Love is all we need

 

Love is all we need

Love is one thing we owe to people.
Love is the greatest gift we have and the greatest gift we can share.

Some people are dressed up, with clothes they haven’t paid for, with hatred in their hearts, they are so miserable because they have no love in their hearts.
They go around and preach the bible and their faith, when the truth is God said love is the greatest thing. Yet it is the one thing they do not have in their hearts.

Sometimes you are hurt, sometimes people will cut you to the bone and you are full of hatred. You can’t see the lessons life is trying to teach you because you are blinded by the hate.

I could have hated the man who raped me, I could have hated my ex husband for the years he verbally abused me, I could have chose to hate the men who lied and cheated on me but instead I forgave them all.
I could hate my “so called friends” who did me wrong, but instead I pray for them, I pray for them all. I love them because they are God’s children and I can not move on and get my own blessings until I love and forgive them.

Was it easy at first? Oh, hell no! Why should I love them? What kind of love did they show me? Forgive them? Really? Why, do they deserve it? Did they ever once try to say they were sorry for the pain they caused me? No, not once, so why should I?

Because it is for you not them, it doesn’t matter if they are sorry, if they ever apologize, God says you must love, even your enemies.

Love teaches you that you can let it go, so that when you see your ex with another, you know you are over it, you know who you are and who’s you are. You know what that other person has to offer, you’ve been there and you no longer ever want to go back!
You need to pray for the new person in their lives as you know the pain that is coming their way, sooner or later.

I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received, be humble, be gentle and be patient. Do not hold onto anger and hatred, let it go, cleanse your heart, move on, forgive and put love in its place.

Love everyone but choose your friends wisely, that means you don’t have to have negative, hateful, lying people in your life, you can still love them, from a far…

Remeber that forgiveness is the oxygen that keeps your relationships alive, it keeps you alive.

My grandmother had such hatred and a unforgiving heart her whole life, it made her miserable. It literally sucked the life out of her and when she was around, it sucked the life out of everyone around her as well. I chose not to be like her, I will forgive and then I will walk away.

So today my friends, remember especially today, we need more love in our world, love conquers hate. Love makes the world go around, love is a many splendid thing, love is the only thing worth living for, love will fix you, love will fix others, love is God’s greatest gift to us, cherish it, use it often and freely and never forget that love is all we need.

“Be the change you want to see”

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When you push a good women past the point of no return

When you push a good women past the point of no return

It’s amazing what we as women will put up with, we will forgive, make excuses, we will try and try anything to make things right with the man we love.

Over and over, nights of crying, days of agonizing, bottles of wine with our girlfriends trying to figure out what we can do to fix it.

We will put you on a pedestal, believe you are God’s gift to the world, we build you up and be your biggest cheerleader.
Hell, my ex brother in law use to say all the time that I blew so much smoke up his brother’s ass, that he should be a Macy’s parade float.

I stood behind him, no matter what, even to the extreme of taking our life saving to buy snakes to breed while I was 7 months pregnant with our first child, but I believed in him, I trusted him, I would have done anything for that man. That is the type of women I am and so many of my women friends are.
Yes, we are your ride or die women, who will do anything for you…until…

You stop trying, when you hurt us time and time again, when you lie and cheat, when you don’t show us how much we mean to you or treat us like an afterthought, then eventually we stop caring. Our hearts start to close down, every hurt you cause shuts it down a little more, every bad word, every time you curse at us, treat us badly, it closes more and more until one day we wake up and our hearts are shut down completely.

We might still physically be in the relationship but mentally we have already checked out, we are just waiting, maybe still hoping that it will change or just for that straw that will break the camels back.

Once you push a women to that point, she is finished with you, she has learned her lessons and is moving on. I hear this one alot where a couple is married for years and a man will say “I never saw it coming…she just left”

No, there were plenty of signs, you chose to ignore them, believe me I can guarantee she spoke to you, she cried herself to sleep, she pulled away little by little but only because you didn’t put her first, because you gave her a reason to.
No one walks away from a good relationship, it takes work just like your job, from both of you, one person cannot hold it together.

