Hating bitches arent happy and happy bitches arent hating

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Hating bitches aren’t happy, Happy bitches aren’t hating

 

My cousin said this to me recently and I thought how true…this says it all.

 

I choose never to hate, never to be envious. I am truly happy for my friends when they get promotions, when something great happens to them, when they meet the man of their dreams.

 

I am happy for them as if it was happening to me, my heart fills with joy for them. This is when you know you are happy and fulfilled in your own life. When even though you might not have everything you might want your still grateful for what you do have and you can share in the joy of others.

 

On the other hand hating bitches aren’t happy, they are jealous, petty and angry. They think that it should have have happened to them, why wasn’t them?

They will never be happy for you as they are too busy hating on you for what they think they should have gotten.

 

I don’t have time to worry about hating bitches, I am too busy being happy, I am too busy giving praise to God for the blessings he shows to me and my friends.

I am too busy praying for others to get what they want or need.

 

See being happy isn’t all about you, it’s about helping others, it’s about praying for other’s lives to improve, it’s about giving, even when you don’t have it because you know how it feels to be there. You know how it feels to feel hopeless and this small thing you have sacrificed, will give them the hope to go on.

 

You will sacrifice your own happiness for another, because you know it’s not your time.. yet, but it is their time now and you would never want to ruin it for them.

 

My other friend said to me last night, that not everyone is happy for your blessings and I thought how sad… how sad that you are so wrapped up in yourself and what you think you are owed, what you think you deserve, that you can’t or won’t be happy for someone’s else blessings.

 

I’ll never forgot when a friend of mine who was also in a verbally abusive marriage finally moved out. I helped her move and unpack with hardly nothing that she took with her, as she sat there amongst the empty room, the look of peace on her face made me cry.

I was so happy for her, she did it, she was finally free and happy and even though I was still deep into my own verbally abusive marriage, I could still be happy for her, genuinely happy, that she did it.

 

That is when you know you are happy within yourself. When you are both in the same situation but your friend gets to the finish line first, as much as you may have wanted to get there first, your still happy she did it and know that it couldn’t have happened to a nicer or more deserving person.

 

This is when you realize what side of this statement you are on… Are you hating? Or are you happy?

So today my friends, can you honestly answer that question?

 

Look deep inside and find out because hating bitches are happy and happy bitches aren’t hating.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Karma comes in all forms

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Karma comes in all forms

I remember for the last few years I always thought where was Karma? How come people who did you wrong just seemed to get away with it, with no recourse at all.

How is this fair? How is it that you do all the right things, yet you get used, you get stepped on and the people who did it, just walk away and keep living the good life, leaving you suffering in their wake.

You want justice, you want to see karma and you want a front row seat. Yes, we all feel this one time or another in our life. We are human and I raise my hand to this.

I kept thinking, is there Karma? And how long does it take? Yes, I am still working on my patience.

But recently I learned karma comes in all kinds of forms, not just the kind you want or expect.

At my daughter’s graduation when my ex wouldn’t even speak to me, let alone look at me, when he was so blinded by his hate for me that he couldn’t even put his daughter’s feelings in front of his own. When I saw the all the hatred, all the bitterness and the pettiness of his actions that day I realized that is karma…right there.

He is living with all of these feelings, they are consuming him, eating him up alive, this is his karma.

I have moved on, I forgive him, to a point that I would even be willing to be friends with him for the sake of my girls.

I have an amazing life filled with love, with peace and joy.

I have a incredible support system, my church and church family, I enjoy every moment I spend with my girls, my friends and family. I live in the moment, I cherish these moments and I am grateful for everything I have.

No, I might not have as much as he still has but what I do have is priceless.

I look at his mother and how she is still angry and bitter 45 years later, over her divorce and I think….he is her…and I never want to be like that. I watched my grandma be like that and I swore as a little girl I would never be that way…I chose to be different.

This is karma in it’s worst form, a self inflicting karma, that invades your very heart and soul, that poisons you and everyone you touch. Even I wouldn’t wish this karma on anyone, as this is a life sentence for a person.

