Why are you still single?

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Why are you still single?


The other day someone asked me this question like being single was a bad thing.

Like if your not a couple there must be something wrong with you.


I had to laugh, I look around at alot of my friends who are in “relationships” And thy are misrable, they cry all the time, they get treated like crap, they get no respect, they are definitely not happy but what? Their in relationships so it’s all



Please! Give me a break, I am not desperate, I am not going to put up with all of that just to say I have a man. I don’t need a man. Would I like to have a relationship? Yes, but I don’t need one so bad that I am willing to take any one, even a crappie one.


No, honey I’ve been there, done that… I am okay with myself.

I actually like myself and my own company I don’t need a man to “complete” me, I am already complete, thank you very much.


Now don’t take this as I am a man hater or a bitch. I am neither but I refuse to settle just to say I have someone, I refuse to be unhappy even one day, life is way to short.


Do I know a relationship is hard work?

You say, it’s not always hearts and roses. Please I am a New Yorker, I don’t wear rose

colored glasses, I get that but I will not put up with a lying, cheating, disrespectful man like so many of my friends do just because I am afraid of being alone.


I am willing to work hard at a relationship, I am willing to give 100 %, put my heart and soul into one but that will only happen if the other person is willing to do the same. I am not going to put all of me and get just the crappie part of him just to “have a man”


I am only asking for what I am willing to give….loyalty, respect, honesty, caring, tenderness, a willingness to give it your all.


Look that’s like saying your going to your job every day, you work your ass off every day, work long hours, put your all into it and at the end of the week you get no paycheck. What? Really? No, you’d be gone right? Oh hell, you would be gone in a heart beat.


Yet you do the same in a relationship year after year and you still stay, why? Your putting in your all and getting no paycheck week after week yet your still there because a man, is better than no man mentality?


I refuse to buy into that and for that reason, I am single and will stay single until I meet a man that is willing to work as hard as I am at it.


So today my friends, remember you don’t need a man, or women for that matter. It may be nice to want one but you have all you need in inside of yourself and if you feel you don’t, maybe you need to take sometime off from dating and find it. Find that you can be happy by yourself, that you are complete just the way you. Maybe then you will be okay with being single.


“Be the change you want to see”


” And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”


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