Why cant we figure men out?

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Why can’t we figure out men?

 

Since I’ve been single the last few years, I still cant figure out men. On my morning ride to work I always call my one of my girlfriends, we eventually end up talking about men.

We talk about our dates or sometimes the lack of dates but mostly we talk about trying to figure out men.

 

Things like why would a man you just started talking to send you a picture of his ass? Or a picture of his junk? Yuggg…really??

 

Why after two texts do they think its alright to talk dirty to you, when in big letters on your profile it says clearly your not looking to hook up? Maybe they can’t read?

 

Why is it that he chases you and you talk for months and then you go out and he doesn’t call you back?

 

Why do some men act so dam jealous when they say they just want to be friends?

 

Why do the first thing they write to you is “Hey baby” or “Hi sexy mama” “Hi hottie” I never meet you, do you think those lines are really gonna woo me? NOT!

 

Why do men get mad when you tell them nicely that they are way to young for you but thank them for the compliment or that you appreciate their interest but don’t think you’ll compatible because they are not your type.

 

Why do men tell you that they want a relationship and then ghost you?

 

Why are men afraid of your independence? The fact you can take care of yourself?

 

Why do men have an issue with you having male friends? Like your suppose to give up your life because your dating them.

 

Why do men act like they like you but won’t make time for you?

 

Why do men, after you clearly tell them what you want and need act like the conversation never happen, totally avoiding the subject like it will just…poof disappear?

 

Why can’t they be honest and tell you their feelings, just be upfront about everything? Why is it such a game?

 

So I ask my other girlfriends because these things baffle me and they have the same questions and it seems, we all don’t have any answers.

 

So my girlfriend asked me, because in her words not mine “I got big balls” enough to ask this question to my readers.

 

So my friends, if you have any insight to these questions and the many others we keep scratching our heads about, please feel free to post and help us out.

 

In the mean time I will keep calling my girlfriends and laughing all the way to work, asking each other why can’t we figure out men.

 

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Can a person really change?

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Can a person really change?

 

My ex use to always say

“A leopard can’t change his spots” and yes, he is right, a Leopard may not be able to change his spots but we as humans can.

 

I have seen it over and over in my lifetime, these are the stories that give us hope and inspire us to go on!

 

I mean really? Do you want to be judged by what you’ve done thirty years ago? God I hope not as I was a mess years ago. I did drugs and alcohol, I lied, I pretended to be someone I wasn’t and I put on a facade for the world to see.

 

Here’s the thing, have you not learned lessons? Have you not grown and moved on? Are you really the same person you were years ago? God I hope not…age is suppose to bring you wisdom.

 

Case in point are two good friends of mine that were crack heads back in the day, drugs booze, partying, you name it, they have done it and then they hit rock bottom bad.

 

One day they, yes, THEY decided that enough was enough and so they took the steps to change.

 

Today they are both clean and sober for many years and help others who want to sober as well.

 

My one friend is an inspriation to me and many others, as not only has she been clean and sober, she has the most postive attitude of any one I know! She cleaned her body and she worked and changed her mind as well.

 

Another incredible story is of the Miami heats Dwayne Wade’s mom, she was a druggie, she sold her body, she was a lousy mom, she cheated and she lied for her drugs. I heard her tell her testimony and it made me cry, until one day she said its done, she gave her life over to God and she changed her life. Today she is a pastor of her own church! She helps people all over the world with her testimony.

 

Really, you say we can’t change? We can do anything we set out minds to!

 

You can come from a dirt poor family where no one can read and get into an Ivy league college, nothing is impossible! You can be homeless with nothing to eat to running a million dollar company just look at Tyler Perry or Steve Harvey.

 

Oprah came from nothing to becoming the most influential women in the world, don’t tell me it can’t be done.

 

You can escape from Cuba on a raft with just the clothes on your back and come to the United States. With hard work and determination in a few years you can own your own company (Plently of my friends have done this and I live in Miami, so there are hundreds of stories like this as well.