I pray for him…for my girls, as they are effected by his behavior and I pray I can teach them to let go of pain and hurt and not let it effect their lives like this.

My idea of karma was not this… but you have no control of karma and you are just here to learn lessons. Life is one big lesson, you pass one test, you move on. you don’t and you go back and repeat it until you get it right.

So today my friends, I have learned my lesson, I’ve learned that karma comes in all shapes and forms, karma comes on its all time and it’s up to you to find the lessons in it all.

My lesson was to forgive, to let it go, move on, to keep my heart open and to chose who I want to be…and to pray for those who can’t or won’t.

So, what are you holding on to? What pain, anger, hurt, is changing who you are? Are you your own karma?

Think about it and know karma will always come…just not in the way you thought.

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When its over…our breaking point

 

We all have a breaking point, a point where enough is enough, when you refuse to put up with shit for one more minute, not even for one more second.

 

When you realize you’ve been doing it all yourself, when you know that other person is not willing to step up and when you know this is no longer good for you.

 

Women are funny creatures, we will love you, we will put up with your crap, we will do anything to save a relationship but when it’s over…it’s done…finished…there is no going back.

 

When you get to that point where you no longer care, when you realize you’ve wasted so much time, when you refuse to cry over this loser, for one more second, it is then that that door to our hearts closes shut and it’s locked shut forever.

 

For so many of us, we will go back, we believe the lies, wanting it to work so bad that, you get sucked in, yet again. You love him and your heart over rules your head.

 

You want to see the good side, you want to believe he is a good man, that he’s not lying or cheating….again.

(Okay, sorry…I’m a one and done chick, you cheat once, we are done, no second chance…ever!!)

 

But I do know many women that will take back the dirt bags even if they cheated a few times, because as women, we love that strong. We love you…we give you our hearts, you are part of our souls and we want it to work, so badly some times, that we will lose ourselves trying to save the relationship.

 

For so many of us, we are romantics, we are living for the candlelight dinners, the flowers, the love notes, the affection and yes, that will work till a point….but when you cross that point all the flowers in the world won’t help you.

 

If you can’t back up your words with actions, when over and over your actions speak louder than your words, when you break our hearts time and time and time again….we are done.

 

Once that happens, once our hearts turn into stone…then your finished.

 

We will get mad, we will curse you, we will realize that we deserve better. We will realize all that we gave to you, we will open our eyes and see what great women we are. We will know that some other man will see our worth, when you are to stupid to see it, or too lazy to keep it.

 

We will find someone else, we will move on and look back at all we did to try to please you and all you did to take advantage of that love and think…why did we ever put up with your shit.

 

And when you realize what you’ve lost and you will…it will be too late…we will have past that stage, we would have already out grown you and your childness.

 

So today my friends, especially my male readers, please know if you find a good women, do not treat her that way, treat her with respect, love her, cherise her, put in the time and effort just as you would if it was your job.

Make her feel like the only one in the world, text to let her know she’s on your mind, romance her, give her all your free time. Give her what she wants most, your honesty, your time and your heart.

 

Fellows… if you do that you will have a ride or die chick, you will have a women who will do anything for you, she will have your back, be there for you and be your biggest cheerleader.

 

But if you don’t…that heart will eventually close you out…for good…and you will know you have pushed her to her breaking point.

 

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When it’s over…our breaking point

I may go to church but I am not perfect

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I may go to church but I am far from perfect…

 

Yes, some of you follow me on social media and you see that I go to church every Sunday and Wednesday. I write a special blog on Mondays called Monday message which is what I learned in church on Sundays. I praise God and I am constantly saying how grateful and blessed I am.

But don’t get it twisted I am not perfect…yes, I still like to go out dancing and no, I don’t think I am going to hell for it.

I love a good bottle of wine with dinner and a beer with Mexican food or on a cold day.

I can curse with the best of them, I come from a potty mouth family.

 

I do stupid things without asking God’s opinion, I pick men with issues, oh hell do you have a week for me to go on?

 

I write all about my failures, all about my screw ups…I am far from perfect. My Bishop says sick people come to church, people that need help, well that’s me.

