What is fear?

What is Fear?

What is fear?
Fear=
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real

Or it can be:
Forget everything and run
Or
Face everything and rise.

Fear is what you chose it to be, there’s that word again, chose, you chose to be stuck in fear and run or you chose to face it and rise.

Dr. Smily Blanton said fear is the most desperate of all human diseases.
It kills dreams, it kills hopes, it makes you sick, it ages you and it holds you back, so then what is the benefit of fear?

It’s a good crutch for some, a good excuse for not doing something, I can’t…I’m afraid, it’s too scary.

Fear has another benefit, it strengthens your muscles, it makes you face what you fear, if you chose to, it will make you stronger. You know the saying what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger, it’s true.

I remember being stuck in fear, always saying I can’t take care of myself. What if I can’t pay the rent? What if I can’t take care of my girls? What if I never find another man? So many what if’s that I was literally stuck in this horrible marriage. I couldn’t move, I couldn’t do anything because fear ruled my life.

I remember being a white knuckle flyer, I was scared to death of flying, I would go into a panic as soon as we took off. I held on to the seat like my life depended on it and to me it did.

I loved to travel but this was holding me back so after years I decided to change it, I decided to cure my fear.
I had to overcome it and so I jumped out of a plane.
Hey, if your going to do it, do it big!

Yes, I jumped out of a plane, and yes, I thought I was going to die, because not only was it a plane but it was a 1950’s old, beat up crop duster plane no less, oh, I thought I would shit in my pants for sure!

But I overcame the fear by facing it head on and guess what? Not only did I live, not only did I conquer my fears, I didnt shit in my pants either!

Yes, I overcame what I feared most, when I finally left my marriage, I remembered thinking…
I jumped out of a plane, I’ve been through so many losses, a rape, an abortion, drug and alcohol addiction, 2 suicide attempts, Hello! I can survive anything!

Think about all you’ve been through in your lives, things at the time you never thought you would get through, yet you did. You got past fear, you got past the hardest times because you didn’t give up. That’s the secret, didn’t think it was so easy did you?

Yes, you have gotten through things before and if you keep living, life will definitely throw some more shit at you, I guarantee that.
But the good news is that you will overcome that as well, as long as you let go of fear.

So today my friends, remember it’s up to you, it’s your choice to stay stuck, to be afraid, to forget everything and run or to face everything and rise, you get to decide what fear is.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Being obedient

Being obedient

I am big on lessons and signs from above, even though sometimes I am hard headed and it takes me longer to listen, eventually I get there.

Recently this message was more than evident to me as I kept seeing it over and over. I had been seeing someone for the last year, I knew it wasn’t right, I knew this was not going where I wanted it to go. I knew this wasn’t what God had for me but I wasn’t ready to let go.

I kept getting sign after sign that confirmed that but I wasn’t ready, I thought I could keep doing things my way. I kept making excuses, maybe it wasn’t really the sign, maybe things will change, maybe I could keep having fun until what I really wanted came along.

When I kept getting sign after sign, when each talk was just like the last talk, when things never changed, I realized this was not going where I wanted or needed it to.These were definitely the signs I needed to hear and listen to.

The signs kept saying he’s blocking you from your blessings, no-one else will come into your space, this is not for you, let it go.
I couldn’t let it go, I had feelings, I told this man my hopes and dreams, I invested a year into this, we had amazing chemistry, amazing… how could I walk away? So I prayed to God to let this go, if this wasn’t for me close the door, take these feelings away that I couldn’t do myself and let me move on to what was suppose to be mine.

Every day for weeks I prayed, yet everytime he called I caved, I was drawn to him like a moth to a light, so I prayed more for him to give me strength. When I finally said enough is enough, I stopped calling him and funny enough he stopped calling me. He was always a tit for tat kind of person so I figured that’s why. Then after 10 days he deleted me from social media and I was mad, my cousin said “You should call him ask him why? What the hell”

But I said “No, I prayed to God to close the door, he closed it the way he saw fit, I cannot go banging on that door to open it, I have to let it go and move on like I prayed for, no matter what the reason is I don’t need to know”

Well being obedient says alot because a week later, I got another full time client, I got into a master’s program for public speaking for close to nothing, I got a job ghost writing a business blog and a ex friend who borrowed money from me and then stopped talking to me for a year called me up out of the blue to pay me back the money, exactly what I needed to pay my taxes this year.
Don’t tell me God can’t or won’t do it, if your obedient.

