My special day September 22

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My special day September 22

 

This date holds a lot of meaning for me, in good ways and in bad.

September 22, 1980 my father passed away, he was only 45 years old. My world as I knew it changed forever and I was never the same.

 

But they say that time heals all wounds, yeah not when it comes to losing a parent, I still miss him so, even now, 37 years later.

 

But the date, that horrible date, that use to make me cry now has other meanings for me.

 

It was the date I signed my lease on my new home finally freeing myself from that horrible marriage.

I prayed for so many long for a home for me and my girls and what day did I get it? September 22, my father was looking down on me.

 

That day was also the day I also sold my business, a business that I had only had for a year. What was I really selling? Why did he want it? I actually thought I was being punked! But God, here I was making a deal to sell it and stay on as a consultant for a large amount of money each week.

Really?? Yes, I walked out on faith and now I was being taken care of by God.

 

A year later I decided to get Baptist in our church and yes, you guessed it, it happened to be September 22, to me these things meant that even though my father wasn’t here, he was always looking down and looking after me.

 

Were all these things coincidence? Well you can say so but I know better, I know its my dad making sure I am all right.

 

I know there are always two ways to look at things, either you can see them as a negative or you can look at them a positive light the choice is up to you.

 

I chose to look at this date with remembrance to my dad, to a wonderful man and father who was taken to soon but left me a lifetime of wonderful memories. I look at this date as my life changer, a date for significant change and growth in my life.

 

So today my friends, remember that your parents will not be here forever, spend as much time with them as possible. Call them every day, tell them you love them because one day they will be gone and you never want to live with regret.

 

But also know this, as parents they will always look out for you, they will always be there, even if they aren’t any more.

 

So today I delicate this blog to my wonderful father in heaven. A father that drove 3 hours every Sunday to see me, that made me his special pancakes every week. A father above all fathers, that paid child support above and beyond what he was supposed to. A father that paid for my clothes, doctors, dentists and anything else I needed, who put me first all the time. A father that made me laugh, taught me culture, who gave me my love for the city, he taught me hard work, to value your things and that no matter what, you never say anything about your ex to your children, ever.

 

Thank you for always looking out for me, for letting me know that even though your not here physically, spiritually you will always be here for me.

 

I miss him every day…

I love you daddy, now always and forever.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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It’s all about the chemistry

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Its all about the chemistry

 

It’s funny, how sometimes you look at a couple and you think how did that happen?

Beyonce and Jay-Z,  some people ask what the hell does she see in him? Angela Joelle and Billy Bob really? She’s the most beautiful woman on earth she could have her pick of any handsome man?

Heidi Klum and Seal? Wth?

 

I could go on and on with what we presume to be odd matches but what we don’t know is the chemistry that brought these people together.

 

Chemistry is an amazing thing, its a connecter, it makes logic get thrown out the window, it takes “types” and makes them a thing of the past. It will knock you for a loop and change your outlook on things you thought were your priorities.

 

What we don’t get to see is how does that person treat the other person, is he always there for them? Does he let her be herself without judgment? Is he kind and romantic? Does he have a big heart and puts her first?

Chemistry can go along way to overcome alot of our pre conceived notions of what we are searching for.

If we let it, if we are not caught up with the “perfect person” Whatever that means…

 

I have lots of girlfriends that when we sit around looking at dating profiles they will go…nope, not, definitely not, nah, not happening and I always ask why.

 

Too tall, not tall enough, not good looking enough, too much of a pretty boy, too heavy, too skinny, doesnt make enough, not big enough job title, too young, too old, never been married, been married too many times….hundreds of reasons because they dont meet the certain criteria they have built up in their minds.

 

I remember when I first got divorced I didn’t care what a man did, how much he made or how tall he was (Ok, as long as I could wear heels and he was taller, than me, which you’d almost have to be a small person not to be taller than me! This was a huge issue with my ex husband, me wearing heels, it was his Napoleon complex)

 

My list included must be caring, sweet, have a good heart and be funny. As long as you weren’t a liar, cheater, narcissistic, control freak we were good.

 

I want to find that “monkey love” as my cousin Carol calls it, where you can’t wait to see them, to touch them, to be in their arms, that just the thought of them brings you to a frenzy.

 

I wanted to see more into a mans heart and soul, I wanted more than good looks and a fancy title, I’ve  had the money and fancy life and I was misrable.

