Closet racism

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Closet racism

 

With all thats been going on this last weekend, when 1 person was killed and 19 injured during a march in Charloteesville, with Kkk and neo-nazis coming out full force, I guess nothing should shock me.

 

But it has, as recently I learned something about someone I was close to, something that shook me to the core as I would have never thought this about these people.

 

Maybe I am just naive, maybe I just want to see the best in people and can’t bring myself to think that people can actually be so hateful.

 

But this was out and out racism. Loud and clear.

One posted a picture of two Muslim women sitting on a bench his caption was and I quote

 

“Fucking ragheads should go home, they don’t belong here!”

 

I almost spit up my coffee as I read this…did he actually just say this?

That was out and out pure hatred and racism and it made my stomach turn.

 

The next incident was directed at two of my closest friends by a ex.

And the fact that I heard it from them first hand, so I know it’s true.

 

I am thinking how do you hide that your a racist? Eventually it comes out, eventually it bleeds though and shows you for who you truly are.

 

What I am shocked about is how they held it together in front of me, both of them.

I say this because I have a gay best friend, my closest friends are 3 Puerto Ricans, a Native American, a Columbian and a Jew.

My church husband is black as is all of my church family.

 

My guardian angel is Nicaraguan and my girlfriend next door is Cuban, I have carribean friends, white friends..I have friends… I don’t see colors.

 

Yes, I have a melting pot of different colors, different religions, different ethnic backgrounds, different sexual orientations in my life and I love it. This is what brings the spice to my life, seeing, enjoying, being part of all of the differences, that people are.

 

Yet, we all know or maybe like me, don’t know that there is always a closet racist among us, that there is always that one person who will still call you a racist slur, say something that makes you stop in your tracks and shake your head.

 

That person who hates anyone who is not like “they are” who secretly wishes that it could be a white only race. That smiles at your face but behind closed doors talks a different tune.

 

I can’t believe that today, 2017 after we had a black president, we have gay marriages, we have come so far for equality for people who are different (Their words not mine)

 

That we still have people like this, people with such closed minds, such hardened hearts yet, saddly this is a fact of life.

 

I refuse to be part of someone like that, I live my life on love, love one another, love thy self, love for everyone. The bible talks about love 585 times.

Love is what is going to heal us as a world, as a nation, as a neighborhood, it starts with us.

 

So to my mixed up bunch of extremely different people, that I am blessed to share my life with, thank you…thank you for sharing your culture, your differences, your uniqueness, that something special, that makes you…you.

 

And to my closet racist, I will eventually find out it’s you and then we are done, I have no time in my life for you and your petty, closed minded opinions, I will delete you, cut you off, walk away…we are done.

 

So today my friends, remember there is always a hater out there, there is always going to be a closet racist, there will always be someone who can’t or won’t accept differences, pray for them, send them love, keep doing you, you are magnificently made, own it and know there are so many more of us that don’t see colors, don’t see the differences, that just see the heart.

 

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I am heartbroken

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I am heartbroken

 

There are no words to describe the lost of a best friend, your heart feels like it’s breaking in half, you feel like the wind was kicked out of you, you can’t breathe and no matter how many friends you lose it never gets any easier.

 

So when I got a phone call that one of my best friends I grew up with had just passed, all these emotions and more came rushing over me.

 

It was a beautiful day at the beach, a perfect beach day, I had just finished having dinner with my neighbor and sat down to do some writing on my 2nd book.

I was writing a chapter on how I had so many losses in my life, how I felt like maybe I’ve did something horrible in a past life that I was paying for it in this life.

When the phone rang and I got the news, just like that life can change once again.

 

You never know, I had just saw him, we had spent the weekend together last month on my visit home.

 

We laughed, we talked about all the great times we shared, I got to spend lots of quality time with him. We talked about all that we were grateful for, that after so many years of our lives taking different paths, we were blessed to find each other again.

 

We talked about meeting when we were 13, of how we were inseparable, how we rode the Boces bus together, how later on we worked together in the hotels upstate, taking the Concord bus home together. Going out to Bummies, the local collage pub, while we were in college.

How every morning we would wake up early to play tennis at Dehoyes park before we went off to work.