I’m big on romance, candles when he comes home, a home cooked meal, soft music, a back rub, sexy nighties, love notes, I want my man to know how much he means to me, how lucky I am to have found him.
I am constantly building him up, telling him how proud I am of him, that he can do anything, that we as a team can take on the world, that I am his ride or die chick.
But this can’t be one sided, I am doing my work, you need to be doing yours.

Show her your thinking of her, text her “I miss you…your on my mind” you can’t imagine how important that is to her.
Call her ask her how did her client go, not general, be specific about things she spoke to you about.

Bring flowers just because… leave a sticky note on the bathroom mirror when she wakes up, plan dates, if a client falls off, call her and tell her you would love to see her…
make her feel special and important in your life.
Step up or she will step out….

So today my friends remember, if you do these things, you will have a women’s heart forever….
if not, trust me she will lock down here heart faster than a maximum security prison, don’t make the mistake of pushing a good women past the point of no return.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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The reasons we stop believing

The reasons we stop believing

There are so many messages I receive from going to church. It still amazing to me, that when you really need to hear a message, you get there and there is your message that the preacher is preaching.

This week sermon was about when things get tough do you stop believing? How deep is your faith really?

There are 3 reasons we stop believing:

1-We stop trusting and get discouraged because of the mistakes we made.

2-We allow our circumstances to control our lives… I might be in a mess but I am not a mess

3- We don’t use faith in our now….

Yes, I remember starting this business, it was hell starting a new career at this stage of the game.Getting divorced and not getting alimony and then worrying about a new business and how was I going to support me and my girls.
But I chose to walked out on faith, to do this and believe God.

Was I scared some days? Beyond scared…I have even woken up some nights in a cold sweat. I cant tell you how many nights I lay awake thinking, how am I going to do this? I am the sole provider for my girls.
I will not lie to you, after 24 years of being married and him controlling everything, this was scary!

But something happened, something in me just changed. I said I can’t change what was going on so I can either do one of two things.

1- I can make myself sick with worry, lose sleep and have heart palpations
( And trust me I did all of that already and it didn’t change a thing) or..

2- I can straighten up, lift my head up high and say to God, I know you have a plan for me, you will take care of things, so I will keep praising you, I will keep believing and I will pray and let you worry.

So, I chose number 2!
I prayed, I gave thanks for where he had brought me from and I kept my faith, that at this point of my life, I know he is in control not me.

They say if you want to make God laugh tell him your plans! It’s true, these weren’t my plans, I was so lost, I had nothing to dream about, all of “this” is his doing, so why worry about what is going to come, I will just be grateful, give my praise and just “believe”

So today my friends remember you have a choice, you can worry about the things you cannot change, things you cannot control or you can let it go, you can focus on the positive and forget the negative and hold on to your faith and never stop believing.

“Be the change you want to see”

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Don’t try to change people

Don’t try to change people

I am always on here saying don’t try to change people, to except them for who they are. I look for the good in people, I look at their hearts to see what kind of people they really are, we all have faults, we are human after all.

I know better than anyone what it is like to try to be someone else to please another person. You lose yourself, you give pieces of yourself away until there is none left, then you wake up one day not knowing who you are and wondering what happened.

I realized recently that I also wouldn’t want a person to change for me, that if that is who they are, they should continue to be who they are. I would never want someone else to go through what I went through, to feel what I felt.

If your with someone who wants to change, that’s wonderful but how do you know if they really want to or they are doing it for you? How do you know that later on, they realize they didn’t want to do it, that they just wanted to make you happy yet now they are miserable because they are not their authentic selves?
You don’t… they have to make that decision to want to change for the right reasons.

So when I am out here in the dating world, I have to figure this out… can I accept this person? His flaws, his background, his little quirks? Or do they bother me too much and I have to walk away.

I have learned that I will not put up with being an afterthought, being last on their list, I will not accept calling or texting when they feel like it, if we are in a realonship or trying to build a relationship. I will no longer chase or initiate times to spend together or men who are not putting their all into this, only when it ends in a booty call.

I will also run the moment I see a passive aggressive man, narcissistic man, a controlling man or jealous man…been there, done that and will not repeat that mistake again.

