It’s not my job to teach you how to act like a man

It’s not my job to teach you how to act like a man

Yesterday on my weekly phone call to my cousin, we happen to be talking about this, how men that aren’t grown expect you to teach them how to be men.

What I mean is that when he tells you “You should have asked or you should have told me”

Really?? I need to tell you to do the right thing? Like ask you to help me clean up after I cooked a nice dinner for you? Or maybe when we are seeing each other and I tell you I don’t have a ride home from the airport and you don’t offer one? So your telling me it was my fault that I didn’t ask you?

Or like a friend of mine who had a recent problem, her and her guy hadn’t gone out in while, he was good just laying on her couch, letting her cook for him…finally after months of this she was done and his response “Why didn’t you tell me?”

Why do we need to teach you how to act like a man, that’s crazy! You are a grown ass man, you should know this and if you don’t, there are plenty of books and YouTube videos out there to teach you.

Why is it we don’t need to told to do romantic things, to ask you after a hard day if we can rub your shoulders or if you want a drink to make you feel better. Why do we know the right things to say and do? Yes, we are women but that is no excuse in today’s world, oh please that is no excuse period!

If you care for someone,  really care, you do things for them, you stop doing things that hurt them, you want to see them smile and will go out of your way to make that happen.

I don’t need you to teach me to be a women, to go out of my way to buy a special nightie to excite you, or buy the shoes you find sexy or bake your favorite pie or if I have a free moment, to text you or call you, to tell you I am thinking of you…see your always on my mind…and I make sure you know that and feel that.

You will never have to ask, why? Because I want to please you, I want you to feel special all the time, I want you to feel like a king, that you never have to worry if I got your back, I will always have your back, you will never have to look behind you.

I will be your ride or die girl, I will be your biggest cheerleader, your biggest supporter, I will believe in you when no one else will, when everyone is coming at you, I will fight to the death for you.
You don’t need to “ask me or tell me” anything, I will be there in thick and thin.

I am not asking you to raise me, don’t expect me to raise you…
Men say there are no good women out there… well maybe if you learn how to treat them, if you grow up, you’d actually find a real women, not a girl who like you, still needs to grow up.

So today my friends remember, if you did the work on yourself, if you changed things that weren’t working, if you read books, went to seminars, if you took the time to make yourself a better person why are you still giving a pass to others who didn’t and then expect you to teach them or better yet blame you for their short comings…no….Grow up

Just like the K. Michelle song “Can’t raise a man”

“These are signs of a grown ass boy, better run for the hills, I’m just trying to keep it real”
It’s not my job to teach you how to act like a man

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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I got three jobs….Mon

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I got three jobs mon…

 

I joke around and tell everyone I am like a Jamaican “I got three jobs mon…”

(You have to say it with the Jamaican accent, it sounds better)

But it is true, I do. Last week my daughter said to me you love to work, I replied no, I have to work, I would love to sit on the beach all day and write, that’s what I would love to do for work, this I do to pay the bills.

 

Don’t get me wrong I do love what I do, I have incredible clients who I adore but to tell the truth, this…writing this blog, writing the book, this is my passion, this is my purpose.

 

While writing my book I would look up and realize I had been writing for eight or ten hours and it wouldn’t feel like it, that is passion. I am just doing everything else until this…. pays my bills full time.

 

I don’t think about all I do, I just do what I have to do, everyone in my family was hardworking, it’s ingrained in me, it is who I  am.

 

I didn’t get home the other night until 10:30 from a clients home. I started my day at 5 am at the gym then worked all day till then. It is what it is….I have me and my girls to support and I have no one to lean on, this is it, so I do what I have to do and don’t think about it.

 

To me this is a cake walk because when I was married I did all of this (Yes, three jobs) plus take care of 200 snakes,12 sugar gliders, 2 monkeys, 10 ferrets,100 lizards, 2 cats and a dog. I also on every Saturday took care of the lawn, the sprinklers, the pool and cleaning of all animals cages. Besides all the normal cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, Pta, room mom, classes for the girls and homework, Hell, this is easy now!

 

But there is a balance in my life though, I do play as hard as I work, I try not to work weekends and spend that time with my girls and my friends. I go places and do things, I truly enjoy my free time and live life large.

 

This month alone I’ve had friends come in from all over the country  (Hello, I live in Florida everyone wants to come here in the winter!)

