Owning your diffences

Owning your differences

Yesterday while I was talking to a friend, she told me about the people that she worked with, they were our age yet still acted like they were in high school.

They gossiped and talked about people, they had their “clicks” and anyone who was not like them, they excluded and then talked about.
Now you would think that by this age, people would be over this already but here’s the thing, some people don’t learn and grow, some people are just stuck in a place that they felt they were “popular” Hey it worked for them back then…

But the thing about life is we are supposed to learn, to grow, to change. We are supposed to open our minds and our hearts to new things or new or different people. Why is it that some people are afraid of different, of people who don’t conform, people who aren’t afraid to dance to the beat of their own drummer?

I embrace people’s differences, at any given time my table looks like the United nations, Black, White, Spanish, Jewish, Christian, gay, straight, holy roller or thug I love them all.

This weekend while I was at this conference one of the morning rituals we did was go around to as many people we could and hold hands with them, introduce  yourself and then say “I am empowered by your….” and then tell them what you felt from them.
Most of my feed back was my smile and the fact that I really look at a person and saw their souls. Over and over I heard that from complete strangers.
Yes, I see people’s souls, yes, I was the person who brought new people in school to our lunch table, I reached out, it didn’t matter if you were a jock, a stoner, a geek, a misfit, I welcomed you because I saw through to your soul.

I don’t talk about people or put people down for their differences, I applaud their courage to be different in a world of conformists. It takes alot more courage to be different, then to conform.

The problem is it scares people, it makes people look inside themselves because maybe they aren’t being their true and authentic selves, maybe they are afraid of new things, still stuck. Maybe they are jealous that they can’t or won’t walk in their own light.
Whatever the reason, it doesn’t matter, you need to own your differences, your uniqueness, own what makes you, you.

Last year at my cousins wedding, they said it was formal, well their version of formal and ours were completely different. When we arrived in gowns and furs my girls said “Mom we are really extra” I looked at them and said pull your shoulders back, hold your head high and own your extraness!”

Yes, own your extraness, your whatever it is that God gave you to be different, own it. Don’t conform, don’t worry about the haters, don’t care what anyone one else thinks, does that effect anything in your life? Do they pay your bills? Does their opinion really mean anything in the big picture? No! Let it go, say a prayer for their pettiness, say a prayer that your glad your not like them and then move on.

So today my friends remember you are specially and wonderfully made, you are unique, different and one of a kind, own your extraness, own your differences, it is what this world needs.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Your true colors

Your true colors

We all have true colors, we all have who we really are behind the mask we show to the world.
We all say, do as we say and not as we do, pretend we have it all together, that we are this type of person or that type of person, when are are not even close.

This is especially true for the dating world, where your putting out this image to try to find a partner. You said you weigh this or your pictures are way older than you say you are. You write you want a relationship when you are still broken or didn’t unpack from your last one.
You say your kind, yet you are rude to wait staff, you say you are generous, yet you never reach out to help anyone else out.
You say all kinds of things to build yourself up, trying desperately to catch a “fish”

Yet, when you finally meet someone, when you are in the getting to know you stage, your still holding on the facade, but you can only hold on to it for so long before it gets exhausting and you drop the mask.

It is then the true you emerges, the angry person, the hateful person, the hurt person who hurts people. Unfortunately for most of us, it is too late, we chose not to see the signs in the beginning or we try to only see the best in that person or maybe you let yourself go and fall in love with them and it’s too late.

Yes, once the mask is off, it’s on, they will let you know who they are, they will put you down, call you names, show that they are narcissistic or controlling. Maybe they are mean spirited or a wife beater or passive aggressive, whatever they truly are will come out for you to see.
And trust me it won’t be pretty and you will be shocked….or maybe not, because your intuition may have been telling you this all along.

For many of us who want to see the best in people, this really hurts us, we wanted them to be honest, to actually be who they said they were and we’re saddened that we are taken in yet again.
But I have been learning alot of lessons this year and one of them as I wrote about yesterday was don’t ignore the signs. There are always signs, you need to look for them, even the small ones will tell you something about a person because the small ones will eventually turn into the big ones.

Yes, it may taken me back that you could have spoken to me like that but to be honest I always knew you had it in you, you were just waiting for the right time to show who you truly are.