I don’t have all the answers, we each walk our own journey and must be true to ourselves. I know I have to be me, always, take me or leave me, that’s okay but I am not changing.

Not to say I won’t learn things along the way or see things from a different point of view and then make a decision, on my own to change. But to try to get someone to love me or like me, to be something I am not, no, that is one lesson I learned and I don’t need a repeat performance thank you! Just like letting someone change to please me…not happening either.

So today my friends remember be true to yourself, be your authentic self, never change for someone else, change because you want to be a better person, change because you’ve learned lessons and you’ve grown as a person, that is being an adult and as I always say be the change “you” want to see.

“Be the change you want to see”

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I choose

I choose…

 

I am human, I fall apart, I cry, I get depressed, I feel hopeless, I ask why?

 

But I don’t choose to stay in that state. Yes, there are times when it gets hard, when you think the world is coming against you, that you have no friends, that no one could possibly know what you are going through….

But each and every day I wake up and I get to choose.

 

I choose to give thanks to God for waking me up, I choose to be grateful for what I have and not focus on what I don’t, I choose not to dwell on all that is falling apart in my life but see what is good instead…see it is a daily choice.

 

I choose every day not to fall into the hole of drugs and alcohol again. I choose not to intentionally hurt anyone, I choose to try to be a better person, to be a blessing to others.

 

I choose to be transparent, I choose to live my life without lies, without skeletons in my closet.

I choose to put my whole life out there, to show others that it’s okay to fail, to fall on your face, to keep going in spite of the pain.

 

I choose not to be petty, even when others are being petty to you. I choose to show love even when none is shown to me.

I choose to forgive even though my heart may be breaking, even when they shown no remorse because I need to keep growing and I know I cannot grow with hatred in my heart.

 

I choose to not keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again, I choose to walk away from men who clearly don’t deserve me. I choose to know my self worth.

 

There are some hard choices in life, there are even some you rather not make, but you must, because this is your life, you get to choose how to live it.

 

You can either live it big or go home… you can either hate or love…you can either forgive or be bitter…you can either sit around and cry saying poor me or you can say I am a surviver, the choice is yours.

 

So today my friends, I am here telling you in spite of all the pain, of all the lies and deceit, in spite of losing friends and hard times, in spite of getting my heart broken, in spite of life knocking me down yet again.

I am choosing to get back up, to say…is that all you got? Ha! Bring it on!

I am a survivor, I am a warrior, I choose to keep fighting.

I am choosing to live life to the fullest, to be present in every moment, to cut out what and who doesn’t suit me anymore.

 

I will continue to do my best and keep going, to pray and praise through the storm because I get to choose…and so do you…so choose wisely…remember we olny have one life to live…live it large! Be in charge!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Don’t go back

Don’t go back

 

Recently I decided I was moving on, I am sick of not realizing my self worth and letting men get away with things that we as queens should never allow.

 

Sometimes we are good at giving advice but not following our own advice, you know “Do as I say, not as I do”

So recently I decided that I need to follow my own advice as I can’t just walk the walk, I have to talk the talk.

 

I have made peace with leaving the men in my life in the past, knowing that I need a man to treat me in a certain way and if not, you got to go.

 

Then out of the blue I hear from an ex….

He wants to talk, he wants to try to work this out, he says he misses me, those magically words that make our knees weak.

I am blown away because I have moved on, I have cried my eyes out for weeks, it took me months to walk away, to heal my broken heart and bam! Here he is knocking on this door again.Yuggggg!

 

My heart races, I can’t breathe, memories come flooding back in and I think why is he doing this now?

This is a trick from the universe saying “So you want to move on? Really let’s see”

 

As if they are waiting for my answer….soooo…how stupid are you? Did you really leave him in your past? Or were you just blowing smoke up our ass…

 

If you’ve ever been in this situation you understand my dilemma, you want to hear what he has to say, you want to believe he has changed, you want it to work out with this man.

 

This man you were crazy about, this man you lost your mind for, this man you lost sleep over, cried all night for, that disappointed you time and time again, who promised you things he never made good on, this man who hurt you to your core, who….wait….why the hell am I even considering talking to him?