 

Nothing, I mean nothing is impossible if you want it bad enough.

You can change your life, you can change what you don’t like about yourself, your attitude, your drug or alcohol use, the way you treat people, anything. It is up to you, as I always say at the end of every blog “Be the change you want to see”

 

So today my friends, remember yes, a leopard can’t change his spots but we can!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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The “I age”

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The “I” age

 

It’s amazing how each generation changes and grows, how we learn things good or bad from our parents and then we decide if we want to use the same skills to parent our own children.

 

But somehow we got soft, we didn’t want to beat our children like we were beaten, we didn’t want them to feel like losers, so we coddled them into thinking they are all winners even without the hard work it takes to become a winner.

 

We went without, so we chose to give them everything they asked for, so they didn’t learn the value of hard work.

 

We gave into their every whim, into their every temper tantrum, saying your going to be in time out and then not following through so they learned there is no consequences for their behaviors.

 

Yes, congratulations my generation you have turned this generation into the “I age”

I want this

I deserve this

I am owed this

I need this

I want this and want it now and you better provide it.

 

Yes, this generation expects everything to be given to them, they don’t have to work hard because hell, we will give you all trophys even for being the losers.

 

Instead of saying no and giving them an ass whipping, we let them get away with disrespect towards us and others.

 

Instead of teaching them hard work and perseverance, we have handed them things on a silver platter and when they screamed and kicked the platter out of our hands, we ran and got them another platter, more to their liking.

 

And then we wonder why this generation is so self absorbed? Really? You allowed this, you feed into this, you taught them,that this behavior is okay.

 

Okay, this is going to sound like my mother, but here goes anyway.. In my day… we worked for what we wanted, I didn’t have a new BMW given to me when I turned 16, I worked for my piece of crap car, it was under my own insurance and when it broke down I pushed it and paid for it to be fixed.

 

I didn’t have a super sweet 16, that costed more than my actual wedding.

 

I worked nights and went to college during the day, was it hard? Oh hell yeah but it taught me work ethics and skills I still use today.

 

I never disrespected my elders or anyone for that matter, my mom, my aunt or someone else would slap me or put me in my place, I learned quick.

 

I learned if I wanted to win I would have to really want it, to work at it, to chase after that dream, it wasn’t given to me so I wouldn’t pout about not getting it.

 

Kids today think its all about them, it’s not part of my job, it doesn’t benifit me, it’s not what I want to do so I will not put forth any effort because hey it should be mine, the raise, the promotion, the title, I expect it.

 

It’s all about them, they can’t be compassionate, they are so self absorbed in their popularity on social media, of putting others down, of watching the housewives of selfishness, or the Kardashians, who made a sex video and then become famous for doing nothing, okay sorry…for having sex with a rap star…

Sorry something they all aspire to, that they think this is the norm.

 

They are wrapped up in their phones that they have no idea how to socialize with others, how to deal with relationships, how to deal with life itself.

 

If their friends or Google isn’t telling them they are worthy, they have no idea how to feel that way themselves.

 

I went against the norm, sorry I whooped my kids ass, ask them. I made them earn money, if they wanted the latest video games, I made them get jobs, and show up every day.

I taught them respect, otherwise I would slap the piss out of them.

Look I’m not saying I beat their ass’s all the time, I also took away tv, phones, friends, ect but yes I won’t lie when they needed a ass whipping they got it.

 

Hell one time I Dr. Phil my big one’s ass, I took everything out of her room, I left a mattress on the floor and I even took the door off the hinges when I left, fuck with me….I don’t think so!

 

Believe me she learned, at dinner there was no phones or tv’s on, we actually talked… oh big deal one hour a day suck it up.

 

We did family day every Sunday, we let them pick, then we all spent the day together without phones or interruptions, just bonding as a family.

 

During that time, we taught them what we expected of them, what was required of them to turn out to be great women. And it must have worked as they are both amazing young ladies with their heads on right.