I am glad that it happened sooner than later when I was six feet in with my heart in my hand. I can walk away now saying “Dam I am getting better at this, I am not ignoring all the signs even if I ignored some of them”

I will never again wear a mask that I have wore for so many years in the past.
I am who I am warts and all.
I can’t pretend I am something I am not, I believe in fairy tales, I am brutally honest, I am quick to anger and quick to get over it. I love big, with my whole heart and know that life is too short not to jump in with both feet.

I will do anything for my friends and family but I will never be someone I am not, never again.
Yes, I will be fooled again, hurt again and maybe even have my heart broken yet again (Lord, I hope not) but even if I do, I will always be what you see is what you get, a in your face New Yorker who tells it like it is and never sugar coats shit.

So today my friends, remember you will eventuality see their true colors, you will know their real heart, you will see the flags much clearer and you too will be grateful that you listened, that you chose to walk away, that their true colors came out sooner than later.
Thank you for the lessons…for I am truly grateful for them as they are teaching me what I am willing to put up with and what says I’m outta here…
Bye Felicia…

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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All that I am thankful for

All that I am thankful for

I hope that everyone had an amazing Thanksgiving weekend, I decided to take off and do nothing but chill on the beach as I needed some much needed rest.

I was lucky enough to spend time with my girls and my friends all weekend long.
This time off gave me alot of time to reflect over my life this past year and the things I am truly grateful for.

I am truly thankful for God, for without him none of this would be possible. I know his grace and mercy over my life has kept me, even though at times I didn’t deserve it.

I am thankful for my girls, as much as they sometimes piss me off, they are good girls, with big hearts and they are what I live for, they are my heart and soul.

I am thankful for my church, my Bishop and my church family. God knew what he was doing when he sent me there, as they have literally saved my life. They have been there for me whenever I needed anything and they support and love me no matter what.

I am thankful for my friends and my family, as I am blessed to have an amazing support system around me. I know I can count on them and they can count on me in good times and bad.

I am thankful God’s favor over my life, our health and all that I have. I am thankful he gave me this business, this home and that he continues to place favor all over our lives.

I am thankful for the lessons God has taught me this year, even though some of them were so painful, I know I had to learn them. I had to learn that not everyone comes for the whole ride, that not everyone has your back, that even your guardian angel can fall from grace.

I am thankful for the friends that stood up for me and always have my back, teaching me that yes, I can count on them.

I am thankful for the pain I’ve had falling in love with the wrong men because it taught me what I deserve and I will know what a good man will look like when God finally brings him into my life.

I am thankful for all the hard work I’ve done because it makes me appreciate all I have that much more.

I am thankful for learning to live in the moment, leaving the dishes, enjoying time I could never get back with the people I love.

I am thankful for letting go of fear, for stepping into the unknown and doing things I’ve might not have done otherwise…life changing things, like walking on fire!

And I am truly thankful for the gift of gratitude, I am so very grateful for everything I have in my life, there is not a day that goes by that I am not overwhelmed by all I have, the peace, the joy, all of my life, so much so that it bring me to tears constantly.

So today my friends remember for all that you have, be grateful and thankful for it, not just on Thanksgiving but through out the year because life is too short and you never know what can happen tomorrow…live in the moment…laugh often, love big…live life large!

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October is National domestic violence month

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October is Domestic Violence month

 

This is a subject that is near and dear to my heart, most of you that follow me know my story, as it is the reason I write this blog, to inspire others who were in the same situation I was trapped in for so many years.

 

I am brutally honest about my life because I want you to know life is not going to be perfect, that all your problems will not magically disappear when you finally decide to leave your situation.

 

Whether you’re in a verbally or physically abuisve relationship, I am here to tell you there is hope, you can leave, you will find peace and joy, you will eventually find your self worth and I swear to you… you will wished you would have left years before.

 

I know what you are going through, I know your afraid, he’s taken care of all the bills, your dependant on him, you have kids, how are you going to do this all on your own?

Or your like me, you come from a poor background,  and now your living this big life, big vacations, toys, designer clothes, fancy cars..how can you go back to being poor?

 

You doubt everything about your self, you believe his cruel words, he says to you every day…your stupid, your worthless, you’ll never make it without him…

 

You walk around on eggshells, you think about every word you say before you say it, so that you don’t “set” him off. You can’t have friends, he makes you cut off family that might put something in your ear….

 

He criticizes everything about you that he said he fell in love with…your weight, your cooking, your cleaning, even your mothering skills, you can do nothing right in his eyes and no matter how how you try to become “perfect” for him again, you will never achieve it, because there will always be something else he will complain about.