How we would sit at the launch at the lake, looking up at the stars, telling each other our hopes and dreams. All the late nights dancing at the Down under, The Chateau and Club 39, then going off to get an early morning breakfast at Gagers dinner or hot bagels at 3 am at the Bagel bakery.

 

We reminisced about how we lived together in Fort Lauderdale on the beach, me, him and his fiancee in an efficiency apartment. That we didn’t even care because we were overlooking the ocean and next nextdoor  there was all these famous places to party  at like Summers, The Elbow room and Penrods.

 

We talked about the thousand other memories we had shared, the secrets, the only you know stories and the late night I need someone to talk to, phone calls…

 

We also went deep, I spoke of how I loved you, too much to watch you throw your life away and how I let you have it. How it broke my heart to have to walk away when I knew you loved drugs more than you loved me and the people around you.

 

But even when push came to shove, even after all that, I was there for you when your dad died and I picked you up at the airport, took you to the funeral and stayed with you all weekend because no matter what, you were and always would be my best friend.

I let you know how my heart broke for you, because your pain was my pain, because I loved you that much.

 

Years flew by and we lost touch, you got your life together, you got married, had a baby, became a owner of successful restaurant across the country.

 

Then somehow God brought us together again two years ago and even though many years had past between us, it was as if it was yesterday, we didn’t skip a beat, we were right back to where we left off.

We called each other every few days, hey how are you, what’s doing…

Because we were so happy to be in each other’s lives again.

 

And when we finally saw each other how it felt like home. I will be forever grateful for the that, the time we got to reconnect, the last two years of catching up and being friends again.

 

I know God had a plan for you, calling you home so early and even though my heart is breaking and I can’t possibly see it now, I know you will be waiting for me when I come home.

 

I will miss your smile, your New York accent, the way you always greeted everyone with your arms outstretched, your warm and caring personality, the way you made everyone feel welcomed and loved. I will miss the way you laugh, throwing your head back, your shit ass grin and the way you always told me how much you loved me every time we said good bye.

 

So my dear friend until that day comes, my heart will be sad, my eyes will cry tears for you as I will miss you so very much and I will dream of our talks and the laughter that I will miss because there will always be a hole in my heart that you once filled.

 

I love and will miss you dearly my best friend… Steven Morak.

 

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What is up with men today?

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What is up with men today?

 

So this week I posted a lot about dating and what was wrong with us as a society in the ways we treat each other.

So this just seemed perfect to end the week with.

 

Last night I skipped my beloved yoga class to go out with a guy I had been talking to, we met online and he was anxious to meet in person.

 

Well, that is a good sign as so many guys online seem to only want a pen pal and hey if that’s what I was looking for I”d be writing to bubba in prison.

 

Hello! I am on a dating site to meet someone…I am not looking to fill my time with random texts, I have a life.

 

Anyway we decide to meet at Starbucks, he’s sitting outside and I walk right past him (Not a good sign to begin with) and then I call him, he sees me (because I obviously look like my pictures!)

And we sit down outside, now I am waiting for him to ask “Would you like something to drink” but nothing.

 

 I am thinking maybe he’s just excited to talk, but after 20 minutes I realize this joker is not about to ask me if I want anything!

 

Now I can’t get past this fact and am thinking this date is going no where fast and planning on how to make my escape.

 

Now during my planning he makes a couple of “jokes” about the way he is…ohhhh….I’ve already learned that lesson…. Maya Angelou “When someone shows you who they are, believe them” and my head is now screaming “Run Forrest run!”

 

That’s it, I’m done, I come up with some bullshit excuse and I am outta there. Another date bites the dust!

 

I have to ask, in the four years I’ve been single what happened to the all the gentlemen? Come on now! Years ago a man asked you out on a real date, to a real resturant and usually it was expensive as they wanted to impress you.

They opened car doors, any and all doors, they didn’t try to call you baby or sweetie or boo before they knew you. They bought you dinner and you had more than a 20 minute conversation.

 

Now it’s drive by dates at coffee places and obviously now…without the benefit of buying you coffee. Wtf??

Did I miss something?

 

Where are your manners, what happened to your sense? Speaking of sense or lack there of….when did it ever become okay to send a picture of your junk?