 

So today my friends, especially the ones in the “I age” wake up, it’s not all about you or what you want, sorry to tell you, your not all winners, wake up call!!

 

That my friends are for the people who are determined, who work hard and earn the respect of that title.

 

There is a whole world out there, people who need help, people that have it worst off then you, learn compassion, learn to open your heart, learn to appreciate the feelings that come from a job well done, it is then you will have graduated out of the “I age”

 

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Fake friends on social media

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Fake friends on social media

 

Recently we have all been getting these messages on Facebook about don’t accept a friend request from Jayden Smith…

 

Hello! Why would you friend someone you don’t know?

I know there are a lot social media whores out there that want numbers…oh look I have 40 thousand friends…no dumb ass you have 40 thousand strangers voyaging into your personal life…why?

 

Just to say you have friends? Please I don’t need friends that bad, I actually have real friends, imagine that?

 

When I get a request from someone I don’t know I ask “Hi, do I know you?”

They will say “No, I just saw your profile and like your pictures and wanted to be your friend”

My response is always “Awww that’s nice but my Facebook page is only for my real friends and family, please feel free to like and follow my public page Treadmill Treats”

 

Now why would I want complete strangers looking at my kids photos or pictures of my house or my vacation pics? How friggin creepy is that?

And on my public page I am careful about what I chose to put up there because this is my life and as much as I am a open book in my blog, that is where it stops.

 

Hell, I remember about a year after I got divorced a friend of mine, who happened to be my ex husband’s best friend as well. This man who my kids called uncle, who we took family trips together, who ate holiday meals with us and who I worked for for many years, after I asked for the divorce, stopped talking to me. Just like that, he and his wife just cut me off and out of their lives.

 

I had never had words with them, nothing. Just because I was no longer his wife, I was no longer their friend.

 

So when after a year of not speaking to me, he sent me a friend request on Facebook.

My response was “Why do you want to be my Facebook friend when your not my friend in real life?”

 

My girls thought that was rude, why because I was honest…really? You dont talk to me in real life but want to troll my page…get a life. By the way he never answered the question.

 

Recently another “So called friend” who also was part of our family and who also dumped me after my divorced, sent a friend request, which I ignored but then started following me on all my social media sites and blogging sites…why? For what reason? To check up on me? To spy for my ex? Because it is obvious that your not my friend anymore, otherwise you would know what was going on in my life, you wouldn’t need to troll.

 

Look I don’t pull any punches, I tell it like I see it, like it or not, this is me. And when things piss me off, I am going to let you know. This fake bull of being my friend on some social media site when you never picked up the phone to see if I was dead or alive for years in real life, oh no I don’t need you in my life now or ever and I am going to let you know that.

 

See I have to realize that God is getting me ready for all the trolls and haters out there, so when I become a New Yorker Times bestselling author, I will know how to deal with them, so I better start now.

 

I know that then, all kinds of people will pretend to be my “friend” to get close to me, this is why he’s been shaking the trees to get rid of the crap now, so I am sure who is helping me row my boat and who is drilling holes while I’m not looking when big things start to happen.

 

So today my friends remember you needn’t send me the warnings of don’t friend this person or that one, I know who my true friends are. I’ve learned that my circle is getting smaller and I know who has my back and who I can count on.

I dont want friends for the sake of having friends, if your my friend on Facebook that means we talk in real life, we hang out, we are invested in each other’s lives, like it should be.

 

Don’t have friends just to have them, don’t let the stalkers peek into your life, they need to earn that right.

Don’t just have fake Facebook friends.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Being kept in the mist of threats

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Being kept in the mist of threats

 

We all feel like this at one time or another, like we are under attack, that everything is coming at us at once.

 

The enemy of your soul is daily sending threats to defeat you, to knock you down, trying to get you to give up.

 

The devil doesn’t want you to have what God has for you, if he can’t make you give up, he will find others to destroy you.

 

See not everyone around you, is for you, not everyone in your boat may be rowing, some may be drilling holes instead.

The people you that you least think, may be out to destroy you.