I’ve left the lawn, the laundry and my closet which I should be embarrassed being a professional organizer but I’m not…I left it all undone to make memories with my friends and family. I now realize what is most important in my life, living it to the fullest.

 

I realized that life is too short and that one day on your death bed you won’t be saying “Wow I wished I worked more” no you will be saying “I wished I spent more time with my loved ones, doing what I enjoyed to do”

 

All the money in the world won’t change the missed moments you lost. So I try to make sure I get to see every moment, that I don’t have regrets when that day comes.

 

So today my friends,  remember that no matter how hard you have to work, take time to enjoy life, to remember what the important things in life are and know life is way too short not to stop and smell the flowers.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Make the most of every opportunity

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Make the most of every opportunity

 

You never know what is going to happen, you never know who you will meet, who will walk into your life and change it forever.

 

I am not just talking about in love, I am talking about in life. You wrote a book and start talking to a publisher on the grocery line and bam before you know it your on the New York times bestselling list.

You have an idea for an invention and meet someone at a party and all of a sudden your on QVC. You been single for years determined to stay that way and in walks your soul mate into Starbucks.

 

You never know what is going to happen, how in one second your life can change, look at lottery winners, one minute they are struggling to put food on the table, the next they can help out everyone they know.

 

See I never think this is it, I’ve seen change, more than than I even wanted to but it was all for the best. Somehow it all worked out for my good and even when it didn’t, I still learned a lesson from it.

 

I was afraid of change, I was so stuck in my situation that I never thought I would get out. Just thinking about change scared me, bringing me right back to that safe, horrific corner I lived my life in.

 

It wasn’t until I said enough! Enough is enough and I didn’t care if I lived on the streets, I was determined that I was going to be happy.

 

Yes, the change is you, you must say… I am changing, I will see this world through eyes that maybe have been hurt, maybe wasn’t so great but I am determined to make the second half my best half.

 

Change means you take every opportunity, you step out of your box, do things you wouldn’t normally do. You say this life is too short, I will have an open mind, I will try new things, I will be open to trying.

 

That is when opportunities will present themselves, that is when that dream you dream doesn’t seem so big or impossible.

I will never give up on my dreams, until my last breath I will hold on to the possibility of anything can happen.

 

I have role models, Colonel Sanders Was 65 When He Launched Kentucky Fried Chicken

Roget Invented the Thesaurus at Age 73. Vera Wang was 40 before anyone noticed her, it’s never too late for dreams to come true.

 

So today my friends remember, it is never too late, your never too old, change is scary but it makes you grow, it gives you the ability to know you can and will overcome, it tells others watch me…I will never quit!

 

You never know there might an amazing opportunity behind the next door…don’t be afraid, open that door….step out into your incredible future…

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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The lessons I’ve learned from going back home

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The lessons I’ve learned from going back home

This week as I traveled back home with my girls, it brought back many memories of the first trip back home when I first got single and so I thought I’d rerun this one…

There were many lessons that I’ve learned from my vacation trip home. The first lesson is that you can come home, even after twenty-five years, that home is where your heart and soul is. It is where you go to get refreshed and renewed.

That the people that have known you all your life will be there for you without judgment or criticism but with open arms and love because they know the very core of who you are.

I write about everything that happens in my life, I am a open book to everyone because I want to try to inspire others and show them that no one is perfect.
Sometimes we just put on a front to pretend who we are or who we want you to think we are but we have all made horrible mistakes and if we cant talk about them how are we suppose to learn from them?

So when I came home it wasnt with my head hanging low, thinking how I failed at my life and at my marriage. No, I owned the mistakes I have made, I talked about the lessons I have learned and I was honest about what happened.

I was proud of how I took back my life, how I found myself again and how grateful I was to be able to come full circle and come back home.

There are no failures if you learned a lesson, there is olny failures if you repeat your mistakes.

There were many lessons I learned on my recent vacation home.

First lesson: You can always go home, home is where your heart is. Its the place where the people who know you, the good, the bad, the ugly and the really stupid! And yet still love you and are there for you.

Second lesson: Enjoy every moment, live in that moment and know you are blessed for being able to be there, savor it, treasure it.

Third lesson: Love people for their hearts, who you know they truly are, pass over the faults, we all have them.

Fourth lesson: Learn to like yourself and be okay with who you are, you are perfect, after all, you are God’s child and he doesn’t make mistakes.