I want substance, a real man that isn’t afriad to show his feelings, to love me for me and to step up finally.

 

A real man that isn’t put off by my independence. Recently a man in my life said he loved that the fact that I independent, that it meant I didn’t need him, but I wanted him in my life.

I loved that, a strong man that isn’t insecure about me having male friends, that I work hard or that I don’t need him but yes, want him in my life.

 

The kind of chemistry that when you haven’t seen them in days and you open the door and they grab you and lift you up and can’t stop kissing you. The kind of chemistry that doesn’t care that dinnner is on the table, it can wait. The kind of chemistry that you can sit and talk for hours and never run out of things to say. The kind of chemistry that shows you into someone’s heart.

 

It’s that kind of chemistry, that goes beyond looks, color, age difference or background, that is what is important.

 

So today my friends, I am here to tell you that you never know what someone has with another person, that connection, that spark, that amazing chemistry that is undeniable. It is when you find that person and they will make you forget all about your lists because its all about the chemistry.

 

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“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Being open to learn lessons

Being open to learn lessons

 

Some people think they know it all, they think they can’t learn anything new. Or how about the old saying “You can’t teach old dogs new tricks”

 

Yes, so many people are stuck in their ways they will never be open or willing to learn the lessons life is suppose to teach you.

 

Me on the other hand, I am constantly looking for the lessons and I’ve learned more lessons these last 6 years then probably in my whole life. It’s because I am open to learning and because I look for them in everything that happens to me.

 

No matter what happens in my life, I stop and ask what is the lesson I am suppose to be learning here?

And then I analyze the situation, I look at it from all angles, I pray about it, I am like a detective looking for clues.

 

Look there are always lessons we need to be learning, to be able to grow and change. That’s what we are born to do, grow and change not stay stagnant, to weither and die.

 

These are the biggest lessons I have learned and maybe you won’t have to go through all I’ve been through to get these lessons.

 

I have learned to give over my life, to realize that I could not do this without help from above.

 

I have learned to walk out in blind faith.

 

I have learned to forgive even when I will never get an apology.

 

I have learned that not everyone has my heart and it’s okay.

 

I have learned that not everyone is going to be coming along for the whole ride.

(Hard one for me as I am a friend for life)

 

I have learned to look for the good in everyone, even when it seems hard.

 

I have learned that I needed to learn patience, it’s not on my time but on his.

 

I have learned what is most important in my life, God, my girls, my family and friends.

 

I have learned to overcome my fears, to learn change is good.

 

I have learned to love myself, because if I don’t value myself, no one else will.

 

I have learned to listen to my intuition, see the red flags and not ignore them.

 

I have learned that laughter is the best medicine.

 

I have learned to live in the moment, be present, take it all in.

 

I have learned to work hard but play even harder.

 

I have learned to watch for signs, when I am confused, I keep getting signs from everywhere, over and over again.

 

I have learned to listen for God’s voice and then obey.

 

I have learned to live life large because I know how short life truly is.

 

I have learned to always tell the people in my life I love them, because tomorrow is not promised to us.

 

I have learned to that when you pray about something, be careful you will get more than you bargained for.

(In good and bad)

 

I have learned that I am stronger than I ever thought I was.

 

I have learned that after the storm, the sun will always come. That storms don’t last forever, hold on, have faith.

 

I learned that you can envision anything in your life, you can envision a whole new life.

 

I have learned to uplift people, to give compliments, to make someone’s day by just your words and actions.

 

I have learned to be brutally honest and to be able to laugh at myself.

 

There are so many incredible lessons I have learned that sometimes it makes my head spin, like how dumb was I before? Why didn’t I get these earlier?

We all learn on our own pace, some people will never learn, or think they are too smart to learn.

 

I am grateful that I have learned these lessons even if it came with pain, as I know that I will never forget them.

 

So today my friends remember there are always lessons you can learn, lessons that will change your life, change you forever, stop, look for them, learn from them.

Because we are never to old to learn lessons.

 

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Hurricane Irma what I am grateful for

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Hurricane Irma, what I am grateful for

 

You would think what could I possibly be grateful for with a category 4 hurricane that almost wiped us out.

 

I always look on the bright side of everything and I am grateful for many things. I have learned to always look for the lessons this and other things has taught me.

 

I am grateful to God,  that he gave me peace on the mist of chaos.

I never panicked, I prayed instead.