 

It’s a facade of a perfect family, everyone envys you, what a great guy you have, look at your perfect life…yet every night you cry yourself to sleep, every morning you cry because you have woken up and have to endure another day with this person.

 

You are living in hell, you hate your life, you don’t even know who you are anymore when you look in the mirror, you wonder where that beautiful, smart, independent women went and why were you left with just a shell of her? How did this happen?

 

Yes, I know your struggles, I feel your pain, I’ve cried your tears….I’ve been you…

The only difference between me and you, is that I speak about it to the world. I chose to bear my soul to let others know it can change, you need to step out of your fear…you need to find your self worth, you need to know it won’t be easy but it will be worth it.

 

There is nothing and I mean nothing, like waking up smiling every morning and being truly grateful for being free, so much so, it brings you to tears. That when you come home at night and there is peace in your home, you can feel the joy, literally.

 

To know you’ve done this on your own, you did all he said you couldn’t achieve, you are not just surviving, your living a life that no money could ever buy, that my friends is a priceless feeling.

 

So today my friends remember…I know your pain, I’ve walked in your shoes and I am here to tell you, you can do this, I believe in you…

There is nothing you cannot change if you set your mind to it. You got this, reach out, find a group, speak to friends, make a plan, stop letting fear and him control YOUR life, you got this…

 

There is an amazing life out there waiting for you…more amazing than you could even dream and it’s just waiting for you…

 

Stay tuned to my upcoming blogs about how to do this, places for help and other tips to help you grow and get you ready to live your best life.

 

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Finding peace in your life

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Finding peace in your life

 

Today’s blog may be more for me than you…recently alot of things have come at me…I am human and sometimes it’s tough, sometimes I get down, sometimes it gets hard but the one thing I’ve learned is to hold on to my peace, when I am not centered my peace goes away…and I have worked too hard to let that happen.

 

Every one is always talking about finding peace in their lives. Is there is chaos in your life? Is there is always so much drama around you?

 

You never get a minutes peace and you wonder why is life doing this to you?

Is this you? Are you thinking you will never have peace?

 

Stand up and be accountable for your life, peace is a choice, you choose to have peace in your life! Simple huh?

Yes, you choose to have peace, Its up you.

 

I write a lot about choices because that is what life is about! Yes, things will get thrown at you, life is not always going to be a bed of roses! Get over it, it is what it is! But its about how you chose (there is that word again)

to deal with it, that will make or break you.

 

I write every day, I write about my story, about what got me to where I am today. It was my choice, to give my life to God, because I was broken and hurting,

I was lost and dying inside, I chose to believe I could do it, even when everyone including my own mother said I would never make it on my own.

 

I chose to be happy,

I chose to be positive every day, I chose to have peace and joy in my heart.

How do I do this? I let go and I give it all to God, I can’t do this on my own, look what a mess I made of my life without him.

 

I chose to pray and let God worry, nothing changes when you worry, nothing! So why do it then? I no longer worry about anything!

 

I chose to be grateful each and every day, even when things are falling apart around me, even in the face of the storm, I know I will be alright.

 

Even when I feel lost, when life is throwing so much at me, when my heart is breaking and I don’t know why all of this is happening, I still look to God, I still believe it will get better.

 

See I know that this is a test, to see how great my faith is, to teach me a lesson, to see if I will break or if I will stand tall in my faith but I will past this test, see no matter what…. I know it will get better.

 

We all have seasons in our life, we have wonderful seasons and yes, we will have hard seasons. We will have to endure the bad ones and be grateful for the good ones but its up to us to hold on to our faith. To keep praising and keep thanking him for every day that I am alive, to know I will be alright.

I chose not to complain about what I don’t have and give thanks for what I do.

 

Oh, here’s a big one that most people can’t or won’t do….

I chose to change, change me, change bad habits, change my surroundings, even change the people in my life, if that is necessary to make my life more peaceful.

 

Sometimes change is tough but without change you will not get to your goals, your dreams and to your peace.

 

So today my friends, you say you want a peaceful life? Here are the steps to help you get there, now it is your choice to do something about it. Remember chose wisely because you only have one shot and life is way too short!

 

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Age is just a number

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Age is just a number…

 

This morning I read that Christie Brinkley is posing in Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue at 63! Yes, you read that right, 63 and its the third time she has done the SI cover.