 

In this life you are either helping people or you are destroying them, it’s that simple, the question is which are you doing?

 

Manipulation is found in all areas of your life, there are always people out there that will try to manipulate you, try to cut you down, make you give up on your hopes and dreams.

Always know that God will cover and protect you from these people.

 

If you let God walk your steps for you, you will get farther along in life.

It’s not the will of God for you to be manipulated.

 

We all have to remember that you will be judged by your actions, you will reap what you sow…

 

If your a manipulator, your so insirecure that you need to constantly showing your power over others, to show your authority.

How many people have killed with your tongue?

How many people have you crushed with your words?

 

See you can be in a good position and still be insecure…

You can be a king or queen or even the president and still be insecure inside.

You can wish harm on other’s because you are jealous, because you feel threatened, because you feel everyone is out to get you because that is your philosophy on life.

 

What kind of a attitude do you have?

What are doing to other’s? What are you saying to other’s?

 

Have you lost your ability to lead and your blaming everyone else?

So your trying to put others down so you may feel better about yourself.

When people are confronting you with the truth and you don’t want to hear it, you try to “kill” them.

 

You need to realize you are the salt of the earth, you are the light, you don’t need to control people..when God puts you in a position, no one can tear you down.

 

God will keep you, God will put favor on your life, if God is for you who can be against you?

 

Sometimes the treats of life cause us to run..

The devil is after your mind, your finances, your life and even if your a good person, doing God’s work, you can still fear and run for your life.

 

You might have friends, that tell you, you will never do it, that that dream is too big, or family that tell you, you are too stupid.

 

If you want to grow, if you want to achieve your dreams, at some point in time you have to leave that person behind and walk with God.

 

The enemy is trying to destroy you, and you are waiting on God, but you feel that you have no support, you feel all alone… you are scared, it looks bad but the one thing you have to  remember, is that you have angels looking after you, like they were for Elijah.

 

When he was scared and ran for his life, he was hiding even though he was a man of God, even though he had faith, he still was human and his human head was afraid.

The angels found him, they brought him food, they told him to get up and fight.

When he needed it, God  provided for him, God will show up in places you least expect it.

 

While you are hiding and worrying, God is taking care of it for you.

 

See God gave Elijah enough to fortify him  for 40 days and 40 nights, he gave him strength, he kept him, he made a way out for him when there seemed to be no way out…he has a way out for you as well, you must not let fear control your life.

 

So today my friends remember that God has a plan for your life, he is taking care of your steps even when you can’t see it, you are being kept in the mist of threats.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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My special day September 22

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My special day September 22

 

This date holds a lot of meaning for me, in good ways and in bad.

September 22, 1980 my father passed away, he was only 45 years old. My world as I knew it changed forever and I was never the same.

 

But they say that time heals all wounds, yeah not when it comes to losing a parent, I still miss him so, even now, 37 years later.

 

But the date, that horrible date, that use to make me cry now has other meanings for me.

 

It was the date I signed my lease on my new home finally freeing myself from that horrible marriage.

I prayed for so many long for a home for me and my girls and what day did I get it? September 22, my father was looking down on me.

 

That day was also the day I also sold my business, a business that I had only had for a year. What was I really selling? Why did he want it? I actually thought I was being punked! But God, here I was making a deal to sell it and stay on as a consultant for a large amount of money each week.

Really?? Yes, I walked out on faith and now I was being taken care of by God.

 

A year later I decided to get Baptist in our church and yes, you guessed it, it happened to be September 22, to me these things meant that even though my father wasn’t here, he was always looking down and looking after me.

 

Were all these things coincidence? Well you can say so but I know better, I know its my dad making sure I am all right.

 

I know there are always two ways to look at things, either you can see them as a negative or you can look at them a positive light the choice is up to you.

 

I chose to look at this date with remembrance to my dad, to a wonderful man and father who was taken to soon but left me a lifetime of wonderful memories. I look at this date as my life changer, a date for significant change and growth in my life.