The other night I was asked out on a date, I was debating on going but I had alot of work to do for this masters class, I prayed and during a break I went on social media and the first thing I saw was this meme that said “Focus on you, focus on what you want to make yourself better, eventually everything else in your love life will come to pass better than you ever could dream of”

Ha! Now that was a sign and so I was obedient yet again, I stayed home and worked. This is going to be my breakthrough year, a year of restoration just like my Bishop said it will be.
I am believing God for amazing things, for a change that will blow my mind but only if I am obedient, if I trust him, if I learn my lessons, if I ask him first and then listen.

This is yet another lesson I needed to learn to move on to the next stage of my life, to know I am worthy of more, to not settle, to listen, to watch for the signs and to be obedient.

So today my friends remember you need to listen, to see the signs, to pray for guidance and then not be as hard headed like me and be obedient.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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How do you exercise every day?

How do you exercise every day?

I get this question alot, especially when I say I get up every morning at 5 am to go to the gym, 5 days a week. How do you do It? I can’t do that, I like my sleep, it’s too hard, who wants to get up that early, yes, I’ve heard all the excuses.

Here’s the thing I hate getting up at 5 am, I hate that I feel like an 80 year old at 10 pm because my eyes are rolling in my head and I need sleep. My body hurts, I’m tired, the bed is so warm… yes, I have all these excuses too but I make my head overrule my body, I drag my ass out of bed and I make myself go.

I know how good I am going to feel afterwards, how strong I feel, how I have more energy throughout the day, how I look and feel in my clothes and about myself when I am focused.

I know the benefits of a healthy life, I come from a family who most don’t  make it 60 years old, that most have heart conditions yet are still overweight, still smoke, still eat like crap, I decided I am not going out that way. I chose to do this every day.

Wow… there’s that word of the week again…choice.
I chose this lifestyle, I chose to eat shit that’s tasteless, to exercise till every muscle hurts, to go beyond my limits and yes, to get up at the ungodly hour of 5 am every day.

For me I chose to live longer, to be healthy so I can be that grandma at 80 doing triathlons and looking like she’s 60. I want to enjoy all of my life, I want to skydive with my girls, zip line, pole dance, do Ariel yoga, I want to hike 20 miles up a mountain until my calfs are screaming to be able to see a view that’s breathtaking at the top. I do this with my girls now and one day I will doing this with my grandkids as well.

I bike ride on the beach, I walk and run there to clear my head and be one with God and nature. I am up for any adventure because I take care of myself, because I choose to do this.

Don’t whine that you’ve gained weight, that you can’t get up at 5 am, that you have no energy and then say to me it must be nice you are so skinny.
No.. its not nice, it’s alot of frigging hard work, sacrifice and commitment, this doesn’t come easy because if it did you would be doing it too.

Sorry lets be real, the only thing I can be, it’s not easy but anything worth having isn’t easy otherwise we would all be in the Olympics, we would all be millionaires, we would all be living our dreams, it takes hard, hard work and that’s the difference, I am willing to put in the work.

People ask me all the time how do I do all I do. I am up at 5 am to 7:30 at the gym, I write this blog 5 days a week on the treadmill, I’m a single mom, I own a business and work 2 other jobs, I am finishing my second book, I just took up Bachata, salsa dancing and pole dancing classes and next week I am starting a master’s class on public speaking. I just do it, I don’t watch Tv, I don’t lay on the couch after work, I am focused on what I want.

I wish I was this focused during the years I was misrable and married but I am making up for it now. I have an amazing life because I chose to have one, I manifested this whole life and I love It!
But believe me it’s not easy, nothing worth having is.

So today my friends remember I am not special, we are the same, the only difference is I chose to push myself, I chose to be the best I can be, that is how come I exercise every day.

It’s your life chose wisely…

“Be the change you want to see”

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Change is scary

Change is scary

This week I’ve talked about change and I have talked about choices, unexpected life changes that, ready or not happen in our life and we chose how we react to them.

We can either embrace the changes or we can shut off our hearts because we are afraid and keep going down the path we were on, making sure we don’t get hurt.

Yes, change is scary and fear often keeps us stuck in one place. We rather stay in a horrible situation than step out in the unknown which to us seems that much more scarier in our minds because we don’t know what’s out there.

But what if you never took a chance? What if fear kept you stuck, what would you have missed out on?
I for one can tell you I wouldn’t have had my own business, I stepped out on faith, just getting divorced to start a business from scratch. I didn’t know how I was going to pay my bills, how I was going to get clients, I wasn’t getting alimony and the measly child support barely put food on our table. How was I going to do this?