 

I was lost and broken, ready to give up, I had no where else to go, I had hit rock bottom so who am I to preach to anyone about what they should or shouldn’t do.

 

Who am I to say I am a better Christian than you…I am no better. I am a sinner and so is everyone else even those “churchy” perfect people… please….

 

They have some nerve to look down from their high horses and think they are better than any one of us. Obviously they missed the part in the bible that said “He without sin cast the first stone”

 

Hello, just because you go to church doesn’t make you a Christian any more than sitting in a garage makes you a car!

 

How do you treat people outside of church? Do you give of your time? Do you reach out to a stranger or even to your neighbor? These are the things that mean you are Christian not that you go to church.

 

So don’t be so fast to judge others because their walk isn’t exactly like yours. It’s their walk for a reason. Walk yours… shine your light, don’t make others not want to come to church, don’t shine a bad light on what God is trying to achieve, which is to bring everyone to him, not just the “perfect” people.

 

There was a reason that Jesus disciples were a bunch of mitfits and criminals. He chose thief’s, liars, murderers, the bottom of the barrel. Why? To show us that even when you hit rock bottom there is still room for change, that he would forgive all of your sins, that he wanted those with a story of survival to preach his message.

 

So today my friends, remember you don’t have to be perfect to be a Christian, you just have to try to be a better person than you were yesterday, you have to tell your testimony and God’s grace on your life, you have to be you…just working towards a better version.

 

You have to have compassion for others, you have to love thy neighbor and your enemies, you have to have tolerance for others who have different lifestyles, different religions, different sexual orientation. See that is what makes you a “perfect” Christian, doing what Jesus did.

 

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Forgiviness is not for others, it is for you

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Forgiveness is not for others, it is for you…

Recently this topic has come up a lot with me and my friends and I realized that forgiveness is a very hard thing to do for a lot of people.

It wasn’t easy for me as well until I learned one key factor…it is for me and not them.

I remember driving my Mustang GT it was a beautiful day, t tops were off, radio was blasting, I was looking and feeling good. A perfect day until I saw my rapist coming out of a place with some girl laughing like he didn’t have a care in the world.

All of a sudden everything about me changed, I gripped the steering wheel, I wanted to run him over…a few times, I was angry and wanted revenge. Totally different persona then 5 minutes before, but what I realized is he didn’t know and didn’t care how I felt, he was going on with his own life and none of this was effecting him.

When I loaned money to my best friend and she took off, I had not olny lost my money but my best friend as well. You better believe I was hurt and angry.

But I knew I had to forgive her, not for her but for me. See I learned that unforgiviness will empower those who OWE you to OWN you…

Yes, they will own you, your thoughts, your emotions, your time, your whole life is thinking and hating them…they own you.

Letting go, let’s you go… you have to forgive and then let go…it’s the only way to release it. In order for us to continue to grow, we have to learn how to continue letting go.

Now let me tell you, forgiveness is NOT…a approval of what the offender did to you…

Is is not closing our eyes to the wrong…

Forgiveness is not forgetting…

Forgiveness is not submitting to abuse…

Forgiveness is not automatically trusting again…

Forgiveness is not always the restoration of a relationship…

You can forgive but your not going to get played again, your not going to allow that person back into your life.

Yes, I forgiven my rapist but I will never forget the pain he caused me.

Yes, I forgiven my best friend but we are done, finshed, you will never get the chance to screw me over again. This goes for the men in my life as well, I will forgive you for lying, for cheating, for hurting me but we are done.

I am a one and done girl, I will be your best friend, have your back and be your biggest supporter but you screw me and we are done!

We also think forgiveness is avoiding confrontation. No, you are allowed to say your feelings, to confront the people on their wrong doings, to tell them your mad, hurt and pissed as hell. You can be all of these things and speak them but then you must forgive and walk away.

Unforgiviness is a spirit of bondgage, that keeps you stagnant and stuck in that place of hurt and hate…

Forgiveness is a spirit of liberation that sets you free so that we can move on without hatred.

People think if I forgive them, then I am giving them a pass on what they did.