 

See, age is just a number recently I posted a video on my Facebook page about a women who was 94 and she did this incredible dance routine that most 40 year olds couldn’t do.

 

When I did my triathlon I was  passed… Okay, I admit, blow away by a lady that was 69. How did I know her age? We all had them written on our calfs and as she blew passed me that is all I saw…Hello I was 49 and thinking… look at me until granny blew me out of the water.

 

I have a client that is 102 and is all together, there have been older women who do marathons, who are in way better shape than even I am. There is even a Guinness record holder for the oldest women body builder at 80!

Hell, when I went sky diving at 40 there was a mother, daughter and grandmother who jumped with us, she was 78!

 

I plan is grow up to be like them, that grannie who’s on YouTube getting down at a wedding, or breaking records for my age. Yes, I am not planning to go quietly, with regrets about things I should have done and didn’t.

 

I will never say I’m too old…I feel like I’m 25, I still exercise 6 days a week, I ride a bike on the weekends at the beach, I will try anything to keep my body and my mind from getting old.

I will be doing this until I coming to a screeching halt into my grave screaming…what a amazing frigging ride!

 

You decide what you can or cannot do, your mind is the most amazing organ we have, it can do and overcome anything. Men have survived Pow camps, people have survived concentration camps, famine, unimaginable things and still had the will to live and still had the most incredible outlook on life. Look at Anne Frank, Ellie Winsel, Dr. Martin  Luther King…people that never gave up and even in the darkest times, never gave up hope.

 

So today my friends remember age is just a number you tell to yourself to set limits on yourself. Remember there is nothing you can’t do if you set your mind to it and believe.

 

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Our lasting baggage

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Our lasting baggage

 

This is the baggage we bring with us from one relationship to another. We all have baggage even if you chose not to admit it, you have it.

 

It can be fear of commitment, you involved in relationship after relationship until the other person wants to get more committed and then you run.

 

It can be fear of getting hurt again, this is a big one with many of my friends, they’ve been lied to and or cheated on so many times they rather shut down completely than trust again.

 

There is fear of being told what to do, being in another controlling relationship.

Hi, over here, I have my hand raised for this one, yes, I know this is my baggage and try as I may, it’s a hard one to unpack.

 

There is a fear of trust, you’ve been lied to and cheated on over and over, you keep picking losers and you keep bringing this fear with you.

 

Drama is a big baggage some people bring into every relationship, they are not happy unless they are fighting or there is drama going on and it’s there in every single relationship they are in.

 

Never admitting that you have a problem ohhhh…big one here!

Look back over your history, do you see patterns? Is it the same things people have said to you over and over yet your still can’t figure out what keeps going wrong in all of your relationships? The one key factor is…you!!

 

Yes, these are all baggage we carry with us and for alot of you out there, you hop into and out of relationship after relationship without ever unpacking, without looking at the issues and trying to fix them.

 

Years ago my issues was commitment, I was raped and I it carried over into getting too close to people, once a man said he loved me or wanted more I ran…fast.

 

I got past that (therapy helped tremendously) after my marriage I waited 2 years before I started dating.

 

I needed to unpack and see what was I carrying with me.

I needed to own my own issues and forgive him of his.

I couldn’t jump from the pot to the the frying pan again. I needed to learn lessons and you can’t do that while your under someone else. (Yes, I just said that!)

 

Do I have issues still? Yes, funny that I don’t have trust issues, you would think I would after Mr.Con Artist and the rest of my bad mistakes but I don’t.

I have my issues with control and being independent, that,

I got this mentality, I got going on. Like if I depend on anyone some how I will be giving up a part of myself.

 

I know it’s a issue, see the first step of any recovery is admitting you have a problem. Yeah, I learned that in recovery and therapy too and it’s true you must admit you have a problem, it is only then you can work on it and change it.

 

So I am trying, I see my issues and I am trying to change them, I refuse to bring old baggage into the future.

 

Yes, I could be like a lot of my girlfriends who close off their hearts to love, but love is life, it is what makes life worth living and even though I know I can and probably will, have my heart broken again, I am willing to take the chance because otherwise life wouldn’t be worth living for me.

 

Look we all have our issues, you are too critical, your too unbending, you hurt people with your words, you think it’s okay to say it’s a joke and think it makes it okay. You’re  narcissistic or controlling, you fight about everything, nothing is ever good enough for you, you have a roaming eye, you lie, your never happy….