If I let fear rule me I would be in some stuffy office working for peanuts and hating it but I decided that since I was shaking up my whole life as it was, why not step out and do what I was passionate about. To take that chance and look six years later I have a great business I love, lots of clients and I have been able to take care of my girls and I.

But for me changes from the heart are even more scary, because I have a bad picker, I have chosen men who can’t or won’t step up. I have the need to please so bad that I give away my voice, my power and lose myself to another person.

So in this area of my life as with alot of us women out there and I imagine some men as well, this is the scariest part, to let go and let love in.

But life without love….well that’s not a life at all. We all need love, we are built to give love and receive love. It is like the air we breathe, it is necessary to live.

If you don’t step out and take a chance, what are you missing out on? What amazing things and people will you have missed? If you don’t take a chance, you will never know.

So today my friends, I leave you with this… remember that opportunities are lost in a blink of an eye, but regret can last a lifetime and I for one don’t ever want to regret anything in my life. I am in control of my life, I get to choose the outcome, I know change is scary but living a life full of what if’s is scarier.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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The reason I am so positive

What makes me so positive?

Recently someone asked me this question and I had to laugh because it’s probably the most asked question I get asked.
It all starts with a mind set, growing up my grandmother lived with us, she was the most miserable, negative person you will ever meet. Nothing could make her happy and she was like this until the day she died.

Yes, she had a hard life and it didn’t turn out the way she thought it should, like most of us but she made everyone’s else’s life miserable as well because of it. I decided early on I was never going to be like her, I swore I wasn’t going to be mean and hate life like she did.

So even though I had just as bad of a life or probably worst, I still decided that I wasn’t going to let it effect my outlook on life.
Not to say it wasn’t hard at times, it was excruciating some days but I made myself be grateful for something, just waking up, waking up in a home, food to eat, later on for my girls, something, anything to focus on the good.

I chose to exercise every day, that changes who I am, it makes me feel stronger, it gives me energy and a clear head to be able to get through things.

I go to conferences, Dr.Wayne Dyer, Louise Hayes, Tony Robbins. I read motivational books and every morning on the way to the gym I watch inspirational videos, I listen to songs that give me a message.
I am constantly putting myself in that state of positivity, of gratefulness, of love, peace and joy.

I have a “sick faith” like my Bishop taught me, I found a church and a church family that keeps me going through the storms and grateful during the good times.

I have a belief that things will get better, I always think of the hard times and how I got through them and it gives me the courage to know I am a fighter and to know that I will get knocked down again but I will keep fighting and keep getting back up.

It’s a state of mind, it’s something you get to chose every day, yes I could have easily said “Look at my life, look at all I’ve been through, my mom’s cancer, my dad dying at 45, being raped, having to have an abortion and a suicide attempt all in the span of 6 months at the age of 15”

Yes, I had every right to be mad at the world when I lost 3 of my best friends, when my mom died, when I was in the depths of drug and alcohol addiction, when I was stuck in a verbally abuisve marriage for 24 years.

I should have gotten a hall pass on hatred and negativity, hell I earned that but I didn’t. I chose, there’s that word again, I chose to be positive, to look for that tiny silver lining.

Another thing I do is laugh at myself, I admit to being wrong, I am open to learn the lessons and actually look for the lessons in everything because I want to keep growing, keep changing. I am open, I step out of my box, I jump off that cliff even if it scares the hell out of me, I do it.
These are all simple, little tricks that can work for anyone.

So today my friends remember I am no different then you, yes, life pisses me off some days, I am not happy all the time, I get my pity party days, I cry…alot and yes, I even sometimes ask “Why me, God?”
But I don’t stay in that state, I have my pity party, I cry, I curse and the next day I put on my big girl panties and get with being positive again.

I am just like you, the only difdeence is I chose to get past that, I chose to focus on the good, I chose to do something about it and not bitch and moan about the bad. I chose to believe it will get better, to look at all the blessings I have and not all I’ve been through and say it always happens to me, this will never change.
I chose to praise even through the storms, not curse at the universe, I chose all of this and this my friend’s is what makes me and keeps me so positive.
This is your life, live it large, chose wisely.

“Be the change you want to see”

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You give up what you need, what what you think you want

What we give up for what we think we want

The Dalai Lama said “We sacrifice our health in order to make wealth, we sacrifice our wealth to get back our health”

We are so anxious of what will happen in the future that we don’t enjoy the present, the result being, we don’t live in the present or the future, we end up living feeling like we are never going to die and die having never truly lived.

