I refuse to settle

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I refuse to settle


After last weekend of hanging out with a wonderful bunch of women that I am blessed to have in my life, I have come to the conclusion that I will no longer settle.


I have come way to far in my life to settle for a man that’s not perfect for me, wait before you go off on me, I did not say perfect, I said perfect for me, big difference.


There is no perfect person and I am as far from perfect as they come, so just so you know that I am not living in la la land. I am not asking for anything unreasonable, like he has to be 6′ blond, 200 lbs, with muscles, blue eyes, make at least 600,000 a year, drive a 750 BMW and be a Virgo.


Don’t laugh I know some women with this list and they will not bulge (well, good luck with that) No, that is unrealistic, but… there are a few things on my list that are non negotiable.


I will not settle for a man who does not have God first and formost in his life, my religion has saved my life, literally and my faith and my church are the biggest part of my life.


I will not sell my soul for a man with money and lose myself, I’ve been there done that for 24 years, never again.


I will no longer settle for broken, unreliable men, no I am not here to fix you, you need to work out your issues before you start a relationship. I took 2 years to work on mine, I had to own my part in my failed marriage, figure out what I needed to fix.

You must have taken this journey by yourself, don’t your issues into the next relationship, same problems, same end result.


I will not be your mother, I’ve raised two kids not looking to do that again, be a grown up.


I will not settle for a lying, cheating or deceitful man. No I deserve to have a man love me enough and love me completely just as I will do for him.


I will not settle for a man who will disrespect me, no I now know my self worth, I am worthy of being treated like the queen I am, just as I would never disrespect you, you will do the same.


I want someone with a kind heart, that is compassionate, that is close to his family and is there for his friends.


Someone who is makes jokes when you know its really not a joke, who tells you no one else can love you like them, who is insecure, needy, passive aggressive, narrossist or jealous. Oh lord, I definitely picked too many of those types of men.


Someone who knows his finances and at 50 is not living paycheck to paycheck, sorry I did that at 20, we are not 20 anymore.


Someone who is funny, (funny is the new sexy) who can laugh at themselves and the world, who has your back and will “let you crash their party” like that Luke Byron song he, would drop everything to be with me, that I come second after God to him.


Someone who cares enough about himself to be in shape and exercises, enjoys the outdoors, someone who is a blessing to others.


Is this such a unrealistic list I ask you? Isn’t this what human beings should be? Not looking to get over or hurt someone else? Am I asking for too much?

Doesn’t matter, this is my list, make your own… I refuse to settle as I know what kind of women I am, I will love you until the end of time, I will be your biggest cheerleader, I will have your back, I would fight the world for your honor.


I will be there to help you,

I would even carry you if you fall. I will be your partner 100% give my all, care about your feelings, will always be honest and faithful.


All I ask is the same in return that’s all and if I can not find someone who is willing to give as much as I am well than I am just fine being by myself because I refuse to settle.


So I am putting it out there, these are the the conditions and the deal breakers, so be it!


So today my friends think long and hard and ask yourself, are you settling because your lonely? Because you can’t live without someone in your life? So you are settling for half a man or women. Don’t settle know your worth and take nothing less!


** I know this is a tough time of year so I will be putting this number out there for all that needs it…I been there and I know how dark it may seem especially during the Christmas season, there is help, it will get better…I am living proof of

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