Fifth lesson: You have to do you, you cant make people happy, you cant please everyone. Do you, let them do them, if they are not happy its on them not you!
(Big, big lesson for me!!)

Sixth lesson: Let your kids see you truly happy, it will change how they see you! When your truly happy so are they.

Seventh lesson: Be grateful for every moment, every second, every friend, every family member, every good time and yes, even for the bad times because they are there for a reason, to teach you a lesson.

Coming home for me was a full circle moment, I left home twenty-five years ago a self confident, strong and independent women who didnt take shit from anyone, yet some how I gave my power away to try to please someone else but with God and some incredible friends and family, I found my way back me and so when came home this time,
I was strong, hell stronger!

I was a independent, self assured women with a hell of a testimony to tell.
I went through the fire and came out a Phoenix, stronger and more powerful than before!

So today my friends, remember we all have lessons to learn, you just have to make sure your open to receive them.
Remember you can always go home because home is where your heart is.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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My life…my girls

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My life…my girls

Today as I sit on this plane blessed to be going home yet again to see my family, this time is even better as I have my girls with me.

See God blessed me with two incredible daughters and one “adopted” daughter and they are the best things in my life!

We laugh together, we cry together, we fight…a lot…but at the end of the day we are family and we know we have each other’s back!

During the divorce things got bad for all of us, things changing, the fights, the tension in the house. For a while afterwards I almost thought I might have lost my little one but I was determined not to talk bad about their father and to try to put back the pieces with them. I wanted them to know that even though we weren’t together anymore we both still loved them.

One of our first trips back home was the best, we winged it, where we were staying, what we were doing, all of it. They got to see me truly happy and in my element with my friends who my ex never liked or wanted to hang out with.

They saw that I was at peace and filled with joy and that may have been the change in them. We started a new dimension to our relationship.

Now we have this easy, laid back vibe between us…yes, we still fight occasionally but hey there is a lot of hormones in one house.

We have all been through a lot, we all had our issues but they know I would put down my life for them. They know they are my world and I would blow off anyone to spend time with them.

They know I do all that I do because of them, yes I have been blessed with 3 amazing, beautiful, smart, funny girls and I can’t wait to make some more memories with them this week.

So today my friends, remember life is short, take time out to spend with your children, one day they will be gone and you will be alone. This is the most important thing in your life, family… it’s about the memories…the laughs…the time spent together doing everything or nothing at all…this is what they will remember…this is what life is all about…

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Writing in spite of the haters

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Writing in spite of the haters

 

People ask me all the time why do I write? It’s something I have to do, its my God given gift, its like breathing to me.

 

I’ve been writing since I was a child, it comforted me when I was sad, it made me grateful when I was happy, it gave an outlet to my anger and it was always there for me.

 

I was a only child and was alone a lot, this make believe world I wrote about made me feel less lonely.

I could write about a big family, I could write about having siblings, traveling around the world, in this world I wasn’t poor, I wasn’t hurting, I could do or be anything I chose to be.

 

I write now for all of these reasons but the most important reason I write today is because I want to inspire others.

To let them know, that you can overcome anything if you believe. I write about what I am passionate about whether it be my beliefs, my family or my friends.

 

I write good or bad, like me or hate me, believe it or not, I am still writing because I write from my heart.

 

People always are worried that I am talking about them, to be honest, I get my stories in all kind of ways.

 

I meet a lot of people as I am always dealing with clients and I hear lots of stories, these are what and who I write about, their stories, good or bad, inspire me to write.

 

As do my own life experiences, I know that I have helped others with my words, I get messages and emails all the time telling me that.

I am so honored that they first, took the time to read my words and second that I may have been a small part in helping them.

 

Yes, I know, some days there are the haters, who don’t like the truth and will come after me and that’s okay, I put myself out there, the good, the bad and the ugly for the world to see and judge, so I get it.

 

People are afraid of the power of the pen, they are afraid of the seeing themselves in my truth, they could never let the world see what’s really inside of them, the hurt, the pain, the failures, so it scares them that I could put my truth out there, it hits to close to home for them.

 

They rather I shut up, put my skeletons back in the closet, never speak of this again, because of that fear.

