Why do we fall for it?

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Why do we fall for it?


Ever wonder why we fall for it? Ever give a person chance after chance, just to realize that they are never going to change?


Yes, we have all done this, we want to believe that the person will change, that the issues will go away. So we keep giving them chance after chance just to have them keep doing the same crap time after time.


Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.


Yet we do, some of us do it through out our entire life, with friends who use us time and time again, with a job that the boss is horrible, yet your still there hoping it will change, to afraid to make a change yourself.

Many of us do it with family because family is family, so you think you have to and of course with the most famous one of all relationships…oh yeah this is where so many of us get tripped up over and over again.


The man who swears he wouldn’t cheat again, the gambler that will never play again, the alcoholic who swears he’ll never have drink after yet another binge, the man who swears he’s into you but only calls and then disapears when he gets a booty call. We’ve all been there, waiting, praying, hoping, wishing they would change, but they aren’t going to! Wake up, a leopard doesn’t change their spots.


Now don’t get me wrong I am a big believer in change, that anyone can change at anytime but you have to want to change, it has to be worth your while to change, you have to hit rock bottom in order to realize you need to change. Only then will you decided to change, it is up to them, nothing we do or say will effect their decision.


Yet we go back, we take them back, we continue to believe the lies, because we want what we want, because we feel we aren’t worthy or because we are “in love” there are a million reasons and a million excuses why we do it.


Whatever the reason may be, we are just fooling ourselves and we constantly let our hearts get broken over and over and over until we come to our breaking point, when enough is enough, when your sick and tired of being sick and tired and you don’t care what happens, your outta there.


Awww…..see change, we change, we see the insanity of our ways and we walk away.

I remember being at a job and hating it so much that I got hives every time I got off the exit, I kept hoping it would change, praying it would get better. I even anointed the office with holy oil (Yes, I was that desperate)

And nothing, until I was done, I had just bought my new home and I didn’t have a backup plan, I only had faith and I quit because nothing was going to change and I had enough. Guess What? It turned out fine, my life didn’t fall apart, I was happier and I could breathe.

Change is scary believe me I know, fear keeps us stuck, the unknown, being by ourselves, all of the fears we built up in our minds is just that… built up, we make it bigger then it really is.


This is why we keep falling for it…whatever “it” may be…

So today my friends remember, they may never change, they don’t think they have an issue, they are doing what they are doing and it is up to us to say enough is enough…I derseve better, I need better, if you won’t change then I must change.

Start today…dont “fall” for it one more time.


“Be the change you want to see”


“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”


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