 

Oh.. I know that you see yourself in this list, dont lie.

Whatever the issue, pick yours and then work on it. We are all not perfect, we all have issues, we are human and the amazing part of being human is once we own our issues, we have the ability to change them. Imagine that? We can change…what a concept…

 

So today my friends remember don’t keep carrying your dirty issues from one relationship to another, don’t keep saying it’s them not me every time it goes wrong.

 

Don’t keep sidestepping your own issues, own them, empty out that baggage, be brutally honest and say this was mine, this was mine, this was theirs. Go through it all and then take all of your dirty laundry and clean yourself off, deal with it all before you repack that bag and go off to your next relationship, believe me it will be the best thing you’ve ever done.

 

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“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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Stealing your light

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Stealing your light

All of my life I wasn’t the prettiest, I wasn’t the smartest, I wasn’t the most popular but somehow I had a lot of friends and plenty of boyfriends (please no comments from the peanut gallery)

See there is this something I had…I have always had this light…this something on the inside that draws people towards me.

You all known people like this, you don’t know why but you want to be in their presence, it feels good, it makes you feel like home, warm and comfortable.

For years people I hardly knew would tell me all their problems, deep intimate secrets that they said they never told anyone before but felt comfortable enough with me to tell me.

I have had people tell me it’s my energy they love and every one who comes into my home says the same thing….its peacefull, like they want to sit and stay for hours.

This is not something I do on purpose, this is just a gift I was obviously born with but this gift can also be a curse at times because the same people that say they love me for me, that want to be around me, are really energy suckers.

Yes, you laugh but there are actually people like that out there, people who suck your energy, who want what you have, who want to be you.

They say they love you for you yet after they are with you, they want you to change.

People who tell you how much they love you then tell you no one can love you like they can, so you start to think maybe they are right.

People who tell you how good they are and how no one else would be able to cope with your gift, your lifestyle, you….and it puts that seed of doubt into your head.

People who say they love what you do, your friends, your involvement in things and people until you start taking away from them and what they need.

People that tell you no one has ever stepped up in your life and how they are willing to do that, be that person you have always been looking for.

The same thing that drew them to you now they want it for themselves, they want you to stay and shine that light just on them, not share the gift with the world so they become needy, they start little by little to make you question everything.

This is where your intuition comes into play, believe me it took me along time to hear and then even longer to listen to mine. But we all have it, when your hair stands up for no reason, when their is a small voice in the back of your head saying something is not right!

This is when we need to listen but we, especially women, poo poo this away…oh he’s a great guy, I might never find another one like him (his words ringing in your head)

You make excuses, no one knows him, everyone says he’s a great guy, he’s had a bad childhood, he’s misunderstood, fill in your bullshit story here….

That’s what we do, what we are programed to do…but that is not what our intuition is saying yet we tend not to listen, to see the red flags. We are comfortable, we don’t want to start over, we think it might change. Yes a million and one excuses for a behavior we know is wrong.

Stay and trust me, little by little they will steal your light, it will get dimmer and dimmer until your drained, you cant see your own good, you lose yourself.

All the while they are getting brighter, they are the ones with the light now but not the authentic light like yours, no they had none to start with.

No, they only have this light until you realize this is wrong and you leave, it is then you see they never had the light they said they did, no all of that was a act to get you, they believe what you believed, they are positive, they were all you were…in their minds but not in reality.

So they are off to find the next person they can suck the light out of, see they are light vampires they go around sucking light out of everyone.

I know each and every one of us has been hanging out with  a person and when we leave we feel drained ? Like you have no energy, sometimes so much so that you need to lay down, these are energy and light suckers and they are everywhere.

So today my friends remember to listen to that voice, pay attention do you keep picking the same kind of men? Women? Are the red flags there but you refuse to see them? Have friends said things but you refuse to listen…

HELLO!! These are all signs,  believe me I know, but God, the universe whatever you call it gave you this gift, this light, it is yours for a reason, it is your responsibility to keep it safe, to keep it burning don’t let the light vampires suck it, move on, let them go, protect your light for the people who need it and really appreciate it.

Don’t let anyone steal your light.