 

Hello! Just putting it out there…if you send me a picture of your junk it had better be some extraordinary junk because if it’s not I will send it to my friends and we will laugh at you!! Just saying!

 

It’s not okay, it will never be okay…what don’t you get?

 

So what happened? Did the attention span of men decreased that much? Is there too much available that they no longer have to try to impress? Please help me out here!

 

As I am always positive and yes, I am like Tinker bell, I still have hope. 

I know there are great men out there because I am lucky enough to have some great guy friends. 

So I will keep trying and if I get more dead beats well….then I have more to write about, since I am the Taylor Swift of writing!

 

Always looking at the glass half full…

So people let me know if this is your take on the dating world today and if your a man speak up, tell us, please explain…. why you would ask a women out and not offer her a cup of coffee? 

We are waiting with baited breath…

Until then we will be here shaking our heads asking what is wrong with men today?

 

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What’s up with today’s women

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What’s up with today’s women?

 

I may be old school but for the life of me I can’t understand today’s young women, they are truly lazy. Now I’m not saying all of them but I have to tell you, most of them are like this, as I see it.

 

Go ahead jump all over me but I call it as I see it. When I was married, I had 2 kids, I took care of 12 sugar gliders, 2 monkeys,12 ferrets,

100 (yes that is not a misprint! ) lizards, I helped him clean and feed 200 snakes and a dog and a two cats.

 

I ran our business which I had to call over 40 restaurants each day to get orders, place them, write tickets for all of them and balance all the books (no there were no computers to do that back then!)

 

I cleaned the yard, I cleaned the pool, I fixed whatever was broken in the house.

 

I would then make sure the house was clean and have a full meal (no mac and cheese or hot dogs) on the table by 6 pm.

 

After cleaning up, helping the girls with their homework and baths, I would then do hair for my clients at home until 11pm. Afterwards, I would clean up and do another load of clothes before dropping into bed just to start it all over again by 6am, to get up and go to the gym before school started.

 

These women don’t know what it is like to cook, their houses look like a pig pen, they walk around in sweats all day and when their husbands or in today’s world “baby daddy” comes home they expect them to do it?

 

Look I am all for working together, unfortunately I never had that luxury with my ex husband. Yes, if you have a man that threw in some laundry or helped you clean or cook, see that is what a true relationship is about, helping the one you love, working together.

 

But for him to work all day while your home doing nothing and you think it’s okay that he doesn’t even have a clean house or a cooked meal to come home to, please girl, get a grip!

 

Its no wonder there are so many and I mean so many younger guys going for older women, we know how to treat a man. We didn’t have 5 “baby daddies” back then, you found a good man, you did your part, he did his part and even when things got tough, you worked through it and you stayed together.

 

Look, think of it this way, it’s Sunday, you took your whole day off to clean the house, Monday comes you go to work, your kids are home all day doing whatever and you come home and the house is a mess, there is no food left and they are laying around watching Oprah, (Okay, that was my days!) Now your good and pissed and you have every right to be! You busted your ass all day and then you come home to see this.

 

Hello ladies, this is what your husbands or “Baby daddies” feel like!

If your not feeling like your getting the help you deserve you should say something, sit down and talk to your man.

Yes, I should have stood up and say “Hey, I need some help, we’re a team” but I didn’t, believe me that was a lesson well learned and one that I will never repeat.

 

But to do nothing except taking care of your kids, yes, yes… I know its a full time job but I knew women who had 3 kids, 5 kids, women with children with disabilities that do it, so stop your whining about I don’t know how hard it is, did you just read my story?

 

Please what I would have gave “just” to take care of the kids and clean and cook!

 

See the problem today is your too busy worrying about movie stars life’s, your friends crap on twitter or the latest jackass reality show.

Sorry I am real, I have said it before and I’ll say it again, I am not Willy Wonker, I will not sugar coat crap!

 

Get off your ass, be a partner, I get your tired, sorry you have kids, you will rest when they are grown, this is your job, you signed up for it.

 

Take them to the park, go bike riding with them, sit in the floor and color with them, make play dates, these are the things they will remember, believe me my kids bring up stuff that we did 15 years ago.

