Dealing with your shit

Dealing with your shit

We all have shit, shit we’ve been through, shit we carry around from our past, shit that’s happening right now in our lives. Yes, this is a fact of life but how we deal with our shit is a different story and belive me, we all deal with it differently.

Some of us deal with it head on, we figure out what we need to do to get past it, fix it or own it. Some people chose not to deal with it, pretend it doesn’t exist, some people use it as a crutch, they become a victim and this is why they can’t move forward, they have excuses, they had alcoholic parents, they were beat, they were molested… insert your sob story here.

Yes, we all have shit but when you complain that you don’t want this or that to keep happening and yet your still entertaining the foolishness, then the problem is you.

I’ve cut out alot of people from my life these last 4 years since my divorce, because these people were not benefiting or giving anything to my life. They sucked the fun out of life, they were negative, they didn’t have my back like I had there’s, the relationship was not good for me. Whatever the reason, I needed to let go because their shit was holding me back or wearing me down and I don’t have time for other people’s shit, I have enough of my own to deal with.
So they had to go, as much it hurt, I did it because it would have hurt me more in the long run.

One thing I’ve learned is, it takes more than words to get over your crap, it takes action. You can’t say I’m okay after being raped and yet your still doing dangerous things that say your still crying out for help. You can’t just say I’m a addict, yes, that is the first step but there are 9 steps after that one that you must do to in order to stay clean.

You must walk the walk and talk the talk, you must say I have a problem and now I am going to work on what I need to work on to improve, to change, to resolve the things I need to do to become better, to beome whole again, to change.

Don’t come to me and say I don’t like this, I don’t want this to continue yet your still are entertaining the foolishness, your just bullshitting yourself, not me because I see it. If you truly wanted it to end, it would, you would put an end to it, period. No excuses, no bullshit, you would just walk away, that is the only way change will happen.

When you become sick and tired of being sick and tired, when enough is enough, when the games are too much and too many, when your life is spiraling out of control, it is then you will do something about it. Otherwise you are just giving lip action to it and that won’t change anything.

I worked at becoming whole after I was raped, I had counseling, I went for years because I still saw my dangerous behavior. I was using men, I had to be in control, I played games, I ran when things became closer, so I knew I still had work to do. I was still broken and like they say hurt people, hurt people and that’s what I was doing.

When I became clean after years of drug and alcohol addiction, I needed to work the steps, I needed to go to meetings, sometimes twice a day because I knew I wouldn’t stay clean without help. I didn’t just give it lip action, it took hard work, lots of hard work.

So today my friends remember, you need to take action, you need to change, you need to own it, to decide to cut off the foolishness before you can say your dealing with your shit.

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