 

I get that people will condemn me, speak ill of me or say things to make me look bad but I have chose to do this,

(Okay, God chose for me to do this )

 

I have thick skin now, especially after 24 years in a verbally abusive marriage by someone who was suppose to love you, saying hateful things to you daily.

Having a stranger say it to me now is nothing!

 

I will forever write against injustice in my family or against the world, I will continue to have the backs of the people I love and I will call out the people who come against them.

 

If I am anything, I am loyal and I will be your biggest cheerleader, I will fight your battles and be your voice when you can no longer speak for your self.

 

I will continue to be here and speak what my heart tells me to until I take my last breath, this is who I am.

 

So today my friends, I will continue to use this gift, each and every day, sorry haters, because in the end it matters little of what people here have to say, it only matters that one day I hear his voice and it says “Well done my child, well done”

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Tony Robbins documentary

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Tony Robbins documentary

 

I love Netflix, since they came on to the scene they have constantly put shows out there that are quirky, thought provoking, funny and drama filled. I like so many of you out there even decided to tell the cable companies to take a hike along with their upwards towards 200.00 a month fees!

 

So Netflix has been our source for watching TV and I am so glad that I chose them especially when I saw that they did a documentary with the great Tony Robbins that will be coming out soon.

 

Yes, if you read my blog you will know Tony Robbins is my hero, he is my inspiration, I inspire to be just like him.

 

So your thinking why because he’s rich and famous?

No, not that, that’s nice don’t get me wrong but its because he loves what he does, its his passion, his purpose, he loves to help others.

 

You can see it if you ever watch his videos, or if you see him in person, he has that passion for life and for helping others find their passion and purpose.

 

There’s no faking that, it’s either you got it or don’t. He’s had “it” for the last 30 years, he’s the top “Motivational speaker” of all times. Don’t let him hear me call him that he hates that title. He’s about changing lives, he’s about teaching you how to change your life.

 

He has a hell of a story, growing up overweight, with a father who left when he was a boy, to hitting rock bottom, no car, getting evicted from his apartment, no job, no money, out of shape and unhappy. It was then when he had hit the bottom, that he made a decision to change his life.

 

He started to run, he changed his lifestyle, he made a game plan to learn from the masters out there that came before him, he read, he took classes, he taught himself what they knew, to make them wealthy and successful.

 

Then he put his spin on it because he wanted to help others and so at 19 he was an informmerical king.

He went on to start his own companies, then to travel and speak all over the world. Hell, He owns a island in Fiji!

 

He started a foundation to feed the hungry in this country. He has become the guru to the stars, presidents, top athletes and so many famous people who had had public meltdowns. He gets a million dollars for a one day private session with him.

Yes, he has come along way from the bottom.

 

He has this way to ask you the hard questions about yourself, he gets you to dig deep and then tell a complete stranger. He gets you to look at your life in a different way, he doesn’t pull punches or speak sweetly, no that’s not him, he’s in your face, he loud, he’s large and in charge, he curses, he real and he’s passionate about what he does and it shows.

 

Yes, I have seen him 4 times in person, I read his books, bought his videos, he is who I want to be like,

I want to inspire others,

I am here day after day telling you its your choice, you can do anything you chose to do, I am like him, as I don’t pull punches or sugar coat anything. And I will continue to watch and learn from him because to become better you have to never stop learning.

 

Has it been hard? Will be hard? Yes, but nothing worth anything is easy! It will suck at times, you will want to give up, you will be asking, “When will I ever get there? Maybe this dream is too big, maybe this is crazy”

 

It’s okay, I’ve been there, I still go there every once in a while but I hold on to my faith, to my dreams and I believe with all of my heart and soul that one day I will be there, on a stage like him, I will be inspiring thousands, hundred of thousands of people.

 

I hope my words will touch someone, will give them hope, when they look at my life, when they see what I have overcame, that they will say “If she did it, I can do it”

To hold on for one more day, to help change their lives even if fear has gripped their lives for so long.

I want people who’ve been hurt to know they can forgive and let go, I want single moms, women in abused marriages or relationships to know life is so incredible on your terms. It’s your choice! You get to chose!

 

I want to inspire, I want to be that person and I want to do it with the style, class and compassion that Tony Robbins has.

So today my friends I invite you to watch this documentary coming out in July on Netflix about my hero, my soon to be one day mentor, Tony Robbins, let his story inspire your life.