They will remember the times you spent with them, it will strengthen your relationship and it will give you a sense of accomplishment. Take care of your man, he is working hard doing his part, do yours. Show him how much you appreciate that you are lucky enough to be home with your children.

 

So today my friends, send this to the young women in your life, talk to them, show them how its done, teach them to be the best women, the best mom and the best partner they can be!

 

We have to teach the next generation that it’s not all about them.

 

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Looking for Mr.Perfect…for me

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Looking for Mr.Perfect… for me

 

When I wrote a blog some time ago about wanting to find a perfect man, someone wrote, “There is no such thing as a perfect man”

 

I replied “I am not looking for a perfect man, just a perfect man  for me”

 

I know some of my girlfriends have a long list of criteria…

He has to be 6’0-6’4, between the ages of 45-50, make over 100k a year, must be professional, kids grown, not in debt, house has to be over 4000 square feet…yada,yada,yada….

 

Really, I am serious and if one thing missing off their list, your done, bye, next….

 

I am not looking for all of that but as I’ve gotten older there are some things I will not compromise about, sorry I’m not going to take less.

 

For me first and foremost you need to believe in God, you have to have faith, I want to be able to go to church with you, to volunteer with you. You need to have a kind heart, you need to be funny (funny is the new sexy)

 

You need to be able to laugh at yourself, you need to be my partner not my patrol officer. You need a compassionate and giving spirit, you need to be loyal, faithful and truthful, you need to be grateful for everything in your life.

 

Not to much to ask, most humans already have these things inside of them so it’s not unrealistic to ask for these things.

 

But I will NOT under no circumstances put up with cheating, lying or drama of any kind.

If your controlling, jealous, hateful, unforgiving, racist, ungrateful, an atheist or

if your fronting to the world or you feel your better than anyone else.

 

Look I’ve dated these guys before, lots of them and I am not going back there again.

 

I don’t need a man in my life, I would like one to share life’s adventures with but not so much so, that I will take the first loser because I am afraid of being alone, as so many women do.

 

I value my self worth, I now know I am worthy of being treated like a queen and I will not settle for the peasant treatment any longer.

 

See, I know I will treat my man like the king he is, I will have his back, I will be his biggest cheerleader, I will let him be him, the one God has made and not try to change him.

I will trust him, be loyal to him and be the best women I can be to him.

And the only thing I expect in return is the same…not to much to ask for.

 

So today my friends realize your self worth, know your worthy of a great man, not just a body that fills your bed. Realize the superficial doesn’t last, it’s what your made of that does.

Rewrite your list…and trust that God has your perfect man out there, the man perfect for you.

Because I am sure as hell waiting for my

Mr. Perfect for me.

 

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Online dating update

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Online dating update

 

I write about things I know about, in the last 4 years I know a lot about dating, since I’ve been divorced.

 

Oh Lord, have I become an expert on this subject, unfortunately it has not been a great experience for me but as always I have learned lessons and I can still laugh about it and the bonus plan, it gives me something to write about.

 

So here are some tips from a women’s prospective for the single men out there on the dating sites, these are things we like and what is a total turn off.

 

If you men want to write me and tell me your thoughts I would love to write another blog on them.

 

So….let’s start with… Dam, this is going to be a big list.

 

1. Pictures:

You must have one friend, a sister, a cousin, any one who will take a few nice pictures of you, now come on.

 

2.The dirty bathroom selfies:

They are bad….really bad, nough said.

 

3.Post more than one picture:

We live a an age of technology, come on with one picture.

Besides one picture means catfish to me, like you stole someone’s picture and besides the fact that sometimes I’ve seen 4 different pictures of guys and I am still trying to figure out which one is you.

 

Wait….side note: recent pictures…I don’t care what you looked liked 30 years ago, we all looked better then!

Put up recent pictures not one 30 years or 30 pounds ago!

 

4. Don’t just do head shots:

Look I’m not saying you have to be half naked but head shots only is telling me you don’t want me to see the rest of you. We all have types, let’s be honest. Some like thin men, muscular men, chubby men….we want to see what you look like.

 

Oh, while we are on this subject….

 

5. The half naked shots:

Please stop! I get it if your at the beach, if it’s a nice picture but you half naked in front of your mirror, please no….

