When you know who you are, no one can tell you different.

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When you know who you are…no one can tell you different.


I know that I have grown in the last 3 years since my divorce, I try to learn the lessons I am supposed to and try to grow into a better person.


I preach on here all the time how you have to own what you do, how you have to want to change and how you should let people treat you, it’s all up to you, you are the only one that can change these things in your life.


I am far from perfect and I am always telling you this, but I try each and every day to become a better person, some days I make it someday I fall short, but I don’t beat myself up if I don’t, I get up the next morning and try again.


That’s the wonderful thing about this thing we call life, if we are lucky enough to wake up the next morning, we get another chance to change things, imagine that?


I know I have alot of single moms that follow me and we know how tough it is to deal with our ex’s ┬ábut as I always say we must do our best for the sake of the children. Sometimes it’s easier said than done, sometimes they want to suck you back into the drama that once was your life, but as I learned yesterday I have grown enough to know better and I refuse to play that game.


I owned my part of the dismise of my marriage, I admitted to all the horrible things I did or did not do,

I have forgave him, I forgiven myself and I have moved on.


Unfortunately the ex has not and yesterday when he sent 25 belittling, degrading, verbally abusive text messages, I was calm when I simply told him to own his part, to change and to get on with his life because his attacks on me no longer effect me.


I went on to tell him no matter what I thought about him, I still want my girls to have a father in their lives, but they need a healthy one, not a verbally abusive one, that puts them down at every turn.


That if they chose not to be with him that would be their choice, that I keep encouraging them to have a relationship with him, no matter what, but they are almost adults and if they pull away it’s not because of what I said, it’s because of what you did.


Own your own actions, if you love your girls, change…. become a better father and maybe a better husband to someone one day.


Do not keep blaming everyone else and never except any of the blame ever! Hello no one is that perfect, no one! We all have our part in the things that happen in our lifes, own it, change it and move on.


Or you can continue to blame others, stay stuck in your bubble and never grow into a better person, the choice is yours but know that whatever choice you make, your words no longer have any effect on me, I have moved on and I will continue to pray for a better relationship between you and my girls because in the end they are the only thing that matters to me.


I want them to grow up to be strong, independent women who will pick healthy men who will know their worth and treat them accordingly.


So today my friends remember you have the power….

You can choose to let the words effect you, you can be sucked backed in the drama or you can calmly say I am done and walk away…. you have the power and just like Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz…you had the power all along….


Be the change you want to see”


“And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”


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