 

I am grateful for my ex taking my girls to safety, I am glad they weren’t here and instead having a blast with their family.

 

I am grateful for my girls and their boyfriends who helped me shutter up the house and take everything in.

 

I am grateful God gave me a positive attitude when everyone around me seemed like they lost their minds. Rude people, in long lines, but I just smiled and knew God would provide.

 

I am grateful for my friends and my bestie, that keep telling me to leave and not ride this out by myself.

 

I am grateful to my niece and her husband for opening up their home to me.

 

I am grateful for a special person who texted me all night making me laugh and for calming my fears in the middle of the storm.

 

I am grateful I had the mind to pack my suitcase with stuff for my L.A./Vegas trip and that God made it possible for me to fly out right after the storm.

 

I am grateful for my neighbors who watched my animals, checked my home and helped me clean up while I was gone.

 

I am grateful I learned that material things aren’t important, as I looked around my home it was the photos and a few mementos that

really meant anything at all to me.

 

I am grateful that the damage I had wasn’t worst and it surly could have been.

 

I am grateful I got to see a high school friend and that he would take time out just to pick me up from the airport, just to spend some time with me

 

I am grateful I got to reconnect with a dear friend who I hadn’t seen in 20 years and realize that it was just like it was 20 years ago! Like we never missed a beat.

 

There were so many lessons I’ve learned during this storm and I am grateful that I am still being taught lessons, even after all these years.

 

So today my friends remember, you are never too old to learn lessons

As bad as the storms are you must stop and remember what is most important, that you can be grateful even while going through your storms and that eventually the storms will end.

 

It might not look the same, some things might be gone or changed forever, but the sun will come out again and the storm will wash away all you don’t need to make room for better things, a bigger crop, a better life.

 

Don’t be afraid of the storms in your life, when you walk out of it you won’t be the same, that is what the storms are all about.

 

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After the storm part 2

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After the storm part 2

 

So here we are getting ready since Thursday for the storm of the century. Tension is high, we sit around wondering if we got enough supplies? When will the storm hit? How bad will it be? How long will it last?

Will be have electric? Will our house survive? So many unanswered questions go through your head in hurricanes.

 

This is not my first rodeo, I know the drill, I know the damage it can cause. I’ve been in the bathtub with a mattress over my head, listening to the roof rip off my house, wondering if we are going to make it, praying that we will.

 

I know the aftermath of the clean up, days, weeks and months to get things back to normal. The stress, the money, the work that comes after the storm.

 

We sit here glued to the television watching the cone of death bounce this way, then that way. Our emotions bouncing with it, oh…it’s bad….oh maybe it won’t hit us directly….oh…it’s moving west….shit it’s moving east again.

 

Thoughts go back to…do we have enough water? Is everything secure? Are we going to make it?

 

The waiting game is the worst, you make small talk, your mind drifts, your anxious, your jittery (well that can also be from too many cookies you bought)

 

You eat just for something to do, you try to sleep, try to watch a movie but your constantly thinking when is it coming, how much longer, so you can’t fully relax.

 

And then it finally comes, you hear noises, your jumpy, your scared now, the wind is howling, the rain bounding against your windows. Your praying the roof will stay on, hours go by, your in a state of panic as it is getting worst, your wondering how much longer can this go on?

 

Then there is calm and you think oh god, we are done. You breathe a sigh of relief but if you’ve been through this before, you know that is just the calm in the eye. Don’t fool yourself into thinking it’s all good, that is truly the calm before the storm.

 

Before you know it your being battered again, worst then before, you run to your safe room, you put the mattress over your head. It now sounds like a freight train and your thinking what the hell is that noise…it’s the wind pounding at your house, ripping down your trees, making any assemblance of what life use to be, gone.

 

You sit there for hours, scared, listening to mother nature pound you again and again and again.

 

Your in the dark, your hot and tired, your heart is racing like it has never done before, then… it becomes quiet, erie quiet. You don’t even want to go and see what happened. Your life, your home, your niegbhood has changed forever.

 

You open your door, you can’t even recognize your street, everything is changed. You walk around in a daze thinking this can’t be, you see your neighbors, it’s like the real life version of the walking dead.

 

After a while you realize how lucky you were, that you survived through this and even as beat up and broken your house is and you feel, you made it out alive and that is the only thing that matters.