 

Here is a big one… lying!

 

6. You say you want a relationship:

But right out of the gate your talking about sex. If you want a hook up be honest say that, there are a lot of women out there looking for that too, so why waste the time of the rest of us who actually want a relationship.

 

Don’t say you want a relationship when clearly your not over your last one or your not willing to put the time or effort into knowing if this could be the one.

Be honest!! Is that so hard? Life is short don’t waste my time.

 

7. Showing10 pictures of your animals:

I get it you love your dog and one picture of you and him is cute, 9 pictures of him…who’s on this dating site…You or him?

 

8. Pictures of your big house, big boat, fancy car:

Not impressed…and then you call us gold diggers…but your pictures are saying your asking for those type of women.

 

9. Texting and never meeting and/or ghosting:

 

What the hell is with this? Please tell me, we are grown ass adults on a dating site to meet someone, if I wanted a pen pal I would have wrote to someone in prison.

 

And what’s with ghosting? Your talking to someone, everything is great and poof their gone…just like that no calls, no texts, nothing…Wtf? Really? Grow up, if your not interested, if you two are not jiving, just say so, it’s all good. Don’t just leave a women hanging.

 

10. Calling me names:

Hey baby, sweetie, honey, boo, bae…

You don’t even know me, you don’t get to call me any of these names…I don’t know you…yuggg!

 

I think these dating sites would be so much better if we were truly honest…

Hi my name is…..

I want to hook up

I am kinky

I like to dress in women’s clothes (Yes, I had someone hit me up that was into that)

I am not ready for a relationship as my ex really fucked my mind up.

I want to play the field

I want a relationship and I really worked at myself….

Now wouldn’t that be refreshing? Honestly….what a concept…

 

So today my friends, especially my guy friends, which I have many… here’s my tips for your new and improved online dating profile.

Let me know what you think about ours.

 

We are all the same, we are on here to meet someone, let’s not waste time and energy on stuff or people we don’t want, let’s be real with ourselves and with others.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Without faith it’s impossible to please God

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Without faith it is impossible to please God

 

This is a question that so many people ask, what is faith? How do you get faith?

 

The bible says:

“It is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen”

 

Faith is that total trust, that though I don’t see God, I still believe God.

 

Don’t tell me that my God is not able, my God who parted the red sea, that rose people from the dead…dont tell me… he is not a miracle worker feeding thousands from one fish or turning water into wine.

 

Over and over, you see what he can do, even  today in church when a women who had stage 4 cancer and given months to live, she had faith, she never gave up hope and when she goes back to the doctor, they tell her it’s gone, they can’t believe it, but she can because she had faith.

 

Faith… you can’t see it,  but you know it’s there, faith the knowledge that he will take care of you.

 

For me faith is the calm when I was going through the storm, I didn’t worry, I knew he would provide becauae he has over and over and over.

 

So how do we get this faith? Faith comes by hearing…ask yourself, what are you listening to?

What are you reading?

 

Are you watching people on Tv fighting and back stabbing? Is  the music your listening to putting down women, disrespecting others? What are you reading, horrible things about people?

Who are you hanging with? Negative people always saying you can’t do that, that won’t happen…

 

You need to hear the word, read the word, be around people who believe the word, it is then your faith will grow.

 

But let me warn you, always be prepared to make a defense against those who don’t believe, those who will tell you it will never happen.

 

Come on we all know those people who said “Please prayers don’t work, look at how long you’ve been praying and still nothing” or “Child please, that dream is way to big”

Or “Who do you think you are?That will never happen, your never get there”

These are the people you need to let go of, walk away, shut off that television, stop listening to that music that is not inspiring you, you need to change.

 

This is what God says:

“Let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like the wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind”

 

All you have is do is change, change your thinking, all he is asking for is you not to doubt him, just believe that anything is possible with God.

 

So today my friends, remember as I always say be the change you want to see, have faith, let go of stress, of worry. Turn it over to God, believe and have faith because without faith it is impossible to please God.

 

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Why I refuse to stick to my own lane

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Why I am not going to “Stick to my own lane”

 

It’s funny someone recently said to me that maybe I should stick to my lane, writing inspirational blogs and not throw my hat into the arena of politics.