We think we want money and when we kill ourselves to get it, we realize it doesn’t make us happy.
We think when…
When I lose weight…
When I get that dream job…
When I find a mate…
When I get that bigger house, nicer car….
When….
But when, when comes we are still not happy, still not fulfilled because we need to be happy in ourselves, in where we are now, right now, with whatever you have. I’ve seen the happiest people that have nothing and the richest without happiness, it all begins and ends with you.

Some people let fear stop them, the what if’s, the I can’ts, I raise my hand to this one, I let fear rule my life for 28 years, I was stuck because fear owned me.
But let me tell you something, the pain of regret far outweighs the pain of the risk.

What if Oprah believed all her haters? What if Steve Jobs had gotten a real job when they laughed at his ideas? What if the Rock didn’t overcome depression and go on to be a movie star? What if Ellen caved into all the bullies in her life? The people with the hardest past are the ones that took the greatest risk and got the greatest rewards.
You can not do that stuck in fear.

Lisa Nichols said you have to step out to that ledge, your brain will tell you don’t, what if? You see everyone else is living the life you want yet you are stuck on the edge. There are three things that can happen if you jump, you will land on something soft, you will crash land or you will fly beyond your imagination, either way you will get back up.
You will never know what the outcome will be if you stay stuck, even if you fail, there will be a lesson on how to do it better the next time. Edison failed 1,000 times before he got it right with the light bulb.When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
How many of us would be willing to fail that many times?
He had passion, this was his purpose and he believed in himself even when everyone else didn’t.

What if we all followed our passion? Would we be better people? Better lovers? Better parents?
What if we all fulfilled the purpose that is put inside of us and not just go to a 9 to 5 job, hating our lifes, working for someone else who will replace us in a hot minute once we die? Why do we not give time to the ones that took us so long to find? Why do we not give time to our children who are desperately wanting our time? Why don’t we give time to our dreams, our purpose?

No, we are too busy running after the almighty dollar, keeping up with the Jones’s, trying to impress others with things and status and likes on social media, thinking this will make us happy.

So today my friends remember, this is your life, you get to fly, to chose happiness, to own your purpose.
We give up what we need for chasing a dream of what we think we want. Chose your life wisely, you only get one shot.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Your not by yourself

Your not by yourself

Yesterday I went to support my girlfriend, an amazing young women who created this documentary I am blessed to be in, while she was getting interviewed by our camera man/Pastor.

I went to his “church” a room in the African American center in Miami, but let me tell you, it didn’t matter how small his congregation was, it was how big his heart is and how passionate he is about God and this project.

Trinka spoke from her heart, about the abuse she suffered throughout her life, she was real and raw and brought us all to tears. This was the reason she wanted to make this documentary, she wanted to shine the light on this ugly, dark subject, she wanted others to speak up, to have a voice.

After the interview Pastor Leroy asked if anyone wanted him to pray for them, if they were dealing or had dealt with this. From this small group of like 20 people, 3 women stepped forward, even I was surprised.

He prayed over them, he held them, we cried with them and they let go of their past hurts and prayed to be whole again.

See we all think we are the only one’s carrying all the trauma in our past, we all think we are all alone, but this showed me that we all can related if we shine light, if we tell our truth.

Afterwards one young girl came over and said she had never spoken her truth before but because of Trinka and the rest of us she felt like she wasn’t alone. She wanted to get help, to let this go, to become whole again and she thanked us. We held her, we told her we know what she is going through, we told her this is why we have all come forward to help others heal.

This gave us confirmation that we needed to do this, to take our message around the country, around the world, to show others they are not alone. To show others how we healed, how we went from victims to victorious, how we overcame this and how far we have come.

For us our salvation was God and our faith, for others it may be whatever their higher power is, but whatever it may be we are here to support you, to be there and let you know you are not alone.

This is my purpose as I know it is for Trinka and Pastor Leroy as well. God placed this in our hearts to reach out, to touch others, to tell our stories. I am blessed to be part of this and be able to give, no matter how small, some peace to someone out there that thought they were alone, that they couldn’t talk about it, that it was burning a hole in their souls that they were filling with self hatred, depression, men, drugs and alcohol or anything else to try to cover up the pain they were feeling.

We want this to open up discussions in schools, in churches and at home, we need to talk about this.