 

The rest is stuff, stuff that can and will be replaced, yes it will be hard work, to fix, to rebuild, to replaced what you have lost but you are alive to do it, you are a fighter, a surviver, you will get through this, stronger and better.

 

And now the work starts for so many of us, getting life back to some sense of normalcy .

 

Until the next time….

 

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After the storm

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After the storm

 

Well the storm has passed, time to let out a huge sign of relief, that it could have been worse, that we are thankful we are alive and that…it could have been worse…

 

The last few days have felt like weeks, the stress, the preparation, the worry if we will have a home to come home to.

 

We’ve been doing this since last Thursday, even through it feels like weeks now. We’ve been getting gas, finding supplies, putting up shutters, bringing in everything you own into your home. For me I had to get buckets, cover my electronics and tv’s because my roof was leaking, I thought for sure I’d be coming home to a house that was completely damaged.

 

I was planning to ride out the storm by myself, so I set up my safe room in my closet with a radio, water, portable fan, my get away bag with all my important papers, I was ready, this wasn’t my first Rodeo.

 

As the storm was getting closer my best friend called me in a panic, he said I couldn’t stay there, it was going to be a hurricane 5 and this was crazy. Being by myself in that kind of storm was nuts, I was nuts and he wasn’t having it. He was booking me a ticket anywhere but I was getting out of town, now! And he wasn’t taking no for a answer.

 

You need to know my best friend, gay or not he is one tough cookie, I still tried to argued, I’m fine, I bought all these supplies, I got the cats, every excuse I could think of…he wasn’t having any of it.

 

Funny thing is the night before my niece called me and told me to come to Orlando and stay with her and her husband, I thanked her but declined.

“Ok, the only flight I can find you is Orlando and it leaves tonight at 6pm, pack your frigging bags, your on it” he says and just like that I am a crazed manic trying to finish everything and pack to leave my home.

 

I then thought what about my trip to L.A/Vegas on the following Tuesday? We’d been planning this for months…dam! Okay I started packing as of I was going to go on the trip. How’s that for putting it out there.

 

I decided to call the airport because the winds were kicking up and I was afraid I wouldn’t get on the last flight out, sure enough they had one seat left, I took it and ran out the door but not without one last look around my beautiful home, I have put such hard work into it, I said one last prayer that it would still be the same after the storm.

 

I got to the airport, no traffic, right through the lines….and here I am in Orlando with my niece.

 

And now the wait continues….

 

Check out part 2 tomorrow

 

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Do you remember where you were the day the world changed 9/11

 

Do you remember when the world changed?

 

Today is the anniversary of 9/11, it’s been 16 years since all of our lives changed.

I know we all remember exactly where we were on this tragic moment.

 

I of course was on the treadmill at the gym, this was before I started writing this blog and back then I use to watch TV to keep myself entertained.

 

As I was running and watching the today show I saw the footage, at first we thought it was a preview of a upcoming movie. I made the TV louder and saw a look of panic on Matt Lauders face, he was almost speechless… we all stopped to listen as he said the words that would change our lives forever.

 

“The World Trade Center has been hit by a plane”

 

The gym was silent…everyone ran to see the Tv’s, we couldn’t believe what we were hearing, you heard whispers, what happened? Does anyone know?

As we were glued to the television trying to figure out what happened, in front of our eyes we watched as the other plane hit the other tower.

 

We all screamed, we started to cry, we all knew this was no accident, this was a act of terrorism.

 

As I am writing this 16 years later, I am crying remembering how I felt at that exact moment.

The world, my world, our world had changed forever in that second.

 

We all stood there, we couldn’t move, men, women and children all with tears running down their faces, scared, heartbroken, unsure of our safety of our country.

 

We watched the images of people jumping out of the towers, we watched people running out of the buildings bleeding, hurt, with looks of terror on their faces but what we saw that we will never be forgotten is the brave men and women of the New York police and fire department running inside the building as it was a blazed.

 

As everyone was running out these incredible brave people were running in to save, serve and protect us.

 

We sat there as we watched tower 1 go down, a audible gasp was heard throughout the gym.

Yet we still couldn’t leave…time stood still for all of us.

We watched people running, clouds of smoke so thick that you couldn’t see, for blocks these clouds went on. Debris and bodies falling out, paper, lots and lots of paper drifting down from the sky…

 

And yet there was silence because we were to stunned to believe what we were seeing…

Moments later we watched tower 2 go down…it had to be one of the saddest days we had ever known.

