If you havee no haters, its because your not doing anything


If you have no haters it’s because your not doing nothing

I love this because it’s so true and it was a hard lesson I had to learn.
I am one of those people who want everyone to like me, I am a pleaser.
So when I was stuck in my addiction, hanging with my addict friends all was good. We all were losers, all doing the same nothing, going nowhere. But as soon as I decided to become clean, to change, to move on, I couldn’t stay clean and still hang out with them, they started hating.

Just like when I started to know my worth, when I became strong enough to leave my abuisve marriage all of sudden, the haters came. People I never thought would ever turn on me, suddenly didn’t like where I was going. This hurt like hell, as I am a friend for life and I would never hate for someone else’s growth. (Another big lesson I learned this year, not everyone has your heart)

I remember writing a blog once about crabs in a barrel. When one crab starts climbing out, the other crabs grab on to him. They pull him back, they try to keep him in the barrel. They don’t want him to get out of the barrel, they want him right where he is.

Same thing in life, people grow and change. When I go home there are so many people in the same place, hell sometimes even in the same house they were in when I left 29 years ago.

Nothing changed because nothing changes when nothing changes…
Simple as that!

You have to make the change and you will have to except the consequences as well.
You will lose friends, your family may say “Who do you think you are?” “You can’t do that?”
You job is to not listen, your job is not to fan the flames of the haters, your job is to keep it moving.

You do you, you can’t make everyone happy. Lord, I learned that in my miserable marriage. If someone is not happy nothing you do will ever make them happy, get over it!

Not everyone is going to like my blog, that’s okay there are millions of blogs and million of people out there. Some people will and the others…well there’s nothing I can do about it.

I can only do me, I can only be the best I can be and if I fall short in your eyes, sorry… at the end it’s not your judgement I have to face, so I am good.

So today my friends remember even Jesus had haters, Moses had haters, Joseph had haters, Oprah, Tyler Perry, Bill Gates, anyone who has made a difference had to deal with haters. Becuase if they didn’t have haters, it would have meant they weren’t doing anything.

Do something, make a change, don’t worry about the haters, there will always be haters. Do you, fulfill your purpose, do what you were born to do, haters are just there to remind you, that you are doing something.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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