intuition, to listen to that gut feeling, to cut my losses and move on.
And although it’s not easy to let go of friends you knew your whole life, sometimes you have to realize some people don’t grow up, some people are the same mean girls from high school, some people are bitter and jealous and will never be happy for you.
Those are just the facts and after all the work I’ve done to make myself a better person, a positive person, how many times I exposed my soul in this blog to help others, I refuse to go backwards for a man or for a “so called friend”
So today my “friends” remember you are the captain of your own boat, you don’t have to entertain back stabbing “friends”
You don’t have to put up with any of it, throw them overboard, get rid of the dead weight, you ship is headed to amazing places, places these people have no right to go with you to.
And trust me only a certain few get the honor to sit at the Captain’s table.
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