 

So today my friends, remember that your parents will not be here forever, spend as much time with them as possible. Call them every day, tell them you love them because one day they will be gone and you never want to live with regret.

 

But also know this, as parents they will always look out for you, they will always be there, even if they aren’t any more.

 

So today I delicate this blog to my wonderful father in heaven. A father that drove 3 hours every Sunday to see me, that made me his special pancakes every week. A father above all fathers, that paid child support above and beyond what he was supposed to. A father that paid for my clothes, doctors, dentists and anything else I needed, who put me first all the time. A father that made me laugh, taught me culture, who gave me my love for the city, he taught me hard work, to value your things and that no matter what, you never say anything about your ex to your children, ever.

 

Thank you for always looking out for me, for letting me know that even though your not here physically, spiritually you will always be here for me.

 

I miss him every day…

I love you daddy, now always and forever.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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It’s all about the chemistry

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Its all about the chemistry

 

It’s funny, how sometimes you look at a couple and you think how did that happen?

Beyonce and Jay-Z,  some people ask what the hell does she see in him? Angela Joelle and Billy Bob really? She’s the most beautiful woman on earth she could have her pick of any handsome man?

Heidi Klum and Seal? Wth?

 

I could go on and on with what we presume to be odd matches but what we don’t know is the chemistry that brought these people together.

 

Chemistry is an amazing thing, its a connecter, it makes logic get thrown out the window, it takes “types” and makes them a thing of the past. It will knock you for a loop and change your outlook on things you thought were your priorities.

 

What we don’t get to see is how does that person treat the other person, is he always there for them? Does he let her be herself without judgment? Is he kind and romantic? Does he have a big heart and puts her first?

Chemistry can go along way to overcome alot of our pre conceived notions of what we are searching for.

If we let it, if we are not caught up with the “perfect person” Whatever that means…

 

I have lots of girlfriends that when we sit around looking at dating profiles they will go…nope, not, definitely not, nah, not happening and I always ask why.

 

Too tall, not tall enough, not good looking enough, too much of a pretty boy, too heavy, too skinny, doesnt make enough, not big enough job title, too young, too old, never been married, been married too many times….hundreds of reasons because they dont meet the certain criteria they have built up in their minds.

 

I remember when I first got divorced I didn’t care what a man did, how much he made or how tall he was (Ok, as long as I could wear heels and he was taller, than me, which you’d almost have to be a small person not to be taller than me! This was a huge issue with my ex husband, me wearing heels, it was his Napoleon complex)

 

My list included must be caring, sweet, have a good heart and be funny. As long as you weren’t a liar, cheater, narcissistic, control freak we were good.

 

I want to find that “monkey love” as my cousin Carol calls it, where you can’t wait to see them, to touch them, to be in their arms, that just the thought of them brings you to a frenzy.

 

I wanted to see more into a mans heart and soul, I wanted more than good looks and a fancy title, I’ve  had the money and fancy life and I was misrable.

I want substance, a real man that isn’t afriad to show his feelings, to love me for me and to step up finally.

 

A real man that isn’t put off by my independence. Recently a man in my life said he loved that the fact that I independent, that it meant I didn’t need him, but I wanted him in my life.

I loved that, a strong man that isn’t insecure about me having male friends, that I work hard or that I don’t need him but yes, want him in my life.

 

The kind of chemistry that when you haven’t seen them in days and you open the door and they grab you and lift you up and can’t stop kissing you. The kind of chemistry that doesn’t care that dinnner is on the table, it can wait. The kind of chemistry that you can sit and talk for hours and never run out of things to say. The kind of chemistry that shows you into someone’s heart.

 

It’s that kind of chemistry, that goes beyond looks, color, age difference or background, that is what is important.

 

So today my friends, I am here to tell you that you never know what someone has with another person, that connection, that spark, that amazing chemistry that is undeniable. It is when you find that person and they will make you forget all about your lists because its all about the chemistry.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Being open to learn lessons

Being open to learn lessons

 

Some people think they know it all, they think they can’t learn anything new. Or how about the old saying “You can’t teach old dogs new tricks”

 

Yes, so many people are stuck in their ways they will never be open or willing to learn the lessons life is suppose to teach you.