** I know this is a tough time of year so I will be putting this number out there for all that needs it…I been there and I know how dark it may seem especially during the Christmas season, there is help, it will get better…I am living proof of

“This too shall pass”**

Please get help, call today:

National Suicide Hotline: 24/7

1-800-273-8255

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Remember who I am now

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Remember who I am now

As October comes to a close,
I leave you with my last of October is Domestic Violence month blogs. I wrote this three years ago but the meaning is still there…I now know who I am…
My hope is that all of you out there find your styrength, find your voice…walk out in faith…and know who you are meant to be…

I have had a lot of changes in the last few years, I have learned and I have grown.
I am a different women that I was, that short time ago.
I write every day with the hope that what I’ve been through would inspire others in the same situation to make the change.

I am no longer that women with the need to please, I am no longer that meek, afraid girl that would apologize for things I didn’t do because I was afraid of the consequences.

I will no longer let your words effect my heart or my head. The sound of your voice no longer has me shaking with fear, I realized now that all your threats about taking away my girls were just that, empty threats.

I now know that it is your problem that no one can do anything right in your eyes. That you are definitely not in control of everything and when your not you lash out at everyone around you.

I see clearly that you are a control freak, a narrossist,
a man with an inferiority complex, mixed in with a napoleon complex.

I know now these are all your issues not mine. Because of you, you have made me strong, you gave me this thick skin, you made me open my eyes to the truth.

You pushed me so much that I learned that, when it became so bad I didn’t care about material things, I only cared about my soul and how bad I wanted freedom. I knew what it was like to die a slow death, to cry every day, to be belittle and cursed at, to be called stupid and every other name in the book and I knew I had to leave to save my very life.

Yes, this woman you see now is strong, she knows she can and will do it on her own.
She has things now all your money will never buy you.. happiness, joy, peace, the love of family and friends.
I know the true value of self and love, I know I am the child of the most high God and you can never win against me again!

I truly feel sorry for you, for your are a bitter, petty man who will never change. But I like unlike you, have forgiven you, I have learned my lessons and moved on to a life I couldn’t even imagine. See you reap what you sow. ….

So if you think you have a fighting chance against me now think again… think long and hard… I’ve had years to toughen up, to become stronger, to learn how to fight from an expert…. and I have my God on my side, I know no weapon formed against me shall prosper, so you bring it on…bring it on..bring it on….

So today my friends, I write this so you will know that you can do this too, you can make a change, you can leave that relationship that is killing you, you are stronger than you think and there is a life out there better than you could ever dream of…I am a living testimony of that.

“Be the change you want to see”

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Can a person really change?

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Can a person really change?

 

My ex use to always say

“A leopard can’t change his spots” and yes, a Leopard may not be able to but we as humans can.

 

I have seen it over and over in my lifetime, these are the stories that give us hope and inspire us to go on!

 

Really? Do you want to be judged by what you’ve done thirty years ago? God I hope not as I was a mess years ago. I did drugs and alcohol, I lied, I pretended and put on a facade for the world to see.

 

Here’s the thing, have you not learned lessons?  Have you not grew and moved on?  Case in point are two good friends of mine that were crack heads, drugs booze, partying, you name it, they have done it and then they hit rock bottom bad.

 

One day they, yes, THEY decided that it was enough and so they took the steps to change.

 

Today they are both clean and sober for many years and help others who want to sober as well.

 

My one friend is an inspriation to me and many others, as not only has she been clean for years, she has the most postive attitude of any one I know!

 

She cleaned her body and she worked and changed her mind as well. Another incredible story is of the Miami heats big three (can’t remember which)

his mom was a druggie,

she sold her body, she was a lousy mom, she cheated and she lied for her drugs. Until one day she said its done and she changed her life, today she is a pastor of her own church! She helps people all over the world with her testimony.

 

Really, we can’t change? We can do anything we set out minds to!

 

You can come from a dirt poor family where no one can read and get into an Ivy league college, nothing is impossible!  You can be homeless with nothing to eat to running a million dollar company (Tyler Perry, Steve Harvey)

 

You can escape from Cuba on a raft with just the clothes on your back to owning your own company (plently of my friends have done this. I live in Miami, there are hundreds of stories like this)

 

Nothing, I mean nothing is impossible if you want it bad enough.

You can change your life, you can change what you don’t like about yourself, your attitude, your drug or alcohol use, the way you treat people anything.

 

So today my friends, remember yes, a leopard can’t change his spots but we can!

 

“Be the change you want to see”

 

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

 

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