That maybe my doing so would make me lose readers.

 

If you read my blogs, you know I write about life, I write about the good, the bad and the ugly. I write about love, peace and of course my love life or lack thereof one.

 

I write about what touches my heart, what makes me passionate and what makes me want to speak out.

So it could be anything, it could be dating or friendship or life or politics… it only has to do with what touches my heart that day.

 

It happened to be this week politics and what’s going on in the world.

Look, I only care about compassion for one another, I care about love, I care about respect for another human being just because we are all the same, we all have the same emotions, the same feelings, we all bleed the same color for God’s sake.

 

I wish I could say I only write “Inspirational” blow smoke up everyone’s ass, to make them feel good, all the time, blogs and as much as I am Tinkerbell this is the real world, with real world issues.

 

I always say I am Tinker bell but even Tinker bell gets knocked down occasional and gets pissed off….dont believe me watch Peter Pan again, Tinker bell had a temper.

 

I write about life, all of it… the good, the bad and the ugly and as far as I know, for now anyway, we still live in America, the land of the free, including free speech.

 

If people want to stop reading my blogs because we have a difference of opinion, or because they are racist or homophobic or narcissistic or that only their point of view or their beliefs are the only ones that should be spoken….then there is the door and don’t let it hit you on the ass on the way out!

 

I wrote nothing that wasnt the truth about what has happened with your presisdent and the people he picked for office all of it is “real news”

 

As for my “opinion”

that is exactly what it is, my opinion and until I get hauled off and put in jail, I will keep writing about what I see as injustice.

 

I preach love, I believe in equal rights for everyone, EVERYONE!

 

I don’t think one person is better than another, I don’t believe in class, race, religion or sexual  discrimination, Hello!! Again in case you have forgotten, we all bleed red.

 

I refuse to sit back and say it’s okay to go back to the 50s where all of this… this that is rearing its ugly head again… racism, sexism, homophobia and religious prosecution was okay, it’s not okay.

 

It has never been okay  and it will NEVER be okay!

 

This is something I am passionate about, this is a topic that I will keep talking about until I’m dead. I am making this my mission, to show love, to give love, to love one another, to make sure everybody knows that it’s not okay to hate, to call names, to ridicule, to belittle others that don’t look like you or think like you.

 

These are the principals that America was built on, we were the land that everyone came to to flee from prosecution, to believe in whatever they wanted to, to give their families a better life.

The land of the free, the home of the brave.

 

Not just the brave that believed in what you believe in, not to turn everyone into the stepford wives (You young ones, YouTube it)

We were all created different, unique, with different ideas, that is what makes this world so special, that we are not all the same.

 

And once upon a time, our once great country opened her arms to everyone and accepted the differences but not anymore and that my friends is sad.

 

So if this turns you or others off… if my not blowing smoke up your ass every day turns you off….then turn me off… as far as I know, its still a free country, as of now…

 

But tread lightly…because if less and less people speak out, if everyone sits back and thinks it’s okay for this kind of behavior to take place, you won’t have to worry about your rights, because you won’t have any anymore and this won’t be the land of the free….

It will be the land of only what I believe, that you look like me, think like me….

But until that happens,

I refuse to “Stick to my lane”

 

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We are all family of the human race

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We all family of the human race

 

I write about all kinds of things in this blog, life, love dating but I preach most about one thing, to love one another.

To be tolerant, to be compassionate, to know we all bleed the same color blood.

 

Be it Black, white, Spanish, Indian, Catholic, Muslims, Jewish, Christian.

 

Believe in God, believe in Allah, believe in nothing, Democrats or Republican, man or women, gay or straight…we are all human beings, we all belong to the same race, we are all family.

 

Even though we may be different, we might have different cultures, different customs, different languages, we are all still the same.

 

If we lose someone we love, do we not feel the pain of loss?

 

When we fall in love, do we not all feel as if our souls connected?

 

When we hold our child in our arms for the first time, do we not all feel the same immense joy?

 

When we are betrayed, does it not cut us all to the core?

 

When we laugh and enjoy our family, do we not all feel the same happiness?

 

When you cut us, do we not all bleed the same color?