 

Me on the other hand, I am constantly looking for the lessons and I’ve learned more lessons these last 6 years then probably in my whole life. It’s because I am open to learning and because I look for them in everything that happens to me.

 

No matter what happens in my life, I stop and ask what is the lesson I am suppose to be learning here?

And then I analyze the situation, I look at it from all angles, I pray about it, I am like a detective looking for clues.

 

Look there are always lessons we need to be learning, to be able to grow and change. That’s what we are born to do, grow and change not stay stagnant, to weither and die.

 

These are the biggest lessons I have learned and maybe you won’t have to go through all I’ve been through to get these lessons.

 

I have learned to give over my life, to realize that I could not do this without help from above.

 

I have learned to walk out in blind faith.

 

I have learned to forgive even when I will never get an apology.

 

I have learned that not everyone has my heart and it’s okay.

 

I have learned that not everyone is going to be coming along for the whole ride.

(Hard one for me as I am a friend for life)

 

I have learned to look for the good in everyone, even when it seems hard.

 

I have learned that I needed to learn patience, it’s not on my time but on his.

 

I have learned what is most important in my life, God, my girls, my family and friends.

 

I have learned to overcome my fears, to learn change is good.

 

I have learned to love myself, because if I don’t value myself, no one else will.

 

I have learned to listen to my intuition, see the red flags and not ignore them.

 

I have learned that laughter is the best medicine.

 

I have learned to live in the moment, be present, take it all in.

 

I have learned to work hard but play even harder.

 

I have learned to watch for signs, when I am confused, I keep getting signs from everywhere, over and over again.

 

I have learned to listen for God’s voice and then obey.

 

I have learned to live life large because I know how short life truly is.

 

I have learned to always tell the people in my life I love them, because tomorrow is not promised to us.

 

I have learned to that when you pray about something, be careful you will get more than you bargained for.

(In good and bad)

 

I have learned that I am stronger than I ever thought I was.

 

I have learned that after the storm, the sun will always come. That storms don’t last forever, hold on, have faith.

 

I learned that you can envision anything in your life, you can envision a whole new life.

 

I have learned to uplift people, to give compliments, to make someone’s day by just your words and actions.

 

I have learned to be brutally honest and to be able to laugh at myself.

 

There are so many incredible lessons I have learned that sometimes it makes my head spin, like how dumb was I before? Why didn’t I get these earlier?

We all learn on our own pace, some people will never learn, or think they are too smart to learn.

 

I am grateful that I have learned these lessons even if it came with pain, as I know that I will never forget them.

 

So today my friends remember there are always lessons you can learn, lessons that will change your life, change you forever, stop, look for them, learn from them.

Because we are never to old to learn lessons.

 

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Hurricane Irma what I am grateful for

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Hurricane Irma, what I am grateful for

 

You would think what could I possibly be grateful for with a category 4 hurricane that almost wiped us out.

 

I always look on the bright side of everything and I am grateful for many things. I have learned to always look for the lessons this and other things has taught me.

 

I am grateful to God,  that he gave me peace on the mist of chaos.

I never panicked, I prayed instead.

 

I am grateful for my ex taking my girls to safety, I am glad they weren’t here and instead having a blast with their family.

 

I am grateful for my girls and their boyfriends who helped me shutter up the house and take everything in.

 

I am grateful God gave me a positive attitude when everyone around me seemed like they lost their minds. Rude people, in long lines, but I just smiled and knew God would provide.

 

I am grateful for my friends and my bestie, that keep telling me to leave and not ride this out by myself.

 

I am grateful to my niece and her husband for opening up their home to me.

 

I am grateful for a special person who texted me all night making me laugh and for calming my fears in the middle of the storm.