No, your not, your not saying it’s okay that you’ve done such a horrible thing. Your acknowledging what they did, your speaking to what they did, your not forgetting what they did but your releasing all the hate and anger you are holding within you, you are setting yourself free.

So today my friends, is anger and hate holding you hostage? When you think of that person does your whole persona change?

Is all your time focused on hating them and hurting for what they did to you?

When they are living their lives without a care in the world, not thinking of you and what they did to you…see hating them has no effect on them…none what so ever …the only effect it has is on you…think about that… and then forgive and set your self free…

“What you can become depends on what you can overcome”

Be the change you want to see”

” And just when the moth thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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The kindness of people

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The kindness of people

 

I know we have all been hurt, we’ve been lied to, cheated on, we have even been screwed by our own best friends, well, I know that I have at least.

 

Sometimes it hardens our heart, it makes us build walls to keep people from hurting us again and it makes us angry and bitter.

 

But I am not built that way, I forgive, I move on, I trust again and again and again. I remember saying not that long ago that I know I would get my heart broken again, I just didn’t think it would be so fast….

But even with that, I know I will still be open to another love.

 

Even saying all that, it still surprises me when people go out of their way to be kind to me.

Recently it has been a hard time for me and my family and then to top it all off my daughter got into a hit and run accident and her car was totaled.

We had no idea what we were going to do, she had no money and she just started this job, which was a hour a way.

 

She was flipping out but I told her that God always takes care of us and that we had to believe that, something would work out.

 

It was then a friend of mine told me he had a car for her that he would sell to us for 3,000 less than book value.

But it gets better, he would take payments from her with no interest. I went into the ugly cry…who does that?

Not even her own father, yet this man stepped up and did this for us.

 

How amazing that a person’s heart is that big? That there is still great people out there and that nothing is impossible if you believe.

 

Yes, this was just another sign for me that God will provide, that there are good people in this world, that even when it seems hopeless, you need to hold on, just hold on.

 

We have to believe that people are good, that no everyone is out to hurt you, to use you, to take advantage of you, that you have to have an open hand and heart to receive.

 

So today my friends, remember there is always that one friend out there willing to go that extra mile for you, there is always hope even in the darkest moments, that yes, God will provide and that nothing is impossible if you believe.

 

Today I would like to say to my dear friend, thank you…thank you for your kindness, thank you for showing me there are amazing, good men out there, thank you for teaching my daughter this lesson as well and thank you for teaching her to have faith. There are not enough words to express my gratitude for you being in my life. You will be in my heart forever… I love you my friend♡♡♡

 

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My what big balls you have behind that conputer screen

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My, you have big balls behind that computer screen

 

Technology is amazing, look I write my blog while I’m on the treadmill, how great is that?

I can keep in touch with friends and family all around the world. I can have my message touch thousands, one day even millions of people, from the comfort of my own home. Yes, today’s technology is a wonderful thing.

 

But with every good comes some bad and technology is no different. All of a sudden some people get behind a computer screen and they become a critic, look how random people tore into the singer Pink about how they thought she was fat. They made such horrible comments, comments that mind you, that they would never have enough balls to say to her face. Or the other trolls that blast this celebrity or that one online.

 

Same thing with today’s on line dating, these men say things they would never dream of saying in person but because you are “anonymous” all of a sudden you grow a big pair!

 

Would you really have enough guts to call a woman baby, sexy or delicious, just meeting them? Probably not. Would you ask her what underwear she was wearing on the first date? Would you ask her if she likes to get spanked while sitting across from her on the first date? Yeah right.. not unless you wanted to get slapped.

 

No, but boy oh boy you got some things to say while sitting behind the safety of that screen!

 

They feel protected, like all of sudden these meek, shy people suddenly sit behind this screen and they become different people. They think it’s okay to spew hateful things to others, call you names, you get up on their invisible soap box and say and do things they would never have the guts to do otherwise.

 

I am sorry, I am me, behind the screen or in your face, I tell it like it is. I wouldn’t say something on here, that I wouldn’t be afraid to say to your face.

 

I have feelings and I know others do as well, so I think about how what I say to someone would effect them and how would it feel, if someone said it to me.