So today my friends I am here humbled and filled with gratitude to be part of this, to be able to touch others with our story and my words. To be part of this group of amazing and brave people who have came forward to do the same thing.

Please share our videos, like our social media pages @thisisseries

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Unless we share, unless we speak our truth, this will still go on, this will still be kept underground, we need to be the light, we need to know we are not alone, you need to know your not alone, your not by yourself.

“Be the change you want to see”

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Tony Robbins and the #MeToo movement

Tony Robbins and #MeToo movement

Last week my cousin posted a video of Tony Robbins at his latest convention talking about the #MeToo movement.
Her quote to me was “So what do you got to say about your boy now”

She knows that I am one of Tony Robbins biggest fans and she wanted to know my opinion about this whole situation, because not only am I his biggest fan but also an advocate for rape and sexual abuse.

So here is my response on both sides of this subject and in case you’ve been living under a rock, this is what conspired this last week.

In the video,Tony Robbins argued with a woman at his workshop who stood and questioned his views of the #MeToo movement. In an exercise, he had her hold out her fist and pushed her across the room, to demonstrate, he said, that pushing back wouldn’t make her safer. Robbins referred to the Bible quote “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone,” saying that we’ve all done things we wish we hadn’t. Then he said the #MeToo movement made him “sad for women,” because many Hollywood executives he coaches are now refusing to hire attractive women believing the risk is too great.

And everyone was up in arms about what he said and rightfully so, as it didn’t seem like he had a grasped on the #MeToo movement at all.
Later this week he made an apology saying.

“I encouraged people to grow into the men and women they dream to be,” but that he still had much to learn.

“I teach that ‘life happens for you, not to you’ and what I’ve realized is that while I’ve dedicated my life to working with victims of abuse all over the world, I need to get connected to the brave women of #MeToo,” Robbins wrote.

Now here’s my two cents for all it’s worth,Tony Robbins has been self-help guru for more than four decades.
He teaches people how not to be a victim, how not to let anything in your past keep you from anything in your future. That it doesn’t matter what kind of background you came from or what took place in your life, you can overcome it.

That is what he’s all about, he himself also came from an abusive background with a bipolar mother, who drank and used to beat him and tell him he was nothing. He knows abusive, so I don’t think that he was putting down #MeToo movement per say, but he was just saying we all need to not look as ourselves as victims.

Now on the other side of the coin, I don’t think that #MeToo movement has anything to do with victimhood, I think it has to do with being able to have a voice. It has to do with being able to show other people, especially women, they are not alone in this situation.

I think it has to do with empowerment and nothing to do with being a victim, it’s about that we all have a voice and we need to use it .

I think we’ve all said things that have gotten misconstrued or had came out the wrong way, and I by no means think that he’s a woman basher or is not sympathetic to women. I have been to many of his conferences and events, he encourages and empowers people every day.

Maybe he just didn’t understand what we (Myself and #MeToo movement) are trying to say.

This is the struggle we face daily and this is one of the main reasons I agree to do this documentary on sexual abuse and rape called “This is series” because I think that this has been for so long, unspoken. It’s a tabu subject that happens to so many women and men, as I learned making this documentary.

We don’t talk about it enough, it’s off limits even still in this day and age and it needs to be spoken about, it needs a voice.
I think the #MeToo movement is that voice and projects like the one I’m on, will be able to show people out there that it’s okay to have a voice, to speak your truth. It’s not about being the victim but about being the survivor. To show others how to survive when you go through this and to show the steps you need to take to get there.

Tony Robbins in all of his seminars teaches you the steps how to let go of your past, how to forgive and move on. He teaches how to not be a victim but to be a survivor.

So to my cousin who I love dearly, I am on both sides of the fence here. I still believe in Tony Robbins and all he stands for but I am also a huge advocate of #MeToo movement and I truly think that this is a teaching moment for all of us. Teachimg us that we are too quick to judge, a teaching moment for Tony Robbins to think about what he says and how he says it.
A teaching moment to people out there who have been victims, to speak up and change your mindset and to the #MeToo movement, that we need to keep this going, the more talk, the more things will change. As I say in all of my blogs everyday…
“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Listen to your heart, your head is stupid

Follow your heart, your head is stupid

Yesterday I wrote a blog about owning your differences, being true to your authentic self, today’s blog also goes along with listening to your authentic self.