 

I am grateful I had the mind to pack my suitcase with stuff for my L.A./Vegas trip and that God made it possible for me to fly out right after the storm.

 

I am grateful for my neighbors who watched my animals, checked my home and helped me clean up while I was gone.

 

I am grateful I learned that material things aren’t important, as I looked around my home it was the photos and a few mementos that

really meant anything at all to me.

 

I am grateful that the damage I had wasn’t worst and it surly could have been.

 

I am grateful I got to see a high school friend and that he would take time out just to pick me up from the airport, just to spend some time with me

 

I am grateful I got to reconnect with a dear friend who I hadn’t seen in 20 years and realize that it was just like it was 20 years ago! Like we never missed a beat.

 

There were so many lessons I’ve learned during this storm and I am grateful that I am still being taught lessons, even after all these years.

 

So today my friends remember, you are never too old to learn lessons

As bad as the storms are you must stop and remember what is most important, that you can be grateful even while going through your storms and that eventually the storms will end.

 

It might not look the same, some things might be gone or changed forever, but the sun will come out again and the storm will wash away all you don’t need to make room for better things, a bigger crop, a better life.

 

Don’t be afraid of the storms in your life, when you walk out of it you won’t be the same, that is what the storms are all about.

 

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After the storm part 2

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After the storm part 2

 

So here we are getting ready since Thursday for the storm of the century. Tension is high, we sit around wondering if we got enough supplies? When will the storm hit? How bad will it be? How long will it last?

Will be have electric? Will our house survive? So many unanswered questions go through your head in hurricanes.

 

This is not my first rodeo, I know the drill, I know the damage it can cause. I’ve been in the bathtub with a mattress over my head, listening to the roof rip off my house, wondering if we are going to make it, praying that we will.

 

I know the aftermath of the clean up, days, weeks and months to get things back to normal. The stress, the money, the work that comes after the storm.

 

We sit here glued to the television watching the cone of death bounce this way, then that way. Our emotions bouncing with it, oh…it’s bad….oh maybe it won’t hit us directly….oh…it’s moving west….shit it’s moving east again.

 

Thoughts go back to…do we have enough water? Is everything secure? Are we going to make it?

 

The waiting game is the worst, you make small talk, your mind drifts, your anxious, your jittery (well that can also be from too many cookies you bought)

 

You eat just for something to do, you try to sleep, try to watch a movie but your constantly thinking when is it coming, how much longer, so you can’t fully relax.

 

And then it finally comes, you hear noises, your jumpy, your scared now, the wind is howling, the rain bounding against your windows. Your praying the roof will stay on, hours go by, your in a state of panic as it is getting worst, your wondering how much longer can this go on?

 

Then there is calm and you think oh god, we are done. You breathe a sigh of relief but if you’ve been through this before, you know that is just the calm in the eye. Don’t fool yourself into thinking it’s all good, that is truly the calm before the storm.

 

Before you know it your being battered again, worst then before, you run to your safe room, you put the mattress over your head. It now sounds like a freight train and your thinking what the hell is that noise…it’s the wind pounding at your house, ripping down your trees, making any assemblance of what life use to be, gone.

 

You sit there for hours, scared, listening to mother nature pound you again and again and again.

 

Your in the dark, your hot and tired, your heart is racing like it has never done before, then… it becomes quiet, erie quiet. You don’t even want to go and see what happened. Your life, your home, your niegbhood has changed forever.

 

You open your door, you can’t even recognize your street, everything is changed. You walk around in a daze thinking this can’t be, you see your neighbors, it’s like the real life version of the walking dead.

 

After a while you realize how lucky you were, that you survived through this and even as beat up and broken your house is and you feel, you made it out alive and that is the only thing that matters.

 

The rest is stuff, stuff that can and will be replaced, yes it will be hard work, to fix, to rebuild, to replaced what you have lost but you are alive to do it, you are a fighter, a surviver, you will get through this, stronger and better.

 

And now the work starts for so many of us, getting life back to some sense of normalcy .

 

Until the next time….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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