Being a New Yorker, I have been in those buildings many times.

I knew how big they were, how many people worked in them, how many lives were lost that day…our hearts were breaking…

Would America ever be the same?

 

As we continued to stand there, we learned of the other losses in the pentagon and the other plane that went down, the lives of so many innocent victims across the country.

 

Our world changed forever that day, it would never be the same…

 

So today my friends, we remember all the people that were taken far too soon, we remember the brave NYPD and NYFD that never stopped serving and protecting us even till the end.

 

I am a new yorker, I will always be a New Yorker!

I am proud of everyone who stood up, who helped, who showed the world what New Yorkers are truly made of!

 

And who today we give a moment of silence and prayer…a moment of thanks and a moment of remembrance to all of thoese people who’s lives were lost……..

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

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I am one tough bitch

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I am one tough b***h

 

With this hurricane coming at us and no man in my life, I had to do all of the preparations for this upcoming storm.

 

As I lay here exhausted I think about how tough I actually am, it shouldn’t surprise me, as I come from a family of strong women. My Aunt Kay, my dad’s sister was the matriarch of the family at 5’0, she was little but everyone was afraid of her, she was the ultimate tough bitch.

 

Her daughter, my cousin Cindy, inherited her ways and she can do anything a man can do and better, she is truly my hero!

 

My Aunt Nancy and my mother were also cut from the same cloth, both hard workers doing whatever needed to be done for their families. They both worked the night shift in a dinner for 20 years.

 

My mom would come home after working all night, change her clothes and start working on our 100 year old farmhouse we lived on with my dad. I don’t remember a time when they weren’t working on that house.

 

We were poor and when your poor, you learn to do things yourself because you can’t afford to hire people, so you just figure it out.

 

My mom worked right beside my dad, doing whatever he did. She dug holes, changed pipes under the house, built rooms, she wasn’t afraid to try anything.

 

I was fortunate enough to inherite all of these  qualities from them. They both taught me how to do whatever needed to be done.

I am not afraid of power tools, I can change plumbing, fix things, put together and build things. I did most of the work on this home, I even put in a wood floor in my daughter loft, a big one for me! There is nothing I won’t try to do…thank God for You Tube you can learn just about anything on there!

 

I am self sufficient and I am not afraid of hard work because I’ve learned these things from the tough women role models I had in my life.

 

I learned how to paver the back of my yard and put up a fence with my childhood friend who came down to help me. I shoveled, dug and swong the hammer right beside him. This was all new to me but I am not afraid of hard work and I was excited to be able to say I did this… it is a great feeling of accomplishment when you do something yourself.

 

This whole buying a house on my own thing has been a trip but a good trip as I have learned all that I am capable of doing and it has made me tougher.

 

I give thanks to all the strong, tough bitch’s that came before me to show me the way and let me know that you can do anything even if your a women.

 

So even when this storm hits, even when I will have to get back out there and clean up and pull everything out, take down the shutters and fix whatever needs to be fixed, I will say a silent prayer of thanks to the warriors that came before me.

 

I will be glad for what they taught me and be glad I don’t have to depend on a man to help me.

 

So today my friends, know that you can do anything, do not put limits on yourself because you are a women, learn something new, become self sufficient, it’s amazing how you feel when you know you are one tough bitch!

 

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Intentionally living out your purpose

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Intentionally living out your purpose

 

It is not hard to find out your purpose, you must push past the obstacles in life, to find out your purpose and then live it out.

 

Are you asking, is this all there is to life? There has to be more then this? Why am I here?

 

If you are, you need to find your purpose, to find what you love and when you do, believe me when you do it will fill your soul.

 

I know a lot of people think that everything will fall into place when you become a Christian, that you will automatically know your purpose then.

That all will be perfect, let me tell you being a Christian is not easy, just because you turn over your life to God doesn’t mean your life will be without issues but when you know your in the will of God, when you have strong faith, even in your trials you will still live in your purpose. Even though your purpose will attract a lot of distraction, you will still be on course.

 

So then why aren’t you living out your purpose? It is because you are afraid of criticism and opposition? The failures that you have are lessons you needed to learn, don’t be afraid, we have all failed, but the important thing is the lessons we learned and how it makes us smarter and tougher than before.

