It’s not my job to teach you how to act like a man

It’s not my job to teach you how to act like a man

Yesterday on my weekly phone call to my cousin, we happen to be talking about this, how men that aren’t grown expect you to teach them how to be men.

What I mean is that when he tells you “You should have asked or you should have told me”

Really?? I need to tell you to do the right thing? Like ask you to help me clean up after I cooked a nice dinner for you? Or maybe when we are seeing each other and I tell you I don’t have a ride home from the airport and you don’t offer one? So your telling me it was my fault that I didn’t ask you?

Or like a friend of mine who had a recent problem, her and her guy hadn’t gone out in while, he was good just laying on her couch, letting her cook for him…finally after months of this she was done and his response “Why didn’t you tell me?”

Why do we need to teach you how to act like a man, that’s crazy! You are a grown ass man, you should know this and if you don’t, there are plenty of books and YouTube videos out there to teach you.

Why is it we don’t need to told to do romantic things, to ask you after a hard day if we can rub your shoulders or if you want a drink to make you feel better. Why do we know the right things to say and do? Yes, we are women but that is no excuse in today’s world, oh please that is no excuse period!

If you care for someone,  really care, you do things for them, you stop doing things that hurt them, you want to see them smile and will go out of your way to make that happen.

I don’t need you to teach me to be a women, to go out of my way to buy a special nightie to excite you, or buy the shoes you find sexy or bake your favorite pie or if I have a free moment, to text you or call you, to tell you I am thinking of you…see your always on my mind…and I make sure you know that and feel that.

You will never have to ask, why? Because I want to please you, I want you to feel special all the time, I want you to feel like a king, that you never have to worry if I got your back, I will always have your back, you will never have to look behind you.

I will be your ride or die girl, I will be your biggest cheerleader, your biggest supporter, I will believe in you when no one else will, when everyone is coming at you, I will fight to the death for you.
You don’t need to “ask me or tell me” anything, I will be there in thick and thin.

I am not asking you to raise me, don’t expect me to raise you…
Men say there are no good women out there… well maybe if you learn how to treat them, if you grow up, you’d actually find a real women, not a girl who like you, still needs to grow up.

So today my friends remember, if you did the work on yourself, if you changed things that weren’t¬†working, if you read books, went to seminars, if you took the time to make yourself a better person why are you still giving a pass to others who didn’t and then expect you to teach them or better yet blame you for their short comings…no….Grow up

Just like the K. Michelle song “Can’t raise a man”

“These are signs of a grown ass boy, better run for the hills, I’m just trying to keep it real”
It’s not my job to teach you how to act like a man

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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