 

What the hell is wrong with me? How many times do we have to smacked in the head before things become clear? Well I know for me a few….I am getting better at it, thank God, but still it takes a while.

 

Here’s the thing I’ve realized, if this was your best friend and this all happened to her what would be your advice to her?

I can tell you…the same advice I just gave to a reader who Pm me late last night about the very same situation, I was like you got to go, walk away, he’s not worth it, he is never going to change. Hello!! Self are you listening?

 

But as I was talking to her I knew I was done, he, just like this man she was dating were never going to change, either we were going to put up with his bullshit forever or we were going to walk away, it’s that simple.

 

Must have been the night or maybe the video I made that made people reach out to me last night as a male friend also Pm me and spoke of the same thing with this women he was dating. He was last on her list, she told him as much… yet he was still holding on…to what? Lies? Bullshit? When someone tells you who they are, believe them!

So, just so you know, this does not just happen to women, it is a universal thing.

 

I decided I am not going to put up with bullshit anymore, if your a real man you will step up, you will do whatever it takes to make your women happy, no matter what you have to change, that is what you do and if you can’t or won’t…keep it moving…next…

 

The universe has the man who is for me and they are waiting on us to walk away, to leave the past in the past, to see if we are really ready for a truly good man or women who will appreciate us.

Hello! Universe I am ready…

 

Hopefully my reader is ready, as well as the many of you out there that read my blog and watch my videos. Don’t be so hard on yourselves, we are human, sometimes the heart overrules our heads,

sometimes we love so much, we want to desperately see the good in people, even to the point it blinds us to all the bad.

 

As much as you want them to change, they never will unless you are that important to them, sorry if that hurts but that is the real truth. You need to change, to value yourself and all you give to the one you love, you chose to walk away and even be alone than to be lied to, cheated on, abused or treated as an afterthought, it’s your choice how someone treats you, chose wisely.

 

So today my friends, remember the choice is yours, you decide how people treat you, you decide to walk away and wait for the universe to say “Good job, now look at this wonderful person I have waiting for you….they were there all this time waiting for you to chose”

 

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The month is over but Domestic violence goes on

The month is over but Domestic violence goes on

 

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month but just because October is over doesn’t it mean domestic violence is suddenly going to disappear. Domestic violence goes on in this country every second of every day. This is why this is my purpose, it’s to teach everyone out there that is dealing with domestic violence, that you don’t have to, to know you can change, you can walk away, you can learn your worth and how you let other people treat you.

 

So today on the last day of October I’d like to let everyone know that this is an ongoing thing and for me this is my life purpose so I will keep talking about domestic violence, just because the month is over doesn’t mean I am done.

I’ve even decided to start doing videos about knowing your worth and the things that we discussed in my blog so that you get to see the face behind the blog and if you can’t feel my passion through my writing,(I can’t see how that is possible) you will be able to in my videos.

 

I have to tell you, as I am real as hell and never hold back, that I thought I had worked out all of my issues from being in a verbally abusive marriage for 24 years, I took time, I read books, I went to support meetings, I spent time with myself owning my own shit and forgiving him for his.

 

I thought I was good, but little did I know there was still some lasting residue from this, as I’ve learned this in the last few years with the guys I’ve been dating.

 

I still don’t know my worth, I see the red flags but I still make excuses instead of running as soon as I see them. I allow them to treat me the way I tell my queens to never accept, I am still broken and still need these lessons to make me whole.

 

It’s okay to screw up, hell I do it all the time, these screw ups teach you lessons, if you let them. They teach you your strength, sometimes you may slip back into your old ways, but as long as you realize it, as long as your constantly trying to improve and change, it’s all these  lessons that will be moving you forward.

 

I am hard headed, I need to screw up not once but many times before I get it.

I am always trying to give people the benefit of the doubt, always trying to see the good in them, make excuses for their lousy behavior even when it’s clearly all on them. I still go into it must be me and something I did mode, that willingness to make someone love me, to do whatever it takes to make a person happy even if it means sacrificing my own happiness.

 

Yes, I am a work in progress and every day I am learning my own self worth, every day I learn something about myself and the issues I still have.