We all think our head is the smart one, we are intelligent, we listen to our heads when it comes to all of our decisions. When we should be listening to our hearts, our hearts will never steer us wrong. Even when something seems good, but you have that feeling that says no, something doesn’t feel right, because it’s not and your heart knows that even if your head is showing you something different.

Tony Robbins said when you don’t think with your heart, you are dead and it’s true how many of us do the right thing? Do what our parents wanted us to do? What society thinks is right or should do? We follow the masses.

When we say we don’t want to go into the family business that generations have done before us, because we want to follow our hearts, our purpose, people think you are crazy because you won’t conform.

Following your heart is such a bad thing nowadays, it’s seems like your lazy, your not committed but it is what your suppose to be doing, just like owning your differences, this is who you were born to be, to do.

So why do so many people push against this? To keep the peace? To make others happy? This is your calling, this is your path, you need to listen to your intuition.

Ahhh….that other word… “intuition” that word that no one wants to talk about or listen to. Yes, we are all born with it, when we are children we didn’t need someone to tell us if someone was creepy, we automatically knew it from our intuition.

As we grew, our parents and society told us to poo poo those feelings and so we lost the ability to listen to them. But we all still have them, we have that feeling inside that we can’t shake, we know without knowing or seeing, we just feel it.

We need to listen to the red flags, we always hear that I saw red flags, you didn’t see them, you felt them but you didn’t listen, you kept going despite all the warning signs because your head said hey I don’t see anything, it’s not tangible, so go ahead.

While your heart was screaming, “Stop! Listen to me, run Forrest run!”
But because we think our heads are smarter then our hearts, we don’t listen and time and time again we learn that we should have listened to our hearts, to our intuition.

We need to listen to our hearts, we need to live our authentic life, we need to learn how to live our lives large, to be true to ourselves, it is only then that you are truly living your best life.

Forget what society says, what others say, this is your life, you get one shot this lifetime, use it to the best of your ability. Be what God or whatever your higher power called you to be, find your purpose, dance to the beat of the drummer in your soul, listen to your heart because your head is stupid.

“Be the change you want to see”

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Owning your diffences

Owning your differences

Yesterday while I was talking to a friend, she told me about the people that she worked with, they were our age yet still acted like they were in high school.

They gossiped and talked about people, they had their “clicks” and anyone who was not like them, they excluded and then talked about.
Now you would think that by this age, people would be over this already but here’s the thing, some people don’t learn and grow, some people are just stuck in a place that they felt they were “popular” Hey it worked for them back then…

But the thing about life is we are supposed to learn, to grow, to change. We are supposed to open our minds and our hearts to new things or new or different people. Why is it that some people are afraid of different, of people who don’t conform, people who aren’t afraid to dance to the beat of their own drummer?

I embrace people’s differences, at any given time my table looks like the United nations, Black, White, Spanish, Jewish, Christian, gay, straight, holy roller or thug I love them all.

This weekend while I was at this conference one of the morning rituals we did was go around to as many people we could and hold hands with them, introduce  yourself and then say “I am empowered by your….” and then tell them what you felt from them.
Most of my feed back was my smile and the fact that I really look at a person and saw their souls. Over and over I heard that from complete strangers.
Yes, I see people’s souls, yes, I was the person who brought new people in school to our lunch table, I reached out, it didn’t matter if you were a jock, a stoner, a geek, a misfit, I welcomed you because I saw through to your soul.

I don’t talk about people or put people down for their differences, I applaud their courage to be different in a world of conformists. It takes alot more courage to be different, then to conform.

The problem is it scares people, it makes people look inside themselves because maybe they aren’t being their true and authentic selves, maybe they are afraid of new things, still stuck. Maybe they are jealous that they can’t or won’t walk in their own light.
Whatever the reason, it doesn’t matter, you need to own your differences, your uniqueness, own what makes you, you.

Last year at my cousins wedding, they said it was formal, well their version of formal and ours were completely different. When we arrived in gowns and furs my girls said “Mom we are really extra” I looked at them and said pull your shoulders back, hold your head high and own your extraness!”

Yes, own your extraness, your whatever it is that God gave you to be different, own it. Don’t conform, don’t worry about the haters, don’t care what anyone one else thinks, does that effect anything in your life? Do they pay your bills? Does their opinion really mean anything in the big picture? No! Let it go, say a prayer for their pettiness, say a prayer that your glad your not like them and then move on.

So today my friends remember you are specially and wonderfully made, you are unique, different and one of a kind, own your extraness, own your differences, it is what this world needs.

“Be the change you want to see”

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