Remember nothing is impossible if you believe!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Commitment to your faith journey


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Commitment to your faith journey

 

We all have our own walk with faith, we all have our own paths we have to go down, we all learn at different levels, at different times.

( I am slow and hard headed, hey it is what it is)

 

But we are all trying to get what we need out of our faith, we are all trying to be better, do better, have a peace and joy in our lives from a higher being.

It doesn’t matter if its Jesus, Buddha, Islam, Judaism, its from a higher power that we can’t see but we trust. 

 

To be faithful we have to remember who was there for us, to be grateful for what he has brought us through…

We have to remember when the enemy was after you, who protected you? Who brought you through those times? Who did you call out to when you were hurt? When you were lost and broken? 

 

You were batteling so many issues inside yourself, you were a mess but God got you through.

 

I know that the olny reason I am still standing is because of the grace of God, no other reason.

My blessings are gifts from God, because of his grace and mercy, even though I’ve screwed up, even when I forsaken him, even when I didn’t deserve another chance, he gave me one.

 

God will reward you if you are faithful, if you believe and when you are committed. One of my favorite bible verses is:

 

“I have fought a good fight,

I have finished the race and I remained faithful…”

 

I want to know that I did well, I want to stand in front of him and hear him say “Well done, my child, well done”

This is why I do what I do, this is why I am committed.

 

Are you fully committed? Because its says “May your hearts be fully committed”

Not half way, not sometimes, no, fully committed.

 

“Commit to the lord everything you do and he will establish your plans”

 

“You must love God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind with all your strength, that is the commitment” 

 

Yes, its hard to do that, life gets into the way, kids, spouses, jobs, bills. Sometimes you fall off course, too tired to go to church, rather be at the beach, cant help another out, I got my own problems, how can I believe when all these bad things are happening to me.

 

I get that, but what’s important to you? To know he has your back, no matter what? To know that it will be okay and your not going to stress? That you have peace in your life? That he has bigger plans than you could ever dream for yourself.

“Eyes have not seen, ears have not heard all that he has for you”

 

There are times that I think of God and what he has done for me and it makes me cry, every morning I wake up with my mouth full of gratefulness, every evening as I lay down before I go to sleep I have a mouth full of gratefulness.

 

Through out the day, when I see the sky, the beach, when I come home to my house, when I think about how unhappy I use to be, I am grateful and I know I am fully committed to this, to him, to trying no matter how many times I may fall short, I will keep trying to please him, keep telling him of my gratitude, keep praising his name.

 

I am fully committed to him, because I know how it was before, I’ve been at the bottom, I know what it is like to cry yourself to sleep night after night, to hate your life and yourself. I know hopelessness, sadness and emptiness and I never want to go back so I will stay committed.

 

So today my friends remember it’s up to you, you can chose to be committed or you can chose to do this on your own, its up to you but if your going to do something no matter what it is, be committed, do it with your whole heart, be full present in whatever it may be,

 it’s then you get the biggest reward, its then you know what its like to see the difference change can make…make a change.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

  

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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I’m ashamed that Christians did this

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I am ashamed that Christians did this…

 

Last week after the shootings in Orlando,

I wrote a week long series of love, kindness and tolerance.

Hoping to try to make sense out of these senseless hate killings.

 

I thought I was done but I can not sit by and not comment on what happened a few days ago at the funeral of these victims.

 

It was sickening and the cruelest thing one “human being” could possibly do to another, in their time of grief.

 

I am hurt that people who say they are “Christians” who say they love one another, could come out and hold signs that say

“This is what you get, God is your enemy” Signs that say “Die Fag…Gays should die”

 

You are not Christian, you should be ashamed to call yourself Christian, how dare you cast the first stone, are you without sin? Are you that perfect? Have you have no heart?

That at the funeral of these senseless victims, you could actually be out there “preaching” hate.

 

You are not Christian, you are no better than the murderer who did this, you wonder why people are so again Christian’s and the church, really??

 

Look at your behavior who would want to be in a church, a religion which promotes hate, hell you might as well have wore a white sheet!

 

You are no better than the KKK, you are no better than the terrorists, you are no better than the radicals out there, except you carry a bible so you think it makes you holy, beyond reach.

No it makes you a hypocrite, it makes you a hate mongol just like the rest of them.

 

I am all for freedom of religion, I tell you all the time, believe in whatever gets you through your day, but for you to promote hate, for you to have no compassion for the mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers, families and friends who lost someone, who are grieving and hurting.