 

When troubles come your way, consider it a opportunity for great joy, for you know that your faith is being tested, your endurance now has a chance to grow.

 

I remember when I thought things were perfect, when I had gotten divorced. I was filled with peace and joy, I was strong in my faith, knowing my purpose and my God, when yet again the rug was ripped out from under me. But I didn’t let it get me down, in the mist of my pain, I prayed, I was grateful, I knew that God was there for me and I knew that this was just a lesson I needed to learn.

 

So let it your faith grow, for when your endurance is fully developed you will be perfect and complete. Don’t be afraid that people will talk about you, whether its true or not.

I put my whole life out there for the world to judge, I know people will say some horrible things about me and they have even wrote it on my blog page, but I know this is my purpose and I will continue to do this, so go ahead and talk.

 

Walk with your head held high, this is your purpose, this is your faith walk, not anyone else’s. To fulfill your purpose in life you must believe, that’s it! It’s that simple, believe that it is the will of God, believe that you will follow and believe in your heart that this is your gift.

 

God has chosen you to give it to, nurture it, care for it, make it the best gift you have ever received because it is!

I know this is my gift because when I write, I am lost, I can write for hours, I don’t need food, I don’t hear what’s going on around me.

 

I am in my zone, this is my purpose, it doesn’t feel like work, it flows, it is my calling. When you realize that and you do all of that, you will know you are walking in your purpose, you will have a sense of peace and joy like you have never felt before.

 

So today my friends remember to reach down deep, find what you do best with the least amount of effort, that my friend is your purpose, now go after it!

Live your life with purpose!

 

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What is patience?

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What is patience?

It is the ability to tolerate delay, troubles and suffering without getting angry about it.

Most of us really need help in this area and I am the first one to raise my hand as this was one of the toughest lessons that I am still learning.

I want it and I want it now! Like most of us.

But I’ve come to realize that God has a time, his time and he is working together for our good, so we must just believe and be patient.

Just like anything else, it takes practice. I remember when I needed a job, I prayed for a job, I looked for a job, I begged for a job yet I couldn’t find one for eight long months yet I kept believing that he would provide and he did better than that, he gave me my own business.

For years I wanted out of my marriage, I put it out there, I prayed, I envisioned what it would be like to be free, I made vision boards of how it would look and feel, but it took 4 years to come to pass from the time I said I’m done till it was finally over.

It was again, in his time not mine, I was not ready, he was putting things in motion, so that when I left, I knew I could do this on my own.

I wanted to finish my book, but I couldn’t because I wasn’t done with all the chapters, how could I tell women to leave, to walk away and how it will be great when I didn’t know myself. How could I write about walking out on faith when I wasn’t ready to do that myself?

When I was done with my test, when I was finally free, my book flowed out of me. I had to write day and night, every free second because I was finally ready.

I remember when I was looking for a home, I wanted out but I couldn’t find one I could afford or liked, yet I kept believing and finally he gave me one close to my kids school, in a great neighborhood, one I could afford and one that had such a peaceful feeling to it, it was just what I needed. And then even without me asking he gave me one of my own that I now own.

Lately things have been coming at me, it’s been rough but with all I’ve gone through in the past, I know he will provide what I need, I just need to practice patience.

God will put you in a storm to see if you can hold on to your peace,

if we look forward and even though we don’t see it, can we wait patiently for it, with confidence.

All through these times I knew God was going to do what he said he would, I never lost faith.

You have to believe, to know without a doubt that it will happen.

Just like I put it into the atmosphere about being a New York Times bestselling author and an international blogger on the women of faith tour, I have no doubt it will happen…on his time not mine.

You need endurance to win, you need to endure the pain. Endure knowing that if you endure, you will eventually win.

Without endurance you will never win the race.

How do you endure? You have patience…

I delight in weakness, in insults, in persecution, in difficulties, for when I am weak, it is then I am strong.

Even when your down, even when others are criticizing you, even when it is dark and you cannot see the sun, you have to have faith, you have to have the patience to ensure.

I am still learning patience, its a daily thing for me but now I know that patience pays off. I always remember my mom saying “All good things come to those who wait” and her all time favorite “This too shall pass” and it’s true.

So today my friends, practice patience, endure during difficult times, pray and believe, the best is yet to come, because it is and I am living proof of that.

This was a public service message mostly to me but I hope you also got something out of it ….. because even the motivator needs motivation sometimes…

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“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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