 

I think about a person’s feelings, it doesn’t matter if it’s behind a screen or not, words can hurt. Take it from a person who was in a verbally abusive marriage, words can cut you to the core.

Words can change who you are. Why would you want to cut someone down when you can lift them up instead.

Why would you chose mean words when kind words go so much deeper, what does that say about you as a person? Think about that one….

 

So today my friends this is a message to all of the people out there behind their computer screens…grow a real set, a big set while your at it, not just the pretend set you put on when you sit behind the screen.

 

It is then, when you can say the things behind the screen to a person’s face that you will be real, that you will actually have a set of balls.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Father’s day message

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Father’s day message: There are good men out there

 

With all of my dating horror stories, well okay they are not all bad, just most of them!

 

I always try to look at the bright side,which is that at least I get good stories to write about from them. But honestly, I truly know there are good men out there.

 

I was blessed enough to have 3 wonderful men in my life while I was growing up, my dad, my step dad and a incredible family friend named Sam. These 3 men were the best men I’ve ever met, they are what real men should be. The men today need to take lessons from these 3 men.

 

My real dad paid 100.00 a week for me, back then it was like 1000.00 today. He paid for my braces, my camp, my school clothes, dance lessons and whatever else my mom needed for me. He showed up every Sunday, every school event, every recital.

 

My step dad taught me to fish, to fix things, to ride a bike, he helped me with my homework, he woke up in the middle of the night to rub my legs when I had growing pains.

He never treated me as a step daughter to him I was his daughter that he shared with my dad.

 

Then I was blessed to have Sam, my big daddy as we called him. He was in my life as long as I can remember. He was always there to talk to, to make me laugh, he taught me to shoot pool, to read people, to believe anything was possible.

These were men of God, men of honor, men with huge hearts that weren’t afraid to show love.

 

So it’s not like I dont know what a good man looks like. I also have some great male friends in my life. Single dads, back when single dad’s didn’t have a name. I know hard working men, willing to help when your in a bind, I know kind and caring men who are wonderful father’s, who I am proud to call friends.

 

I do know that a good man is hard to find but I also know it’s not impossible as I’ve had so many good men in my life. And I know that one day when I am not looking I will find that good man and when I do, it will blow my mind.

 

So today my friends,  remember there are good men out there, there are great father’s that we should applaud, men that stand up for their children, that do the right thing even if they aren’t biological. They are the role models that we look up to, to let us know that yes, there are great men out there. So thank you…for being the great men that you are.

 

Happy father’s day to all the amazing father’s out there! We are proud of you!

 

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Why I no longer fear

The reason I no longer fear

 

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On Monday I wrote about a sermon I needed to hear about fear. Yes, I am Christian but I am human as well and sometimes it’s hard…life is hard let’s be real here…

Sometimes life sucks, things come at you, people screw you over, you lose jobs, you lose “friends” Sometimes you lose yourself trying to please others, it’s tough to get through a day at times.

 

And I am not immune to it just because I am “Christian” Being Christian doesn’t automatically give you a perfect life, just the skills to deal with an imperfect life.

 

Yes, Miss motivational speaker, Miss I write an inspirational blog, Miss I am always positive, yes, I get down, I cry, I ask why me? Again, I am human and I want anyone out there to say “No, that’s not me” And I will say your lying…

 

We are all human, even preachers, we all go through storms and think, I don’t think I can make it, how will I make it? I am too tired to make it….

 

Yes, for the most part I do live by what I preach, I have faith, I have peace. I don’t worry but there are times when everything is coming at you at once, when your ducking and weaving so much you feel like your in a prize fight and your losing.

 

We all have been there and recently my daughter is going through this, this kid stresses over everything, she makes herself sick with worry and Lord she’s only twenty.

 

If she’s stressing at twenty like this what’s going to happen when real life hits, bills, kids, a husband…what’s going to happen then?

 

So I am trying to teach her that all that stress and worry won’t change the outcome of anything she is worried about.

 

This is my teaching, my put my money where my mouth is moment, as shit is hitting the fan in my life as well but I have decided not to worry.

