Thank you for all the pain

Thank you for all the pain

I remember when I wrote about forgiving my best friend and how hard that was to be able to do that.
But not only have I forgiving her, I have forgiving everyone else who has ever caused me pain because they have all taught me valuable lessons I needed to learn, like it or not.

See I give thanks for everything in my life, I tell you all the time that every day I live in a constant state of gratitude, even after all I’ve been through, I still give thanks.
There are so many days that I cry because I am so grateful for all I have in my life.

I would not change one thing in my life, not one.
For everything I’ve been through taught me a lesson and made me who I am today.

It’s because of all of these things that I am in this state of gratitude. It’s because I lost so many loved ones that I always appreciate my friends and family and I let them know how much I love them, while they are still here.

It’s because of my drug and alcohol addiction, when I hit rock bottom that I learned to trust God for his help to clean me up.

I am grateful to my rapist, because of him it is where I first learned to truly forgive a person for their actions.

I am grateful for the men in my life that didnt step up, that treated me bad because when God gives me the right one, I will truly know a good man looks like.

It’s because of Mr. Con Artist that I taught my daughters a lesson, of how to not put up with a lying, cheating man.

It’s because I was in a verbally abusive marriage for so many years that I now know my worth and I know what I won’t put up with.

It’s because of friends who hurt me and let me down that I’ve learned not everyone is here for the whole ride and who are my real friends truly are.

It’s because of my girls that I’ve learned that even your own kids can be cruel to you and yet you will still put down your life for them.

Its because of all of my failures that I’ve learned to never give up, to keep getting up no matter how many times life knocks you down.

I am grateful to my grandmother for being such a mean and negative person because of her, I learned that I never wanted to be like her and I chose to be positive and happy every day.

I am grateful for my mom and dad’s (yes, both, my real dad and my stepfather) for teaching me the value of hardwork and teaching me that a girl can do anything a boy can do.

I am grateful that I once had a lot of money and I learned that money doesn’t buy you happiness, a lesson I didn’t realize for a long time.

Its because of all the pain and hurt I have endured that made me into this, a strong and determined women.

It is because of God that I realized that I am blessed and that I can count on him for my every need. That I  must look for the lessons in my pain, that I must forgive and love, even my enemies no matter how hard it is and believe me it is hard.

That I am grateful for all the pain and for hitting rock bottom twice, for I would have never known how blessed I am now.
That all of these people and all of these events made me live my life in this sense of gratitude each and every day because I know where I’ve been and what I’ve been through.

I am so glad I am here, yes hurt, beat up, knocked down but definitely wiser, stronger, smarter because of it. I am able to, hopefully help others see that they will get through their tough times as well, that there is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. That you can change and you can do anything you set your mind to!

So today my friends, remember not everything that happens to you is bad,  don’t look at it as poor me or why me, don’t look at all of these things and these people that did you wrong and not learn a lesson from it. No, look at it as what is the lesson? Look at what I do have? Look at how blessed you are in other areas in your life. Ask yourself how can I change?
What can I do to overcome and be better for it.

It’s all up to you, either you can say look at all the pain you caused me or you can say thank you for the pain, the choice is yours.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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