If your reading this and you think you don’t have issues, lasting residue from your childhood, your past relationships, from issues you chose not to deal with, you are lying to yourself. We all are broken in some way or another but the only way to fix this is to be real, to own it, to speak it, speak about it, let it go, open that door…

Today’s the perfect day for that, it’s Halloween, open the door let those skeletons out, clear it all out!

 

You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge, so do it, acknowledge it, own it, deal with it, learn your lesson and then let it go.

I am acknowledging my weakness, my points that I still need to work on and I am putting it out here for you and the world to see

(Now that’s scary, I’m just asking you to own it to yourselves)

 

Let’s walk this path together, I am here learning just like you, I just chose to share all of it with you and the world because we will never grow if we are stuck in fear, if we don’t see the hope of someone who is going through the same thing we are, that gives us the courage to change.

“If they can do it, then I can do it”

That feeling of knowing your not alone, someone else walked your path and made it out.

 

So today my friends remember, yes you can get out of a bad situation, you can walk away from domestic violence but until your real with yourself, until you keep addressing and learning lessons, until you finally know your self worth and what you absolutely won’t put up with or make excuses for you are still stuck there.

 

Domestic violence is not just a month, it’s not just  about getting out, it’s about teaching others their value, its about showing the next generation change, its about uplifting each other and it’s about the constant change within ourselves.

 

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Dont ask for things to be easier, ask forthe strength to deal with it

Don’t ask for things to be easier, ask for the strength to deal with it.

I know from personal experience that life can be brutal sometimes, that you can hit rock bottom (for me it was twice) and it feels like the sun will never come out.

In my darkest hours, when I was lost, alone and broken, I prayed and cried out for help. I had nothing else to hold on to, I needed help, I didn’t think I could survive one more day, not even one more second, I needed my situation to change.

I remember crying out, why can’t my life be easier? Why did I have to endure all that I’ve endured?

What I’ve realized since then is that everything that we go through has a lesson in it, but we must learn to look for that lesson. The lesson I learned from this was that I can’t ask for it to be easier, I needed to ask for strength, because there will always be something in life that I will be going through.

These things are here for a reason, to teach me a lesson, as much as I don’t want to be going through it, as painful as it may be, as much as I would like it to go away, I needed this lesson and for me, because I am so hard headed, I need them a few times!

So why was I praying for it to easier? Because we all want our lives to be easier, wouldn’t that be nce? Yes, of course it would but what would that teach you? I believe everything in life teaches you a lesson.

So what would being easy teach you? To be soft, to not learn a lesson, to not be able to handle a life crisis…

Look, I am not saying I could get through all that life keeps throwing at me without God because I know I cannot. What I ask from him now is strength, his strength to know that no matter what I am going through, with him it will be okay. I ask him for faith, to know even though I don’t know what is coming, I will trust him, to care for me. I ask him for gratitude so that I may be able to see all that he has already done for me and know all that he will continue to do for me. I know I will get through it all, I will be able to learn my lesson and know that this too shall pass.

I’ve learned that I am a surviver, that even when I slip and fall, he is there for me. I know that I need to believe even when I can’t see it, even in my darkest hours, I have strength, his strength to keep going.

So today my friends, don’t ask for life to be easy, it is in the trails and turbulence in life, that you learn how much strength you truly have, that your faith grows and that you realize what your made out of….No, don’t ask for it to be easier, today ask for the strength to deal with whatever life has to throw at you.

“Be the change you want to see”

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The steps to change your life

The steps to change your life

 

I have been taking alot about changing your life and today I will tell you what you need to do that.

 

1- The first step is to be sick and tired…

 

Sick and tired you ask? What does that have to do with changing?

When you are sick and tired of something you will do just about anything to change your situation.

Sick and tired of your weight? Your job? Your relationship? Good! That means you want something to change.

 

2- Now you need to change your mind…

 

Change the way you think about yourself, about what others may say about you, your not the victim, your the survivor. You mind is the most powerful tool you have, use it!

 

Tell yourself you can do this, every single day. I use to put a sticky note in my car that said I love me and every day I would say it, out loud because I didn’t love myself, I had lost myself and I needed to find her again so I said it everyday until I started to believe it.