 

For you to go there, make signs, spew your hatred in their faces, you should be ashamed of yourselves to even call that Christianity.

 

Where does it say in the bible, hate one another? Where does it say, you are perfect, without sin? Where does it say have no compassion for another human being?

 

Tell us please… lets get Christian here, oh Yes, I am going there….Did Jesus throw the first stone? Did he throw out his apostles for being thief’s and murders yet he knew what they were? Did Jesus preach hate?

 

No, bible thumpers, he didn’t! He preached love, kindness, compassion and tolerance, something you have clearly missed while trying to shove your bible down others throats, you missed that part or have decided to purposely leave that part out while you stand above others and give out YOUR judgment.

 

So today my friends, again I am asking you to pass this message on to everyone you know, let them know not all “Christians” feel this way, not all “Christians” are full of hate and condemnation.

 

Some of us actually believe in love, kindness, compassion and tolerance for one another, no matter what they believe in, what lifestyle they choose, what color they are, what religion they believe in, some of us just believe that love conquers all, that love will overcome hate, that love is the answer.

 

Pass the message of love around today…

 

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Who are you to pass judgment?

Who are you to pass judgment?

 

After this horrible week, of the Orlando shootings and my week long series of Love, peace and tolerance,

I leave you with this finally blog.

 

I hope in some small way I might have written something this week that touched your heart and maybe changed or opened your mind to the fact that we are all the same and we should accept people for who they are.

That hatred and anger gets us no where but to pain and sorrow. Let these senseless killings not be in vain.

 

If you read my blog you know that I am a Christian,  this is for me and about me.

I am far from a bible beating, verse thumping Christian, I am not perfect nor will I ever be.

 

I am all for everyone having their own “Faith”, their own “Higher being” Whatever gets you through your day.

 

With that  being said I  see so many “Christians” throwing their bibles and condemning others for their choices and for things they surly didn’t choose for themselves.

 

A pastor even went so far to say this week, that it was good this happened, that thats what you get when you chose this lifestyle.

 

Yes, many people think being gay is choice…really? Who would chose to be hated? Who would chose to be degraded? Who would choose to be called names, shot at, spit on, treated like 2nd class citizens with no rights?

 

Who? I sure the hell wouldn’t chose that and they don’t chose it either, its not a choice for them, its who they are, who they were when they were born.

 

No, most of us want to fit in, be accepted, be liked, we don’t want people hating us. In this life, no one would willing choose this treatment.

 

Maybe growing up in New York, the melting pot, our minds were more open to diversity. Growing up my parents had Indian friends, Jewish friends, Black friends, gay friends, Transvestite friends oh, yeah our house was a trip during the holidays.

 

That gave me an open heart to everyone that maybe others didn’t experience growing up.

 

Two of my mother’s and I, closest friends were lesbians, they helped my parents out when I moved here and couldn’t be there to care for them. They were the most caring, loving, giving couple you could ever want to meet.

Our kids grew up together, my girls even called them their aunts, I would do anything for them.

 

One day when I dropped my girls at a girlfriends house to watch them as I went to work, I came home to find them hysterically crying, when I asked what was wrong they proceed to tell me that my girlfriend told them “Our aunts are going to burn in hell because they are gay”

 

My girls were about 6 and 8 at the time and they really thought their beloved aunts were going to burn in hell and this crushed them.

 

Well, I called my friend up and told her I get she is “Christian” and she obviously has her beliefs and could teach her kids, her “Christian ways” but how dare she teach or tell my girls that!

 

The God I believe in loves everyone, EVERYONE!

I don’t tell her what to believe, don’t dare tell me or my girls what to believe.

 

See this is the way these senseless killings keep happening, because people are so closed minded, they are so scared of anyone different, they have their whollier than thou attitude to everyone who doesn’t believe what they believe.

 

I am a Christian, I believe in loving one another, in acceptance, in forgiveness, in tolerance….

 

So today my friends remember it doesn’t matter what you believe, it only matters that we remember we are all the same, we are all humans trying to be the best we can be, sometimes we get it right, sometimes we don’t, but we are still all the same…. who are you to pass judgment?

 

My love and prayers go out to the family and friends of the victims of Orlando.

May we all pray for love and tolerance for the rest of the world.

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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