 

When a mother loses a son, when a sibling loses a sibling, when a friend loses a friend, do we not all grieve the same? Do we not all cry out in pain?

 

We are all here for a limited amount of time, we’re not here to hate, to kill, to have such little tolerance for another human being.

 

We are here to learn, to help, to love each other in spite of our differences. We are here looking at someone who might look different, act different, believe different but we are looking in a mirror because under it all we are all the same.

 

It doesn’t matter if we have different opinions, that is what makes the world so beautiful, that everyone is not the same and that we are all unique.

So then why do we fight that so much? Why do we fight against each other because we are each made so unique and different? It’s because some people are afraid of that.

 

So today my friends remember this, we are all family of the human race and that should be enough reason for us to love each other.

 

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What is going on with our goverment?

What is going on with our government?

 

This week Anthony Scaramucci, the new White House communications director was fired after his rant to a reporter, “I’m not Steve Bannon, I’m not trying to suck my own cock,” he said, speaking of Trump’s chief strategist.

Great…and our “President” goes around grabbing pussys.

 

What a team he has put together, all the racist, rich, privileged good ole boys and it seems all of America is good with these good old boys running the country.

 

Let’s go over what has happened in the short months he has took office….

 

Here is one, how about Casslewood saying “I already know where you are, I’ve know where they live and will be visiting them” threatening anyone who doesn’t agree with their policy or better yet…when Trump met Brigitte Macron, the First Lady of France  and looked her up and down and told her “You’re in such good shape”

or wait….how about when Trump interrupted his phone call with the new Prime Minister of Ireland to tell a reporter how nice the smile was on her face in May, which in the air of Trump screwups seems like years ago, but it was only 2 months back.

 

Let’s not forget, then Republican candidate for congress Greg Gianforte who literally assaulted a reporter from the guardian, he body-slammed and punched him, then denied it ever happened but was both recorded and seen by several eyewitnesses. Still denying it, he was elected to congress that night, only to be charged with assault 2 weeks later, when he admitted to the whole thing and apologized, really??? Really?

 

How about closed sessions where they won’t let reporters into?

Or that he won’t answer reporters questions he doesn’t like?

How about we look like the laughing stock of the world?

 

I ask you, how could the Republican party ever attempt to pretend like they care about what  Anthony Scaramucci did or said?

 

How can they hold him accountable when the man they elected president of the United States has openly admitted to even worse and will continue to do worst, as no one is holding him accountable either.

 

Trump’s America means many things but this much is clear, it means toxic white masculinity is not just permitted now, it is fully empowered and getting worse every day.

 

We are not moving ahead in our country, we are heading right back to the 50’s with segregation, back alley abortions, where it’s okay to make fun of people with disabilities, and people who are different. Gays will be pushed back into the closets and it will be okay to once again beat up on transgender people.

Get ready for more racism and maybe coming soon to a town near you the KKK, with a reign of Hilter like era, coming back.

 

Oh yes people, if we don’t do something now, you better believe, you have not seen the worst of it and tell me when will enough be enough? Is there more closet racist, good ole boys then level headed, open minded people in this country?

 

Take your heads out of your ass’s people, we are heading to another Holocaust, with Mr. Orange heading all the women, gays, transgender, blacks, Muslims and anyone else who he thinks is below him right into the ovens.

 

Sounds harsh? You better believe it, we had our heads up our ass’s during the first Holocaust, we didn’t want to believe it, no one wanted to speak out, look how many people died before we stopped that mad man.

 

Does any of you see the connection between the two? That this psychopathic, narcissistic bully (aka Hilter) is trying to do the same thing to our country? Our beautiful land of the free?

 

We have to stand against it, we need to have our voices heard and now! We cannot wait….time is of the essence…slowly our children will think this is okay, people will think it’s okay to beat up people, or make fun of others, or dislike someone because of the color of their skin, or their religion….what’s next? Where does this stop?

 

It stops with one person at a time, one Rosa Parks saying I refuse to sit in the back of the bus, one voice that will eventually turn into many…

 

So today my friends, I beg you to open your eyes and see what’s going on, take a stand, let your voice be heard, this is our government, we can make a change, we must make a change…before it’s too late.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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