 

3.Start reading, watch Youtube, make a vision board, speak your intentions out in the universe…

 

Do things to get your mind working in the direction you want to go. If your looking to lose weight post pictures of what you want to look like, read about how others got there. This goes with anything you want to change, you have to start with your mindset first.

 

4- Start hanging out with like minded people…

 

People will help and encourage you.

This change is hard enough without you surrounding yourself with negative people saying you can’t do this… find just one friend, get a mentor, go to a meeting but find someone who will lift you when it seems like you can’t go on.

 

5- Use the 30 day rule…

 

They say you can pick up or drop a habit in 30 days..

Use a calendar mark off the days, keep doing the above for 30 days and by the end of those days you will have a new habit, a new mind, a new you!

 

6- Don’t be so hard on yourself…

 

This one gets alot of people every time, your on a diet and you cheat so you think the whole diet is down the drain. No, you fell down, okay, it happens get back up, start over, failing gives you character, it lets you find your inner strength.

 

We are not perfect why do we act like we should be and why are we so afraid of our mistakes? They teach us lessons, make us stronger, they give us a testimony of perseverance. Rejoice in your failures because you are becoming stronger because of them!

 

7. Stop thinking it will happen overnight….

 

Did you gain that weight overnight? No! Did he treat you like crap overnight?  No! So, it’s not going to magically change overnight, give it time.

 

I admit this one is a hard one for me, I want it and I want it now!  But newsflash! It’s not going to happen like that, so know that upfront and when it takes way, way, way….did I say way…longer than you thought, you will be expecting it, even if your not liking it.

 

8- Keep your eyes on the prize….

 

You want this…you can feel it…being free…losing weight… a new job with a big office, you have envisioned it, you read, you did your homework, you put it out there, you got support, you did everything you were suppose to do, now keep your eyes on the prize.

 

Even when it gets tough, even when you don’t think it is possible, even when no one else believes in you, even when you slip and fall again and again, keep looking at that finish line it is rightthere…just a little bit more… you can and will hold on….see it? See it? Yes, close your eyes, see it now? You got this!

 

So today my friends, these are the steps for you to change your life…how do I know? Because these are the steps I used to change everything in my life…

 

To forgive, to overcome drugs and alcohol, to get out of a horrible abusive marriage, my constant past mistakes in picking losers, to start over with a new home, a new business but most importantly a new me…I did it, you can do it…start today you already got step one covered, keep stepping into your new life.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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Your so vain you probably think this blog is about you

Your so vain, you probably think this blog is about you.

 

I write this blog every day,

5 days a week, 4 weeks a month, 52 weeks a year for the last 5 years. I write about all kinds of things, mostly my life and experiences but sometimes about what I hear from others and their lives.

 

Sometimes I mixed the two together, I never call anyone out (Okay, besides Mr.Con Artist, who needed to be called out, as it was a public service announcement for women)

 

But if you truly know me, I am pretty sure you know who I am talking about in my writing.

 

Yet all the time people ask me if this blog or that blog was about them, my bestie laughs and tells me maybe they feel like they are getting called out, maybe they feel guilty and in the case of Mr.Con Artist blogs, maybe I hit a nerve with them about an issue that they don’t want to deal with (That one was about cheating and getting caught )

 

Most of the time I combined my story with other’s stories but always my intent is to never call someone out but to try to inform or inspire you to look at things from a different point of view.

 

No matter what happens to me, I always look for the lesson in it, I now realize that there is always a lesson to be learned and I want to share the lessons I’ve learned with my readers.

 

I have never been mean spirited and I have never put anyone down, I just point out the facts.

I am not afraid to laugh at myself or put out my deepest, darkest fears or my failures, in order to show others that you can always overcome whatever life throws at you.

 

I don’t care what people say about me, I am an open book, there are no skeletons in my closet, they all fell out 5 years ago when I started writing this blog, here I am warts and all.

 

So to all of you that are so vain and think that this blog is about you…..

remember if I hit a nerve, there must be a reason for it…is it that I am speaking the truth? Is it that it’s about your skeletons in your closet? Maybe it’s time to clean out your closets, maybe you haven’t been learning the lessons you need to.

Or maybe…just maybe…. this blog is, about you….

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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