 

Yes, she wrecked her car, yes, she has no money, yes, her father is horrible towards her. This is huge for the 2 of us as we try to figure out what we are going to do about all of this.

 

But through all of this, I refuse to let all of this steal my peace and as I wrote yesterday, I have came to far to do that.

So I am teaching her to let it go, to have faith, to believe that it will get better.

 

She is one tough cookie and this is no different but if I can get her to see me, see the fact that I am brutally honest with both my girls about my life. If I can get her to see my problems and how I am choosing to deal with them maybe she will get it.

 

If I lose sleep, if I stress to the point I literally make myself sick is that going to make a car appear, is it going to put money in my bank account? Is all of my problems suddenly going to change? No….absolutely not so why do it?

 

I chose ….Oh there’s that word again…I chose to not worry, I chose to stay in a state of peace.

Is it easy?…Now come on is anything easy in the beginning?

Why do we always want easy?No, it’s not but the more and more you do it, it gets easier, it becomes a habit and eventually it seems natural and you no longer think about it, it is just something you do.

 

And even when you slip back into old habits, you can realize it faster and go back to that place of peace.

 

So today my friends this blog is for my beautiful, kind, smart and amazing daughter….it will be okay…watch me….learn from me …. I am here for you always, we will get though this.

 

God has favor over our lives, he got this….let go of your fear….just have faith and until you do, don’t worry, I have enough faith for the two of us…. remember anything is possible if you believe!

 

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Once you’ve found peace, you never want to let it go

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Once you’ve found peace, you never want to let it go

 

Recently with all that has been going on in my life, I’ve felt like my peace was slipping away and this scared me.

 

Because it has taken me so long time to get to this space that I am in now, this was a lot of hard work and I knew what it felt like before, to stress and worry all the time.

 

See for years I didn’t like myself, I hated my life and I was unhappy. I made the change, I made the conscious effort to change my life.

I learned to take time out for me, to let go of the stuff I couldn’t change and to find inner peace and joy.

 

Let me tell you when you get to a place where you find it, where you truly know inner peace and then something happens where your peace is disturbed, you feel it right away.

There is an uneasiness that fills you, you start to worry about things, you feel off balanced and unsettled, just like how I use to feel in the past.

 

I don’t ever want to go back to the days of darkness, where I couldn’t see the sun, where I couldn’t find things to smile about and where I hated my life and myself, no there will not be a return visit for me.

 

Now each and every day I wake up, I chose to be happy, I chose to be grateful, I chose to see the world through rose colored glasses. It is a choice, my choice and I chose to have this peace in my life.

 

I have girlfriends that have drama in their lives every day and then they want to drag me into their drama. I love you but unless you choose to change then you must like the situation you are in and I chose not to be dragged in.

 

How many times do you need to go through the same stuff expecting different results?

Its called insanity!

 

I chose not to hang out with negative people, as they suck all the life out of you, they want to bring you down with them.

 

I want to surround myself with people who are positive, happy and love life, even with all the ups and downs, they chose to be happy!

 

Life is a choice, there are choices every day, you chose not to do drugs, to steal, to hurt people, to cheat, to be miserable. These are choices you make every day, we live in the greatest country in the world, a country that allows you to chose, how great is that?

 

So because it took me so very long to get to a place of peacefulness, I know that every dark night, every tear, every cry to God for help was worth it. As I have found a place in my life that is so incredible that even as a writer, I have no words to describe this feeling!

 

So when I was getting sucked into the drama that was my life for these last few weeks, I realized just how much I need my peace.

 

I felt I was swimming up stream against the current, fighting just to catch my breathe and who wants to live like that?

Are you living like that? Is each day a struggle? Are you surrounded with negative people? Are you caught up in drama filled life?

 

You need to chose, you step out and step up to a better life. This is your life people and you only get one trip, why spend it worried, anxious, hateful and miserable.

 

Isn’t better to feel peace and joy, gratefulness, forgiveness and be with one with God and the universe?

 

So today my friends remember it is a new day, you were blessed to be woken up, make the decision to erase the past, to start over, to decide bring peace into your life, wake up and chose!!

 

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