Tuesday Treadmill Treats
It’s a give and take
A few weekends ago I was blessed to spend some time with friends of mine that have been married for thirty years.
As we were sitting down to dinner my girlfriend asked him if he wanted her to pack the corn on the cob or would he like her to take the corn off the cob for him, for lunch the next day.
I almost choked on my own corn and said “Did you just ask him if he wanted you to take the corn off the cob?”
She laughed and said “Yes, why”
Me being the smartass that I am said “Do you want to chew it for him too?”
She smiled and said
“I love to do things like that for him, he does all kinds of wonderful things for me, it’s the least I could do”
“Wow… now that is a real marriage” I replied.
And then it really hit me when after dinner he disappeared and I thought he went upstairs to watch the game on tv, but as I walked outside there he was washing her car!
I wanted to cry…she wasn’t just saying these things, this is how they lived their lives, this is how they got to 30 years. They both put the other first, they constantly did things to make the other happy, small things, big things, considerate things to make the other feel special, to let them know how much they mean to each other.
I was blown away, I had never had a relationship like that, I was always giving, always doing and always felt I was being taken advantage of, like I was getting the short end of the stick…
Obviously I was, obviously I didn’t know what a real relationship was, this….this was a real relationship based on love and respect…this is what I want the next time…this is what I dreamt of.
I am not saying their marriage is perfect, I know it’s not, they have gone through of their share of hard times but their love and respect for each other pulled them through it.
It’s truly a give and take, both equally giving and taking, that says a lot about how important this marriage is to both of them.
They have date night, he buys her gifts that he knows will make her smile, she has dinner waiting for him after a hard day at work, he washes her car and obviously she will take the corn off his cob, this is true love at it’s finest.
When you are willing to put someone’s feelings above your own and you feel appreciated for that, that is what makes it work.
I don’t know if I will ever be lucky enough to have 30 years with someone but whatever time I am blessed with, when I meet that special person I want to spend the rest of my life with…
I want to ask him if I can take the corn off his cob, if every day I do something to make him smile, to make him feel like the most special man on this earth because he is to me and for him to do the same for me.
So today my friends, remember what I always say, you get out of it what you put into it and this is definitely the definition of that.
It’s always a give and take.
“Be the change you want to see”
“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”
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